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Kimi Lixx
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Posted - Aug 21 2004 : 2:40PM
This is a double post - I posted this exact same thing in another topic (and it's a derailer), but I want it to be said. I want to shout it from the rooftops. So go ahead and lock it up, mods, that will only get more people to read it!

RE: porn trying to be legitimate and respectable

Yeah, that's a cool idea, and yeah, I would say everyone gives it a nod or two within the industry. Back to the real world, porn has snuck in under the legitimacy header of "art and freedom to do stuff", which no one really argues with, but no one believes, either.

We all understand that the PURPOSE of porn is not art or freedom to do stuff, it's material intended to stimulate sexually. It's prurient, and that is somehow not good. It is not a legitimate business, not a decent way to earn money.

What would be nice is if everyone would stop dancing around trying to say how sweet and lovely porn is, and just take the whole donut, stuff it in their mouth, and swallow. Sex work is acceptable. There is nothing unrespectable about selling your sexual skill and sexual attractiveness - On camera, off camera, to strangers, to a select group of strangers who are related by paperwork, to one man until he dies 25 years before you do, or to one woman so that she'll keep your house and raise your kids.

I am tired of seeing things like "just having sex for money". Yeah, well, you just bang on a nail with a hammer for money, you just answer the phone all day, you just type stuff your boss says, you just aphebetize files, you just collect trash bins, you just make change and swipe things slowly at the grocery store. EVERYONE is just a cog in the machine.

The job I want/perform has been declared illegal in most of the USA. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with it. Up until quite recently in the history of this grand nation it was illegal for darker skinned people (and not JUST blacks) to do the same things white people could do. It wasn't just frowned on or prosecuted during election years, either. It was so freakin' illegal and horrible that people died over it. It took a while and LOT of people speaking up and taking some serious risks to get the idea of equality for all to be accepted. (note; I said the idea, not the reality) I don't see many people standing up to say "hey, give sex workers a chance", so I don't see any bright shining light in our near future.

It begins in your mind, though, hey? Quit marginalizing me.

Speelie
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Posted - Aug 21 2004 : 2:48PM
I'm sure this is the entirety of what you are getting at, but I'm glad a small hint of progress has been made with things like the Euro "Babe" Index, instead of the Euro "Whore" Index. You don't see that much of Sbando, Walter, Gabriel or myself here these days, and in part that is due to our dislike of the overall attitude of many posters. We've all made our cases for the sort of language we like to read, so there's no need to keep beating the horse till it's more dead. The heart of that particular issue remains, if you enjoy the product of porn people, please show them some respect.
oatmeal
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Posted - Aug 21 2004 : 3:47PM
Just worry about how you feel and try to ignore the rest.

Chin up and be strong

Kperv
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Posted - Aug 21 2004 : 4:12PM
Nice rant Kimi.
I agree. IMHO there's nothing wrong with the concept of selling sex if you're comfortable with doing so.

In Western Europe, we get the occasional depressing news report about illegal trafficking in women. These are often Eastern Europeans lured here under false pretences.
That is just sick, and the people behind it deserve far harder punishment than any Western European justice system provides.
Of course this has nothing to do with voluntary prostitution, but is simple slavery.

As long as it is a personal voluntary choice when a woman (or indeed a man) decides to sell sexual favours, instead of banging nails, hauling trash cans or any other job, I'm all for it.
After all, I'm doing what I do for a living because of the money, same as you.

I don't know the situation in the US, but around here I suspect the despicable trafficking in women as sex slaves, casts a shadow over the entire sex industry.

If society could feel more assured that prostitutes weren't prostitutes because they were being forced to, or due to other desperate circumstances, there would be much less of a stigma associated with the profession.

A member of the Danish parliament some years ago actually tried to get the sex workers to organise in a union. Nothing came of it unfortunately.
Such a union might well have been a blow against the traffickers in this country.

On a lighter note to paraphrase John Lennon: "All we are saying is give sex a chance"

Aces&Jacks
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 2:55PM
I'm all for porn and people selling sex for money, but it always irks me when well meaning people with a cause always makes comparisons to the fact that it used to be against the law for "dark skinned" people to do the same things as white people. What an absurd comparison, especially when compared to the illegality of prostitution. If you really want to change things then take a lesson from the movement that changed the course of history for Black Americans in the US. Gather you forces...people of like beliefs, moral fiber and intestinal fortitude to fight the good fight against those who would oppress you and deny you your fundamental rights to sell your body for money. Take your case to the streets... to the people...to Capital Hill and fight! Die if you must so that future generations of Pornstars can benefit from your struggle. Sounds really absurd don't you think.
 
Bill All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 3:40PM
What's absurd about it? All it means is that just because something is illegal, that doesn't automatically make it wrong.
Flash All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 3:45PM
Kimi, I agree with the main root of your statement 100%, you should have the respect that any other person with a job does. I find it rather shameful that people who enjoy the work of people in the adult business also turn around and knock them down for doing it. I have to disagree with one of your statements though.
I do believe that adult material is art. Some of it is bad art, some of it is good art. But it is art in my opinion. It's art that does have the purpose of sexual stimulation, but doesn't all art, if it is good, stimulate part of the brain? A good horror novel or movie, which is considered art, will scare and frighten the viewer, which is a stimulation of the brain. A good dramatic play, book or film will stimulate the brain and cause one to cry. All art should cause some sort of stimulation in the brain, I don't see why if it is sexual stimulation it stops being art and becomes something else.

Edited by - flash on 8/22/2004 3:46:08 PM

Asmodeus
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 4:59PM
Thanx Kimi, for sharing your observations with us. I'm also of the opinion that what ever consenting adults want to do with their bodies should be up to them, whether it be prostitution, abortion or whatever. As I'm sure my posts could attest, I'm very liberal when it comes to personal freedoms and naturally it extends to the adult industry and our enjoyment of their work.
KatjaKassin
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 6:20PM
Thanks Kimi for writing this - it touched me. Reading the ADT forum made me kind of sad lately...
pornopunk
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 6:49PM
I agree 100% Bill. I can name a long list of things that are illegal in the USA that don't hurt anybody and should be legal.

-PornoPunK

Kimi Lixx
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 9:35PM
Some people think that anything crafted is art. Some people think anything intended to cause an emotional response is art. Some people think any skill is an art. Art is a pretty vague thing.
I do not believe pornography, specifically video pornography in 2004, is crafted with artistic intent. I believe it is crafted with prurient intent. It may actually BE art (who knows?), but I think most people, including myself, accept it's purpose as not being artful. Using art and freedom of speech as a legitimacy shield is useful, but not especially creditable.
Kimi Lixx
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 9:51PM
It may irk you, it irks me to use something so passe` to get my point across. The only reason I use it is to state a very simple and obvious principle. All things illegal are not wrong. All things legal are not right.

The sex workers movement, if it is ever born in the USA, would probably not be made up of noble, law-abiding, moral people of impeccable character - since, by their very nature, according to the current system, they are immoral lawbreakers of the lowest and meanest regard. Who is going to stand with us and take the risk?

Renee
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Posted - Aug 22 2004 : 10:19PM
Well said, and so succinct.

The distribution of porn has certainly gotten more legitimate and respectable, at least certain segments of it, like the softer stuff that's on cable/satellite TV, and shown in hotel rooms. And what they show has apparently gotten somewhat more hardcore through the years, though still not quite like the typical gonzo DVD. Being able to rent adult videos/DVD's from the backroom of a local video store is also pretty legit (there are two of these within a 10 minute drive of my home, and I'm way out in suburbia).

On the other hand, I think that the general public still has qualms about the people who perform in, and those who produce porn films, like they are some fringe part of our society; that's what is not viewed as so legitimate and respectable. Perhaps because 25-30 years ago, at least in the US, the porn industry was basically underground and on the fringes.

Porn as art? I view it as more entertainment than anything, like most things on film. I don't consider many mainstream films to be art, either, except for those that the director/producer/writer has put an individual stamp on, where they are obviously trying to go beyond momentary visual amusement Most mainstream films are meant to entertain, and make money, besides.

Lazerus
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Posted - Aug 23 2004 : 5:19AM
I think this is a very insightful observation. The problem is that our US Supreme Court has made it quite clear that any entertainment that contains ONLY prurient interest can be ruled obscene under the law. And obscenity is illegal. So you see, the law does not respect your right to sexual material, unless you can prove some other content or purpose (call it art is you like--many lawyers who have defended pornographers over the years certainly have) in the final product. Ridiculous? Of course. And consider that, while free speech advocates have been perilously defending pornography for years in these convoluted terms, the actual fans (including most of the posters here on ADT) have made it clear that they are not interested in anything BUT prurient interest. We are playing a hypocritical farce in the US with pornography, and have been for generations. To actually stand up and argue that the term "obscenity" should be obsolete from any and all discussions of sexual material--excepting those where other considerations of a non-sexual nature, such as coercion, child abuse, or cruelty to animals are involved--is such a dangerous and mind-bending concept to many Americans (and virtually all politicians and law-makers), that you might as well announce the Apocalypse. It connects with a much more basic presumption tenuously programmed into the culture: the pursuit of sexual gratification is the Devil's Work. This would include the people who watch porn, people who pay for sex, people who pursue sex as a form of purely social interaction, and so on. Sexual gratification for its own sake is unethical; sexual gratification will ruin your life; sexual gratification will turn you into a heinous monster; sexual gratification will make you diseased; sexual gratification will make you blind; sexual gratification will tear society asunder; too much sexual gratification, and (God help us) America might stop showing up for work every morning. Much of our consumerist culture is thus built on the principal of sexual frustration, the Big Tease: frustrated people buy more, work more, eat more, and kill our imagined enemies much better than sexually sated folks.

So you see, anyone in the business of sexual gratification in any form is a very, very dangerous person. And people, intelligent people who know better than to believe the sort of anti-sex dogma above, who do watch porn and go to strip clubs and maybe even pay for sex, are mostly still loath to defend the industry they secretly support with their time and money. How many posters on this board hide their porn under their bed?

(In fact, one might argue that what makes porn successful--that what makes sex workers successful on some primordial level--is the very illegitimacy of their business, and the subversiveness of their viewpoint. Most good entertainment is subversive to the established social norms. When the sex industry becomes "legitimate" will be when it becomes useless, or is co-opted and subsumed into the mainstream. A lot of fans will give up on it forever on that day.)

Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 23 2004 : 8:45AM
Add me to this position, I'd even say anything "staged" or crafted that evokes emotions, is art; sport events, a motorcycle, a sword, e.g., and "even" and especially pornography/erotica.
Intent is or should not be a criterion for labelling something as art, also.
I am sure Filippo Marinetti would explicitely add porn to a "Manifesto on Futurism" of today.
Since video pornography evokes emotions it must be considered art, IMNSHO, and therefore freedom of art must be assured to porn. But this was discussed in detail by Nadine Strossen in "Defending Pornography".
I mean a gabber techno track may not be compared to the work of Mozart, but even some schmaltzy country song or a "Venga Boys" song is a form of art.
Porn may be an easy way to evoke emotions - using sex-associated themes, because our organism is wired to response to it in a quite direct form.
This fact, however, does not make it an art of less value.

The reason many people do not label pornography/erotica as art, even if they are fond of pornography/erotica themselves, is fear or even angst.
Because pornography is a constant reminder of regulations of a society.
Regulations which are often not easily compatible with our "biological set-up".
These regulation are even considered useful by most of the most liberal or libertarian minded; deep in their soul most people praise and thank gawd - for various reasons - that there are these regulations.
We fear changes in our society. Because even the poorest member of a society thinks he has somehow gotten the better form of society (Just look onto the rareness of upraisings/revolutions in societies and what amount of poverty and mismanagement by leaders/leading caste must happen to start an "internal upraising" of a society leading to an actual change).

If you go to the adult booth in the video rental store one discovers another subversive nature of pornography/erotica. Even if there are Private and Vivid, pornography/erotica in general contests with nowadays sterile/unnatural form of beauty ideals.
Even in a high gloss Andrew Blake movie there is "dirt", sweat and other body fluids.
Pornography/Erotica is about primal or maybe primate instincts.
It shows the human being as it is, and not how PR/art directors, society or "social engineers" want it to be.

Camille Paglia said "Pornography is human imagination in tense theatrical action. Its violations are a protest against the violations of our freedom."

Labelling pornography/erotica as art would make it an "legitimate" contribution to the discussion of the failures of the "set-up" of our society, which controls the "human animal".
Art is the place in our society one can let out these emotions or - in a philosophical sense - art sheds light on the boundaries of society's rules; be it an ancient tragedy about the forbidden love - because of differentclass/caste heritage - of two people, or portraying a clusterfuck in pornography/erotica.

Pornography/Erotica is especially dangerous because it directly addresses sexuality, which is predominant in our needs, shortly after dealing with our need for food.

Just look on the various interracial threads, what amount of dynamite lies in there.
You will not easily find such heated discussion about mainstream movies explicitely dealing with the race issue.

Or watch a thread, when one asks the question "Would you object if your daughter decides to pursue a career in the sex industry?".
Rarely one encounters such heated discussion about free will, free choice, social boundaries - be it by law or by secret/unspoken society rules.

And if one looks at prostitution, there were times when priestesses performed or acted in a way what would be considered a pornstar or prostitute today.
Also - at least high-class - prostitutes of various ages where not labelled as despicable harlots, but rather as artists, also (see: hetaira, courtesan, maitresse).

Prostitution is a constant reminder or accusation that our society's way of sexuality, monogamy, e.g., interferes with the biological needs of our species.
Many unspoken/secret rules and in some societies even rules laid out in actual law control sexuality.
There is no interest (or should one say need?), but even fear to change society.
Therefore the contempt for prostitutes in society, their use as scapegoats, etc., which helps to "hide" them, or segregate them from the "normal" society.

"Public lies and private truths", as Machiavelli noted.

Just remember the way our society deals with homosexuality.Nowaday's &quotof rules for homosexuality" may be primarily attributed to the raise of a new STD, not because people out of a sudden became more concerned for other sexual orientations.
Homosexuals simply could no longer be "hidden" and their percentage in population was too big to segregate them - now visible - from society.
(BTW, did you know that it is estimated that during the time of the Viennese Congress (1814-15), when - approximately - the whole diplomatic corps of all of Europe was located in Vienna to discuss the order of Europe after the Napoleonic Wars, more than 10% of the female Viennese population worked as prostitutes?)

But let's switch back to "classic" erotica/pornography.
Not only is the label pornography used to denigrate and derise an art, which "investigates" and accuses our social boundaries, because we all fear - in the sense of angst - not only that our society could change. We even fear a discussion which goes deeper than the usual superficial discussion of society in "respected" arts.
The label of pornography - as it and its implications is well known to the masses - has been used and is used up to now to denigrate and derise philosophy and art, which deals with the very fundamentals of human societies.
From the work of the Marquis de Sade, to the various artists labelled as obscene and pornographers in the "Third Reich" up to the works of contemporary performance artists like Flatz, Krystufek and Nitsch, e.g.

In short; I do not see why the use or "exploitation" of sexuality (to evoke emotions) makes pornography/erotica not eligable as an art, but I see that withholding the label art for erotica/pornography serves well to prevent serious (and public) discussions, which could be dangerous to the very principles and roots of society.

In "enlightened" societies it is an easy form of circumventing the need for censorship.
Label something as pornography and there is no need for actual censorship, as long as the masses) know, that pornography is nothing to be taken serious and something which should or can be denigrated and does not or should not have the rights of an art.
No need for censorship also implies that a given society can spout that it is an oh so liberal society.
(BTW; this is not an attack on the USA, but more on Europe, where the laws may be not so strict, but pornography is dericuled and termed as despicable, nonetheless.)

Ah, the eternal trouble that solidarité and fraternité work well as fundaments in any society, but liberté is the natural enemy of any society.

"That is, I oppose intrusions of the state into the private realm - as in abortion, sodomy, prostitution, pornography, drug use, or suicide, all of which I would strongly defend as matters of free choice in a representative democracy."
-- Camille Paglia

 
Wyler
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Posted - Aug 23 2004 : 2:29PM
I agree, Kimi. I am surprised, amazed, and not at all pleased by some people's attitude towards pornstars. There are some members here who said some pretty bad things, which is insane.

The cute crazy thing, in my opinion, is that they support what pornstars do. They buy the films, or rent them, then they come here… But then they get guilty or ashamed or something, and they start to attack pornstars. Not always personally, but they write those terrible things about the profession.

That's their problem. It's obvious to me that they have some issues they have to deal with.

Of course porn is a decent way to earn money. Of course people should be free to do whatever they want to do, unless it hurts someone else. This is obvious. And these people should not be judged.

And porn can be art, yes. Sometimes, it is. I have a serious interest on cinema and, in my opinion, some of the best films of the nineties (a few, I admit) are pornos. Right up there, next to Woody Allen, Almodóvar, Egoyan, Kieslowski or Spike Lee.

Most porn, however, is not art. It's entertainment, and that's fine, that's all they want to be, and we all like entertainment. And there is lots of good entertainment coming from porn studios. Which is GREAT. You people should be proud. And I am serious.

But, even when it's bad entertainment (and we all know how bad a porno can be), the only thing I get angry with is that I spent my time and money to watch it. Even those doing bad pornography have the right to earn their living. Even because pretty much everybody in porn did both good and bad pornos. And because what doesn't work for me might work for someone else.

The problem is not porn. The problem is many of those watching porn.

eyeman
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Posted - Aug 23 2004 : 5:33PM
Kimi,

I'm sorry if my statement amout legitimacy in my other post offended you. Let me try and explain my perspective.

Without question, porn is intended to stimulate sexually. That, however, does not make it mutually exclusive to art. Whether we consider it art or pure sexual titilation, society has changed it's perception of porn to be more accepting. This change may be begrudging, and inspired by monetary reasons, but it has led to a level of legitimacy.

Despite this level of legitimacy, I recognize that society is doing a balancing act between legitimacy and taboo in how it percieves porn. Consider, however, how drastically society has changed it's outlook on porn. This change can be measured in numerous different fashions, and Renee touched on a few of them. Society is slow to change, and I recognize that many of society's "norms" are ridiculus.

I, like many others, would love it if porn were even more highly regarded in the United States, and that society can completely shed the stigma attached to it. I'm also old enough to know that chnage in our society comes slowly. I also realize, and accept, that just because I want something does'nt make it so. We live in a society that has to accomodate values based on a significant spectrum.

In looking at that spectrum we have expectations that are placed on us. Some may seem repressive, some may seem ridiculus, and some may even be contradictory. But the expectations are there because they are indicative of our values as one comprehensive collection of individuals.

Saying that we, as individuals, should be able to do what we want so long as it causes no one else harm may be a valid personal statement. Validity aside, society dictates expectations. Some of those expectations are contradictory to those discussed in an earlier thread. Be it right or wrong, society does not accept prostitution.

We live in a finicky society full of contradicitons. My personal feeling is that porn stars doubling as hookers, and the knowledge of such being widely distributed, will do ill will to the legitimacy and respectability that the industry has gained.

Sorry, I guess I gagged trying to swallow that donut whole ;-)

licker
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Posted - Aug 24 2004 : 10:04AM
I am inclined to disagree with you eyeman.

The fact that millions of people world wide make their living from prostitution suggests that "society" actually does accept it. This is supported by the fact that in the more enlightened communities of the world, it is already legal.

The minority groups who see sex workers as "evil" or "immoral" or even as "victims", usually hate erotic art too.

There are even places where prostitution is legal, but adult videos are forbidden.

I feel that your fears are unfounded.

Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 24 2004 : 10:51AM
sorry for the double post

Edited by - Zartyr on 8/26/2004 9:05:42 AM

Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 24 2004 : 11:04AM
But even in these societies, even if its "literary canon" contains the character of the "good whore", prostitution is not considered a "respectable" profession.
These minority groups do hate art or what they consider inappropriate or depraved - to avoid the German term "entartet" - art in general.

These minority groups are not the problem.
The problem is that $Mr_Manager_and_good_father cannot say he goes to prostitutes, but rather condemns prostitutes in public.
And another problem is that it the spin created is not particularly positive for $Ms_aspiring_politician, if rumours about her supposed activities in some high class bordello during her time at college are spread.

Or did you read on the NATO zero tolerance policy on prostitution in out of area theaters?
Basically something favours to root out the unvoluntary prostitution there.
But obviously - as it had to be expected - the very and only solution or take on this problem has been missed.

A group of people - especially if this group of people where the sex-ratio is out of balance - will make use of prostitutes.
In pre-modern armies, and even modern armies prostitution was a normal part of the "logisitcs/support"-train.
"Marketenderinnen" (Sutlers?) were at least considered part-time prostitutes, and some of them were "full-time" prostitutes. Even in WWI and WWII bordellos managed by the military (with voluntary prostitutes) were not unknown (One can look up the medical regulations for them, BTW).

Soldiers will go to prostitutes, no matter what regulations. So why not bring them from "home country"?
It does make military sense for the medical and intelligence staff, because one has a tighter grip on disease control with one's soldiers, and the chances for "bed-side espionage" are decreased.

But today, 19-year olds are sent somewhere and told to kill and get killed, but god forbid if or nice and lovely hometown hero would actually go to a prostitute, and heaven forbid if the military organizaton of the progressive, enlightened, western world would make prostitution an institution in the military.

I feel the fears are unfounded because of another reason.
Pornstars are anyway viewed as prostitutes or some special kind of whore.

It is not blown in the face of a pornstar in a talkshow, but I think, despite the superficial "acceptance" of pornstars, they are viewed as members of the same category as prostitutes by "society" in general.
Just watch the afternoon freak^W TV-shows for the bored housewife.
The moderator of such a show, will show respect, but the attendance will portray a negative gut-feeling ("Nice for her, but I would not want this job for my daughter.")

Or look around here or on usenet, does the term "euro-whore" ring a bell?

Edited by - Zartyr on 8/26/2004 9:07:05 AM

eyeman
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Posted - Aug 24 2004 : 4:25PM
Licker, I guess I should have clarified since ADT draws such a large international audience. My statement was suggesting society as it relates to the United States. I have no doubt that there are places in the world where the local culture, or society accepts and promotes prostitution.

We can find civilized societies that accept or deplore a wide range of actions. Many muslim states, for example, find it unacceptable for women to go out baring skin in public. A second example is topless bathing which is acceptable in many European countries. American society has norms that are different from those in the examples.

The simple fact is that prostitution is not accepted by society, as it relates to the United States.

Zartyr, I strongly disagree with your statement about pornstars being looked at as prostitutes or whores. I think this is at the heart my argument. The fact that porn has eveolved towards legitimacy has also helped promote talent to be viewed with more legitimacy. In addition, whether someone is a pronstar, prostitute, mailman, accountant, teacher, whatever, these people are still someone's son, daghter, mother, sister, etc. I know how offended I would be if someone referred to one of my loved ones as a "whore."

horndogger
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 1:44AM
post removed. if you think you have something important to say then say it without insulting everyone here.

as we apparantly have to now say 10 times a day please read the forum etiquette. if you can't comply then go post somewhere else. this is a community. try pretending you are actually speaking to people in person.

Edited by - Steph on 8/26/2004 12:13:30 PM

licker
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 8:12AM
Edited - no longer relevant since the preceding post was removed.

Edited by - licker on 8/28/2004 1:34:52 PM

Edited by - licker on 8/28/2004 1:35:34 PM

XXXXXXXX
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 9:36AM
In my humble opinion 'a beautiful minds' approach,
"never judge what makes another mans dick hard" leads to problems as much as the mindset
described by Zatyr "It is not blown in the face of a pornstar in a talkshow, but I think,
despite the superficial "acceptance" of pornstars, they are viewed as members of
the same category as prostitutes by "society" in general."

While the first approach fails pitiless as soon as i encounter mysogynistic attitudes as a fetish
the second mindset shows a wrongful 'two-world view' towards sex-workers.

#1 Prostitution (that includes 'Pornstar') is a real job.
there is no need to 'legitimate' these admirably services over 'arts' in any way.

#2 No need to put some pornstars on a pedestal to show how clever they are
or to start this nauseously 'she is so pretty/smart she could have done something else' talk!

#3 Imho, you can be proud if you have what it takes to be a sucessful prostitute,
make more $$$ than an average job and if you're really good in your profession you make more
than a prof/lawyer/doctor in a month! And even if you're not that lucky, as long as you can pay your bills no one should point a finger at you.

#4 Not the word 'prostitute' offends me but the mysogynistic attitudes some people display here,
some try to cover it up under what they call legal fetishes.

#5 Not only 'pornfans' shit talk about talents, some 'directors' are right avec them!
some people get praised and idolized here that are nothing but a bunch of insecure bullies that treat women like crap so they can feel manly. But hey, idiots blend well together. It should be no problem for the later to find a cheering audience here.

#6 It's an old truth that whenever people can't have something they desire and envy others about or it just doesn't fit in their mindset they speak ill of it. In case of prostitution there's a lot of things that come to mind:

- some people are bound marriage and are trapped in boring or no sexlife at all (apart from watching porn),
- they don't have the money or are too shy to afford professionals,
- they generalize that most prostitutes are ugly,
- they misinvest hughe amounts of time to create pseudo intellectual differentiations
between the words pornstar,talent and prostitute
- they try hard to seperate a blended glamours pornstar world and the wretched world of escorts as they see it,
- they get paid a lot less for what they consider 'harder' fair work,
- they can't prostitute themselfs coz they're too ugly or trapped in social codes,
- they think they are intellectual superior,
- they talk badly about people using these 'services' which attacks prostitutes indirectly,
- they joke talk about limited intellect of prostitutes,
- they strongly believe someone who has studied at a university deserves to earn more than a prostitute,
- they don't consider prostitution a real job,
- they see prostitutes as a potential threat to their ideals of a healthy society
- they are uptight bitter people with broken life dreams that resent others having a good time resulting from their efforts
- they won't miss a chance to name prostitution in one go with child abuse, drug abuse and exploitation.

These ressentiments are stuck in many peoples heads and regulary fed by mainstream media like newspapers or hollywood movies; apart from that it's your gov that prohibits prostitution and therefore hinders the formation of regulated and safe workplaces for sex-workers.

Edited by - x-ray on 11/3/2004 3:56:24 AM

Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 9:38AM
So why the f*ck could the "Dilara - Sibel Kekilli" case get such big headlines?
Perhaps because porn is not viewed with more "legitimacy"?

It is on the way to get more "legitimacy", but it is still a long way to go.

You need not go too far away. Just look for terms like "euro-whore".

AAMOF, regardless how one looks at it, erotic artists, be it a prostitute or a performer in an erotic/pornographic movie, are sex workers.

The key is to raise the respect/legitimacy/approval of sex work in general and not single out some more appropriate forms of sex work in favour to "despisable" forms of sex work.
If one does so, one works in the hands of anti-sex work activists, because they use the strategy of "Divide et impera!".
Puritans, feminists and religious fanatics are anti-prostitution and anti-porn, anyway.
Plus, they all have a problem with art in general.

edited for spelling

Edited by - Zartyr on 8/26/2004 9:42:25 AM

 
Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 10:44AM
I would phrase it like this: "there should be no need to 'legitimate' these admirably services over 'arts' in any way."

But the other way is that it is a well proven concept of societies, to deny the label "arts" for anything dangerous or anything viewed as misfit for society.

If one wants to invoke Godwin one refers to the dealing with "entartet" (depraved?) arts in the Third Reich of the Nazis, the prosecution and denying the label art for anything "dangerous" in all kind of dictatorship, from the ancient greeks to "enlightened terror-regimes" (de Sade, the predecessor of artists sent to the mental asylum in the USSR, e.g.) and to the communist and fascist oligarchic regimes of the last century.
And often these works of art were labelled "pornographic" as opposed to "valueable arts".

It, however, could and can be seen in democracies, also.
The artists in the late 60ies, the "Wiener Aktionismus", Nitsch, Brus, e.g., who got arrested for their performances.
And it is a well proven concept for denigrating erotica/pornography(*) throughout history.

IMHO there is no difference in artistic value between "Feeding Frenzy ATM Monsterbukkake #42" and "Scary Teenie Movie #47" or Koyanisquatsi and an Andrew Blake Movie; a ballerina and a stripper, or any difference between a Sensei in Martial Arts and a prostitute offering their bodies (and souls) for practice/experience.

So the labelling of erotica/pornography (and services of prostitutes) as arts will be a crucial point, but not the only criterion, in assessing if a society does really legitimate/respect/accept(in the sense of grokking) sex work.
I.e. acceptance of sex work as a real job will not be possible, if pornography is not considered as arts.

(*) One (wo)man's erotica is the other (wo)man's pornography and vice versa.

Edited by - Zartyr on 8/26/2004 10:48:22 AM

tricia_devereaux
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 4:12PM
I know that for me personally, I would not be able to be a private escort.
I don't look at myself as better then girls who actually do escort. I just know that I get freaked out being intimate with complete strangers. In porn, it was the camera that was my buffer. It was a rationalization, but one that worked for me nonetheless.

I tried to dance for someone in private once for money while he masturbated. It made me really uncomfortable.

I remember when I decided to do some stripping as a non-feature at a club called Rick's in Seattle. Great club. But a few of the girls there felt like they were better than me because they had never "lowered" themselves to fucking for money. I was shocked and if I hadn't been so frazzled, I probably would have been amused. Here they were, on a nightly basis, complaining that they couldn't be considered acceptable in society because they were strippers, and they were doing the exact same thing to someone "lower" than them. It was that day that I knew I would never ever think badly of someone else just because they were able to accomplish something that I wasn't able to - and that includes escorting.

I'm not sure what kind of point I'm trying to make, but it's close to this: It's really easy to judge others based on the standards that you've set for youself in your own life, but that's pretty egotistical. If someone else is not hurting anyone in any way, shape or form, is there any harm in it?

sachunglo
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 4:17PM
we are all human
it's funny how people think they are better than someone else when they do the same exact thing just in "private"

people need to stop lying to themselves!

horndogger
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Posted - Aug 26 2004 : 7:35PM
Okay....let me try this again.
Kim you are obviously frustrated at the condensending attitude towards girls in the porn industry. I believe this starts with the product itself and unfortunately creates a culture of disrespect towards the girls. When you look at the sex acts performed....gaping, ass to mouth, cum farts etc.... these are all acts that are yes, entertaining, fantasy and in demand - but they are also demeaning towards women. When you look at directors such as Max Hardcore and Vince Voyeur, there treatment of women is very poor. It is hard to expect consumers to respect porn girls....we like them and enjoy watching you, but respect is pushing it to far when there is so much disrespect given to you by your employers. There is no doubt that consumers are powering the market and we are all responsible for that and the demeaning sex acts that we grave, guilty. There must be some acountability on your part however. You ask that consumers not tread on you and that is something you are entitled to.....but you and all adult actresses must draw a line yourselves that you will not be pushed beyond by directors or agents. If there are limits within porn than consumers will still buy the products...they will simply be educated to the fact that some things are not going to be available (anything demeaning towards women).
Once you establish self - respect within the industry than consumers will afford the same to you. Just my opinion and I do not mean to 0ffend.
tricia_devereaux
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 12:23AM
Who says that actresses like Kimi and others aren't drawing their own personal lines?
cobalt60
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 12:58AM
I just want Kimi to know, since I'm incapable of coherent thought at the moment: I love and respect you.

Fuck everybody else. That's my theme this evening.

licker
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 6:03AM
You have my love and respect too Kimi.
licker
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 6:08AM
Well said Tricia. If all people followed your philosophy, life would be better for everyone.
CupidStunt
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 6:59AM
I like the way Bill Hicks puts it:

'According to senate law pornography is bad just that nobody know's what it is? According to law pornography is something that has no artistic merit and causes sexual thought. I tell you what causes sexual thought when all is said and done. Having a dick causes sexual thought.

I can be riding on the L-train kinda rocking kinda nice. OH MY GOD!! I'M GETTING A WOODY. WHat are they gonna do ban public transportation?'


I miss Bill Hicks

I really do.

XXXXXXXX
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Posted - Aug 27 2004 : 11:50AM
Just because you think something is 'demeaning' doesn't necessarily mean the talent who
acts out this fantasy wants to be treated in a demeaning way too, besides it's all wrong to make the amount of respect towards talents conditional on the fantasy roles they act on screen. You are talking to real people here, btw.
As is suitable for a gentleman you pass the buck to the weakest part in the industry.
The fans scream for more gross things and the producers pressure talents to fulfill the demand.
Not every talent is in the lucky position to choose their work, many have to compromise to get their cut.
But instead of being thankful you point your fingers at them or give them the same condescending smile
like many producers and 'pornfans' do. Time to acknowledge your own debt and apologize for your thoughtlessness
pushing the very line you request off limits.
hmmm, imho "Feeding Frenzy ATM Monsterbukkake #42" and a Dorcel flick are worlds apart,
while you may call both 'art' the 'artistic value' of the first is somewhere in the negativ scale for me ,
only useful in an exemplary way.
You said "It (porn) is on the way to get more "legitimacy", but it is still a long way to go."
I think taking current developments in account it's on it's way to loose any credit left, at least in America.
Once Private [America] will be synonym for guzzling cumfarters they will watch with wide open eyes,
how the more classy Eurolabels overtake the market and take away a big piece of the cable and satellite deals.
*giggle*
i don't think so, but that's just me
but hey my soul lies with the arts, i would never sell my soul
 
Zartyr
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Posted - Aug 28 2004 : 10:19AM
Kimi Lixx
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Posted - Aug 29 2004 : 3:26PM
I can see that there are strong feelings on both sides of the fence regarding this topic, or topics related to this topic.
For those of you on the marginalizing side, you're right, nobody has to get a degree in anything or specialized training or a certificate to become a sex worker. They don't have to because the job has been (historically) limited to fringe workers, people with fewer resources and social outcasts. It makes it easier to keep condemning the whole sex work industry if you can point to the miserable people who work in it. Of course, by doing that, you just ensure that neither the industry nor the workers will drag themselves out of the mire. I wonder how much better your porn would be if the performers were required to be trained to do it. What if the performers had taken acting lessons, biology lessons, human sexuality and psychology classes? How about if the prostitutes were certified? Might be some pretty awesome services offered, and specialists would rise to the top. You're right about us having no paperwork, but you're wrong if you think the successful ones among us have no specific skills.
You talk about sex workers as if they were a single homogeneous group of people. Guess what! They're not. People from all walks of life become sex workers. People who grow up with a silver spoon in their mouths become sex workers just to be naughty and rebel. Mommies and daddies, teens fresh out of high school, crack addicts and alcoholics, preachers daughters and Mennonites, welfare cases and immigrants, drop-outs and college graduates, black, white, yellow and tan, there is no way you can say we are all the same. Our individual reasons for coming to this profession aren't the same, either.

For those of you who are pro sex workers, cool, keep up the good attitude. Just remember, even though you might or might not understand the differences between all fields of sex work, don't let yourself fall into the trap of marginalizing one field while elevating another. You would not say that an obstetrician was better(or worse) than a cardiologist, because even though they are both doctors, they don't provide the same service.

I won't stay in the box, don't try to make me.

oatmeal
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Posted - Aug 30 2004 : 8:09PM
I've met some pretty stupid and incompetent people with degrees, certification or letters behind their names.

Take a look around and you'll find people with no qualifications excelling in whatever field they stumble into. Probably many of the world's riches fall into this category.

Ladies, I can't understand what you go through in your chosen (or stumbled into) industry. The pressures, the biases, the work, the pay. I'm sure many of the people on this board don't either but at least we can try to be respectful towards you as human beings.

If you feel having a degree or certification makes you a "smarter" person then by all means take some of your money and buy something for yourself. It may be called an education and help you find a different career but I believe the biggest benefit is confidence and self-respect.

Cheers
Rick




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