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BigMMoney
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164 Posts
11/07
Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 1:15AM

Edited by - bigmmoney on Feb 27 2008
absynth
Member

absynth makes the heart grow fonder
434 Posts
8/06
Posted - Jan 14 2008 : 1:39AM
My wife and I have been together for 12 years. When we met, she was an 18 year-old college freshman and very impressionable... :P (but hey, I was only 21.)
I was in the Navy at the time and anyone who knows anything about the military knows that we service folks love our smut!
I didn't hide my collection from her when we started dating, so she knew I was a giant perv by our 3rd date. We don't watch porn together as much as we used to, but she has no problem with it, and we still watch occasionally... Guess I got lucky. :)
BigMMoney
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164 Posts
11/07
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 7:19AM

Edited by - bigmmoney on 2/27/2008 5:29:55 PM
conquistador
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Hellhamster.
2947 Posts
10/03
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 7:33AM
I worked in a porn shop for a number of years and I also have a bit of a collection. I have never kept it hidden and no girlfriend has ever cared. I don't really like watching it with my girlfriend though because I have no attention span and I lean on the fast forward.
I wouldn't bother spending time with a woman who I had to hide things from. That is stupid.
backdoorman
Senior Member

Shake for me girl... I wanna be your backdoorman !
2776 Posts
10/07
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 9:47AM
^ Exactly. My ex wife hated it. She had her head filled with bullshit about porn. "It degrades women... it takes advantage of women.... it's disrespectful.... blah blah blah yadda yadda bs bs bs bs. I got sick of trying to sneak in a view on the internet or wait for her to be out of the house to watch. It's not worth being with someone that narrow minded.
 
BSD
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San Diego, CA
2508 Posts
11/03
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 4:25PM
BIGMMONEY -
My answer here.
BSD
Myload
Senior Member

A rose is what you are to me
2069 Posts
6/03
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 5:14PM
My fiancee hates it that I'm into porn, but then sometimes she'll want to watch one with me (most of the time it's the former). She feels that I'm disrespecting her by being into porn. She doesn't believe me that many of my favorite porno films interest me for reasons other than the sex. I don't see why my interest in porn should be a problem since they're just movies and have no bearing on real life whatsoever. It's just another movie genre I like. By the way, if she ever demands that I get rid of my porn collection, I'm going to demand her to get rid of her Mel Gibson and Johnny Depp films.
SWorldMegan
Shane's World

213 Posts
5/05
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 8:41PM

Has anyone in this thread tried actually having the women pick the porn movie?? maybe she would be less threatened at first if she picked it.
xoxo,
Megan
BigMMoney
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11/07
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 9:49PM

Edited by - bigmmoney on 2/27/2008 5:29:27 PM
Myload
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A rose is what you are to me
2069 Posts
6/03
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 10:45PM
When my fiancee did want to see a porno movie (and I left it up to her to bring it up), she left it up to me to pick it because she still isn't as knowledge about porn as I am. I tried to pick movies that I think she would be interested in. But lately she has said she doesn't want to see another one again, and I don't bring up the subject.
ninja1
Senior Member

2939 Posts
1/08
Posted - Jan 17 2008 : 12:28AM
Some women are somehow offended/intimidated by their man watching porn. Their reasoning goes like: "Why do you want/need that (porn) when you have the real thing (me)?"
There is no correct answer to that question.
elgringoviejo58
Senior Member

1460 Posts
1/07
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 5:41PM
ninja 1-Isn't because variety is the spice of life the "correct" answer to the question. Seriously, my last "relationship" was with an anti-porn woman, and that "fault line" merely revealed a deeper difference, that I am a "Major League Pervert" and she is a bit of a prude. Not exactly sexually compatible, sorry to say.
backdoorman
Senior Member

Shake for me girl... I wanna be your backdoorman !
2776 Posts
10/07
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 5:49PM
Ninja 1 that is exactly what my ex wife used to say. Then she would bitch at me all day, berate me, put me down and expect me to fuck her that night. Didn't work. That's why she's my ex.
pornophant
Member

169 Posts
3/07
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 7:25PM
my wife loves me suck on me as I watch filty porn flicks! we're so happy together.
SWorldMegan
Shane's World

213 Posts
5/05
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 12:10PM

Being a women i will give you guys something that i think is a good tip.
My girlfriends who are non-industry have told me a few issues they feel about their men watching porn. It usually comes down to insecurity. They see these beautiful, skinny, big breated girls and start thinking you do not find their body as sexually attractive.
I bet if you pick titles that have more of the "normal girl" look .. not the pornstar look .. you could ease them into it. A girl who i think is a perfect example ... gianna. She is not 80 pounds, she is natural, she is funny and you can tell she really enjoys what she is doing. That is sexy to men and women. I think women like that make other women feel empowered. Another good example .. Penny Flame, Our girl Casey parker, Joanna Angel, Faye Regan to name a few. You should also pay attention to the male cast!
I also think trips to the porn store together could help. You pick the movie, she picks a new toy .. lube ... outfit .. something. Or if she is still too nervous for that, you guys can shop online together.
xoxo,
Megan
 
THE LIP1957
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"If U Want It Don't be Ashamed 2 Ask 4 It"
9 Posts
2/08
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 12:30PM
I got initiated into porn viewing when barely into college.That was wayback in 1978.Which makes me have viewing experience spanning across 30 years.So I know what I'm talking about as I've seen the evolution of the industry.
What initially started as a beer n porn movie weekend binge got cemented much stronger when I got out of college n took up a career in journalism. Call it my gud luck-I moved into film journalism n entertainment writing which started me on my one way journey of setting up my unique personalised collection which has constantly grown over the years.From grainy VHS to VCD's & DVD's and finally HD Prints of latest movies have accumalated in my collection.
Being A Reviewer and Promoter I have free Access to Some Very Rare Titles.Be it The Print of Italian Stallion-Slyvester Stallone or the controversial One Night In Paris 2 The Kiss & Tell Hidden Camera prints converted on DVD.
Coming Back 2 the point.The circuit of wives and girlfriends mixing or not jelling with a porn die-hard fan is that during the ice breaking period the girlfriend is always eager to please.So she is coy n giggly when asked to have a sneak peak at something that maybe of sexual interest 2 her. Most of the gurl friends think it is a loaded suggestion to get them into the sack..It's quite another matter that very few can resist the temptation!!!
All is hunky dory with watching porn together in the sack.The problems arise when u start suggesting that maybe they shud try out something that goes on in the movie. Else nagging doubts start cropping in with the excited girlfriend wanting honest opinions whether her bust looks as attractive as the starlet or her bottom is as much a turn on.
It's only once the end of the road is reached that bad blood flows as the ex goes to town sticking labels on ur sexual tastes which are equally strong in viewing as they are in doing.
Guess That Sums It All Up
Savoy All-Star Supporter
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Sucker for Sinners
1844 Posts
12/06
Posted - Feb 29 2008 : 8:16AM
You are so right about this, Megan. I'm a female porn fan and my favorite girls are the more "normal" looking ones. I never thought about the fact that my insecurities played into that. Hmmm. But they do. Odd.
Just to help out any guys out there - I love Penny Flame, Carmen Hart, Roxy DeVille, Ryder Skye, and Dana Vespoli. There is no intimidation factor with these girls.
WardqueenJanine
Member

914 Posts
2/08
Posted - Feb 29 2008 : 3:51PM
I don't know...as a female porn fan it depends the kind of mood I'm in. Yea real hot YOUNGER girls make me feel insecure sometimes but not always. Sometimes they make me hot. Go figure...
Also guys, don't thin that your wives not wanting to watch porn is unique to females. My first husband and I had a huge collection and watched it all the time. My second husband felt threatened by my interest in ti and really did't enjoy it. Fuck him...he's gone now too. LOL
NerdGod
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Using a 2 inch cock like it was 12
480 Posts
7/06
Posted - Mar 1 2008 : 2:41AM
if you cant be open and honest to your maye then you dont belong with eachother.
as far as females picking porn i like to ask them what kind of a woman does she like 9 times out of 10 they answer. lol
or for the overly "innocent" ones i ask them what thier best friend looks like.women are the best customers in the universe.they are loyal honest and open customers, as long as you NEVER EVER talk down to them.you gotta take time and ease info from them and explain why you ask certain questions.. love female customers
Wiseass formerly known as
Member

94 Posts
2/08
Posted - Mar 1 2008 : 2:46AM
Good points. I agree, selecting girls with personality is important, otherwise if you just select stuff on the basis of their perfect body, it will be very intimidating to normal women.
Actually, your point about the male cast is valid too... if the guy just hammers away at her pussy like a robot for twenty minutes and then cums all over her face on command, it won't make a girlfriend feel comfortable watching it. The guy needs to have some chemistry with the girl, and work up a head of steam because of that chemistry -- I think Kinzie/Jerry are the gold standard when it comes to chemistry -- he's so turned on by her that he cums early and keeps going.
ChodeMasterJ
Perpetual Marxist

5405 Posts
4/03
Posted - Mar 3 2008 : 2:38AM
i totally would dig having a gf who was into porn.
Funny story...my friend* once told me that I should just immediately tell girls when i meet them 'Hey. I'm James. And I like porn/have a massive porn collection'. Either they would be repulsed and not talk to me or they'd be into it and all would be well. I'm wondering if I should have listened to his advice about the matter. Hmmm.
* this guy got fucked up on Somas, ran a red light, and killed 2 people. I haven't talked to him since and he's in jail or is waiting to go to trial. My mom recently converted to Catholicism and she attends the church where the mother and daughter that my friend killed used to go to church. Very fucked up what he did.
bigfoot
Senior Member

1295 Posts
7/06
Posted - Mar 3 2008 : 11:01AM
Actually, I did not find that very funny.
ChodeMasterJ
Perpetual Marxist

5405 Posts
4/03
Posted - Mar 3 2008 : 12:42PM
him killing people isn't funny. the part about the conversation we had was.
RandomPrecision
Senior Member

Enjoy!
8175 Posts
3/06
Posted - Mar 4 2008 : 12:48AM
Bottom line - Watch for any signs that she ain't cool with it from the get go. If she has any initial objections, chances are, they'll only get more and more shrill over time. Women like to feel like they're special and loved and irreplaceable and you sitting in front of the TV or the computer jacking off isn't something a lot of them are going to just ignore or be cool with.
veronica moser
Member

NYC
208 Posts
9/06
Posted - Mar 4 2008 : 6:31AM
I dated a very beautiful, very nasty woman who wanted to watch porn with me (and claimed to want to have three way with me and another hot woman of both of our acquaintance). I was, shall we say, psyched.
So I showed her some shit I thought she'd like. There was a scene from a Jim Holliday film with Evan Stone, Sydnee Steele and Jessica Drake. She was taken with Drake, and we proceeded to fuck alongside it. I thought, "so far so good!"
Later we watched a Seymour Butts scene with Kurt Lockwood, Jessica Darlin and Ava Vincent. She was into it until I mentioned idly that I thought Vincent was very pretty. She became furious—ostensibly, this was because she was offended that I would squirt to a woman she considered unattractive, and it took me several days to get out of the doghouse. In truth, I think she was threatened that other women existed for my squirting pleasure.
I cannot foresee watching porn with one of my girlfriends again…in most cases, it can prey too much upon their insecurities…
Edited by - veronica moser on 3/4/2008 6:33:46 AM



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