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seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jan 11 2011 : 7:59PM
So my wife and I got with this other girl and had some fun (a few years ago) on a few occasions. The only drawback (which ended it) was that this other woman was more of a lesbian. So her interest in me was more functional and "tricky". Ultimately she caused trouble and we ended it with her.
However, I recently learned my wife wants to get another woman involved again. I think it likely we could get this same 3rd woman involved, but something new would be nice too (especially one that is more bi than lesbian). The 3rd woman was pretty perfect as she was married, and didn't fool around, EXCEPT with us. That's the kind of thing I'd/we'd want.
So my question is... how do you go about finding a girl like this? On the one hand, some are into it, etc. but likely have many partners and thus risks. On the other hand, the married woman or attached woman with a disinterested man is hard to find lol. Where/How can I find a 3rd woman and be safe and avoid us getting STDs etc.
Any ideas? Especially from those who have done this sort of thing with a 3rd woman? thx.
Dubious_Leftovers
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And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me...
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Posted - Jan 11 2011 : 8:29PM
kinda difficult to guarantee. It's not the sort of thing I'd imagine you can do a formal interview for. There's always some element of risk, when you stick it to someone new. Precautions would be the same as ever.
As for meeting this person: Advert...? Specialist internet forums...? Swinger clubs/scene...? These are the places I'd imagine you'd find someone more down with the idea, and what you want from the get-go.
Rod
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Posted - Jan 11 2011 : 10:11PM
Having a willing wife gets you 90% of the way there. The other 90% is even harder. Most would be delighted to settle for the lesbian. Sometimes when you reach for the home run, you strike out. I'm guessing the mother-of-all-lines would form if you offered others the chance to step into your shoes.
TedtheBellhop
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Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 12:38PM
Dear luckiest man alive,
Tell us more about the trouble that she caused. Was she having feelings for your wife? I suspect inviting her back into your bedroom will probably only make those problems worse than before. Letting a third hurt your marriage takes it from the hottest thing on the planet to the worst thing on the planet in no-time.
My , look for another girl. You could try craiglist, AFF, or SLS. Backpage perhaps.
As far as the risk factor, well, it's much less likely for a woman to transmit anything to a man or another woman than the opposite. You could always ask them to take an STD test and show you the results. You may also want to consider also looking for couples where the other man is only interested in watching. That would probably be safest. Plus you don't have to worry about a jealous husband showing up at your front door with a fist or weapon.

Edited by - TedtheBellhop on 1/12/2011 1:38:19 PM

His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
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Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 2:22PM
I'm sorry to break this to you but if the 3rd woman was married and sleeping with you and your wife I'm certain she was fucking other people too. You should get a guy to join in on your fun and make your wife air tight. Do you think your wife would be into getting DP'd?
 
seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 5:37PM
Definitely, she's interested in that but we haven't gone there yet. As far as the other woman goes-I think you're wrong. She has a fling with another lesbian like once a year and that's about it. We were pretty close friends with her. So in that regard it was perfect. And her husband was an asshole and a pussy-so it was pretty perfect for everyone lol. I'm sure of all this as the nature of the few interludes that occurred-she was clearly out of her element-as far as the extra penis went. It was clear she wasn't used to another man involved in her girl-girl escapades. But again I would point out that a lesbian isn't quite what we're looking for.
seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jan 12 2011 : 5:46PM
Ya Ted, she had feelings for the wife and I believe she was jealous of us. Her marriage was pretty lousy from what I saw. No connections. So due to her jealousy-it appeared she was trying to cause trouble between us (instigating), and so forth. I would also say that I ran into a power struggle with her lol-ie which man was in charge here? Naturally, the real man won that battle and that's kind of what ended things there. But I'd probably give it another go with her, I don't see too much risk here.
I know a couple where the guy likes to watch and I know the woman has the hots for me, so it's plausible. Only problem I see is that her husband is a real creepy looking guy and I think this creepo watching might spoil the whole thing for the wife-so I don't see that working out lol.
TedtheBellhop
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Posted - Jan 14 2011 : 11:11AM
Maybe the guy was an asshole and their marriage was shitty because he married a lesbian?...
In either case, I'd love to hear about some of your past escapades and future ones as well.
seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jan 14 2011 : 12:26PM
While I appreciate the logic Ted... I would argue a more karmic perspective... that BECAUSE he was an asshole, it was his lot in life to marry a lesbian. I say this as I was friends with him for a while and little question that overall this guy was a jerk to everyone, just a self absorbed SOB with his head up his ass-which of course made it easier for all 3 of us to screw around behind his back.
But I also have some sympathy for the guy as I wouldn't want to be married to a lesbian. Bi is fun, but lesbian would be no fun unless you were also a lesbian lol. I'll keep you posted.
There is a girl that I know likes me... so I'm thinking of just approaching her somehow and asking her how she feels about girls lol. Seems a bit dangerous but maybe I can pull it off (dangerous as she knows people I know and I'm a bit um, political.
TedtheBellhop
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Posted - Jan 29 2011 : 7:29PM
^Great points! I can see both sides of that coin.
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I meant to add, in Cincinnati, OH we do a 3-way by putting chili and cheese on top of spaghetti!
Tell me where else you're going to get a girl to say "Here's your 3-way!"
http://skylinechili.com/3WayTimeVideo.html
Edited by - TedtheBellhop on 1/29/2011 7:30:01 PM
Clam Digger
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Posted - Jan 30 2011 : 9:24AM
^Whew! That gave be quite a chubby!
AllieStevens
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Posted - Jan 30 2011 : 3:34PM
Seedfeeder wrote:
There is a girl that I know likes me... so I'm thinking of just approaching her somehow and asking her how she feels about girls lol. Seems a bit dangerous but maybe I can pull it off (dangerous as she knows people I know and I'm a bit um, political.
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A good way to get to know her and what she is about is meeting her for drinks or a night out to a good music and dancing along with your wife. Let her meet the both of you. This will also make her understand that you are not looking for a girlfriend. Once she meets both of you, you can also see during the interraction with you and your wife if she is more into you, or more into your wife, or both.
Like previously suggested, checking out local swinger's clubs is a good idea or local events where similar-minded people gather. In those groups you won't have to explain as much what you are looking for, because the rules are often understood by most members.
In any case, i wish you and your wife lot's of fun. You are one lucky couple.
seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jun 11 2011 : 5:57PM
Thanks Allie,
All very good advice. Only issue I'm running into is-how do we know if they're clean?? I see a few opportunities now emerging and just wouldn't want us to get mixed up with an STD. Any ideas?
His Dudeness
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Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 2:23PM
Require them to get tested and to bring the results to you....that was easy!
WardqueenJanine
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Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 6:06PM
^^
Thanks, the answer seemed too obvious. Every time I've done a group encounter tests are required. It's a no-brainer!
 
Rod
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Posted - Jun 12 2011 : 7:24PM
What has been your experience with having a group get tested? It sounds nice, and I've seen it work with a MF couple, but not for a group. Just curious about other's experiences.
Joey Starr
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Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 4:59AM
Condoms and dental dams.
Jonny Jay All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Jun 16 2011 : 12:59PM
^Dental Dams, can't think of anything worse to introduce to the bedroom but they are another barrier of safety personally I would rather do without the oral.
His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
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Posted - Jun 17 2011 : 11:54PM
I'd rather get a STD than use the dental dam lol.
seedfeeder
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My balls are full, who's hungry?
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Posted - Jun 20 2011 : 1:28AM
Agreed... even masturbation is better than that, at least it's with real flesh. But on a serious note-make sure your dentist does use dental dams when doing any drilling :).
His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
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Posted - Jun 20 2011 : 2:12PM
^ Pun intended right...haha



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