Of course this is a controversial matter; it has become politically correct over the last decades to say 'size doesn't matter', and surely not all women like big penises, some even prefer small, but what would be the majority preference?
Basically the majority preference is: women like average sized penises. About ninety percent of men are between 5 and 7 inches in length; about ninety percent are between 4 and 6 inches in girth (circumference). If your penis is within these ranges, then you have a penis that most women are comfortable with.
But just go on any sex toy sales site and have a look 'round. See a lot of little dildos there? Me neither.
Of course, preference in dildos might not really imply anything about preferences in men's dicks among the general public. Maybe it only means that the subgroup of men and women who buy dildos find large size a selling point.
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Lost Horizon Deactivated User
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Posted - Jul 31 2005 : 7:14PM
I would be willing to lay money that, on average, men buying dildos for women buy larger dildos than those which women buy for themselves (or each other) - for some men this will be because they enjoy the idea of seeing their partner really stretched out round a large dildo, but, for most of them, I imagine, it will be because the idea that what women want is always bigger, longer, thicker, harder, etc is so deeply ingrained in their minds (probably not least due to the insistence on this in the great majority of porn).
What I have heard is that some women enjoy more girth rather than length.
That would make sense for lindi's dildo comment; the larger dildos are thicker. However, I'm thinking that of the eight inches, two or three inches are used as a handle.
Yeah, I like big dicks. If I had to choose between length and girth, I would go for length. Does that mean I can't get great pleasure from a guy with a smaller-than-average cock who knows how to fuck like a madman? Um, no.
In support of Lost Horizon's theory, all the super-sized dildos I have owned were purchased for me by men.
I like them pee-wee sized down to "whisper light touch".
I own NO dildos or vibrators intended for inserting at all (other than those I use for shows). I have a little tiny pocket rocket and a little underwater silver bullet.
I think they do the way some guys like big tits. And most guys who like big tits but married smaller-breasted women did it because tits alone weren't enough.
It correlates with what Lindi said. Big tit videos and photos feed fantasies, but most people, at least those who are deeper than a puddle in the street, look at the whole package instead of a single part; and fantasies take up the slack.
Does that 8" include the part which the gal would have to hold onto while rogering herself silly ? If not then I'm a little shy . Nooooooooooooo ! :: runs screaming through the house ::
Women prefer a penis exactly like mine. Any penis, longer, shorter, fatter, skinnier, more veigns, less veigns, will produce less than the optimal satisfaction of my penis. You're problem is that you do not have my penis.
In some pussy is the place to be, always fucking is the life for me
I was just watching a funky old movie, Sweet Movie with some non-porn dicks flopping around (looks like Sonny Bono or something), and they were amusing, but the big ones were yum.
In personal life i prefer from 15cm till 20cm,just must working very very good.When i am shooting must bigger cause in the cameras the big dick is important. Smaller cock cant hurt pussy.
One thing which is never mentioned in these discussions is that not every woman is equipped with a company standard vagina, either. Adolescent boys (and maybe girls too) are told that "one size fits all," but my experience is that this is (almost but) not quite true. Some women have deeper vaginal canals than others; some women dilate much more easily with arousal and stimulation than others; some lubricate more heavily, etc. So why wouldn't women have quite varied preferences in cocks?
Having said this, I do think there is a lot of dishonesty on all sides about this question, both from salespeople trying to sell men placebos for size gains, and from "experts" trying to placate or lecture the public about what is "normal" and/or desirable for individual satisfaction.
Incidentally, since when does "the camera" need bigger penises? Dicks of all sizes have been captured quite perfectly for a century in pornographic films and videos, with no visual problems for the viewer. It's only in the last few years that there has been this mantra for a biped Seabiscuit in every sex film. Does this send a message that size equals satisfaction for nervous men and curious women? That I don't know, but Lindi's comment reminds me of something from my brief flirtation with public sex some twenty years ago: I discovered that if your cock met some mysterious but measurably specific size, you could be invited solo into many private and public swing clubs--to my knowledge, that was about the only way a man sans a female partner could walk into one of those places. Perhaps times haves changed on that score?
I've been told that size is relevant, if the girl has a large receptacle she'd probably prefer something adequate enough to fill it. It's all about fit, like a shoe. A wise man once said "I may not hit the bottom but I bang the hell out of the sides!"
I think it's partly about passion. A small, soft dick = unaroused. The bigger and harder it gets, the more aroused he seems to be. Big just looks good, appealing and friendly and hot. It's also a bigger contrast to what women have, and therefore is masculine.
All through history, men and women have worshipped a biggun. Lots of phallic symbols and giant linghams, oversized phalluses being carried in parades, or painted onto frescoes.
Sure, even a mini-tampon will fill the receptacle, but it's not just about filling the receptacle. Big feels good.
Hell yeah maquiavelli, you know it babe! I couldn't help but think about "California Love" by Dr. Dre and 2Pac when I read this reply. Thanks for bringing back some good memories! *kiss*
And I was just listening to that song about 5 minutes ago on my iTunes!
Dick size never matters to me. If I am connecting, REALLY connecting with a man, and if he feels the exact same way about me, then we're going to make heat together, no matter what. Love the man, love the penis.
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Posted - Aug 12 2005 : 12:07AM
Yeah, I often heard the sentence "size doesn't matter", but most of the time there was something added like "girth or technique or endurance is more important". Or in other words, size doesn't matter as long as you can make up for lacking size somehow. Or in other words, size does matter. Often I also hear comforting words like "hey, as long as it's 5 inches I'm fine". I'm sure it's meant to be uplifting but if you know you have to struggle to reach that mark it isn't. Especially when you don't have much girth, zero experience and get problems to hold your cum back when a woman gets rid of the second sock. Is there a woman out there who prefers oral sex and who wouldn't mind if she just gets licked for a long time and nothing more because I'd have more orgasms than her when going down on her? Any chance such women exist in real life, too?
Sometimes it's better not to. That goes for abstaining, too.
Edited by - VincentVanGauge on 8/12/2005 12:11:49 AM
Sure bigger can be more uncomfortable, but it's more satisfying and it's not just about the physical, it's about what goes on in your head too. A big cock doesn't have to be inside you to get you going!
A documentary I saw claimed that very small percentage of women actually buy dildos. Those who like toys, usually go for vibrators, especially small and cute-looking.
As probably mentioned in my toy reviews, I don't go for large toys (I've returned, refused to insert truly enormous ones), and don't use them much for insertion anyhow.
I understood Zoid...some men like Big boobs some like Smaller Boobs....its what the individual finds esthetically pleasing....Male or Female.
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Posted - Aug 14 2005 : 7:47AM
The key difference, surely, is that while some men do actively prefer smaller boobs, there are (probably) no women who actively look for tiny dicks - some women aren't bothered, some will tolerate the tiny, but none are off in the constant pursuit of ever smaller dicks.
The key similarity though is probably that women tend to think that men are more concerned with breast size than most men actually are and men tend to think that penis size is more important to women than actually it is to most women.
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Posted - Aug 14 2005 : 8:57AM
+1 Lost Horizon, exactly what I think.That's great. Just relax, go with the flow, enjoy yourself and let it happen. I'm sure the experience wouldn't be all that bad.
Sometimes it's better not to. That goes for abstaining, too.
I, too, prefer smaller boobs but smaller doesn't equal tiny. It's relative. I'm not sure if that many guys specifically search for girls with micro titties.
FWIW, my guy for 26 years is absolutely average in size, and it rocks.
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Posted - Sep 4 2005 : 1:48PM
Isn't it because modern porn concentrates on showing graphic penetration in different positions and from different angles?
Most pornos these days the guy is only fucking her with half his cock - the other half gives some distance between him and the girl so we can see what's going on, rather than just his hips slapping against her ass.
Well, that's the theory anyway. But if you have seen enough porn through the ages, you'll know that a average sized penis allows for about any shot or angle you'd want just as easily--it's really the positioning of the bodies that allows for separation, not being able to fuck from across the room. There are a few angles, such as a medium shot profile in doggy-style, where the disappearance of a large cock into a pussy can be made very erotic, but these are rarely used in hardcore today anyway.
To me, the prevalence of large penises in the industry today is just another figment of industry-standard male sexual utopia: where docile submissive females are cock-slaves to their horse-hung super-pimps. In this scheme, the supersized cock is the symbol of male mastery over the female. We choke them, slap them, screw them, and spew on them with it--all the while keeping them completely transfixed under its hot, pulsing aura. It's not a bad sexual fantasy, mind you; but after 5000 gonzo tapes where everyone plays the same parts you get a little bored with it, even if it warmed you up once upon a time. I also understand how the sheer novelty of a Mandingo or a John Holmes can create interest for male and female viewers; but the question here is about whether larger cocks are more functionally effective either in real sex or in shooting porn sex. Which is different from novelty or the psychological turn-on (if they can ever really be separated).
Perhaps the real question of this thread should be "how small is too small?" It's easy to tell Twilliams that his 6 incher (by the way, T--just shave that thing like you asked about; it'll make you look long as a garden hose) is plenty big enough for most girls, but what about the guy who is really only 3-4 inches erect? In purely functional terms, is this guy losing a lot of sensation during intercourse for himself and his female partner? Sex therapists seem to brush this question under the table, but a man with a very small erect penis could justifiably be said to be suffering from a form of sexual dysfunction, one that no blue pill can fix.