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nightowl
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51 Posts
6/07
Posted - Jan 1 2009 : 11:38AM
my wife is not the greatest fan of taking cum in her mouth or swallowing. it's not that it makes her puke or any really unpleasant reaction but she definitely does it more because she knows i enjoy it, rather than taking any pleasure from it herself. i've been fairly lucky in previous relationships, in that most of the women i've gone out with have been fairly open minded sexually. this is the first time i've really come up against a situation like this one where one person is doing something just for the sake of the other one, rather than enjoying it themselves. the problem i find is that it's a bit difficult to put aside the knowledge that it's not her favourite thing when i'm about to cum in her mouth which takes away the enjoyment a bit. it's always been something i've really enjoyed and i'm a bit loath to stop doing it. i guess my question is how can i learn to be a bit more 'selfish', just enjoy this pleasure, put aside any 'guilt' type issues and just accept that she's willing to do it even though it's not her greatest pleasure?

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Kimi Lixx
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2012 Posts
6/01
Posted - Jan 1 2009 : 11:46AM
Accept it the same way you accept any gift.
It makes the giver feel good, not because (in this case) it gives her sexual pleasure, but because she enjoys making her partner feel good.
I'm sure there are things you do for your wife that you aren't a terrific fan of doing. Maybe it's your thing to take out the trash, or kill the bees and spiders, or pick up the doggie doodie in the yard. You do it, not because you have to, but because you want her to be happy.
She wants you to be happy. So be happy, not guilty.
Oh, and be appreciative. Nobody likes it when their gifts are taken for granted. Make sure you tell her, or show her, just how much you do enjoy it and that it's an awesome thing she does for you.
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Bobcat
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1490 Posts
2/08
Posted - Jan 1 2009 : 2:16PM
If you love someone, then giving them pleasure is very very pleasing.
Like Kimi says, accept it and enjoy, you shouldn't feel guilty, just make doublely sure that she know's how much you appreciate her.

Edited by - bobcat on 1/1/2009 2:23:04 PM

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zophos
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1703 Posts
7/08
Posted - Feb 12 2009 : 8:12PM

I'm in the same boat. I had a couple of girlfriends who enjoyed swallowing and one in particular that talked dirty, edging me on and enthusiastically swallowing or "allowing" me to cum on her face. Now, sometimes, I almost feel guilty because my wife is so sweet but doesn't really like doing that, though otherwise we do have great sex. She's a stunning Chinese Indonesian woman and really turns me on; hopefully, she will relax and enjoy it more, so I can enjoy it more too.
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zzaphod42
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13 Posts
1/09
Posted - Feb 13 2009 : 9:02AM
Keep in mind that as time goes by one of two things is likely to happen:
1) She will begin to enjoy it more because she sees how much pleasure that she is giving you.
2) She will become even less willing to allow it, possibly to the point where she no longer allows you to cum in her mouth.
Things can go either way depending on a number of factors, including how much you show your appreciation, and reciprocate for her, especially in areas that she knows you are not overly keen on.
Obviously if the first situation occurs you have nothing to worry about. However, if you find yourself in the second situation, you will need to decide just how important it is to you.
For now, since she is willing to let you cum in her mouth, do your best to enjoy it and avoid showing her that you feel guilty about doing so because if you feel bad about it, she will stop allowing it.
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