besides id expect to watch sometimes !!

eh, seriously tell him to just piss off

oh wait im writing in your diary , that's wrong isn't it ?

trust is the condition necessary for betrayal

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I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling down. It will pass and you'll get through it. Maybe your husband will settle down; if not, you'll deal with it.

For what it's worth, I think you're incredibly sexy and real. You're wanted, you're no underdog.

Hang in there, beautiful!

Best,
Bob

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Edited by - rayveness on 9/28/2006 12:31:00 AM

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Its wierd making people choose. The friend isn't much of a friend if he wants to drive a wedge into your husband's marriage. Friends should be able to get together though. I've had friend's who had girlfriends or wives that didn't like me - we just agreed to disagree and get along or keep our mouths shut.

Some of the forums down below like World News and Nonsense or Polls are good if you just want to just weigh in on stuff and such. Doesn't even need to make sense. People get to know you more too.

The nagging issue is tough. Marriage or relationships do seem to be about compromise if they are to last. On the one hand nagging is annoying and sometimes used to control. But what do you do when the other person doesn't listen?

As for the website, he knew that you were in porn before you got married. I can understand why some guys have trouble dealing with it, but he already knew. Besides, part of the reason why some guys want a beautiful woman is for other men to wish they were him, yet he can't handle it when you are cashing in.

Well, I hope the two of you can work things out. Some listening and adjusting and such. Best of luck.

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I guarantee you'll feel better.

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Edited by - Bob on 9/5/2006 5:19:09 AM

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Stay yourself hun.

p_n

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From what you describe, it sounds like you might suffer from bipolar disorder. It is more common than you think.

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long live Rayveness!

- Mike

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was that before or after you pestered them for photos and asked to surveil them 24/7?

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It's like they didn't know what they were getting into when they started the relationship????

I've known guys like this... they bitch and bitch, suffer from all kinds of jealousy, yet have no problem spending their lady's money...

At any rate, it's good that you are reaching out, Rayveness..

Talking about unpleasant emotions is a Hell of alot better than keeping them inside. If I'm being completely honest, I do suggest talking with someone a little more qualified. It's important to get to the root of the cause for why you feel like you do..

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Edited by - JEWEL on 9/5/2006 9:34:40 AM

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don't make promises you can't keep.

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This is something I only do when the personality the performer projects appeals to me.

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Your posts here made me feel so sad, I just want to hug you for awhile. I also suffer from depression, and believe me when I tell you you're not alone in what you're feeling. At least half of what you're feeling is the result of this terrible and misunderstood disease. Since you have been diagnosed, I know you are getting help for it, so please be patient. I t does take time, and you will feel better, I promise.

As far as your marriage, the thing I hear most in your words is that you do not KNOW you are number 1 in your husband's life (he would choose his friend over you if you push him). This is not the way it should be at all, but perhaps this will too get better as you both learn how much you mean to each other.

God bless you, and good luck with everything, but most of all, stay true to yourself!

mod note: Tittylover, I removed your avatar because it violates the forum policy. I suggest you read it.

Edited by - hardware on 9/5/2006 10:05:54 AM

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The best way to cheer up is to imagine that you are giving Dirty Bob a lap dance. After all these years we've known each other - if that doesn't make you grin, nothing will!

db

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I'd recommend that you talk with some of your fellow pornstarlets who are happily married but also do scenes with other guys. Shayla La veaux is a good example. She may have had relationship problems due to pornography and maybe she can give you advice on how her and her significant other, overcame those problems.

I hope things work out for you

Edited by - 4theheart on 9/5/2006 12:37:15 PM

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Sorry to hear about your marriage and all, I hope it all works out for the best for you at the end. It's not the end of the world you know. Do what makes you happy.

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Hang in there hun. You have tonz of fanz everywhere and we all want to see you happy.

rd

Edited by - rustydude on 9/5/2006 7:38:58 PM

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Take care of that mood control problem. It can be bad for everyone, especially you.

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As for your desire for stardom, well Rayveness... some things are fleeting and some are lasting. I would hope you'd want the latter, no matter where it is. Basing your satisfaction on an AVN award just begs for disappointment. I can't think of any industry award that doesn't involve some measure of favoritism or popularity contests and not merit.

What I've said is not to be mean, but it is meant to be dispassioned honesty. When a person is at their wits end, what they need is a calm response and not fan the fire. If this guy is no good, if he broke the promise made about not making you quit porn, then lose him.

And do something about the depression because as someone with a few years on you, I can tell you this: it only gets worse.

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Homeopathic Ignatia might help but I can't diagnose like this. :)

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Although you bring pleasure to many people through your work, it is a mistake to believe that your personal worth is limited to your ability to please others.

Even though I don't know you personally, I will speak to you on a personal level. You would be every bit as valuable and capable of being loved if you were a complete dog.

The vast majority of the world is not as good looking as you are. For example, I am not a handsome man.

In some ways, your looks are a blessing, yet in other ways they are a curse. Your physical beauty has presented some challenges to you that I have never had to face. You have been viewed as an object of desire for your looks, and perhaps many who have viewed you this way have not seen past your looks to see the person that you truly are. This is a shame and it is their loss.

Now is a good time for you to think of all of those wonderful qualities that you have that are completely unrelated to your looks and your sex appeal. Breathe deeply. Let your heart fill with warmth. Smile. As you are thinking of all of these qualities, I want you to imagine a time in the near future when you can even more fully appreciate these qualities and understand that they are what make you a truly special person, and look back to today as being the start of this understanding.

Now that feels great RayVeness, doesn't it?

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Edited by - Biggdiesal on 9/6/2006 4:07:24 PM

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...be cool darling.....suffered from depression m'self & it ain't no party, ain't no disco, ain't no foolin' around....the bad things appear much worse than they really are, and you feel like it's all your fault...and then you don't even recognise the good things....recent research here in the UK has found that simple exercise (a brisk 30 minute walk - is that possible in LaLaLand?) is as effective as yer standard SSRI (prozac) scrip in tackling depression...also good, fresh food - fruit, veg & all...avoid alcohol....

....sounds like yer partner's buddy has become a stumbling block in your relationship...straight talking needed...find time &ampit aside try & ensure no interruptions, make notes of the key points/issues you need to discuss with your man, decide that you will stay cool, you'll explain how you feel as clearly & calmly as it is possible to to do, you won't raise your voice...this is business, not pleasure sweetheart, so be cool....

...and hey, I love your work....just adore your so so sexy smile and the very naughty light in your eyes....

peace & love

SR

best cure for migraine - masturbation & marijuana. Peace & Love!

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I'm really sorry you're in this situation. It's unfair of him to expect you to give up your livelihood to appease his own ego. You deserve better.

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p_n

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There are other stars that post here who might be of help, such as Kami - she plays at being a wack job, but appears to have a lot more going on, other than just being "Kami the porn star". I'm sure you must know Nina Hartley - maybe she is someone to contact. I'm sure that there are others that you have known over the years that could be of help to you. In any case these kind of things would seem more appropriate privately comunicated than on a form pretty much devoted to your industry.

You say that you have been diagnosed as suffering from depression...You should seek some professional help, as one who has sufferd as well, I believe that this would be a very important step for you to take.

Regarding your husband...can he support you if you are not in porn....Why not let him put up or shut up.

Clam

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clam, thanks for the vote of confidance but i have had 2 year and a half relationships while i have been in porn and they both ended really really really really badly.
its impossible, i really believe that. Im currently dating a civilian, and i dont plan on shooting while we are together, cause im not in la anyway and im terrified of fucking this one up also. but no matter what i will

people will always torment your guy, sending him clips and pics of you doing fucked up scenes, every one asking how much to fuck your girl? and whats it like to throw a hot dog down a hall?

its too much

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People can be so gratuitously cruel.

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ok...Confession time...there was about 3 years that I quit between 1999-2003...people wanted to know what I did during that time...well...I went to UCLA Extension and got a songwriting degree....42 credit units...music is my passion.....I will be on ainews.com very soon with the rest of the story....thanks for listening!
Love Rayveness
www.rayveness.com

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p_n

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You look VERY hot on the cover of [invalid URL removed]Big Titty MILFS (Devil's Film)!

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BIG TITTY MILFS...soon to be in my possession.

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