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MFD
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 1:54PM
I just watched a clip of Ginger Lynn on behindkink.com and her relationship with Mark Davis.
I had always thought that Mark Davis lived with a harem of young girls. While I think that would be fun for a while, I think that would get old quickly. I didn't know that Mark and Ginger were together and I think they make a nice couple. They have so much in common.
When I first heard of Jenna Jameson being with Tito Ortiz, I first thought that was an odd pairing. For a guy who was that tough to be with a woman who had fucked so many other guys publically, didn't make sense. However, I realized what it was that they had in common. They both sacrifice their bodies for the entertainment of others. That's giving up a lot becoming more grist for the mill so to speak. They both know that they have a limited shelf life in their careers. So finding someone who understands you completely is priceless.
Seeing Mark throw his back out made him seem that much more like a regular guy. I mean, who hasn't hurt themselves in real life and had to take a break or stop? I also like how the clip showed how they brought in Sean Michaels to help out in a DP with Davis and Lucious Lopez, to finish what they started 6 weeks earlier. I also like how the studio got him medical attention, as opposed to not paying him since he couldn't perform.
Now it's kind of funny considering my last post on DP's. This wasn't remotely gay to me, even though I'm sure I'd seen these same two guys doing DP's together at least 10 years ago(Whack Attack 1, 1998). This was like one old friend coming to the rescue of a fallen comrade. It made me think of how Forrest carried Bubba out of the jungle in Forrest Gump. They put Mark on his back so he wouldn't hurt himself further.
As much as we enjoy porn, it must be hard for these folks to maintain normal lives and relationships much less return to being anonymous once they retire. I got introduced to one of my favorite porn stars by her mother-in-law at a restaurant, and I couldn't let on that I recognized who she was. I also saw another girl at OB-GYN when I was there with my wife, and again, I didn't want to invade her privacy and say I liked her work.
Porn is just a weird world where, at least in America, you can't simply be 'a fan' without being judged.
DanaDeArmond
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 2:12PM
its not any more difficult for a person who does porn to manage a relationship than for a person who perfoms brain surgery or rocket science or flips burgers or pushes a mop.

Edited by - danadearmond on 3/13/2008 2:16:39 PM

MFD
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 2:52PM
Yes, but generally, people who perform brain surgery, rocket science, flip burgers or push mops, don't have sex with other people as part of their job.
Plus the opinions that people form about adult entertainers are very different from the ones they form about those other professions.
How are you treated by people who are not fans once they find out what you do for a living? Are they rude or are they intrigued?
DanaDeArmond
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 3:18PM
just because a person is a sex worker does not shut off their ability to acquire, or their desire for, human companionship.
people are people, so why should it be, you and i should get along so awfully?
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 3:43PM

 
MFD
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 4:56PM
Hi Dana,
I think we're on the same page. I'm saying that seeing two older porn stars together as a couple is very sweet.
ma meeshka
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 5:22PM
DanaDeArmond
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 7:25PM
maybe not all people in the world are as insecure as the thread starter.
in today's modern society marriage and monogamy have gone the way of the dodo.
there are lot of kind of relationships and their are many different perspectives perhaps you are not seeing.
if you do not desire to attain the (frankly unrealistic) goal of a single monogamous lifelong partnership, you really arent sacrificing anything.
and i am not saying that any and all relationships do not require work, because they do.
you have to set boundaries for yourself and your partner and keep am open line of communication.
anyone, regardless of vocation should be able to find some level of compatibility with another man, woman, dog, horse, doorknob... whatever.
ma meeshka
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 8:02PM
i'd fuck a doorknob if i could.
DanaDeArmond
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 8:14PM
yeah me too
MFD
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Posted - Mar 13 2008 : 9:18PM
I don't think I'm insecure in my relationship if that's what you're saying. My wife knows I'm a porn fan, but it's just not something we share together. She doesn't watch with me, but we talk about it from time to time.
In terms of 'sacrifice' I wasn't initially refering to the notion of monogamy. I'm not saying that monogamy is the one true and right way, because I know it's not. I'm aware that people enter into relationships that are far from vanilla. But also there are people who are monogamous, because they want to be, and there is nothing wrong with that either.
I'm saying the nature of having sex so much, and maybe at times when you don't want to but you have bills to pay is a sacrifice. I perceive the nature of the business to rough on the body, hence the term 'sacrifice.'
Now I've always heard that if you want to be happy in life, figure out what it is you enjoy and get paid for it, then it won't seem like work. So maybe what I perceive to be excessively rough, you might percieve to be no big deal.
But what I am stating is that I don't see much difference between the porn starlet who books 2 or more scenes a day and wrestler or a boxer. It's just different parts of the body that receive the wear and tear.
magnyc
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Posted - Mar 14 2008 : 7:33PM
According to her MySpace page she is now single
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=73858872
ma meeshka
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Posted - Mar 14 2008 : 7:36PM
then it must be true!



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