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| OLY Member Gresham,, Ore gone!! 482 Posts 7/00 |  Posted - Jul 30 2000 : 9:44PMHOW DO YOU GET OVER EX GIRLFRIENDS IF YOU REALLY MISS THEM... [Link] |
| Evil_Rip Senior Member Power overwhelming 1117 Posts 12/99 |  Posted - Jul 30 2000 : 10:41PM[This message has been edited by Evil_Rip (edited July 31, 2000).] [Link] |
| Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Jul 30 2000 : 11:28PM I think the best way to get over an ex is to spend more time with your female friends. Hopefully you have a good friend who can just be with you so you're not reminded of the loss. [Link] |
| Darkmage Member State of Denial 328 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Jul 31 2000 : 8:22PM My advice is distraction. Go out with your friends, have fun, laugh. Don't bury yourself in work, bury yourself in friendship. ------------------ [Link] |
| -lunacy- Senior Member 1081 Posts 4/00 | Posted - Jul 31 2000 : 9:00PM Sorry you're missen your ex This sounds really corney, but I had an ex once that regardless of how bad she was for me I still missed her a lot. So I made a list of all the reasons I was better off without her, what I didn't like about her, etc. Even made a few up just for good measure, lol. I read it every day and eventually was very concsious of the reasons we were not together and became O.K with it. Maybe that will help you, if nothing else you should get a giggle at my expense eh? ------------------ [Link] |
| Pablo Member CA USA 72 Posts 11/99 |  Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 2:18PMHow do you get over your ex if she's screwing the guy who sits in front of you AND the guy who sits behind you at work? Easy, time, lots and lots of time. And then, more time. Having good friends helps a lot, having someone to talk to is invaluable. I found that getting rid of (boxing up and putting away if you can't face tossing) things that remind you of this person helps - the old out of sight, out of mind thing. Music is a killer, especially if it was an important part of your life together. Alcohol is your enemy. Going out and getting someone new is also your enemy, you'll only end up hurting them and probably yourself. Take comfort in your friends, they'll help you through this. PS - Yes - the above is true, no I'm not over her yet, but I'm getting better... [This message has been edited by Pablo (edited August 01, 2000).] [Link] |
| Oneloa Member 848 Posts 2/00 |  Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 4:37PMI agree with all the advice here. Go out with friends that you care about, not your bar buddies. They won't understand or care. Take up a new hobby. Something you've never done before to create new memories that won't include her. Enjoy your new found freedeom! Do something that you've always wanted to do, but couldn't because of her. It's very freeing. Lunacy - I like your idea. Writing down the reasons why she is bad for you would help you remember when you're feeling weak. It may not ease away the pain, but it would help you from trying to get back together. [Link] |
| Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 6:28PM Just kidding - that really sucks. I think if you call her a slut (with a beavis and butthead intonation) in your own mind you'll feel better Lun - I've done the writing down the reasons - that sure adds some controlled rationality to something that is 90% uncontrollable emotion. [Link] |
astroknight  Questionable Moderator Tastes so good... 4187 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 6:49PM [Link] |
| biggun Member outthere 67 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 1 2000 : 9:27PM [Link] |
| Pablo Member CA USA 72 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 11:05AM Get this - I actually hired the two guys! Talk about screwed up. Ah well, I'm better off - but it sure is a crappy way to end an eight year relationship. I like the take up something new idea - I took up commuting by bike - I found the morning and evening rides really helped clear my head. Another thing that helped was moving to a new place with no memories of her. [Link] |
| Oneloa Member 848 Posts 2/00 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 11:21AM Not to be too nosey, but what happened? It sounds like she did this because she was mad... or completely evil! I can't imagine ending an 8 year relationship by hurting the other person so bad. I'm glad to hear that you're doing healthy things like commuting by bike to clear your head. When I was going through something very similar, I decided to start working out and build some muscles (I wish I would have kept that up... damn). Plus, to hang out with some friends that I neglected for years. [Link] |
| Pablo Member CA USA 72 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 2:02PM She actually said she never wanted anyone to love her as much as I had - seems she has this thing for guys that treat her like crap - so... that's what I left her with. [Link] |
| Evil_Rip Senior Member Power overwhelming 1117 Posts 12/99 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 3:35PM Edited by - evil_rip on Jan 24 2001 [Link] |
| biggun Member outthere 67 Posts 7/00 | Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 7:17PM [This message has been edited by biggun (edited August 02, 2000).] [Link] |
| Evil_Rip Senior Member Power overwhelming 1117 Posts 12/99 |  Posted - Aug 2 2000 : 10:43PM[Link] |
| Pablo Member CA USA 72 Posts 11/99 | Posted - Aug 3 2000 : 7:37AM Biggun - I know she is screwed up and has very low self esteem, I tried everything I could to help her, even offered to help pay for counseling if she would just go. She once said that the only time she felt truly loved and beautiful was when she was with me. OK, so why did she treat me like poo-poo all the time? (rhetorical question) I know there are good women out there, I've known several, the love of my life was one of them (no, the above woman is NOT the love of my life). I'm 40 now and content to be on my own for a while. My daughter and friends are all I need at the moment. That, and a little porn :-) [Link] |
| -lunacy- Senior Member 1081 Posts 4/00 | Posted - Aug 3 2000 : 7:36PM I think that some time on your own is a really heathy thing guys. When I finally wised up and left an abusive relationship after 3 years, I was single for quite a while. I chose to be celibate for a year and then when I did start seeing people again it was very casual. I learned a lot about myself in that time, and did a lot of healing. When I did meet someone I wanted to be with I was sure enough of myself, and knew my own heart well enough to stand firm in what I needed and wanted from a partner. So maybe the cliche is true, time does heal. In the interim, lean on your friends, and be patient with yourself. [Link] |
| Morrigan Member Dark side of the moon 73 Posts 4/00 | Posted - Aug 5 2000 : 9:59AM The best thing I can say about it is just hang out with your friends, get a new hobby, and all of the other wonderful advice above. It's gonna hurt, no matter what, but you can't dwell too much on it. If you can stand disco, get a copy of "I will survive" and blast it full volume for a couple of days. LOL -M PS-IF you remain friends with her, don't let that interfere with any new relationships you develop. Trust me on this one. Been there, hated it. 'Nuff said. [Link] |
| The Wanderer All-Star Member 192 Posts 6/00 | Posted - Aug 5 2000 : 5:06PM Then again, Adam Sandler sang it in The Wedding Singer and was attacked by the bride's father. [Link] |
| 2dvd Senior Member Trading DVDs 1447 Posts 12/00 | Posted - Jan 25 2001 : 4:20PM [Link] |
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