First of all let me tell you that the "Hungarian girl's culture" when it comes to relationships is the guy pays ALL !
For example if you're having a dinner in a restaurant, when you ask the bill, the Hungarian girl will NEVER ask you just by education, as the Belgian girls does, how much is her part and of course as a gentleman you will say "I'll take care of it" !
This is what I observed in Budapest several times and it's like a standard here !
Sometimes some porn girls meet a new boyfriend. For some reasons it's really rare that they just find a "normal" guy with a good job. It's actually more like a loser or a little local "gangster" or he thinks he's a gangster ! So the guy pays all like mentioned earlier, but the day they break down the girl who spent sometimes years without any incomes gets back in the street without a penny ! So the next move is to run to the nearest porn agency (or pimp)cause they need the money !
This how I found few weeks ago an old porn star close to her 30's performing for me in a bisex scene cause at this point of their "career" they will take any job !
I think porn is addicting to people involved. Whether it's the attention, the money, the drama, the drugs, seeing your face on a dvd box, or on the tube.
Having a good personal support system of people you can trust who care for you as a person is a must. Knowing you as the real you not the character you is very important. I am always amazed how many people at the end of their run have no $ or investments to show for it and often fear being discovered. Saving money is a key. So if whomever wants to leave the industry atleast can use the money they made on an education and continuing their life.
Good luck to your friend, hopefully she is leaving the business on her terms and without any baggage that porn sometimes brings to the table.
man I hate typing non flippant responses but here I go. If you want to change yourself you have to do it yourself. no one can do it for you. and if you trying to get out of porn one of the best suggestions I have heard is to get the hell away from it and that includes the people that are in it. If you a great support person outside the biz by all means embrace that.
Cal I'm the last person to claim I don't have baggage, but when I leave porn I have no choice but to bring me. all the rest of the luggage needs to stay behind.
They say the first step to quitting addiction is to change your play mates and your play ground. Other wise you will fall into familiar routines. I think we have established porn has addicting properties. Changing your behaviors isn't enough, you have to change any comfortable routine because other wise your playmates will know where to find you.
I think the most practical advice is 1. have a plan you cant quit porn over night work toward a specific goal and post porn life. figure out how much you need to live till you acquire a new job skill, decide what it is and start the process. and work toward that goal. when you have that money saved then quit. Taper off on public appearances and social interaction as much as possible until that day.
2. change your play ground
3. Don't lurk on the fringes, something will rile you up enough to make you come back or you may see how easy it is.
4. stay reclusive for awhile, change your appearance.
5. any support you had prior to porn is most likely gone, you need to seperate yourself from porn people and that will leave you with no one, have a plan for possible therapy or other groups you may feel comfortable in like hobby groups.
Great comments & understanding of reality, Kami. When you decide to leave porn, as all performers eventually do, the chances of a successful "transition" should be really good.
I often think about this in the context of the "one and done" girls. The girls who do a single scene and decide that its not right for them and quit the business. You see lots of them on the various web sites. I have to imagine that these girls are getting the worst of both worlds. On the one hand, because they aren't in the porn business, they aren't earning the kind of mone that it pays. And on the other, there's always going to be SOMEBODY out there who recognizes them from the single scene they did.
I agree, we were trying here with guys to figure out over a year back the shortage of new talents from czech, etc.
The economic situation got overally better so there was less need to do easy money. But look now here in Prague, after Czech Republic joined EU, everything is getting again more expensive, people are getting unhappy and overall mood in the society is in the same way. Also we are getting up to higher standars - look here - an average prague girl now wants to use at least dermacol make-up, wear at least diesel or gabana jeans, drink no less expensive drink than mojito, wants to study...and primarily wants to be independent etc. And voila, a bunch of newcomers over last and this year hit the porn yards. Its a little bit absurd that foreign sales of potatoes has influence on how many jerks you will have, isnt it?
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