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-lunacy-
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Posted - Sep 26 2000 : 10:02PM
I did..once, and would never do it again. It was a strange circumstance (I will share more later), but none the less, I still feel badly.
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Posted - Sep 27 2000 : 8:46AM
yes, in my first serious relationship. i told him the next day (though it was probably obvious because i didn't come home all night and we lived together.)
the cheating (did it twice) made me realize where the relationship was headed. it turned out to be a good thing - helped me get the courage to move back to berkeley and go back to school.
Pablo
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Posted - Sep 27 2000 : 9:00AM
Unfortunately -- Yes.
For really stupid reasons, it was brief, only one night (I was young and stupid). It never happened again (the woman and I remained very good friends but both acknowledged we had made a mistake.) and I stayed married for 11 years after it had happened.
Since then I have had no interest in anyone other than the person I love.
Except for Chloe of course :-)
Robosledge
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Posted - Sep 27 2000 : 11:50AM
Never have & never will!!!
Someone cheated on me once & I remember how hurt I was. I will never put someone through that.
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Posted - Sep 27 2000 : 1:06PM
Kind of, once. I was dating a girl and things were pretty much done between us and I started seeing another girl. I later found out that the first girl decided things were done between us, but decided not to tell me, although I sure seemed to be feeling it. Part of me was pretty upset that I was kind of seeing both of them at once, but I knew that I would be a lot better and happier with the second one.
 
Emahevul
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Posted - Oct 5 2000 : 1:57PM
Ok, this is going to be nitpicking. Speaking for myself, sex outside of marriage/relationship is NOT necessarily an affair. To me, having an affair means having a physical relationship with someone you care about, other than your spouse/partner.

In short order sex with love is separate from sex without love. So, if you are having sex outside your relationship with a person that means nothing to you, that is not an affair (to me). That is simply sex, an alternative form of masturbation, if you will.

So, have I had an affair? No. Have I had sex outside my marriage. Yes, though not often.

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Edited by - Emahevul on Oct 5 2000

-lunacy-
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Posted - Oct 5 2000 : 4:16PM
Emahevul-How does your partner feel about that? Do you have an open relationship?

So my experience was w/ a married womyn..long story! Basicly I was friends w/ her husband first (just friends) and then she and I became friends. She knew I was into womyn and was curious. We approached her husband, he was cool w/ it. I kissed her (french) in front of him to test that before we went any further and he changed his mind. She continued to persue it behind his back, and eventually I let her convince me.
It eventually came out, ruined all of our friendships and caused major marital problems (or agrivated problems that were already there).
So that's the short version.
Makes me verrry sad that happened. BAD KARMA...
Just thought I'd be fair, can't ask for yal's dirty secrets then keep mine. lol

Darkmage
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Posted - Oct 5 2000 : 9:15PM
Q: Have you ever had an affair?
A: Too many. Some were tense, some were explosive, some were terrible. A couple are still secret and those are the best.

It's pretty sad when "the best" is defined by "bad shit didn't happen."

What did I learn from all of this? Darkmage is not meant for long-distance relationships.

Emahevul
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Posted - Oct 6 2000 : 5:12PM
Lunacy, I guess a bit of an explanation is in order, at least for myself. As I said before, I don't go out of my way to cheat. Matter of fact, the first time I did it was earlier this year. My wife is a busy "executive" type. Spends quite a bit of time on the road. She was actually gone from the end of January of this year til mid June.

Well, I got lonely, that is asking a lot of a guy. So, I found myself some company one night. It's not something that I am proud of, but at the same time, it doesn't bother me either. It was just something I needed to do.

After 15 years of marriage, I still love my wife deeply. Probably more so now, than ever. After so long, isn't love supposed to fade? Hm, doesn't seem to be that way for me.

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dumblonde
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Posted - Oct 7 2000 : 11:21AM
Yep, and to this day, I don't know why I did it, I guess things were just going too damn good! I was with Mikhail for 2 years, we were crazy in love. He was a good looking German electronics engineer who taught me how to play chess & took me to movies with subtitles (no pornos). I taught him how to dance & how to drink beer out of a bottle! The sex was great, he was a fantastic lover. Anyway, he was starting to talk marriage, we were planning a trip to Germany & Hong Kong, and what do I do? I don't even remember the guy's name, and almost ensured that I would be caught. I guess I have that old fear of commitment. Anyway, he got the last laugh - eventually marrying someone else and selling his company to Intel for millions. He made sure he paid me a visit after that, too, just to rub my nose in it! Oh well...
torris
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Posted - Oct 7 2000 : 1:06PM
Yes, with a married woman while I was on the rebound following a divorce. Absolutely dumbest thing I have done in my life.
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Posted - Oct 7 2000 : 6:58PM
Yes, it was one time during a rocky point in a relationship. Still a REALLY stupid move. Told the guy later, luckily he forgave me.

BTW, Emahevul, I consider one of the many parts to having an affair includes doing anything sexual or intimate with someone and having to lie to your significant other about it.
I don't have anything against swingers. Just liars.
I'm apart from John A LOT. And it just makes me look forward even more to when we'll be together again, not spend time and energy on ways to satisfy myself with others while he's gone. That's the beauty of porno DVDs for me.

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