I would recommend a third alternative, which consists of sex toys designed more specifically for men -- especially those for targeting the prostate, the perineum, and the anus.
Some recommended items: Aneros Prostate Massagers, The Rabbit Company Prostate Rabbit, the Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager, the NU Sensuelle Homme Pro Prostate Massager, the Fun Factory Moody, the Njoy Pure Wand, the Njoy Pure Plugs, the Meo Prostate Milking Stick, and the Trailer Hitch Combination Cock Ring/Butt Plug.
There are lots of sex toys aimed at men, but you won't find them at most sex toy shops -- either online or brick-and-mortar -- which generally cater to women. My recent trips to the L.A. Pleasure Chest and Hustler Hollywood reminded me that most stores carry products designed for women/men on about an 80/20 basis.
Regardless of your sexual preference, my tip is to look for the online sex toy stores that cater to gay men and/or kinky folks -- they have more creative and less inhibited options for male-centric pleasure. I've also found that relatively few sex toy reviewers are straight men, so I'd look for gay reviewers if you want to get the lowdown on ass toys.
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