Edited by - croy on 1/11/2007 10:15:03 PM

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If you only have trouble when you're with your girlfriend, it's most likely performance anxiety. Viagra isn't a good solution for that. You need to work through your anxiety, and there are established techniques to do so. Read up on them. Talk to your doctor about them. If your girlfriend is willing to do just about whatever it takes, ask her to be patient and to help you work through this.

If you're beating off, I'd say to lay off for a week and try to get and maintain an erection with her. If it's still a no-go, lay off for another week and try it with her again, etc. The more sexual energy you build up, the likelier it is that you can break through your performance anxiety.

Stick with it.

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Edited by - lindi on 1/12/2007 2:19:23 AM

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But it happens sometimes with me. I'm a pretty moody person and sometimes, believe it or not, I'm just not in the mood. Sometimes, I just can't get myself into the right frame of mind. I find that thinking about sex too deeply can really be a boner killer. It's just one of those things where it's not such a great idea to think about it too much. Relax. Do whatever it takes to get yourself relaxed. Very important.

Try having a conversation (not about sex) with your GF before having sex. Watch a movie. Have a few drinks (not too much...just enough to get yourself relaxed). Sometimes, giving your mind other tasks is just what you need to get your mind off of sex for a while.

I've always found that my strongest erections come when I've been busy doing other things for a while and haven't had time to think about sex too much.

If the problem persists, it's probably not a great idea to ignore it but I'd try giving it some time just to see if it works itself out.

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And yea i guess holding off for a while would do alot, but its just so damn addictive.

I do know what i turns me on, anal, i love watching anal, and sometimes my girl is down with doing it, but it seems like every time we attempt to do it or are in the process of doing it i loose my erection. Now this might be in part due to the reaction i am receiving from my GF, i ask her if she wants to stop but she says no. she seems very uncomfortable during the process.

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Also, I don't know if she is your first partner, or whether you are sexually experienced, but many guys jerk off with a lot of firm forceful strokes, and then initially find the pussy to be too different in stimulation. If that is the case, I suggest that when you do masturbate, you try gentler techniques. If you skip masturbation and anal, or only masturbate more gently, you should feel more stimulated when you have sex with your girl.

Also, I don't know if you are watching a lot of porn, but maybe back off on that as well. If you watch porn right before you have sex, you will be hard for a long time before you get to your girl, and you want to be fresh and ready to go, not ready to flag.

It doesn't seem like you need viagra. Much better to have skills.

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And yea I do watch allot of porn, I know I should really cut back a little, but its like you find ya self bored and you have access to so much content. I can watch porn for a few hours without orgasming, not that i cant, but more of I don't want to. I don't really masturbate very hard, or tight so i don't think its a difference between that feeling and her feeling.

And i was only semi serious about the whole Viagra thing, only because i just recently watched the movie, American Pie-The Naked Mile, and their is a scene towards the end where they pop the pill and have an erection for a few hours while running the race, and i thought it would be an experience just to try taking it.

I don't really feel like i need skills as much as just a clear mind and a full tank, i am very comfortable with my performance per say, its just achieving full erection that has been a problem for a little while. My GF still reaches climax when we have sex and i am not fully erect.

I appreciate all your input and look forward to hearing back from you...

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I've also found that my mind tends to be clearer and I tend to get stronger erections after a really satisfying meal (not necessarily overfilling, just something I really enjoy). A hot shower will sometimes work wonders as well.

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That might do it. Every minute you're watching some other guy's hardened pole is one more minute your pole is going to stay soft when you want it hard.

Fergus

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I believe one of the solutions for that is learning how get away from your dick being the center of your sexual experience. If you start focusing on pleasure , whether it's kissing, massage, giving the other person an orgasm, or just enjoying the various feelings you experience, instead of the explosion between your legs, you'll end up getting more out of sex. And since you'll get more out of sex, getting and maintaining an erection won't be such a big deal, which will take the pressure off you to have one.

That's the theory anyway. Makes sense to me.

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Daedrian posted:

Are you taking any prescription drugs? Anti-depression / anti-anxiety, etc? Some drugs can cause some people to have difficulty getting or maintaining a full erection or make it difficult to achieve orgasm.

-Yes, I take Adderall XR for A.D.D.

_swede_ posted:

Don't worry if it gets really bad you can always have your doctor prescribe you a little Viagra and you will be really fine.

I don't think to many 21 year olds have a prescription for Viagra...

Edited by - supaman900s on 1/13/2007 9:05:54 PM

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(yes, I'm being sarcastic.)

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You mention difficulty with anal sex. Others may have a different experience than mine but I would say anal sex is often difficult even if you don't have erection problems. For me, the combination of the much tighter pressure on the penis combined with the need to start very slowly (her requirement) makes it much harder to remain fully erect. If she is not fully relaxed her anus will bear down on you and restrict blood flow. While anal sex is a major turn on to watch and do, sometimes the thrill is more in the planning than the execution.

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Amphetamines are a strong vasoconstrictor. I've been prescribed Adderall 20's and 30's (fast release) for almost 10 years, before that popped all the black beauties and dexadrine I could get my hands on. I learned a lot about the sexual side effects of speed. And it is very unpredictable day to day. It will get you horny as hell, but not let you get hard. It can get you rock hard but lose it in 30 seconds and be down the rest of the night, no matter what you're missing out on. It can make you ejaculate from a completely limp penis, happened to me a few times-spontaneously, as in while taking a piss. It could give you kinky ideas and desires you normally would not be into. Anyway, that's just a little bit I have observered, but mostly vasoconstriction is the opposite effect of viagra, arganine, NO2, etc.
Another thing I have noticed is a constant infusion of uppers, needed or not, leads to unhealthy eating and sleeping habits, as well as high cortisol production, all making your testosterone levels plummet, and ruining libido.

Just some ideas. See your family doc. I got a shitload of viagra samples for free. Maybe it might take a good urologist or endocrinologist (if it has to do with T-levels) but at 21 it's nothing that can't be fixed.
I'd like to know if Amphetamines can cause infertility. I have not found anything to suggest that, but according to an OTC cum test I'm sterile and my wife swears up and down it's from the Adderall.

Edited by - matt88 on 1/15/2007 5:21:12 PM

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