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melt
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 8:20AM

This is an area of porn that intrigues me.
I have to be perfectly honest and say that I would not be able to accept the situation of the woman I LOVE (not just in a relationship with) going off to do shoots on almost a daily basis. I accept that my insecurities would get the better of me and I would be making her and myself incredibly unhappy with my jealousy. I just would not be able to do it. Fullstop.
On the other side of things many apparently blissful relationships do exist. I wont mention names but a lot of high profile Pornstars appear to have a very stable relationship with their partners who give them 100% support in what they are doing.
Please share your views?

taylor_swift_tasty_feet
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 9:54AM
I 100% would NEVER even date a porn star much less allow myself to love her.I do not want other men using my girl's body THAT said I'm not passing judgement nor do I look down on porn stars and their husbands or BFs. I would let my GF pose nude for girlie magazines or solo action DVDs but that is pretty much it.My girl's pussy and ass are mine and mine alone.Period.
taylor_swift_tasty_feet
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 9:55AM
P.S.
What is cuckolds?
LucyAdams
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 10:30AM
A cuckold is where a man gets off on watching his gf/wife fuck another man who is bigger (dick size) and watches them the whole way thru and doesnt do anything to please his wife.
A-ten
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 11:16AM
No. I'd never be in such a relationship. I could not let my woman get used like a piece of meat and consider our relationship any kind of real, committed, loving relationship. It wouldn't work for me. Don't know how guys with pornstars do it.
 
Robert
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 11:39AM

cuck·old
-noun
1.
the husband of an unfaithful wife.
–verb (used with object)
2.
to make a cuckold of (a husband).
Origin:
1200–50; ME cukeweld, later cok(k)ewold, cukwold appar. orig. applied to an adulterer, in allusion to the cuckoo's habit of laying its eggs in other birds' nests
Word Origin & History
cuckold
mid-13c., from O.Fr. cucuault, from cucu (see cuckoo) + pejorative suffix. So called from the female bird's alleged habit of changing mates, or her authentic habit of leaving eggs in another bird's nest. The verb is 1580s, from the noun.
Dread
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 12:07PM
Belladonna's husband Aiden fully admits that he is and gets off on that.
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LubeNLuv
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 12:11PM
I don't consider swingers or those who practice an "open marriage" to be in the same category as cuckolds. I think they are different emotional/psychological situations. In one, the husband derives some emotional pain or pleasure from being treated as a submissive spectator to his wife's 'infidelity.' In the other, both partners freely consent to having sex with others, whether it is watched or not is irrelevant.
That said, I'm sure that there are some spouses of porn stars who fit into the cuckold category. Did you ever see "Boogie Nights?" The character of "Little Bill" (played by William H. Macy) characterizes the classic cuckolded husband in my opinion. He is a porn producer, obviously no stranger to 'free love' and yet constantly finds his wife (played by Nina Hartley) having public and private sex with just about anything with a prick. I don't know anyone in the business I can point to by name but I'm sure that they exist.
From what I've read on here and other porn-biz boards, there are far more partners/spouses of porn stars who are operating as business managers (some would say pimps) for their performing spouse/gf and who knows if they get off on watching their spouse have sex on screen or really just harbor a very "open marriage" where sexual exclusivity isn't important to either of them?
And lets be clear. Porn is a performance. So I fully expect there are those who share a more liberated view than I do on sex and see porn as no different than being a rock star.....its all fake emotion/chemistry, all they are doing is "just sex" and once the action stops, their emotional investments remain with one another. I can't live like that but I'm sure others do and who am I to judge?
Edited by - lubenluv on 3/19/2010 12:53:37 PM
The Ghost of Cal Jammer
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 12:28PM
They're not cuckolds. They're lucky. Any man who is dating or married to a pornstar is lucky, and that's that.
taylor_swift_tasty_feet
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 2:21PM
ThanXOXO Lucy!Now I know. (:
Gore Gore Girl All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 2:36PM
^ That's not what a cuckold is. See Robert's post a little further up. Lucy is describing a porn genre where the set-up involves cuckolding.
Guam
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 2:55PM
Cuckold is a pejorative term.
As to what your wife does for a living, I personally couldn't take it being with a pornstar, but there are certainly a WILD variety of things I could never take, like a dick in the ass.
I think the interesting thing I want to say to the people in these ecstatically happy relationships is "Let's see where you are in 2, 8, 15 years". Marriage is a marathon. the first lovey-dovey few miles are the easiest.
Once the "star" part and the money is gone, and all that remains is the history and the tats and perhaps the notoriety in your social set, perceptions may change.
torris
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 3:25PM
I think the proper term is Suitcase Pimp
Jonny Jay All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Mar 19 2010 : 6:23PM
No just very accomodating.
melt
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 4:31AM

Some very interesting posts. Thanks people.
Yes. The term cuckold is portrayed in various ways in the porn industry. From the sissy boy that is humiliated while his wife gets it off with one or many other partners to the the cuck who is bi-sexual and joins in by servicing helping to service the "stud"
The more conventional cuck that I am thinking of here is the one that gets off watching his wife enjoy herself and frequently films her escapades. He also often joins in by having sex with his wife because watching the action is what turns him on the most. For example Janet Mason and Katie Kox. I am astounded by the amount of Hot wife sites that exist so that in itself has become a very popular genre of porn. It is porn so whether it is a total fantasy or based in reality for these people one can never be quite sure.
As mentioned there are the inevitable layabout boyfriends that couldnt care less as long as the pornstar brings home the dough. The suitcase pimp that essentially is just going along for the ride. (excuse the pun)
Then there are the guys that @LubeNLuv speaks about. They are there with emotional support no matter what and accept that their girl is merely participating in a physical activity and that the emotional investment is in each other. I imagine that every porn babe out there wants to find one of these guys as doing what they do on a daily basis probably is a lot easier when you have a supportive and non judgemental man to come home to and share love rather than just sex. I suspect those guys are like diamonds in the sand.
@Guam gives us all a reality check. Reminding us the difficulties these babes may be faced with when their porn careers come to an end. A sobering view for sure.
 
ma meeshka
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 4:50AM
Not everyone is insecure in this regard. I imagine that is the key difference for people in polyamorous relationships.
shank
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 5:56AM
In another track, I feel there will be always many men who will marry or date a porn actress, but vice-versa is rare. My gut feeling is that a female not involved with porn industry wouldnt touch a male porn-star. Hence the lonely situation of Peter North, Ron Jeremy &c.
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 11:29AM
To me, the cuckold is a unaware man with an unfaithful wife. She's cheating and fucking around behind his back. She's making a fool of him. Somehow this has been twisted in the porn vernacular to mean anyone with a wife who fucks another man.
Belladonna and her husband may call him that, but he's not a true cuckold. Jesus, he's holding the camera! :)
Joey Starr
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 11:34AM
I guess this won't bother Peter North too much...
Robert
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 1:11PM
I agree completely. I'm not sure what you would call the latter. Exploitive Voyeur?
Rosco Fuji
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 1:17PM
It might be a performance, but it doesn't change the fact that 10 guys just dumped a load on her.
Joey Starr
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 1:21PM
Are we talking scat here?

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Rosco Fuji
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 2:35PM
AAAAAhhh, no!
picman
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Posted - Mar 20 2010 : 2:54PM
I think this is partially true, but there seem to be different levels of this phenomena. First, I think a cuckold has to be at least partially aware that his woman is cheating, but not have the balls to confront the situation. Another level is the "in your face" variety, where said adulteress brings home her paramours and displays their superior lovemaking abilities. Taken further, there's the torture aspects as the sissy boy thing comes into play. A lot of what passes for cuckolding in porn is really the "hot wife" variety. This would be Janet Mason, who treads very softly on the cuckolding thing. The only overt thing she's done in this direction with her actual husband is having her lover cum on her wedding band. Mostly this is just about a woman so hot her husband can't possibly hope to put the fire out himself and actively enlists aid, usually of the extremely hung variety. This is also a logical extension of the swinger lifestyle. Katie Kox would be an example of someone who plays out cuckolding fantasies on her website.
Porn couples have a variety of dynamics that I'm sure embrace any of these things and more, such as the aforementioned suitcase pimp. Like most things in life, things are rarely just black and white, but dwell in gray areas.
Agent_Zigzag
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Posted - Mar 21 2010 : 3:11AM
I thought that the old defintion of cuckhold was the unaware man. Newer defintion is a man who is aroused by the sexual humiliation of his wife/girfriend having sex with another man. He knows & may be in room viewing the act. She or other male may also taunt, degrade, insult, etc. his dick size, sexual performance, stamina, etc. Seems recent cuckholding videos also involve white women with large dicked/hung black men and may or may not have husband/boyfriend eat the cum out of woman's pussy. As a fetish it seems to have become more popular and prevelant in the 2000's. Think internet has had alot with spread of this fantasy/fetish/act.
 
melt
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Posted - Mar 21 2010 : 9:23AM
Agreed.
The one area that has been touched on in this thread is the prevalance of hook-ups within the industry. Many pornstars are in relationships with others within the industry. It tends to make sense. Many of the pornstars that participate in the "Hot wife" genre are usually filmed and managed by their partners.
The members of the porn community in America appear to know one another quite well and via twitter it is apparent that they frequently socialise together. Both parties being members of that community would probably make relationships a lot easier to sustain.
Robert
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Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 3:02PM
I recently did a search (web sites featuring cuckhold videos) and EVERY 'hit' (not one exception) involved the so-called cuckhold husband/boyfriend (who was white), the wife/girlfriend (also white) AND one or more black males.
That appears to be the current definition of cuckhold. The white husband/boyfriend, no matter their reaction to the situation, is not 'cuckholded' unless the white wife/girlfriend is being ravaged by one or more black men in the presence (no room for not knowing) of the white husband/boyfriend.
ADT44
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Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 3:29PM
Yes, I would dat a porn star.
No, I wouldnt be jealous.
Would I watch her scene?
Maybe, I really dont know....never been in that situation.
I did however had a relationship with 2 strippers in the past.
Would I watch them while they work, yes. But both of them forbade me.
Ive seen many hookers being brought to their work by husbands and boyfriends.
That, I would never do. I wouldnt date a hooker even if it was a high class one.




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