I was just curious as to why men, or at lease the majority of them prefer to watch the porn movies with teens in them? And why this doesnt bother the women?
I'll leave the first part of that question to someone much more long winded than myself. As for the second part, it may, but I, nor anyone else I think, really gives a shit...
only reason i ask is bcuz, my bf seems to be obsessed with teen porn. i dont mind watching porn, i actually do enjoy watching it, but watching something that says "teens" does bother me.
The first part. People become "imprinted" by their earliest feelings of sexual arousal. The situations that stimulated them when they first had sexual feelings will always be strong erotic triggers throughout their lives. If that situation was being spanked with a hairbrush, then that is what will turn them on.
Since the human body becomes ready for sex at around the age of 12 or 13, most boys experience their first sexual arousal while sitting in a classroom full of thirteen year old girls. The image will remain with them all their lives.
My guess is that if the only women a boy ever saw at that age were over 40, he would fixate on them instead.
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don juan Deactivated User
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Posted - Feb 13 2005 : 8:27PM
browny29, Men in every culture put great emphasis on women's physical attractiveness and this attractiveness is always associated with youth. Why? Because youth is when a woman is most valuable, reproductively speaking. She can only have and care for a limited number of children in her lifetime, so the earlier a man acquires her, the better. Detecting and being attracted by signs of female youth are part of men's genetic program. During the long period of human evolution, men who had a genetically mediated tendency to form bonds with females just entering the fertile phase of their lifecycle-e.g., guys who thought teen girls were 'really hot'- would have left more of their genes than men who innately preferred older females. Of course, men aren't consciously thinking of reproduction or having babies when they assess women. They simply feel a stronger sexual desire for females that possess those physical features that, across evolutionary time, were consistently linked to maximum fertility.
There can be some variation in men's age preferences owing to environmental inputs during male early development; I don't myself find teen age women very attractive, for example. But the male bias towards feminine youth has been identified in every culture that has been studied by anthropologists.
Also note that only modern legal restraints prevent females of much younger ages, say 12, 13 or 14, from appearing in sex videos.
It's just this in a nut shell. My bf, or x as he is now, has a fetish with teen porn. He won't admit it of course, but all his movies say teen in the title. He buys them from other countries and spends lots of money on them. And to be honest with you, I like to think that I am a decent looking woman for having many children. But I feel he needs these movies or at least the images to be with me sexually. And yes, I am a self concious person, and the teen stuff didn't help any. I mean, if he would rather have that then why be with me??
It is important not to confuse fantasy with reality. If he chose to be with you, then that means there is something about you personally that appeals to him more than other women do. His fantasy life is separate from that.
Sex is just a bodily function like eating dinner. If he likes the idea of going to McDonalds now and then, it doesn't mean that he hates your cooking.
But how could any man think that imagining another woman while being intimate with us wouldn't bother us? (women) Maybe I am just a jealous person, but I want my man to think of me, not someone he just saw in a movie. That makes me think that he dont really want me, that he is just settling for me. Do you know what I mean?
When I am with him I only think of him, but he dont think of me. He used to, before I had his children..
For me I generally don't care. However, most porn stars enter the profession when they are in their teens or early twenties. Some guys also like the idea that a girl is inexperienced. Why, I cannot say. But then, at 34 I like women. Now many, though not all guys, also like to watch the newest porn star. Because most enter the buisness so young, they will be put into teen titles. I personally choose on a combination of attractiveness and how hot the scenes are. If I like a given porn star, then it doesn't matter if they are new or not. I though Aurora Smow actually became more attractive after she lost that baby fat.
If it helps, tell your boyfriend that many in those teen titles aren't teens, they lied for the movie. True enough, you can look these things up (somewhere).
I put in the stuff about myself because you said the majority of men. I think that can be skewed because that sticks out more.
My experience is that older guys usually want to imagine fucking a "little girl" or someone way younger then them..i guess the more "jailbait" the girl is the more they like the young,innocent, not yet corrupt girls??
I understand Browny29's issue but I think this is a situation that a lot of men have been dealing with for a long time. Sex and love are completely different and like a lot of women (men too) have a hard time understanding our appeal to porn. Teen porn is just another niche look on ADT you will find a lot more intense ones....(I still am laughing over the Tit-clapping one, that is classic!!)
Well, it has gotten to the point in our relationship that I honestly don't want to have sex anymore. I don't feel I perform or live up to his expections. He wants someone younger and hotter, then I can't compete. So, I just give up. I tried to full fill some of his fantasies, but that didn't work.... Men, can't live with em', can't live without em'
The other day, I was tempted to say what Licker said about imprinting, but then, I don't have any big attraction to 12 year old boys. I'm not sure that any of my friends have one, either. Kinda outgrew it.
Anyway, everybody is entitled to a harmless fetish. Teen, schmeen, porn girls are legally adults, 18 or 19 or even older.
The real problems here are insensitivity and insecurity. And self-centeredness. And stuff like that. Somehow these two people are not really hearing each other at all. He can't make browny feel good about herself, but he could probably be more helpful. There are things that Browny could do to help too, but who knows, there's not really enough info here to tell what's going on. But for sure it's not just about him watching teen porn.
bottom line are these guys even compatible? Count your blessings "browny29" time to move on...you know it? His he your ex? isn't he? Pastures new babe!
Personally I prefer legal women with curves and beauty. Age and experience is a benefit both ways, with youth you get to teach and with age you get taught.
-Watching porn doesn't mean he doesn't love or desire you -Fantasizing about others while having sex doesn't mean he doesn't love or desire you. So what if he thinks about Christie Lee when you're having sex, set yourself free and imagine doing it with Julian. -As long as he's not seriously interested in teens it's just a harmless fantasy. You're allowed to have your fantasies too. -Sitting around complaining about it isn't going to get you love or laid, be proactive. Dress up like a teen if you have to, have fun. -Most importantly talk to each other, be honest, don't yell and don't make the other person feel stupid or perverted for having thoughts and fantasies different than your own. Don't cross-complain, meaning are you sure this is the real problem you two are having? If you want the relationship to last think big-picture.
Good Luck, relationships are hard and working on them never ends.
Ok, some questions got to be answered here.. been off here a few days.. 1. he does make me feel that he dont want me.. with the things he does and dont do.
2. actually, i dont know what kind of relationship we have. on again off again kinda thing i guess.
3. and he is hurting someone, me.
He has more then one fetish.. but this teen one is the one that bothers me. And he wants his fantasy, not his reality that he has right in front of his face!!
Let me give you some more information on this topic, and a little of whats been going on. When we met I was thinner,the sex was off the wall! then I got pg, the sex was still great and regular... had the baby, the sex was great again, then I got pg again with twins.. as i got bigger towards the end he didnt want anything to do with me, not even a kiss or hug. And now, 2 mos after the kids were born I am almost back down to what I was b4.. but, he still dont seem interested in being intimate with me. He would rather watch a movie and and do what he needs to do then be with me. The teen stuff didnt come out till later on in the relationship, I accapted it at first, then I find out that he bought many DVDs and didnt tell me, he hid them from me. So there is an honestly issue there. Our sex life (when we have one) is awesome. But lately, it seems planned, and I dont feel any feelings on his part when we do. He dont say or do anything to make me feel good about myself. He justs looks at me. Can any man enlighten me on this, why he may do this??
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don juan Deactivated User
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Posted - Feb 15 2005 : 10:51AM
The 'media' has nothing at all to do with informing people's innate preferences. All it can do is present to people those things they naturally prefer to begin with.
If the media selects who and how they're presented to you they're manipulating your preferences.
Look at JLo (aka Hugh Jazz). She's perfectly accectible look-wise (except that massive ass) but because of her Diva/entourage portrayal in the media I find her repulsive.
[So what if he thinks about Christie Lee when you're having sex, set yourself free and imagine doing it with Julian.] I cant picture myself with anyone else, there is no one else that I desire or want. For me, I think sex (making love) should be intimate and meaningful. How can it be meaningful if he is thinking of someone else? How can I enjoy it thinking that he maybe thinking of someone else? And well, fucking is just that... a free for all as some may say.. and when that happens I dont really care who he thinks about.. as long as it's worth it!!
[Dress up like a teen if you have to, have fun.] I got a schoolgirl outfit just for him, and he dont really seem to care. I get all kinds of sexy and sleezy clothes for him, but he usually never notices.. why bother? I wouldnt wear them clothes if he didnt want me to, I got them for him, to hopefully arouse him and heighten the mood.
[Most importantly talk to each other] I try to talk to him, but he gets upset and tells me I am only thinking about me and that I am a bitch! And then an arguement starts and I end up being the bad person..
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Posted - Feb 15 2005 : 3:49PM
If this occurs many times he's obviously not willing to understand you. I don't know how strong your feelings for the guy are, but you don't have to put up with this. Maybe he doesn't want to just because he doesn't like those kind of conversations, but even then it's not an excuse for acting that way.
''The unexamined life is not worth living''
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don juan Deactivated User
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Posted - Feb 15 2005 : 4:05PM
Does anyone recall our old friend from a while back, I Spew On My Face, or something to that effect? I can't help thinking that he is somehow involved in the creation of this thread.
I think it's a mistake to assume that just because your boyfriend likes to watch something in porn films that it means that he wants that in real life. I think a lot of us that enjoy porn recognize the difference between fantasy and reality. I like watching gangbangs, but that doesn't mean that I want my GF to be fucking everything that moves.
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don juan Deactivated User
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Posted - Feb 17 2005 : 8:18PM
I note that since I suggested that our friend Spew was the actual creator of this thread, there has not been any further posting on it from the alleged author.
I really think "browny29" certianly isn't going to get the answer shes looking for on this board. Everyone has good points, but everyone here also is really into porn!
I don't think that teen porn is the real problem in this relationship. It is probably just a means of him to get rid of his sexual demons, and there's nothing bad about that.
The real problem seems to be failure to communicate - if a bf calls his gf 'bitch', then something is messed up far beyond porn habits...
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