Do Porn stars have sex with each other off camera with any frequency? (ie. at a greater frequency than people in another line of work might hook up with people they meet at work?).
I guess what I'm asking is whether its common for stars & directors to go out for dinner or drinks after a shoot and end up hooking up that night?
In a related question, do the sexual proclivities that many women are known for in their porn films also translate over into sex in their private lives?
You always here about big parties that turn into orgies, but I often wonder if this is really just more an act to maintain the fantasy of the porn "lifestyle."
For instance, there are a number of stars who are known for having anal sex in almost every scene. Do these stars also tend to have frequent anal sex in their private lives (even during one night hook-ups?)? Or is the porn persona really just an act?
(Incidentally, I wonder if it is different for male directors vs. female performers. I somehow imagine that widely known anal directors like Jules Jordan, Seymore Butts, and Rocco Siffredi must have gotten into the business because they were really into anal sex, and therefore must pursue this in their private lives. I wonder about female performers though. Do the majority of women simply do anal sex because it pays more? If so, then I guess I assume that these women would not have much anal sex in their private lives, at least not on one night hook-ups.
I remember a Family Business (the show time series about Seymore Butts) episode from the first season where seymore hooks up with a porn starlet after hours. I wonder what happens when you get a male butt fetishist hooking up with a star who might only do anal for the money. I'd assume there might be some misunderstandings and hurt feelings in that exchange. I wonder if that is why Seymore always seems to be so lonely in his private life?
At any rate, any thoughts or anecdotes would be much appreciated.
i'd imagine pornstars have regular sex lives outside of work like anyone else, with all the emotional tribulations and rewards that entails.
as for what they do in the privacy of their bedrooms, you'd hope that if they become known for doing something on camera, it's a reflection of their own preferences. i remember reading an interview with Jasmine Lynn where she said she really does like anal sex. similarly, Violet Blue really does hate facials.
I'm not quite sure what your definition of regular is here. In the end, my question really comes down to the issue of how much of the sexual proclivities of the porn stars we know and love are real, and how much is just an act that ends when the cameras stop rolling. The two specific proclivities I focused on in my question were A) how much hooking up is there between porn stars (and directors) off camera? and B) how much are the fetish's and exotic proclivities (such as anal sex) that porn stars seem do love on camera things that they also love in their real lives?
Frankly, I wouldn't trust a publicity interview with a female actress that is post on some porn fan website, because in theory she could really still be playing the act to a certain degree. (I don't blame porn stars for this, its just that in porn, just like any other consumer good you are trying to sell, one always tries to create a brand and "lifestyle" that tries to create an overly rosy reality by emphasizing the positive myth (think: oxyclean gets out all grass-stains, Vioxx will totally cure your arthritis and allow you to do somersaults, female porn stars love anal sex all the time, even off camera, you get the picture).
In a related muse, I wondered whether their was a difference between men and women in porn, where the male porn stars (say the butt fetishists, like Seymore Butts and Jules Jordan) get to act more like their real selves in front of the cameras, wheras the female porn stars have to take on a persona that is not really true (as in: oh I love anal sex with six guys at one time). It might make sense that this is the case, since (based on the consumer audience) the majority of porn is (no matter how you try to spin it) fundamentally about creating a male fantasy world. So if we assume that most elements of modern porn (the promiscuity, the anal sex, etc.) are their fundamentally to create what would typically be described as a male (and not female) fantasy scenario (I realize this is a disputable premise, thus if you disagree, please say so), the rational next question is this. Are the females who work in porn either
A) women who share (what our society would consider) fundamentally feminine sexual values & fantasies (emphasis on relationships, passion, tenderness, etc.), but are willing to occasionally put aside these feminine values (in their professional life, but not their personal life) and pretend to assume more "masculine" values because it pays well.
or
B) Are porn stars instead generally among that percentage of women (I don't know how large the percentage is) who break the steriotype of feminine sexuality and truly embrace (in both public and private lives) sexual values that our society would traditionally consider masculine (ie. promiscous sexual experimentation, embrace of edgy sexual turn-ons such as anal sex, etc.).
Hence the question of whether porn stars (especially female porn stars) hook up often with male porn stars off camera and whether they like "edgy" sexual acts with the same gusty and frequency of camera as on camera.
At any rate, sorry for the lecture. I suppose I am really a social scientist at heart. Sexuality is such an interesting field, and its a pity that we (as a society)don't sponsor the study of it with more resources.
All the best, and any thoughts would be much appreciated.
Outside of porn-filming, I have a LOT of sex; usually with swingers, but often with groupie girls, too--they wanna get it from a porn star, preferably an older guy who reminds them of a former school teacher, relative, or neighbor. One is enroute here at this very moment--she's bringing chocolate chip cookies, and what she described as a "pussy that needs a good pounding". Guess I better shower and get ready ready for her--I think she's 20 or 21, a nursing student who gets "needy" every 4-5 weeks.
This guy's got his AARP card, gets senior citizen rates at McDonald's, rides the bus for half fare, AND he's bonin' nubile young girls, for pay AND for free.
no doubt. i still can't believe he got to bone Holli Miles. he's literally old enough to be her grandfather. i might as well become a monk. a porn-obsessed monk, anyway.
So if we are to take Dave at his word, it would seem that he is proving at least part of my hypothesis above. Namely that male porn stars generally just act like themselves in their porn films. Dave, I have a follow-up question if you don't mind. I'm not very familiar with your work, but if you do things with more edgy content in your films (anal or other fetishes), would you mind telling us whether and with what frequency you do these same things in your private life? What has been your experience with the female porn stars that you work with? A) do they often hook-up with other porn stars? (more than you might assume the "average" person would with co-workers) and B) are they still willing to do "edgy" action, like anal, during hook-ups even when there is no money in it?
Unlike Dave, I have almost no sex life that isn't professional sex. I think I have sex outside of work MAYBE once or twice a month, at most. In my personal sex life I am as open to anal, facials, ATM, bondage and other fetish/edge play as I am professionally. I don't seek it out, but I am willing to play along with my partner's fantasies as long as I feel safe.
In Up and Cummers 81 , Taylor St. Claire does her first anal scene. As is usual with Randy West vids, the girl got to pick her male partner. Taylor picked Tony Tedeschi and in the pre-scene interview she and Tony explain that they had fucked a couple of times off-camera and had turned into good friends.
So off-screen sexual encounters between performers do happen. How often? Fuck if I know.
"Or is the porn persona really just an act?"
Mason Storm is reportedly actually a lesbian with a wife and everything, yet she did plenty of b/g, including anal.
Thanks so much for replying. Your response also seems to be confirming the basic thesis, at least in part. Namely, that the sexual proclivities of female porn stars generally differ between personal and professional lives (unlike those of male porn stars).
Kimi, your response got me to thinking. When you look back at your life, would you say that doing porn (ie. getting paid for sex), has reduced the frequency of times you have sex in other contexts? If so, would you guess this is because non-paid sex just seems like a waste of time when you have other more lucrative options or that the types of sex you do in porn scenes (and the types of guys you meet) are just generally a secret turn-off and keep you out of a sexual mood? Or is it some totally different reason?
I sense that it doesn't happen often (perhaps it happens a little more when some guys taking too many blue pills sometimes have time-consuming difficulty doing a cum shot?).
If you see a turkey baster in the background, there's a chance the girl was loaded up with something synthetic, NOT real cum???
Yes, I'm certain it has.The main reason for me is just that after a day of sex work I am tired of penis (pussy is a different situation all together). I have all the sex I could possibly want in my professional life, I have no interest in sex left over for my personal life. Aside from having no interest in more sex, I am not interested in forming any significant relationships, so finding a sex partner for my personal life is a giant waste of time. If I want to have sex with strangers, yes, I'd rather get paid to do it.
The truth is actually that it varies per person just like it does for everyone else.
I know porn people who have more personal sex than you can imagine - there is one very well-known female porn star who has "personal life" sex on set ; many times she has it with more than one person on set!
There are other porn stars who surprisingly conservative in their personal lives. Some major stars who you would never dream were that conservative.
I try to remind the people I know well in the biz that sex is supposed to be fun - make sure you enjoy it and don't turn it into just work. To do that, you have to make sure you are having sex just for fun too.
I have noticed a difference between male and female stars in this. I swear to you that most top male porn stars would be out having sex three times a day every single day if they weren't shooting - they would pick up, hire hookers whatever. And, I get that straight from their mouths. They have a sex drive that lets them perform every day in the worst possible circumstances. Females can fake it; males can't. There is no "fake wood" in porn. :) Thank god, for the male sex drive.
Personally, I don't hook up with porn stars or directors on set because I am in a relationship. But, I have invited many porn stars - male and female - out to the swing club with us. We have popped quite a few porn people's cherries there. ;)
As far as acts people do on-screen and/or in their personal life - that also varies completely by people. There is no general one size fits all answer.
The implication of your post seems to again confirm that male porn stars live their real fanatsies on set and female porn stars often have to fake it.
From your post, I gather that you do like to purue at least one of the porn sexual fantasies in your personal life (Orgies), or is that more in response to your partner's preferences?
One quick question: you say, "there is one very well-known female porn star who has "personal life" sex on set ; many times she has it with more than one person on set!"
I'm not quite sure what you mean here. Or you saying she has sex on set while the cameras are not (or are?) rolling? or that she dates these people after hours and sleeps with them?
Kimi, Now this brings up an interesting point. Truth to be told, I would guess that you encounter a lot of pussy as well as penis in your professional sex life, right? However, you get tired of penises much easier.
Do you think that having such constant insight into the male fantasy world (complete as it seems to be with 15 guy gang bangs, gag factor deep throating, and ass to mouth anal sucking) has actually had some influence in turning you off of men and focusing you more on women in the after hours? My girlfriend likes watching porn with me, but sometimes she gets really disgusted by the more extreme type action and tells me that men are just disgusting. I wonder if this effect is multiplied 20 times when one is in the eye of the storm as it were. At any rate, thanks for your thoughts.
i agree with selena. it definately depends on the person. i know people who rarely have sex off camera and then there are those who have pretty normal sex lives off camera. But you can't forget the ones who are crazy more so off camera than in front.
Hmmm... I better be more careful in my wording here!
I didn't say there were out doing that now . I was saying that is what they would be doing if they were not male porn stars.
I was complimenting them on their sex drive, not slamming them for risky behaviour. lol
On the contrary, some of the very top male porn stars in the business were people I was referring to as almost "boring" in their personal sex life. It is enough for them to perform in sex scenes 25-30 times per month without still getting wild outside.
I got into porn because I was a swinger. It seemed natural to move into an industry that was so much fun for me.I mean that this person is on a set to perform in front of a camera in a scene, but before the scene, during breaks, and even after, she might be having off-camera sex with people she is not working with in other rooms of the house - just because she wants to.
From what you were saying about your swingers parties got me thinking! Do you ever get hassled by guys at these parties because they know who you are - and therefore become very over familiar with you? I can imagine this to be the case and if it is,it must be very worrying for you!
P.S. When are you going to do something with Mason again?
No. Simple numbers - out of 50 scenes 4 of them were all girl, 2 of them were multiple girl w/guy(s). All the rest were just w/guy(s). In two years of escorting I have had one appointment made by a woman, 2 w/couple, and perhaps a dozen w/another escort and client, all the rest w/men. I'm certain that if I saw as much pussy as I see penis I would be equally tired of it at the end of the day.Yes, but I don't focus more on women. I've had enough life experience to know that women drive me nuts. I just stay away from everyone.
I mostly go to couples clubs and parties, so there really isn't much hastle. It isn't - usually - the guy whose wife is standing right next to him you have to worry about. ;)
I would say that's the price one pays for wisdom, Kimi.
"Are you very much in love with him?" he asked. She did not answer for some time, but stood gazing at the landscape. "I wish I knew," she said at last. He shook his head. "Knowledge would be fatal. It is the uncertainty that charms one". "A mist makes things wonderful." "One may lose ones way." "All ways end at the same point, my dear Gladys." "What is that?" "Disillusion.'
Posted - Jan 14 2005 : 8:47AM
