Riddle me this Batman: Why do people, online, have such difficulty accepting a simple "no thank you"? Can anyone explain this phenomenon?
I am sure every girl in porn can identify with this subject. Some guy hits on you via the Internet. During this chat he says "you are the sexiest girl alive" and that he "wishes more girls, especially his, was more like you." He then proceeds to lie to you about being a swinger and how he and his girl would love to have sex. When you ask to see a PIC of his girl, he produces some PIC of some superstar porn girl, that you did a scene with three days earlier and is certainly NOT this morons girlfriend. Then, when you ask to call that girl, she can never be reached or is to shy to talk on the phone. Of course, at this point, smelling the scam, you say "no thanks" and wish him a nice day.
Of course, he never goes away. He starts calling you a cunt, skank, tramp and AIDS infested, piss drinking whore of whom should be raped and shot. Keeping in mind, this is the same guy that was groveling at your feet merely 30 seconds before you dared to say no thanks. He lies, tries to scam you into meeting and when you catch him and pass on the meeting, he loses his mind. Of course, you can expect IMs and emails from this jerk for a month as he harasses and stalks you. Of course, all the while saying you are not worth the time and effort to have killed, much less pursued romantically.
I simply cannot tell you how many times I am attacked as a man, called names, threatened and generally harassed by people who simply cannot take "no thanks" for an answer. It seems, if a girl says "no thanks" to an IM that reads, "Hey baby, how about I come over and ass fuck you with my 29 inch cock," that she must be a man posing as a girl to collect PICS and scam people. This guy cannot just go away, he has to go on an hour long rampage as to how, since I said no thanks, I am going to hell, an abomination of God, have AIDS and an entire dictionary of similar, vile crap.
This unfortunate happening is extremely common in the online swinging world and it is quite sad. If one does not reply fast enough, or replies too fast, or asks for a phone number, or refuses to trade x rated PICS for 32 straight hours, or cannot meet in the next 47 seconds, they are immediately attacked and harassed for hours. Of course, the single most horrible thing a girl can do is decide not to meet with a guy, who says he is a couple, but needs to meet one on one first, to make sure I/you are real. When this scam is not swallowed whole and naively acted upon, the guy making the offer gets freaky and all the sudden decides I/you am a man or am just a girl trying spread AIDS. This is the idiot, that 100 percent of the time, will start slamming your message board and various industry gossip boards with anonymous and grossly inflammatory postings.
I'm sure all you online swingers, adult models and most people in general know exactly what I am talking about.
Here is today's example. These are real emails I am posting:
1. His first email, all flowery and nice:
Dear Britni,
I am in love with your work and with you as person. I
was so happy when I saw your telephone number in the
Internet. I am chasing your news and movies. It was
very great moment when we speak with each over phone,
I cannot believe star like britini speak to me. I
could notice your warm and emotional voice moving
across telephone lines. I love you and do not blame me
because you are soooooooooooooooooo hot. I wish if
your pussy always in my mouth. I wanna know more about
you please answer my questions:
1. Are you happy in adult industry? and why
2. Are you going to make movies in the near future?
Are staring in these movies?
3. What is your favor positions?
4. For anal is it painful to you? How do you prepare
your self for this scene?
5. Ever did man in his butt with strap?
6. In case if director ask you to choose one of the
following actress to make scene with you whom do you
select? JillKelly, Kim chambers, Jeana Fine, Serenity,
Kylie Ireland. I hope my questions bother you. Do not
forget to send me your mailing address.
Looking to hear from you at the soonest.
Thanks
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I write back to this man that I would love to answer all his questions and chat with him at great length. I further advise that to do so, I would really appreciate that he join my site in trade for my personal time that I will be spending on his questions and chats.
His reply, letter number 2:
Hello Britni,
I promise you that me and my girl friend will join the
site if you first piss on me. Please confirm this.
Lust
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I write back and say, "no thanks and that I will pass"
His reply, letter number 3:
Britini,
Let me ask you question. Why you are doing this? You
are not afraid of God? do not you know that
Prostitute is better than you, you made sex adultery
and recorded it and distributee it around the world?
What kind of Courageous is this?
You are dreaming that you will be rich? for your
information money came via this source you will never
save and invest it for better.
You will be poor sooner or later. Do not you know that
some animals will not do what you are doing. Male and
female are shame to make sex while other animals in
the same area. In some soceities woman doing this
treated as half woman or person, and she has half of
her rights. Think about good future you and your kids
will be proud about it. REGARDS
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This downward spiral took only a few hours. It went from "I love you and your work" to "you are a prostitute, god is going to get you" in the course of 3 emails. Now, this is just from this morning. The same event will repeat itself no less then 20 more times before I sit down and have dinner.
I am often asked why more porno girls do not allow for the same level of conact with fans as I do. It is easy guys, they simply do not want to talk you. Good or bad, you are lumped in with these idiots who so subscribe to the sour grapes theory that direct and personal contact with fans becomes frustrating, antagonistic and stressful. Fan contact is often not fun, quite the opposite actually.
Remember this guys, before you send your morning hate mail to the most recent list of girls who dared to say, " no thanks."
Sluts fuck everyone, AIDS infested, drug addicted, uneducated future crack addicts, fuck everyone BUT YOU.
Sexually yours,
BisexualBritni
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