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Just a few days ago I started having sex with my girlfriend, who I've been with for a month.
The foreplay is excellent. We both get pretty hot.
However, I don't get a 100% erection.
I had trouble penetrating.
Thing is, my girlfriend is young (18 , I'm 20) and her vagina seems very tight. I'm thinking that that might be the problem. I need a stronger erection.
Anybody have any experience with this? Any tips/tricks to get a stronger erection? We kiss, enjoy oral sex etc but it doesn't seem to get me going 100%.
Hmmmm. From your description it sounds like the physical aspect is fine. Perhaps it's a psychological block that you are encountering. Unfortunately, those can be the most frustrating and difficult to overcome.
It's one thing if you are really turned on but are starting to fatigue physically, you can lay down and let her suck it or ride it and what have you. But apparently you are having difficulties just getting the penetration.
Have you guys tried talking things out and discussing what turns you on the most? Perhaps you need to jack off yourself and see what feels best and share that with her.
Tease each other a bit more, explore your fantasies and sexuality, watch some porn together, don't be afraid to openly discuss what is actively going on in your mind at any time. Perhaps some role play may help as well.
Inexperience could be playing a major role as well, but as long as you keep at it, things should get better. Practice!
Failing all that, inject your dick with steroids. (Just kidding on that one.)
Are you masturbating frequently? If you are, it may be putting a damper on your erection -- especially if you're feeling anxious about your sexual performance.
If this is your situation, I'd suggest refraining from masturbation for a while and saving all your sexual energy for your person-to-person encounters.
Is that going to work better than a blowjob? He did say they enjoy oral, but that doesn't get him going 100%.
pdub18, when you watch porn or just get hard randomly, do you get fully erect? Do you stay hard for a while? If so, then there is something in your head. If not, then I'm going to ask about your physical condition.
Good advice all around. It might be a sign that she's THE ONE. If sex with her seems extra important to you, like maybe you love her, you can get a little performance anxiety. You just have to relax and not worry about it. Put all your effort into pleasing her. Take the other advice already posted here. I also recommend a cock ring (the lasso type) if you're really hard during foreplay. Loop that sucker around your cock and balls and trap the blood in there. The ring won't let your erection soften.
Yes, I thought a ring can cause damage.The one time I had trouble, the woman was hot physically, but I had no caring for her. So I was going to bang her because she was hot though I didn't otherwise want to be around her.
See, the only time it happened to Mick was the first time we ever had sex. He said it was too important to him and he was scared of messing it up. We "slept on it," and everything was fine in the morning.
Regarding the cock ring, I highly recommend the lasso (or bolo) type. This is adjustable, comfortable and is easy to put on or remove. Here's the one we use. Guys look, it's a Julian brand cock ring. Mick bought it long before either of us had ever heard of this porn star. When I started watching porn and really digging Julian, Mick said, "Hey wait a minute," rummaged through his drawer and came out with the package. "Holy crap, I've been fucking my wife with Julian's cock ring." I laughed so hard I had tears in my eyes.
The list is long... Most if it is above your neck for these situations, not below your waist. However, medications, high blood pressure or cholesterol, diabetes, alcohol, tobacco, depression, antidepressants... If you only dont get it up with your girlfriend, then its probably between your ears. Myk
I went on a 4 month hiatus..no girlfriend. Didn't feel like dealing with it.
So that's when I got into porn (and coincidentally found this site).
So yes I did masturbate quite a bit.(2 days before we slept with each other was the last time) I have put a ban on that already! :-) I'm saving everything for her..so maybe that will help. I did have quite a bit to drink that night too (although I did feel "pretty" sober)
It's not physical. I can get rock-hard erections when masturbating or what not.(knock on wood)
So I'll take this advice...and see what happens!:-)
You can keep the tips and tricks coming if you'd like. :-)
Oh God you just bought back a memory of a boyfriend I had when I was 18 who used to like a beer or twelve and whilst he could miraculously get and maintain an erection, it'd take him a long, long time to come, which can be okay if you're young and likely to go off in a minute but did tend to get a bit tedious. Have a drink or two but not too many.
Yup..no alcohol for me before we meet from now on.
But my main question is...
do most people on here attain a FULL erection before initial penetration? Because it's always worked for me, that I penetrated and then gradually grew to full strength.
for some reason doesn't work with this girl. Too tight..like I said.
It's not uncommon for a guy to have wood problems with a girl, no matter how hot or tight she is. Some guys can absolutely take off once they get turned on, for many others, a contumacious cock is rather normal unfortunately.
I've been with guys who got hard at the flick of a wrist and were able to maintain wood for a considerable amount of time. Alternatively, I've been with guys who got really excited and seemed totally into it, but had problems acheiving a full erection and subsequently sustaining hardness.
Everybody's different, some degree of softness is normal under any given situation, and you need to just not think about it. Instead, take this as an opportunity to hone your pussy-eating skills. I guarantee she won't complain about getting licked too often, or cumming too much. Her excitement will feed yours, and the second you're rock hard, shove that cock in her pussy to the hilt. She'll love the unexpected and merciless penetration, particularly if you fuck with a vengeance immediately. Keep it simple, stupid (as they say). There's a male beast inside you, and you should give it free reign. Make her accept your tongue, then make her accept your cock. Pin her down, if you have to. She'll love it, and so will you.
pdub18 wrote:Usually for me, but not always. Of course, "FULL" is a relative term -- there's hard, and then there's really hard, and then there's even harder.
Lastly, if your new gal is "a bit too tight," stretch her with your fingers first, or with a dildo. Get her ready and loosen her up. She'll clamp down on you the moment you put your cock in her, so you'll still feel that incredible tightness, but at least your initial entry will be easier.
Pagoda sez:I think we've learned a lot about Pagoda today.
I too, know some guys get hard during coitus, as opposed to before. And fresh pussy can be tight as fuck. So work that pussy and clit first...please it...and it will blow up like a balloon and you can fit in there easier. Also...be sure you're using a condom. I also know that soft cock makes it hard to put that condom on. But make sure it's on before entering the Sugar Castle.
He was nice, a very fun lover almost all of the time just not so much when he had a bit much beer.