Do you blow your load during the BJ ever?
Would it help if she's on top of you?
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| matthew Member 79 Posts 6/04 |  Posted - Oct 8 2009 : 7:03PMI cum way too fast most of the time. Then other times it takes absurdly long, like close to an hour. The long fucks are few and far between. Most of the time it can be measured by the number of thrusts instead of minutes. We're talking like 7 or 8 thrusts and I can't hold it any longer. I know there are creams and exercises that are supposed to help. I've tried them with no such luck. I'd like to at least make it to 7 or 8 minutes of actual thrusting (not counting foreplay). I am ashamed when I cum in less than a minute. I really don't even know what the "normal" time is to cum. Ladies, do you go behind a man's back and make fun of him to your other friends if he cums too fast? [Link] |
HeyNow  Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03 | Posted - Oct 8 2009 : 11:31PM Do you blow your load during the BJ ever? Would it help if she's on top of you? [Link] |
| Bobcat Senior Member 1490 Posts 2/08 | Posted - Oct 10 2009 : 9:29AM If you're reallly excited with a girl, why can't you just cum during foreplay and enjoy it? Then move onto sex and surely second time around you're going to last longer? [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14594 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Oct 11 2009 : 2:20AM matthew, exactly what is the problem? Is your partner left unsatisfied, or do you think sex should be more than what it is, or is it something else? That is to say, 'normal' is not a very useful measure when it comes to sex. 'Satisfactory' is a much better one. [Link] |
| Cuddly Wombat Senior Member Just another bare bum in the shiower 1739 Posts 12/04 | Posted - Oct 11 2009 : 3:58AM However, I find that if I am momentarily distracted during sex or if I deliberately stop myself from coming by thinking of something else/withdraw my cock/or squeeze the base of the shaft, then I end up in the position of finding it extremely difficult to come later (until I can think of, or do something, so incredibly nasty that I just have to come). You can end up with an incredibly sore dick the next morning that way - but a fun night! Sometimes it is best just to come quick at the start and then carry on regardless, even if you are forced to rely just on your tongue, fingers and toys for a while [Link] |
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| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Oct 11 2009 : 4:07AM Because it's his job to satisfy the woman? And if that's his job, what's hers? Maybe to get him hard again? These are just rhetorical questions. Good sex is about give and take. Both partners have to find a balance between "enjoyment" (satisfying oneself) and "performance" (satisfying your partner). But the less you regard satisfying your partner as a "performance" per se, the happier you'll be. Because if you're the performer and she's the performee, there's already a gap between you in the midst of what should be a unifying activity. It's a progressive, Zen kind of thing. For what its worth, this "problem" will likely resolve itself when you've spent more time with the same woman. And, if it's any consolation, you'll develop more control as you get older. If we're lucky, life is long and there's plenty of time to sort things out. Don't get too stressed about the here and now -- soon enough, it will be "back then". [Link] |
| Cuddly Wombat Senior Member Just another bare bum in the shiower 1739 Posts 12/04 | Posted - Oct 11 2009 : 4:15AM [Link] |
| Bobcat Senior Member 1490 Posts 2/08 | Posted - Oct 11 2009 : 8:54AM The other thing you can do, is when you are close to cumming pull out, lick her puss for a few minutes. Then try again, doing this a 2-3 times can have the opposite effect, you'll find it very hard to cum! I'm not even sure if most women enjoy prolonged penetration anyway, I think for them the kissing cuddling and some oral is the thing they enjoy the most. [Link] |
| fotomatt Member 78 Posts 8/08 | Posted - Oct 12 2009 : 3:28PM The trick is to get just enough of a buzz so that you can still fully enjoy the sex. Don't get drunk, cause you need to be "good" if you're going to last awhile. [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14594 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Oct 12 2009 : 4:08PM [Link] |
| BYOB_Kenobi Senior Member “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” - Kierkegaard 2684 Posts 8/09 | Posted - Oct 12 2009 : 5:13PM I am very susceptible to alcohol ---> ED for me. Even if I have a couple of drinks, it droops more than Eeyore. I've always been a little envious of other dudes who can drink and still sport a raging boner. [Link] |
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