Hi I need every ones advice and this seems like a good place to get it!
My girlfriend is showing the signs (thank the almighty lord!) of wanting to watch some porn or at least is curious about it (I love porn but she doesn't know ;) ).
This is an opportunity not to be missed so I want to introduce her to the right kind and make sure she gets as much out of it (if not more) as me so she'll be hooked as I am.
Feel free to get your girlfriends involved in this thread too guys, as they would probably know more in more ways than one!
I need from all you guys and girls some good suggestions on some DVD titles I should get but there are rules here people!
1. Since she is so new to this I don't want anything too graphic/weird like people sh*tting on each other or any big bukkake party DVDs etc. I need to ease her into it. But hardcore is preferred e.g. erect penis' going into pussys on view (Hey it might be the norm for you people from the USA but this is a novelty for people in the UK!)
2. No lesbian content. If my girlfriend was getting me into porn and two guys started going at it mid way through, the DVD would be ejected, game over.
3. No ugly men! Hey this doesn't bother me but remember she needs to get something out if it for her to want to watch it. Us guys wouldn't want to watch porn with ugly women in it, would we?
The type of men she likes are listed below. Some are linked if you're not sure who they are. So if there are any male pornstars that in your suggestions look along the same lines as these the better.
4. The men (unfortunately) need to be on camera as much as the women. So no POV DVDs or virtual sex ones.
5. I'll think of number five later.
The type of guys she likes are as follows (and are pretty much the usual ones):
David Beckham http://images.google.co.uk/images?q=%22David%20Beckham%22&hl=en&lr=&safe=off&sa=N&tab=wi
Bradd Pitt
Johnny Depp
Orlando Bloom
Keanu Reeves
I will add to these when I think of some more.
Just in case you are torn between two DVDs here are MY favourite pornstars that might make your decision easier but don't base your recommendation on my preference. This is for the lady people!:
Jenna Jameson
Jessica Darlin
Ashley Blue
Angel Long
Ashley Long
Taylor Rain
I love a woman in latex/rubber stockings/outfit too :)
Any help you can give me would be great. Thanks a lot everyone!!
To narrow it down, you'll probably be looking for a more 'couple friendly' studio who specialise in feature films (storylines/acting?) rather than gonzo (wall to wall sex).
I now make much harder edged gonzo style movies, but, I started off at Hustler making something I think is just the right thing for your needs. No self-promo here... will never see a penny from this. But... "Young Sluts, Inc." is liked very much by the girls. I would suggest YSI # 1, for the looks of this one male talent I used in particular.... he's a pretty boy like those listed on your girlfriend's likes. It's been a long time since I made this film, but if memory serves me well... I think it's the 2nd sex scene with this guy. In general, the guys in this video should appeal to your girlfriend. I was focused much more on pretty boys than big hard nasty fuckers at the time. I also liked YSI # 12. Though, there is one g/g scene in all the YSIs. Maybe you can just skip past that one and explain to her it's a typical male fantasy. Anyway... I'm a chic and I made what I wanted to see. My taste has become much more "male orientated" after the end of this series. But, this series was very much about me being in that same state of porn curiosity... perhaps as your girlfriend. Best wishes!
One area you might consider would be the 'instructional' venue. My wife does not like porn due to moral reasons, but she has no problem with viewing anything that may enrich our intimate relationship.
I don't mean this as a way to get around any ethical roadblocks she may have, but she might be more susceptive to watching two people have sex if you can actually gain something from it. Work on the entertainment aspect after she gets used to the idea of watching people.
Also, you might consider getting online with her and viewing this site. Reading reviews and discussions together can open up a lot of doors and communication between the two of you.
(Astroknight just posted a review on the movie "Seductive Sexual Positions" that looks like one we will have to rent.)
Welcome mrdogcat, you certainly sound excited at the prospect of your girlfriend wanting to watch with you.
A couple of quick ideas -- you and she might like to read some of the reviews here at ADT especially in the Smart Girls' Porn Club section
Your girlfriend might also enjoy reading at Violet Blue's website tinynibbles.com (Violet - the real Violet Blue -- not the porn performer)
Tony Comstock's films are very nice, very nice indeed -- real people having lots of fun. I like this post by Virgin Slut on her blog about watching a sex film for the first time.
Watching Xana and Dax:When Opposites Attract always leads to great sex in our household.
You might give some thought to "how" you watch a film together too - if you end up paying a whole lot of attention to the film and not much to your sweetie things may not work out so well. Almost all porn looks better when viewed with my lovers head between my legs...It makes writing reviews difficult though.
I'd go with something from Private, like the Private Gladiator or Private Cleopatra or other of their partially-on-location films. Unlike US productions, they seem to only cast pretty people.
Hi,One thing i learned from a friend who works in a videostore is "never give out" advises about movies. Because, most likely the one giving these advises will be held resposnible if it´s not satisfactory. All i can say is ... take your girlfriend/woman to a videostore and let her pick the movie . End of story
Just get a couple feature videos from Wicked, Digital Playground, or Vivid. They will all probably have at least 1 girl-girl scene, so just skip past that scene when it comes up. Something staring Jenna Jameson is probably a good idea because she is so well known, and usually turns out a good scene.
Have to agree with cubesnake on this dogcat. Let her check out her own movies. That way she feels more empowered.
If she doesn't want to go to a porn shop, you could always check out WantedList.com, as it works like netflix, and you can do it from the privacy of your own home.:)
There will be one problem right off the bat, I don't think I've ever seen a porno with no girl/girl. It's as much a staple as a money shot in the genre. But believe it or not, many women like girl/girl, or at least can view it from the esthetic angle as being a pretty scene, if it doesn't necessarily turn them on.
80s and early 90s VCA movies can be recommended for couples. I especially prefer the "fairy tales": "Seven Into Snowie," "Sinderella," "Sleeping Beauty Aroused," etc.
Check out "Blue Bayou", it's really good for couples -- enchanting! Deidre Holland is smoking hot.
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I wouldn't choose a Jenna Jameson movie because Jenna basically only does girl/girl, something the wife of the original poster doesn't want to see. Check out titles from Evil Angel - their box covers are pretty comprehensive and usually depict all of the types of scenes you will get in the movie.
If you want to avoid g/g scenes, most of Candida Royalle's movies (www.royalle.com) don't have any. She advertises her works as being "from a woman's point of view." Movies by Veronica Hart, who works for VCA, are probably a good bet too.
Letting her pick the material is not a bad call. Give her a little guidance, so that she doesn't think "SLAP HAPPY" is going to be a lighthearted sex-comedy. Vignettes and features might be a good introduction. I'd definitely rent at least three movies at once...a light one, a hard one, and one you would want to watch alone...and explain to her that two of them will probably be unwatchable crap...then let her set the standard once she sees them. You may be surprised how hard she likes to see it.
More importantly, your demeanor while watching the movie will effect her experience more than the content itself. The outcome she seeks is to have a positive new experience with you and porn...not just porn. Just make a good time of it and she will watch it with you again...no matter what it is.
Can we have an update on the original couple? I'm curious as to how this adventure is going.
My personal experience has been very positive. I told my husband that I wanted to start watching porn, that I wanted his help to keep me from stumbling into something yucky, and that I wanted it to be for me , not us.
So we got a few things--some I liked, some I didn't. I liked many gonzo movies, and I hated many features. It all depends on the chemistry of the performers. The thing is, at first, I didn't want him watching it with me. I was very clear about this. I wanted to discover my own tastes in porn, and I truly wanted to be entertained. I wasn't watching for masturbatory purposes. I wanted to pay attention and really watch the sex. I wouldn't be able to do that with him sitting next to me making physical overtures. So he left me alone with my porn for a few weeks and I got a good handle on what I liked and what I didn't (very surprising discoveries there), and then we started watching it together.
Guys, I highly recommend leaving your women alone when they're first discovering porn. Women have enough performance pressure without comparing themselves to the porn star on the TV screen while you're primed and ready for sex. What she really wants to do is expand her fantasy base, and fantasy is private thing. Just let her be for the first several viewings. She'll let you know when she wants you to watch with her. Whether she includes you in the viewing or not, you can expect she'll be initiating sex more often. You'll see benefits, I assure you.
Some of the more recent Private stuff seems to be real couples oriented - I'm watching Chateau at the moment and it's pretty tame compared to most stuff out there. The girl are real pretty and classy and (so far) the sex isn't too nasty :( How does your g/f feel about watching anal? Cos with Private you're not going to get far without seeing it. Anyway have a look in at Private titles, some even have story lines (which im not used to)
See, I think one reason why women don't continue watching porn after the first initial viewings is that everybody tries to spoon-feed us plots, romance, snazzy lighting and tame sex. Other than the lighting, we can get that stuff from romance novels, and they're way hotter. Just like men, we want to see stuff that's outside our normal realm of experience. I'm not sure that looking for the tamest sex possible is the way to go. I'm not saying that we have the same tastes as men, but there's certainly room for every couple to share some harder porn--even some of the somewhat-rough gonzo stuff (I'm not talking the insanely rough/humiliating) should turn a woman on.
Just make sure that the guys are hot, the women seem to really be into it, that there's some decent chemistry, and women will like it. Do you have any idea what women are reading in the erotica and romance genres right now? BDSM. That's the big thing. And all the male characters are dominating alpha males. Women are ready for rough-yet-personal porn, and they couldn't care less about plot. Guys, if you want your woman to watch porn with you for years to come, not just a few times, don't coddle her. Let her see some of the stuff you like.
True. I'm the only woman I know that doesn't like man-on-man. It has never appealed to me, but all my friends love it. Even my lesbian friends like gay male porn.
TonyC, I've actually seen that particular trailer many times. Although it is very different than other gay porn I've seen, I'm still not the least bit intrigued. Man-on-man, no matter how sexy the men are, doesn't turn me on and it doesn't fascinate me. It doesn't repulse me by any means, but it does nothing positive for me either.
Hi--this is my first post but this is something I have given friends advice about in the past. First off let's keep in mind that you are not totally sure about how interested in watching porn she is. I would watch things like HBO's Real Sex or a highly sexually charged movie--maybe even soft core porn to guage your girlfriend's comfort level with the material. You may need to ease her into the more hard core stuff, but once you have her watching any kind of sexually themed material with you it will make it a lot easier to discuss moving to a harder form. In my experience a lot of girls need to work themselves up to watching hardcore porn because we are still in a society where it is not as acceptable for females to watch pornos as it is for males. That's just my take on the subject. Good luck mrdogcat.
People keep sending the link to me to convince meto like man-on-man. I'm always open to being convinced, so I always follow their links. My girlfriends seem to really dig this trailer right now, so they use it to "convert" me. I keep watching it to see what it is that turns other women on, hoping it'll turn me on too, but it just isn't happening for me.
Well Thanks to you all for all your replies...Not too sure where the man on man came about but never mind! :D
I've not done much in the way of buying anything yet but Valentine's Day is just around the corner as is a 5* hotel in Budapest which should have a DVD player in the room! :D
I've had a look at some of the "high-budget" "storyline" titles out there there is so much to choose from! but what keeps rattling around my heat is a dvd with Angel or Ashley Long in a gangrape scene in front of her tied up boyfriend (actor unknown) at the end. I think she was kidnapped or something. Anyone know of this title?
Once again thanks for all your replies and sorry I've been away for so long.
Woah, hold up a sec... I don't know about you and your girlfriend, but if I paid for a 5* hotel for Valentines the last thing I would want to do is watch TV, no matter where it might lead. Particularly if you are still unsure about her desire to watch porn. Take some oils, candles, and bubble bath (maybe a few toys or props). Concentrate on her. The porn is better suited to spice up a boring night at home.
That's just my 2 cents, and its probably worth even less than that.
Don't worry Darkangel and de25ge I don't plan to check in turn the TV on and watch porn as soon as we get there, Jeeze I'm not a total sleeze! :D
We'll be taking in the sites hand in hand, having nice romantic lunches and evening meals by candle light, champagne in the jacuzzi, afterwards we might use some oils and a toy for fun. THEN and only then if the moment is right, maybe slip on the DVD. And don't worry she's been going on and on about me getting her a DVD she DOES want to watch one and if we try it and she doesn't like it, well that's fine with me also.