hi I have always gotten super hot over fingering a woman's pussy or asshole while she is sucking my cock. I gets me really hot hotter than just getting sucked off. there is something there about her maintaining her poise while getting fingers or dildos jammed in her pussy or ass the thought of feeling the affect of what i'm doing to her while she is doing me. if she goes right on sucking it's hottttt if she slows down and is distracted from her task momentarily that's hotttttt too. is anyone else male or female turned on by this? or is it just me? Edited by - toosex4u on Nov 15 2007
It certainly is a good way to prepare the lady for the fuck that should naturally follow her suck. And it works best when you hand-masturbate the lady's pussy with an emphasis on her clitoral area. Although from my own experience I can say, you need to take care with that masturbation on the lady and not do it too long. Or else the lady will orgasm and possibly loose interest in having more sex.
^^^ Dan posits a good rule for sexual relatioships here: Make sure never to give your partner any more pleasure than is necessary to maximize your own.
I was gonna write that! Or something else dripping in sarcasm about how *I'm* the one who has to be concerned with what I do and you losing it. First orgasm is a preliminary of sorts. and Bob, that's one lame rule, Mister.
edited: Can't type. Can't spell. Can't think. Edited by - savoy on 11/19/2007 5:09:58 PM
Not every lady is the same. But I've been left high and dry more than once, when I hand-masturbated my lady to completion during our foreplay. She got her orgasm, and she lost interest in having more sex with me. And I didn't get to have any, except the foreplay that was mostly for her pleasure. Perhaps some men don't see this kind of thing as much of a problem, because they are not very good at making their lady orgasm. It's not the kind of situation they have to worry about, because it never happens to them.
Seriously, I've had this problem. But, IMO, the answer isn't to withhold your partner's orgasm in a manipulative fashion; it's to discuss with her frankly your feeling that she's being selfish.
I'm not so sure it's right to call this manipulative sex. When I'm having sex with my lady, and I want to avoid premature ejaculation. Then I hold back my activity and make sure I don't cum. And if it's ok for me to do like that with my own body. Then why isn't it ok to do the same when I'm masturbating her? It's not as if I'm doing something with her that I don't do with myself. Perhaps some women can enjoy sex even after they've just had a clitoral orgasm. But my lady apparently is not like that. And if I insist on having sex with her, when she is not in the mood any more. Then she would probably accuse me of being selfish with her.
Maybe because your trying to control your own body and your trying to control her body aren't exactly the same thing? Anyway, it's not really a question of "ok or not ok". It's your life. Whatever floats your/her boat.
Sure I'm trying to control the situation in order to prolong the pleasure for both of us. I've found from my experiece that out-of-control sex feels pretty good but only for a very short time. If I want the pleasure to last, then I need to control it a little.
i think we can all read you much more clearly now. before you just sounded like a jerk. you're talking about your lady, not so much ladies in general. this really is a communication thing, as bob said.
Well, there is not much to communicate about, when the lady has had an orgasm and she is not in the mood anymore. It's the same with most men too. Once a guy has had an orgasm. Then communication or no communication, he is no good with the lady as far as having more sex goes. To avoid this kind of a problem, both partners need to take care and avoid premature orgasms.
Edited by - Dan on 11/20/2007 4:58:54 AM
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pornfiend69 Deactivated User
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Posted - Nov 20 2007 : 7:52PM
I have to say when getting a blowjob,I tend to stand while she kneels in front of me and grab the back of the girls head and skull-fuck her,or just lie back and let her work,unless I am in a 69,but I tend to just eat her out in a 69. I usually only finger a girls butthole when I am eating her ass out. I prefer getting the girl to finger my ass while getting a blowjob or handjob-The first time I tried this,a Thai prostitute put on a latex glove,lubed up my asshole and massaged my sphincter gently at first,before jamming it up there knuckle-deep and finger-fucking my asshole while she jacked me off with her other hand (All of this was her idea-honest!) I shot a load halfway across the room in about 2 minutes!!