When is it proper to compliment a lady on her beautiful cleavage? I have often been tempted to do so but have always been afraid to do so for fear of the lady's anger. Of course, some gals would love it if a guy would say such things to them, how do you read a lady to tell if it would be okay? And I might as well inquire also when it is proper to tell a girl what a beautiful ass she has. Is it okay to also ask such questions to waitresses? I did once in a Hooters, in fact I asked my waitress if her breasts were real. She was flattered and thanked me for inquiring. But that was Hooters, I don't know how that would fly in a more conventional bar setting. Looking for some good advice on these questions.
You shouldn't ever directly compliment the body part unless you are intimate with the owner, or unless she's naked in front of you, such as a stripper might be. It is ALWAYS okay to tell a stripper she has beautiful anything. Trust me, she wants to hear that. You might tell your waitress her slacks/blouse are exceptionally flattering - she knows you're looking at her ass/boobs (unless you tell her that you wear that designer, too and did she buy them in periwinkle...) and as long as your compliment is short and light, i.e. "Those jeans look really nice on you." "That is a very pretty blouse." it won't be offensive. I don't think it is nice to ask a lady if her breasts are real. If they are real, you just told her they look like they might be fake. If they are implants, you just told her they look fake. I don't think that situation has an "up" side to it. Your Hooters waitress is probably accustomed to being asked about her breasts and probably has worked out a stock response - which might not even be true.
Thanks, Kimi, you know what's up and I really appreciate your input. But what if you use the compliments as a way to see if the girl can be aroused so that she might want to be with you sexually? To me, that is an entirely different situation, address that also, please.
Start with, "you have a great figure", see what her response is. If she pulls a sour face, then shut the fuck up! If she sticks her chest out or turns around to show you her butt, then compliment those parts! It's easy!
Bobcat's reply sounds good to me. FWIW, I don't think flattering my body parts would sexually arouse me if I wasn't already digging on you. Its really not an "opener" its a "closer". You know what I'm saying?
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Posted - Jun 25 2010 : 2:02PM
^Would "my,you have a lovely smile" be an opener or a closer?
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Posted - Jun 25 2010 : 9:01PM
So saying, "Ah, fuck yeah! You've got arse for days! Do you do anal?" is NOT a good opener???!! I suppose that would explain the missing teeth and bruising to my face...
Really?? I always figured that was a trite thing to say, certainly every other shlub says "you know you have beautiful eyes" or "do you know you've got a fantastic body?" Frankly, I never really know what to say. I realize that at the end of the day, its a business transaction. I usually can only afford to go maybe once a year (blowing about $250-$300). I'm not naive enough to think that the vast majority sees me as anything other than an ATM machine that can make passable conversation, and I'm there to see a few beautiful, naked women, an exchange of goods and services that Adam Smith would smile upon. Most likely, I wouldn't really want to know exactly what the performers really think of us patrons. Oh what a game we all play! Edited by - algaliarept on 6/26/2010 2:39:29 AM
I would say that if you know her pretty well, you can probably guess how she would react. If you don't know her at all, it isn't appropriate unless you're willing to take a chance on her flipping out and embarrassing you. Either way, the chances of it going over well are not good unless she likes you (A lot) and you know it. Edited by - randomprecision on 6/27/2010 8:11:48 AM
Well, how old are ya, oldguy? If your an old man, and I mean old, you can get away with a lot of inappropriate behavior. But really, you're not going to get anywhere with your pervy questions. Girls you don't know will be turned off by it. And say you do have a good rapor with a girl, it'll just shoot it all to hell most likely. You can get away with it with someone you're intimate with, but even then, she may not be receptive to it.
This would never work out in reality. I was at the gas station, and in the next aisle was a woman talking on her cell phone with a big round ass in tight gray pants. If I had gone over and said "pardon me ma'am, but you've got a wonderful rear" I would've been slapped and/or killed.
Sometimes I tell my females friends things like: "That blouse really highlights your beautiful bossom" -OR- "You have a cute ass!" They NEVER get mad and if they said stop I of course would I do not do it all the time but sometimes I do,I'm only human,so I notice.They say thank you and sometimes giggle or call me "sweetie" ETC
ALSO not sure why it's insulting to some girls if a man says it without being all creepy well it's a compliment a good thing. I would be happy if a girl said something good about my body but it rarely happend the best I get is " you have great hair!" and even that makes me feel good. Girls are complicated creatures.
The simple truth is that some girls are just "divas" (I hate that word but it works, I guess) because they can be. They're as some people say "spoiled rotten" by being treated like princesses all the time even if they behave poorly. This is incomprehensible to the average male because we have no frame of reference. We have never been treated so well for no reason at all. If everyone treated you like a king no matter what you did, wouldn't you just take advantage of it? Sometimes I like it though. I think it's kind of sexy for a woman to be kind of snobby. Edited by - randomprecision on 8/3/2010 4:06:22 AM
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Posted - Aug 4 2010 : 11:41PM
I'm unclear how this would be done without being creepy and inappropriate. If the woman was a good friend that could change things, but if you just go around saying 'Nice ass' to women, few if any would take it as a compliment, and I wouldn't blame them. Imagine if everywhere you went gay guys were like 'Nice Cock.'
Unless I was friends with someone, I would be offended if that was said to me, it's too personal. For example, if my husband says "hey your ass looks great in those jeans." I would jump on him and screw his brains out but if a stranger said that I would start looking for the nearest exit. When it's a performer or something I think it would be entirely appropriate.
Well, based on porn, legs must be the least sexual body part (because they ALWAYS get ignored by the cameraman) of all. I've complimented strange women's legs (making sure to express ZERO sexual interest) and always got a cheerful "Thanks" in reply; many of them seemed genuinely (and pleasantly) surprised to receive such a compliment. It's not an everyday thing, maybe 5-ish times over 20+ years.
I guess I'd check and see if it was hanging out. If not, I'd ask them how they know. Maybe I wouldn't want to know that though. Edited by - randomprecision on 8/20/2010 1:39:31 PM
That's what you get for standing next to him with your cock hanging out. What do you think stalls with doors are for? The guy who invented urinals was probably gay or just plain stupid (which I wouldn't doubt). If I'm pissing on my front lawn, I'm not going to be too surprised if someone notices. The only difference between that and pissing in a public urinal is that you've pared your prospective audience down to only men. It doesn't do much about the fact that if a gay man sees your cock, he might acknowledge the fact that he just saw your cock. Personally, I've never had any comments on my equipment in public restrooms even though I would have probably been tempted to have some fun if I had. But then, I always use the stalls and I do my business as quickly as possible. Frankly, I don't use public restrooms unless it's a last resort. It makes me feel dirty. Edited by - randomprecision on 8/21/2010 2:10:00 PM
