Fuck and Bollocks!!! Being trying to arrange another date with Selina, but it all fell through due to the fact that she has been ignoring my phone calls, text messages and almost all my emails this week!!
I asked her what the deal is:
Selina,
Having just had that conversation with you, I sense that perhaps that you are not that interested in seeing me again. Maybe it's just me, but as you didn't phone me, text me or reply to my emails when they were sent, and obviously this evenings arrangements are now foiled, I sense that this is the case??? I hope that this isn't so, as I had really good fun with you last weekend, and of course I find you attractive and an enjoyable person to be with and would like to continue to see you. Please let me know what the sitiation is, as I need to know and I get kinda sensitive about these type of things. I thought I would send an email, as you may find it easier to reply to this way, rather than by phone. Anyway, I hope this isn't the case, and I hope I'm wrong, and just being over sensitive. Hope to hear from you soon.
I got this reply from her:
Last weekend was great and I had a really nice time, which I have to say I didn't expect due to the circumstances and stuff. But I am really not sure if I'm up for anything at the moment. I am really sorry if I gave you the wrong idea and I don't want you to think that I didn't have a great time last weekend cause I did. I guess I've probably shot myself in the foot and will regret this the minute I press send ....your such a cool guy - think I'm the fool?
Take care Selina
Man, I'm gutted!!! This always seems to be the way, with me, I can get hold of attractive young ladies, but they just don't hang around like they used to.Kinda makes you paranoid about yourself and self doubt creeps in. Shit, maybe I'm just being far too sensitive and I shouldn''t let these kinda things get to me...
I'm really sorry to hear that that's the way it turned out. BeLIEVE me when I tell you that I've been there, multiple times. It hurts badly, and it takes a bit of time get some relief from it.
You have to also believe though that if that's the way she feels, then you probably don't want to try to take it any further. I have no doubt that you will find someone who loves you for you, and who you love for them. It will happen, it's just a matter of staying true to who you are and having some patience. Forcing things tends to lead to bad relationships.
I know you weren't asking, and ignore me if you want, but the main point of my message is that I know how you feel.
Hang in there. Your sensitivity will prove to be your most attractive feature. Believe me.
Your probably right, I should just leave it. I don't know, I find it difficult when this type of situation occurs. I don't know what it is with me, but when I take a liking to someone, I have this retarded knack / problem that I find myself not falling in love wioth them, but wanting to be with them all the time, and this rejection really hits me hard. It sucks!!
I will definately hang in there, but it does suck when over the last couple of years this sort of thing has happens for one reason or another.
Anyway, many thanks again for your kind words, it has helped me out!!
SQUID - that must be devastating. But Mike is *SO* right that your sensitivity will prove to be your most attractive feature.
It sounds a bit like she is just playing the field and not ready to get involved. With anybody.
All of us 'older folk' have had things that didn't work out - it's part of the process to have a few that don't work out, and to have to just move on, in order to end up with the right person. Just keep sampling at the buffet. ------------------------------------------------------------
Squid, forgive me for sounding like a stereotypical MCP, but you need to adopt an attitude of Fuck It! There's more where she came from. You didn't have a commitment, so if she's not ready, now's the best time to find out! So go out tonight, find another bird, and do a little more nesting!
that's some shit sandwich you've been served there, squid. i think maybe she just thought that the weekend would be a one off bit of fun with a guy who was up for that kinda thing. maybe she really just wanted to get fucked and then walk away, nowt wrong wi' that. but if that was her intention she probably shouldv'e said. and anyway if it is the case then its not you.
i've been the subject of a similer situation with a girl who just wanted a bit a fun and i totally fell for her. i was gutted for months........but it passed and so will this.
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Posted - Nov 8 2002 : 9:35PM
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Sorry to hear the news Squid, but feel lucky that it came out early rather than later on.
It's her loss Squid. I seen your pic and you're not bad looking at all and you seem like a really nice guy. Don't let her get to you. Just move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
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Posted - Nov 10 2002 : 9:35AM
Squid,
Just want to add... don't take it personally! We've all been in places in our lives where we weren't ready to be responsible for another person's feelings. Granted she should have told you before you had sex, but sometimes women assume that it's always ok with guys to have casual sex.
Be cool. You'll see her again. Maybe you two can hang out as friends with benefits :) You'd probably want her less if she called three times the next day... ;)
Something similar happened to me a few months ago. I met a cute girl at a bar and we went up to her place afterwards and I spent the night there. The morning after I got her phone number and the day after that I gave her a call. I asked if we could perhaps see each other that week, but well, no, she had just broke up from a long relationship and she had just wanted some fun. Nema problema as the serbs say, so far so good. She hadn’t promised me anything by inviting me to share her bed after a night at the bar. She wanted some fun. I wanted some fun. It was as simple as that and I filed her away in my brain-archive labeled short intimate acquaintances. Two days later she calls me and asks if I want to go to an art exhibition. Well, fine, yes, why not? Said and done and we spent a day looking at paintings and sculptures. I played the cool and cultivated guy. I didn’t want to give her the triumph of seeing me looking like a horny drooling German shepherd. We had some laughs and then we went for a beer – just one this time. We parted at the subway station and she smiled and said to me: ”Well perhaps we’ll meet again.” You bet, I thought. This was a very pleasant girl, well-read, pretty, gorgeous body, intelligent though a bit superstitious but I’ve learnt to stomach that. Happily I gave her another call and asked if I could see her again during the weekend but no she was going to work. She was a bit on the defensive just as at the first time and then she said that if she would find some time she’d give me a call. Outrageously stupid as I sometimes am I was sure she was going to give me that call. If we had had more fun during the art exhibition than we had had during the night (though fun of very a different kind) I was so damn sure that she was going to call me just as sure as I was that she wasn’t going to give me a call the first time. She had suggested the exhibition, she had suggested the beer after the exhibition and she had suggested that we meet again. Now I had began to pin hopes on her but the phone remained silent. I was certainly not going to call her as she had explicitly said that she was going to call herself. I felt devastated, shattered. I went into a state of depression. If she had just told me to stay away the first time everything would have been fine. If I had made a fool out of myself at the art exhibition everything would also have been fine, but I didn’t and she gave me a half chance. A half f-g chance. If she’d had wanted to torture me she couldn’t have done it better. Wasn’t it good enough for the little harpy that I wished her a nice day the first time we spoke on the phone and said there was really nothing odd about her not wanting to see me again even though I knew the smell of her sheets and that next Friday I would if lucky smell other sheets. Such things happen. Well, I did’nt put it exactly like that. But like an Aztec priestess (did the Aztecs have priestesses? Well, they were filthy buggers and perfect pricks anyway) she had to try to tear out my heart, slice it up, fry it in her pan and lustfully eating it on her breakfast sandwich while causing herself as little pain as possible. To make things worse she sent me an e-mail one month later and apologized that she hadn’t called because she had lost my phone number. She’d got my e-mail adress from a guy she knew who happened to know me as well. Dirty little liar she could have got my phone number from that friend if she’d wanted to. Someone may say: ”Why don’t you go out and fuck again.” But that was not the point but that I was trampled down into the dirt which I think it is to give someone hopes that he isn’t even given the chance to shatter by himself.
All this and this story uninteresting to anyone but myself was just to say Squid friend I understand you. And every time one is treated like a piece of toilet paper by someone one would have preferred to kiss and fondle one walks away with harder skin and an uglier look.
Hell why did I write this piece of crap but I’ve wrote it and now I post it.
Many Thanks for all of your kind relies!! I really really appreciate it!!
Don't really know what the hell happened to me on Friday, but I really plummeted into feeling shitty and depressed (which is something that happens very rarely), but anyway, the weekend has passed and it was all ok. Selina hasn't contacted me, so I'm definately knocking this one on the head and moving on. As some of you have said, it's her loss!! Thanks again!!
Whiplash,
Jeez......Ive been through this a few times as well. What the hells the deal with this???? It angers me that there are times when certain females have this idea that men are unsensitive to these situati0ons, and that some of us do care and have this strong feelings towards people. Anyway I'm glad that you wrote your piece, as it shows me that I'm not the only one who has experienced this type of situation!!
