I don't know if this makes you feel any better, but I have many fantasies that could be considered bizarre. I've recently begun to apply the label "bigendered" to myself, because (among other things) I shapeshift so easily between male and female forms in my fantasies. It's not unusual, for example, for me to get off while visualizing myself as a male penetrating another male as a female simultaneously pegs me. If that's not weird enough for you, I have imaginary sex with aliens, too. I still manage to maintain a happy, healthy and sexually satisfying relationship with my mate, and I'm blessed with friends who love and accept me for who I am.

My nonconsensual fantasies used to be more frequent when I was in my 20s. I'm not saying it works this way for everyone (or even that it should work this way), but I do have the sense I've outgrown this as I've entered my mid-30s. "Rape" fantasies are only a tiny proportion of what I think about now; my sexuality has become increasingly playful and fanciful as I've matured. Perhaps it's normal for the themes of our sexual fantasies to come and go in phases.

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With most of the men whom I've encountered (there have been several dozen), it is a one-time thing. A very, very few, carry it further, wanting the scene to be repeated with variations. My suspicion is that none of these guys is really even bisexual. A few are simply curious to the point of acting on it. For some (most?), it is really more a power trip (or lack thereof, depending upon ones point of view) than a sex thing: the ultimate act of submission is being sexually subservient to ones own sex.

As for the big "A" virus, that's why condoms where invented.

~ GaySatyr

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I would suggest that if you are going to do this, you should do it with friends who you know and trust. That way things can remain safe and if you wish to stop for any reason, they will respect your wishes.

Have fun! Wish I could help...(evil grin)

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In all honesty, I'm not sure where I fall on the "gay/straight" spectrum, but then again, in all honesty, I think I'm mature enough that I really don't care.

My fantasies go all over the place, and I've acted on quite a few of them. Yes, this means I've been with guys. Only three times, but I did really enjoy every single time. They all happened a long time ago, though, when I was in a much more "reckless" phase of my life than I am now.

I've been blown buy a guy, I've had a dick in my mouth, and I've even been fucked by a guy (that was DEFINITELY not planned, and happened in the heat of the moment, but i'd be lying if I said I didn't love it.) They were all very hot, very satisfying experiences that I'm glad that I had.

And yet I feel fine saying that I'm 100% (ok, ok, 99%) straight.

Why? Well, for one, I wasn't attracted to any of these guys, it was all just a fantasy of having another dick to play with, I sort of had to avoid eye contact the whole time in order to stay "in the mood". But, mostly because when I get lonely, and fantasize about who I "wish" were there waiting for me when I come home from work, it's always a woman. I have absolutely ZERO interest in a relationship with a guy. When I have a bad day, and need a shoulder to cry on, it has to be a woman. When someone else has a bad day, and wants to cry on my shoulder, don't think for a second that I'd be there for a dude.

I'm open minded enough that I've experimented with guys, and hell, I enjoyed the shit out of it (for those who are wondering, gay guys BLOW WOMEN AWAY in the dick sucking department), but in the end it was just playing out another kinky fantasy. Maybe I'm just not as homophobic as society thinks I should be.

Edited by - slightly_deviant on 1/5/2004 3:27:11 AM

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