I went to a swing site and nobody's home. Then I went to another site and they'd only let you in if you were a model. Then I tried a bunch of personals sites and paid money for dead email links. Really-do you go to a bar? Do I travel? Is there a secret handshake? How does it happen?
If you don't know any one currently in the scene, I would say the internet is still you best option. You need to figure out what you real goal is. Are you really trying to swing or do you just want to have sex? Swinging implies sharing or loaning of a mate. If you don't have someone to share, it gets difficult to get into the scene. Other factors that work against you are being overweight, race, age, economic status, health status, smoking status, sexual orientation, general appearance and remoteness of location. Having all or one of those factors will not rule you out. They just steer you towards people that are more like you. Swingers are a percentage of the population. Naturally the more people in your area the more swingers there will be to hook up with. Most swingers want to start out slow. The need to get to know you first and that can take weeks if not months. Patience is key. If they don't trust you, why would they want to fuck you. Enough of my jabber - try this pay site for swinging: www.swappernet.com If you just want a date to fuck: http://adultfriendfinder.com/ Both are paysites but they are probably are your best chance of success. Regardless of what way you go, its going to take effort on your part.
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Sep 20 2008 : 7:26PM
aff is one that didn't work. where's the swingers site for lazy ass bastards?
If you're a single dude, nine times out of ten, they don't even want to hear from you. Apparently, swinging only works with even numbers of people. Edited by - randomprecision on 9/24/2008 4:34:43 AM
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 5:17AM
If you're single and/or not that attractive and/or not that gifted with the gab or anything else, in other words you are "impaired" ...... Or if you're a gorgeous dude, single with the works ..... Or if you have a girl and any of the above applies to you here is the site for you!!! ALT.COM It caters to alternative lifestyles from S/M, BDSM, gangbangs, swinging, meeting "slut pigs" and more. It's also a good hook up to actually meet someone great and like minded. And if you just want to gang bang a girl, visit WESTCOASTGANGBANGS.COM (West Coast Gang Bangs). You have to be C L E A N! And willing to do a test. If you want to straight swing ... you need a partner (refer to above blogs for all stipulations). Good luck
And if you live in northern Ohio, don't bother. Swingers in this area are just plain eeewwwwwwww. Well, unless you like older middle aged overweight socially unacceptable repulsive bores.
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 12:35PM
Older? Well I'm 30...check. Overweight? Check. Socially Unacceptable? Check. Repulsive? Check. Boring? Check. Maybe I belong in northern ohio. Does pussy exist for them?
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 12:37PM
The people at alt were not so friendly and the gang bangs are too far away.
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 5:37PM
Sorry to hear that. I had GREAT success. I met many fun, sexually adventuress people ... and even my husband of 3 1/2 years. We're are both into BDSM - I being sexually submissive; him a dom. We are very happy, normal, and even boring sometimes. But our sexual goals and lifestyle are completely aligned. It would have been challenging to meet someone like minded in the normal arena of dating sites, bars and meat markets. All I can say is ........... Good energy is received if we put out good energy ourselves! Enthusiasm begets enthusiasm. I say ... try again! :) Good luck
Sex is not just for those with perfect bodies. Some people can look past the "flaws" of others and some can't. Swinging is more about freedom. Requirement to have a certain look is not my idea of freedom. Most hot people I know don't need or even like swinging. They can have sex whenever they want with virtually whomever they want so to them swinging is for losers in general. So in my experience, most swingers tend to have flaws such as weight or age disqualifiers.
The "older" and "overweight" part of my description of northern Ohio swingers isn't where I have a problem. It's not like I don't have a multitude of my own flaws. It's the socially unacceptable repulsive bores part that I can't deal with.
My girlfriend and I are going to dip our toes into the swing world soon. So I posted this question on Craigslist, "For 2 newbies in their upper 40s, which swing club would be best to start with?" We received 2 legitimate replys and will put those on our list (which we got from Google under swing clubs northern california.) Another way to find swingers is to look for a class or talk given at your local sex-positive adult store. if you are lucky to have one near you. We live in the San Francisco bay area and have several "Good Vibrations" stores nearby which have weekly gatherings after-hours on a multitude of subjects. We attended one for people getting into threesomes and actually made a connection there. Perhaps a class on swinging tips will be next.
Of course it happens. It's just off the beaten path. You just have to find someone who's knowledgeable about it. You're asking in a porn forum. Most of us here are probably jackin' off to porn for a reason.
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 4:14AM
I told you ... try Alt.com. I mean, actually give it a real try. I was on it for a few years; it yielded many a good time and I found my husband. Don't give up. Determination in ALL THINGS is one of the keys to success. The "After Midnight" crowd have been hosting swing events for years. I have met some lovely, sexy, fun people through this venue. And in my humble opinion, you get a variety of bodies, brains, faces and more. Do you have a girl you can swing with? Swing clubs like this require partners. Alt.com on the other hand requires genitalia and a key board. Good luck. And without sounding too harsh (please don't take this the wrong way) ... but stop whining. Isn't it such a waste of your energy? I bet you're a great guy with more potential then you realize. Now ... go make it happen ... and tell us all about it. Sarah Jane x
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 1:34PM
And I told you. I did actually try. Not trying to whine, just seeing if you knew something I didn't. That is all.
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 4:01PM
Oh dear, you're not much of a listener are you? Sorry to keep asking, but you have not responded: Question, do you have a girl to swing with? If yes, check out AFTER MIDNIGHT on line. If no, Alt.com is your best choice. Good luck We receive only what we put out in the universe. Sarah Jane x
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 2 2008 : 4:57PM
I apologize. Tell you what--in gratitude of your gracious nature towards my unsufferable problems--I'll take you out to coffee next time you're in my area. I insist! Edited by - sugar liquor and gasoline on 10/2/2008 6:18:15 PM
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 2:03AM
Now you're a ballsy guy!!! Just use a little of that in your quest and you'll get laid more then Heff and Cloony combined. It's all about confidence! And it's not about the size of your penis either. No one cares if it's big, or wide, or long, or hard ... not unless you're having sex that is !!!! ;) I am a married woman! And I don't meet men for coffee or anything else. But thank you for the offer. Sarah Jane
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 2:23AM
I am a married woman! And I don't meet men for coffee or anything else. Bwa ha ha ha you are reading a swinging thread! *ROTFL
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 3:33AM
Eh yes ... that is true. I have been the third girl in a couple, on more then one occasion. And by that I mean in a relationship not just a one night thing, though I have done plenty of that also. I have had open relationships in the past where we would swing together. "Together" being the operative word. I found a girl in the After Midnight scene that I had a 3 month fling with. I have attended and participated with glee in many orgies. Not to mention BDSM events, parties and soirées. I attended the big swing event in San Diego and "met" a guy there whom I continued to have a relationship with when I returned to England. I have had spontaneous sex on stage ... for fun no money. And it was not at a strip joint. AND ... I was an adult performer and nude model for many years. "And I have seen the Exorcist 113 times and it keeps getting better every single time" ... are you possibly questioning my knowledge on the matter? How fuuuuuunnnnnny ............
SJOriginal, please get back in the business if only for a handful of films. One can tell from your postings that you are voracious, porn needs that now more than ever.
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sugar liquor and gasoline Deactivated User
96 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 10:48AM
you lose. please get out.
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sickguy Deactivated User
I'm unofficially Beauty Dior's #1 Fan 736 Posts 9/06
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 11:01AM
Hahaha...I was talking to this girl in a California prison for a while through this site. She was totally hot but after about 6 letters, she sent a list of all these things she wanted me to buy her so that ended that. This was her: http://www.cowtowninfo.com/personals/f083/f08-370.htm (Moderator, if this link is not allowed, I apologize and please delete it) Edited by - sickguy on 10/3/2008 11:02:27 AM
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 4:57PM
you lose. please get out. [/quote] haha ...lol. Lose? Really, I'm sorry I thought we were having a conversation, not a race. By the way, I am "out" - I've been out for many years. Thanks :)
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 5:01PM
haha ...lol. Lose? Really, I'm sorry I thought we were having a conversation, not a race. By the way, I am "out" - I've been out for many years. Thanks :)
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Oh wait, my dumbness is kicking in ... yes, even I am prone to it. Am I the one that lost? Or is Sugar Gasoline guy out and he lost? What, huh ... ??? Dazed and confused (on a regular basis!) SJ X
I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way 158 Posts 9/08
Posted - Oct 3 2008 : 5:09PM
Oh that's sweet, thanks!!!! BM = Before Marriage, my days were C-R-A-Z-Y! Now I am married to a like minded man, but it's not the same. He complains that I am now tamed! But there is something thrilling about anonymous sex; partners you have for a short while and move on quickly from, spontaneous sex for one purpose only. How do you achieve this thrill in a monogamous relationship? It's challenging. We play (he is my master, I am his submissive slave). We do all the fun things one would imagine (toys, whips, anal etc) and we both enjoy and use porn together. We are looking for a girl to join the troop as it were. But that's as kinky as it gets :( BTW there are a handful, more then a handful, of hot voracious women. Check out Gianna, she reminds me of ... me! She even looks like me a little. She has nicer bigger boobs though. Doesn't she look fun? Thanks again .......... always Sarah Jane x
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