Ok, so we all have those fantasies while we lay awake at night or daydream of during work. And they're often the ones that, while they seem like fun, we know we can't indulge in them or else they'll wreck our lives (well, at least for us married with children). You know the ones, like having sex with your teacher, a prostitute, your wifes sister, and the all reclusive 3-some. But what about those fantasies you dream of that COULD come true without causing a rift in the household. Stuff you dream of really coming true. Here's mine: 10. Sex anywhere but the in the bedroom. Sure the bed is comfortable, but can't we do it on the kitchen countertop?! 9. Sex during the day. With kids around, night time seems to be the only time we do it. I want sex in the sunlight for a change. 8. Naughty nurse or maid - i.e. have her dress up in some sexy outfits and do a little role play. Ok, so it's not like I haven't ever done #10, 9, and 8 above, but it's just been a while. I'm now 40 and sometimes I feel like my window of good sex (or at least sex as it used to be) is starting to narrow. 7. Have her talk dirty during sex. She's just not into it, and I would really like that. 6. Watch her kiss another girl. This fantasy revolves around being tipsy at a party and letting go for a moment. I could deal with this, and I'm sure she'd just see it as a harmless thing. 5. Filming us having sex. I would love to make our own porno. It's not like I would show anyone, and it would be a huge turn on to do it. But she has flatly denied this request. I can understand why, but still... 4. Anal sex. I never thought I would be interested in this, and when I first started watching porn, I thought it was gross. In fact, much of it I still find gross, like the gaping and overly aggressive pounding of an ass. But now I would love to be able to just try it out and see what it feels like to have my cock in her ass. She sends mixed signals though. She seems to like me to rub my cock against her asshole, cause she often starts doing it herself - rolling to her side with her ass up against my cock, and proceeding to gyrate my cockhead against her asshole, letting out soft moans of pleasure. But if I attempt to push it in, she rejects the advance. Sometimes I think she wants to, but is just too puritan to admit it. 3. Sex in public, with a chance of being caught. Like a blow job in the changing room, or in the car, sex in the movie theater, playing under the table at a restaurant, in the bathroom at a party... 2. Voyerism - Have sex in front of another couple / watch another couple have sex / have sex in the same room as others having sex. T1. A fantasy that I've had for a very long time... we go to Vegas, where I've arranged for a male and female masseuse to come to our hotel room and give us a massage. We're both on massage tables next to each other, and the female masseuse gives me a happy ending, and the male masseuse does the same for her. T1. A variation of the above is that instead of masseuses, it's a male and female stripper. They seat both of us in chairs, back to back, and proceed to give us a striptease and lap dance. We get so hot that my wife and I start having sex and the strippers have sex with each other. T1. Bondage. I would love to tie her up and blindfold her. Dress up in some latex or leather. Add in a little light S&M (consentual, and no humiliation) - spanking, light slapping, dirty talking... It could go both ways, I would like her to do the same.
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” - Kierkegaard 2684 Posts 8/09
Posted - Oct 14 2009 : 9:21AM
First, awesome thread. Also, you should have posted this in the Polls section (more traffic) I have a reoccuring one that stemmed from a college experience. I was dating a girl majoring in biology at the time. We met during a long lab-based class, where we would get a lot of breaks (just to prevent insanity). After getting more comfortable with each other, we would leave the building during some breaks and have make out sessions during our 'honeymoon phase'. One time we only had a short break, so we ran outside. We started hastily making out where she was on top of me (heavily kissing each other), still dressed in our lab coats. We were located 1). right by one of the primary roads of the University 2). also in front of one side of a multistory building (we came from) that had windows facing towards us. While we were passionately going at it, a men's sports team (I think the mens track team) ran by during practice, besides any spectators in the building. The track team all shouted at us after seeing us (more encouragement than ridicule) and I found this oddly, a huge turn-on. Ever since this experience, I've always wanted to experiment with some voyeuristic fantasies. Unfortunately, many recent laws (in many states) put a person in the same category as sex offenders, if you are caught (even in less 'in your face' instances). So the realities (criminal & labeling) pretty much kill/prevent me from exploring some of my more public fantasies outright That being said, I've always wished he had sex in lab coats as they are so large & wide, they could easily mask a discrete quicky in public. Talk about nerdy sex[:p)]. Also, I like the idea of scientific role playing, which I have not seen in either popular media (in a long-time) or porn (ever - i.e., female scientist).
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” - Kierkegaard 2684 Posts 8/09
Posted - Oct 14 2009 : 9:35AM
BTW, I personally dislike the whole nurse fantasy as popularly portrayed. The whole 1930s nurse uniform we see so much in porn is very alien/foreign to me. When is the last time you went to a hospital and saw a nurse dressed like that? Also, I think there has been a lot of neglect in the remaining medical role-playing/fantasy. For example, just look at current times where there are increasing numbers of female doctors (MDs). This has been totally neglected/under-appreciated/under-represented in porn and erotic media. I would think that the whole power dynamic alone would appeal to a portion of the audience (dominant vs. submissive in context of medical role-playing).
BYOB_Kenobi Great story. I think there could be some potential for a porno with scientists - think of all the crazy experiments that could be done. [many recent laws (in many states) put a person in the same category as sex offenders] That's no joke. I've even seen stories about how guys have been put on the registry for peeing in an alley behind a bar late at night. It's scary what can happen. I do agree with you about the nurse thing being done poorly in film. I don't actually care so much about the role play of nurse to patient. Rather, where I used to live, there was an adult store that had this really sexy latex nurse outfit in the window, and every day that I walked by it on the way to work, I couldn't help but wish it was on my wife. Looking back on it now, I should have just bought it for her, but I was young and nervous she would reject it. I love the idea about porn highlighting a female doctor. That would be great.
Great post! I'm going to have to disagree with BYOB though. I like people posting stuff about actual sex in Sex Talk. When I come to an adult forum, I don't like having to sift through junk like "Applebee's or Friday's." Anyway, 4 sounds exactly like our situation. As for 3, we take turns occasionally challenging each other in different situations, but one of us ends up wussing out every time. My fiancee loves to be stimulated in multiple areas at once, and loves to be touched everywhere. Example 1, she loves it when I titty-fuck her while working her vagina with fingers/dildo/vibrator. Example 2, once when I was performing cunnilingus and try to touch various parts of her body while doing so, she decided "I wish you had 4 hands." The reason for mentioning this is that I have suggested bringing in a third person (female or male) to lend me a hand/tongue/cock to make her the center of attention and stimulating her in multiple areas at the same time. She balks at this suggestion.
Have sex with a black women. In particular, someone with afro-caribbean ancestry. Done everything else I want to. Perhaps the only the other thing is to have sex with my partner without contraception, with the aim of procreating.
[TedtheBellhop wrote: My fiancee loves to be stimulated in multiple areas at once] Lucky you. My wife only likes to be touched in one area at a time. It's frustrating for me because I want to touch her all over. I long to finger her clit while fucking her, or have her finger her own clit while fucking. We actually did it once, she fingered her clit while my cock was inside of her, but she wouldn't let me move my cock while she did it. It was nice... but I want more. I love my wife, but she can be a total prude in some ways and yet in other ways she can be kinda wild.
Well, I have to be careful with the clit. She's very sensitive there. However, she loves having her breasts/butt/thighs/neck all caressed/kissed/licked. As far as prude vs. wild, I've found most women are that way. It's probably a good thing because it keeps us in check and keeps us interested in finding something new when the wild side comes out!
All of these threads that focus on, "How do I ask my partner to...or how do I get her/him to..." blow my mind. All of the fantasies that are mentioned in the original thread are well within the realm of what two consenting adults might ask of one another. I have done every one and a hell of a lot more. I never understood why a guy hard a hard time telling his GF/wife something like, "Hey it would really turn me on to cum all over you face." The response is either, a. "Sure! I think it might turn me on too". b. "No I really don't want to do that" or c. "Iv'e never done that but I'll give it a try" Almost everything can be responded to in this manner. And as the person to whom the question is being posed, why not try something new? Whats the big deal? So you get tied up and he binds your tits or buys you some leather or latex. What the hell. You don't have to wear it to the PTA meeting. Even something as taboo as getting someone else involved in your sex life. I'll bet a lot of people would find that just the frank talk about that posibility is enough of a turn-on without ever going through with it, and who knows, your sister-in-law might not want to fuck you in the first place.
I don't post much, but the couple things I haven't talked my wife into doing (that would be in the "realistic" realm) would be: 1) Masturbate for me while I watch. God I would love to see that. I know she uses the vibrator (and possibly the anal beads) while I am gone because they magically move around in the drawer :) but can't get her to even touch herself in front of me....even rub herself while we're having sex. **sigh** 2) I'd love to cum on her face. 3) I'd love to film us or have her pose for sexy pics. We've been married long enough that we're both in it to stay and they're not going to end up on the internet. That's probably about it in the "realistic" or "it could happen" realm. I have lots in the "impossible dream" category, like the watching her and another girl. That would be awesome.
I win the Lottery (big mind you) Go to Amsterdam and indulge in hot and cold running hookers. Get a nice house in the country, with a big entertainment center (one of those theater type things), and a library. I would divy up the rest into living money, investments, and charity.
I've always thought about it, I always knew she was capable of it, on Friday night it happened, and I'm somewhat screwed up as a result. My girlfriend lives in L.A., I live in Seattle. We see each other once a month for a week at a time. The thought of her entering in a new relationship down there or even fucking strange is unbearable for me. Yet she does need an outlet for reasons of both self-esteem and perpetual horniness. Fortunately I've fantasized about watching her hit on guys and take them home, as long as I could witness everything which happens between them. No imagined worst-case scenarios in this case -- I get to see it all and digest it however I like. On Friday night just as we were about to go out and Marianne was dressed in a black corset-like top and frilly skirt, a guy came to the door. This guy had saved my bacon a couple of weeks ago by bringing my wallet to me which I had lost at a closed construction site while Marianne and I were shooting erotic pictures for her website on a weekend afternoon. I had mentioned to the construction worker on that day he brought the wallet back what I was doing there but kept the details to a minimum, merely saying, "My girlfriend is a model and we thought it an interesting place to shoot." I realized that I severely undertipped him when he left and felt pretty crummy about it for a few days. When he showed at the door on Friday, stinking a bit of alcohol, I didn't even remember him. But when he reminded me of the wallet incident I immediately told him of my regrets about not showing my appreciation properly and opened my wallet. He brushed the suggestion off but asked if I could send him pictures of my girlfriend on his bulldozer (which we just happened to have quite a selection of). I said sure and kept him waiting at the door while I retrieved pen and paper to jot down his email address. In the meantime he stepped into the house and Marianne was in the kitchen, in her slinky outfit with spiked heels underneath. When I emeged with the writing tools she and he were already talking. He said he'd like to come to dinner with us and I knew this was a fish or cut bait moment. Marianne -- a couple of drinks already in her -- welcomed the notion with such open arms that she embraced him. Oh boy. We went back to his house for his cellphone. Once inside Marianne plopped herself on his couch. And then stood up when he asked if he could take a picture of her. He held the camera for a good long time and she didn't realize he was shooting video. When I gently pointed this out to her, she started slinking suggestively and within 20 seconds or so had hiked up her skirt to reveal nothing but her splendid bush. She then pulled down her top a bit to reveal big nipples bulging from her tits. Her new friend asked if he could bring the camera in close and she welcomed the suggestion, sitting back down on the sofa with her legs spread wide open as he got on his knees in front of her moist twat. This story actually goes on quite a ways from here and I'll be glad to update it if there's sufficient interest (say 10 ADTers interested in what happened as we drove to the restaurant).
wardqueen.. I totally agree with what you say about none of the OPs fantasies are that far out, that why wouldn't one try something that would please there partner. Although, I could see objection to actually involving third parties into ones sex life, but the rest is all pretty tame. However, I am assuming by what you are saying and your screen name, that you are female. Thus, saying what you are saying, and posting it on a porn forum, shows me that you are likly rather kinky, understand your sexuality, are open minded and adventurous, etc. My experience has always showed me that women like you don't realize how rare you are. I've always found that women like you don't relize that for ever woman like you, there are 1000 women who arnt. A 1000 women who wouldn't ever consider doing any of those 10, rather tame things, in a million years. Look at it this way... Poll 100 random women and ask them what the most depraved, sickening, crazy, stomach turning, sicko sexual thing they have ever seen/heard of is, or could ever even imagine. My guess is that a big part of that list is going to be pretty tame. Now show that list of answers to 100 random guys, and I'm willing to bet that even the most depraved things on that list, those hundred guys could produce images/videos of them stored on their cellphone!!! Think about that for a second.. The most depraved things that a women could ever imagine, you could quikly find a guy carting an image or video of it around with them. This world needs lots more women like you... But trust me, you have no idea how many women are NOT like you. :) lol y nudd tiy!
But see my possibility for selection b. Ask her! This is the worst you can get for a response. I think a lot of guys might find out that the mood of their female partner may have a lot to do with her response. If you ask her to participate in some thing and get a negative reply look at the circumstances. Was she tired? Was something bothering her. Were you both hurried? The list could go on forever. Wait a while (that is very important!) and try to find a time that the circumstances that were present when you asked the first time, are no longer there. Who knows what she might say. Your observatio that I am female is correct and sure I probably am more uninhibited than some women but I really think you'd (all) be somewhat surprised how many "tame" females there are who harbor thoughts of fantasies. And just a tip; if you think something is depraved, sicko or stomach turning, there's probably a good chance that she wiil too.
I'm sorry WqJ, but there are way worse responses out there than "No..." Seriously, people get divorced/break up over perceived sexual perversity, or go on in marriages where, "Don't you ever touch me again." is a real consequence of attempted honesty. Sometimes there are things that are better left unsaid when the speaker has determined that they can live without it and the risk isn't worth it.
Wqj... He's right. You being a woman, probably anything you suggest to a man your with, probably says "hell yea" and dives head first into it like he just won the lottery. If he doesn't, I formally revoke his man card. You have probably never suggested anything to a partner and got a look of horror, deer in the headlights, what have I gotten myself into look back. Meanwhile thinking, ok.. All I mentioned was handcuffs, I better go board up my bdsm dungeon and clear my browser history of houseofgord, sexandsubmission, fuckingdungeon, extreme-board.com, etc. And then you never mention anything sexually to them again, until you figure out how the hell to get out of the relationship. As I said, I've always found that truly kinky, adventersome, understand their sexuality, etc. Women, like you seem, NEVER have a clue how different they are from the actuall average woman. And you missed my point. There is nothing too perverted, depraved, etc to me. What I was saying, is the most sicko thought/image/idea/concept that the average woman can even think of.. The average guy probably has a photo or video of it right in his cellphone, meaning it's not sicko, perverted, etc to him.. It's probably a turn on. Y nudd tiy!
^im not going to disagree that of course everone lies on a bell curve, which means there are indeed men on the lower end of that curve. What I'm saying though is that the center of the bell curve for men is orders of magnitude further along the kinky/sex scale than the center of the bell curve of women. but trying to say that there Is any significant amount of vanilla men out there (compared to the number of vanilla women), you do realize you are talking on a porn/sex board that is probably 95% men, 99% of which would disagree with you? :) lol.
Why in the world am I quoting so many "Kimi Quotes" lately??? I am very sorry Kimi, I really am not trying to. You got me with the bullshit in the anal poll, my "statement was bullshit" after further research. But seriously why aren't people honest with themselves first??? YES people get divorced or break up over sexual perversity. Why would anybody want to be with somebody that they can't be honest with??? This is why I don't date "Vanilla." So I am in a situation now "dating wise" that I am honest about. I am a wild man, plain and simple. I love sex. I know it's bad. But I don't see anything wrong with it. Just because I love sex doesn't mean I will sleep with anybody who offers it to me. So I started dating this girl about 9 months ago and I have totally opened her up. I placed a simple craigslist ad looking for a woman who likes to be a passenger on a motorcycle. I didn't get into the whole "casual encounter" thing, I was lonely, I love to ride my bike and was just looking for someone who would like to ride with me as a passenger. She put me through the third degree, asking me all sorts of questions and I was totally honest on every answer. At heart, I am a perv, but not a creepy one. I actually was going to quit seeing this girl a while back because of my fear of committment, and the fact that I wasn't done exploring my own sexuality. It was a fucked up night, she was drunk, her girlfriend was drunk, I was drunk and to make a long story short, I ended up fucking around with the friend of the girl I was seeing. We had no committment, we are both single. So WTF? Drama, it wasn't that I wanted to sleep with another girl, but the girl I slept with was her coworker. Well I really like hanging out with my g/f doing all sorts of stuff aside from sex. After that night she thought I would rather see her g/f than her and wanted to quit seeing me. I was like, fuck it, I don't need this shit. I don't need to see either one of them. Good riddance. I decided to jump the fence. Women are nothing but problems. So when I went to pick up my stuff (a car I borrowed her) she was like, let's talk, so I said "OK." I told her I was done with women, I am single and not ready to jump into any kind of relationship (which is one of the things we talked about prior to our "dating") I told her I am not ready to make any committment and I would like to be with a man. That turned her on and made her want to see me even more. But I do like women too. So after looking for a guy for so long, which I haven't found yet who can "hang with me" I really feel your pain. Guys are just plain fucking weird, I have talked to a lot of them, and I can totally understand a womans frustation. They aren't comfortable with themselves. I am a "masculine" male who intimidates a lot of people. Women find me strong and secure, males find me "intimidating." I am an easy guy to talk to if you are straight up, but the second I find out somebody is "fucking with me" it's over. Needless to say I have yet to find a guy who is comfortable with his sexuality in the "bi" world. It drives us (my g/f and I) nuts all the guys who "say" they are bi just to get some pussy.
Our patriarchical society has traditionally given men more leeway in matters of sex than women, and women are not as likely to compare notes with men as they are with other women. Hence, the fact that women don't talk to you about their sexual fantasies and kinks isn't proof that they do not have any. My personal experience is that women are pretty much up for anything. The key is to make them equal partners in the bedroom.
I agree along the lines of some of things said by Breeze. OK, I'm not going to try to put blame on either of the parties in a relationship but for the life of me I can't, nor will I ever understand, why two people would ever comit to a relationship without knowing a bit more about each other than some things in this thread would indicate. I do acknowledge that there are women who are beyond replused by what others would term playful things. But this is the 21st Century for goodness sake! People have been having pre-marital sex and cohabitating for over two generations quite openly. One would think, quite logically, that during the course of the pre-committal, some indicatiors would be brought to light that might give the other partner an indication that things might not be too rosy on the sexual front in the future. Too often are people infatuatated with each other, they are not honest about their desires or even worse are aware of them and are confident that they will get their partner to change for them. To some of these people (OK I was going to say men but as was pointed out it can work both ways) I would ask; Did you never have sex before committing to each other? Were you, or at least one of you a virgin? Were you tonge-tied or never took the opportunity to bring this topic up in the past? Why? Why? Why?
^Why? Like I said... If there were a majority of women out there like you... This thread wouldn't exist, and boards/forums like this wouldn't be 75 to 95 percent male, it would be more 50/50. Ironically... The sex site that I know of that has the highest percentage of women visitors, according to the analytics (40%), also seems to have the most hostile forums. I wonder why that is? But anyway, since women like you are like 1 in a 1000, has lead to,what I believe is the pussification of men. Don't believe me, look up the word "chooreplay", and get ready to cringe... :) lol
This board is mostly male because it is a PORN board and most porn is crafted (ha) for men, and most of it is nearly impossible for women to enjoy. As you mentioned, on a sex forum, the gender ratio is a bit different.
Sure, and some people (like myself) just make a decision that the relationship is far more valuable than sexual thrills. I made the decision that I just don't need to have my fantasies and fetish indulged.
Check out the sex/kink blogging community; from what I've seen it's split roughly 50/50 male/female. When it comes to fetishy erotica, including more extreme themed fiction, the majority of writers are female. Not what I'd expect if kinky women were really such a rare breed.
WQJ, I was thinking more about WHY? And I see your point if one might be talking about giving a facial.. or maybe anal sex.. or any number of things that most of us here would consider just "normal" sex... and kind of tame at that. Sure.. why not just ask your partner how they fell about anal, or getting a faceload of cum (maybe phrased a little more delicatly). :) lol But what about some of us whosneeds, desire, fantasies, kinks, fetishes go WAY WAYbeyond that? You don't just lay everything out on the table right off the bat, most people are going to start with something tame and see the reaction, before they start moving up the kink/fetish scale. So what if you DO mention anal, or a little very light bondage (for example) and the response you get is this deer in the headlights look.As a matter of fact.. I just saw a roomful of women this weekendget that deer in the headlights look at one of them telling a match.com "horror story" about a guy she met and went out with2-3 timesand they weretalking/texting a lot.. until he textedaskingif the cuffs she had (husband was an ex-cop), where furr lined or not? And she texted back an earful and telling him to never contact her again. Really?? REALLY??? Over fur lined handcuffs? How can bondagebe morevanilla than fur lined handcuffs? Do you think anyone is going to keep going after that? Or do you think they will most likly wish they would never have said anything at all? All it shows you is had you started out on the deep end... they REALLY would have gone screaming for the hills. That's the why... that's why one can't just ask anything of a partner, because they probably do.. and get cut off way before they ever get to the good stuff. But I agree with you though... even if everything else in the relationship is perfect... if you don't know and don't learn to try, your partner's deepest darkest fantasies, and even maybe learn to love them yourself... you will never have true emotional intimacy with your partner. This especially goes for women who think porn is bad/wrong/immoral. I got news for these ladies.. your man is probably watching porn behind your back.. and as the saying goes.. if you can't beat them.. join them.. you might learn about your own sexuality and grow way more emotionally connected to your man. If not.. then you will never be truely emotionally connected to him. Woman like that need to get over the "if I was good enough for him, he wouldn'twatchporn" crap thata lot of women spew.No... he loves you.. and would love you more if hecouldshare a scene/movie with you and say "Wow..I think this is hot.. and this is why I think it's hot.. I wantto do this with YOU (not the woman in the movie)". And conversly.. do men think "If I was good enough for her.. she wouldn't have to read those trashy romance novels (or whatever)"? :) lol As a personal example... I own a realdoll. That right off the bat.. probably excludes me from being with about 90+% of women out there the second they would find out. I've heard it all... look at any blog, news item, etc. that is about these type of dolls.. and then look at the pages of comments that follow. I've seen just about every nasty thing that a woman could ever say to a man... loser... nerd.. can't get a real woman... pervert... creep... etc.. and my personal favorite "Look at it this way ladies.. at least these loosers are out of the gene pool, thank god!". I know what the stereotype is.... a guy who would own a lifesized silicon doll is a looser who can't get a real woman. Stereotypes exists usually because there isSOME grain of truth to it, but like all stereoptyes, there are usually way more people who don't fit that sterotype. Unfortuanly a lot of the guys who post/talk about owning a doll.. many tend to lean towards this stereotype. They really are great guys.. but I can see where the sterotype forms. However.. there are WAY more guys who own a doll like this who don't fit this stereotype. Alpha male athletes, doctors, lawyers, actors, etc.etc.. But you never hear from them.. they never talk about it, admit it, post about it.. because they have everythign to loose and nothing to gain by doing so. Personally for me... it's not that I can't get "a" woman. That's not the issue... not that I have a line of 100 women out my door at all times or anything.. but I can find a date if I desire, not necissarily at the drop of a hat.But the issue is.. I don't want just "a" woman. It has to be the "right" woman.. or nothing at all. I am extremely creative and imaginative... which means extremely kinky and am into a lot of different fetishes. I also have a sex drive that is out of this galaxy. I've always said that I don't want to have sex with a million different women... just the same woman a million times. And I say that litterally. >:) My love and lust are intertwined as one... that's why I have to give all this lust to one woman.. and one alone. But finding her.. well.. you know that needle in a haystack saying? That doesn't do it justice... it's more like trying to find a specificatom among the entire univerise. Because finding a woman that can handle that.. and keep up... is next to impossible. It's not impossible, I did find her :).. but I can't be with her (long long long story), but she's one in a trillion. So my doll is simply a placeholder.. an outlet for endless lust.. for the woman who could take her place. But anyway... there is no way in hell.. that in real life.. I would meet a woman.. get to know her a little bit, and then mention that I have a doll. Not only would she go running for the hills... but how many people do you think she would tell this little story to? So here's a woman who knows my name, what I look like, where I live, where I work, etc. etc... telling everyone she knows her ultimate "horror date" story for the rest of her life... and then how many people would then repeat that story and so on? Ultimatly the story could get to someone else who also knows me... then whatif that person works with me? Do you think they could keep their mouth shut? No.. they would tell a handful of coworkers.. who then tell a handful of coworkers.. next thing everyone I work withknows. Can you imagine the jokes told behind my back? As I said.. I've heard them all.. but having everyone I work with saying them... sorry... but a risk I'm not going to take.. I have nothing to gain, yet everything to loose. So any woman I'm going to be with... I know isn't going to be a womanone might randomly meet somewhere. It would have to be a woman who already knows my kinks/fetishes/desires... etc.. (at least some of them).. and about my doll. So that I know right off the bat.. that "maybe" this is a woman who can handle my lust/love/passion. If I don't know that right off the bat... I'm not even interested. As I heard a woman say one time (who was into suicide suspensions), that she's not going to waste her time with a guy who isn't going to ultimatly satisfy her by inching into the water a little bit at a time.. she has to know upfront by laying everything out on the table that he can handle it. I agree. But anway.. so you want to know why someone doesn't just tell their partner? Well.. that's my reason.. and I will wager every man has thereown story of why they just didn't "Ask their partner". They could all be different... but probablyboil down to one thing... testing the water with tamer things.. andtheir partner not being able to handlethose.. so stopping rightthere and going no further. That's why... Y nudd tiy!
Sure, and some people (like myself) just make a decision that the relationship is far more valuable than sexual thrills. I made the decision that I just don't need to have my fantasies and fetish indulged.
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On the first point Kimi. I think some people may have misinterpereted my argument. I agree with you without reservation! The point I was trying to make wasn't that the person of whom the request was being made should not get upset but that the person MAKING the request should communicate with her ( most of the time it's a her) and feel her out and not just assume she'd share his fantasies. It's just unfathomable to me that a guy spends all kinds of time to find out that his prospetive partner dislikes seafood but allows himself to be completely in the dark about sex. The second point illustrates this nicely. So she had the "Deer in the headlights look"? He at least started slow and found what her limits were. In this case pretty limited but at least he knows and can move on. Thats waht commununication is forming a relationship is about and that a couple wouldn't take the time to do that and then their astounded when the response isn't what they expected, is way beyond me. What I was trying to say originally is that if a woman (or amn in some cases) isn't interested they really shouldn't feel uncomfortable about saying "thanks but I'll pass" non the request in question. If she or he pulls a nutty it's the chance we all take in that and a lot of other things in relationships I guess.
Well, there's a blast from the past. It's been a while since I've logged on here, and what do I see at the top of the page but this post. I'll agree that some of my "fantasies" may seem mundane, but none-the-less, they're mine and unique to my circumstances. I've tried some of these to different extents, with not so great results. Like trying to play a bit in the car, shot down. Talking dirty, shot down. Anal sex, shot down. Videotape us, shot down. Her idea of sex seems to be usually to just get it over with as soon as possible, with as little drama as possible. Open communication has been brought up, and I agree with that. I grew up in a household that never communicated our feelings openly, so it is hard for me to talk about sex with my wife, especially when I already feel I know what her reaction will be like. Conversely, she grew up in a family that openly communicated, and she has little problem talking about issues. We met in our first year of college, and she was a virgin, and I had only had sex with 2 other girls. We did start having sex, and did so for about 4 or 5 months. But when she went in to get a pap smear, the doctor told her she had a papiloma virus on her cervix and it had to be freeze dried off. The whole thing was very upsetting to her (and me) and she thought I had given her this. I went and got checked out, and the doctor said I didn't have any signs of it. We stayed together though, and she swore off sex for marriage. About 6 months later, that doctor was arrested for making false claims of hundreds of girls having papiloma virus and giving them unneeded procedures to remove it. We (she) had also apparently been had by the doc. He posted bail, and fled to Mexico in his small plane. Too bad for him, he was killed when he wrecked his small plane on the way there. But the damage had been done, and she was very put off by the whole ordeal. We dated for a long time, and eventually got married when she went into grad school. Unfortunately, even after getting married, the sex remained virtually nonexistent. She would complain that it hurt too much, and she would avoid sex with me. Whenever I would make an advance, she would complain of not feeling well, or being too tired. That's when I came onto porn. It was my outlet for our lack of sex. It's taken us a long time, 16 years now, to get to the point where we are now. It's way better than it used to be, but nowhere near where I want it to be. Why did I stay with her all this time? Especially before we had kids? Well, I love her very much, and she does everything else right. Yes it makes it difficult, but in the end, she's who I want to be with, for better or worse.
Pure craziness! Now, fotomatt, have you introduced a vibrator to the whole deal? I think that could help! I know it did around here and I have our very own head janitor, Steph, to thank for that. Thanks Steph! That's how I remember it anyhow.
Yeah, we've got a few vibrators. She enjoys them, but we don't use them that often. Our favorite vibe, the Jimmy Jane Form 6, melted in it's recharging base a while ago, and our other basic plastic vibe had previously broken where the battery cap no longer will stay on. So a few days ago, I went and bought a new vibe (Tickle Me Soft) and also an elastic cock ring with a vibrating egg on it. I can't wait to try the cock ring out, that'll be something new. It's funny, last night we had one of the most passionate nights of sex ever. She seemed to be really into it and really let herself go. Hopefully we can build on it.
Hey guys! It's Bert!!! I just want to have the most eXXXciting threesome experience EVER since I've NEVER experienced it before. But, I wanna do it with two of the most beautiful and seXXXiest white ladies in this world. That's my fantasy. Yours?
Hey guys! It's Bert!!! I just want to have the most eXXXciting threesome experience EVER since I've NEVER experienced it before. But, I wanna do it with two of the most beautiful and seXXXiest white ladies in this world. That's my fantasy. Yours?
