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| SimonMK New Member  5 Posts 6/07 |  Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 1:38AMHi I just graduated from high school and well... I still never dated a girl/have a girlfriend. I did have two female friend during high school but my relationship with 1 of them went bad and the other we just don't talk a lot together and it because my social skill sucks. Well... every time I look a at girl's face and as soon as she turn and see me, I have the bad habit to turn my head and look somewhere else... I remember after my meeting with a escort, when I was in the metro, there was a pretty girl not too far from me the only thing that separated our seat was the door and I sitted in those single seat in the corner. I noticed at the reflection that the same girl keep watching me, so I decided to turn and look at her and as soon as I see she turn her head around... so I guess I was nothing and looked at the window again. And I saw her watch me again through the reflection. I took a little time to look at her this time and when I did, she didn't notice it and I saw her that she was looking at me from the bottom and slowly to the up. And when she saw I was looking at her, she stood there for a few seconds and turn her head away again. From there we keep watching each other from time to time and always turning our heads... Well I reached my station and had to leave, as soon as I get up, she looked at me kinda fast but I don't know why I didn't looked at her this time... I think it was because I didn't if I should had said something or what to say... I wasn't even able to smile at her, not even the many times we look at each others... and I exit the metro train like that, not looking at her... Actually, every time a girl look at me and I can't seem to smile, I just keep thinking if I should or not, if I smile and have no idea to what to say if she come to me... There been many situation like before, some where it was impossible for to talk to them, some who are listening to their musics through their MP3 and some where I was still shy... Since my friend can't really help me and I am pretty much on my own... but I don't I can make it alone...  [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 6:08AM What kind of a place do you work? Surely there must be women you work with that you have no interest in. So talking to them should be easy. Start there to get a comfort level. Nothing serious, just conversation. If, eventually, they get flirty (and sometimes women who aren't interested do, because you are safe and nothing is going to happen) play along so you get used to the banter.  [Link] |
| SimonMK New Member 5 Posts 6/07 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 6:45PM Thanks.  [Link] |
| conquistador Deactivated User Hellhamster. 2947 Posts 10/03 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 7:19PM [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 10:29PM The work part was because these are people you have other reasons to talk to and interact with. So you should find it non-threatening and you get used to the idea of talking to women. The expensive way is to go to strip bars - as long as the money flows and you don't get too out of hand you will be tolerated. Just don't take it seriously - but you would get used to talking and flirting. Edited by - croy on 7/10/2007 10:31:51 PM [Link] |
| conquistador Deactivated User Hellhamster. 2947 Posts 10/03 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 10:32PM Many people make the mistake of taking strippers too seriously. Edited by - conquistador on 7/10/2007 10:33:14 PM [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Jul 10 2007 : 10:40PM Sure, some guys take it too seriously. That is why I warn guys like this (I believe we had another poster where I gave that advice). But it gets women around him so he can get used to the idea. Immersion. [Link] |
| SimonMK New Member 5 Posts 6/07 | Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 12:09AM That same sex shop is searching for employees but they want experienced peoples and I never had a job so... I have been in a strip club once on my own and it was at 3:00 pm. So it was empty and I had to wait for the girls. Well the first who came was hot... but I didn't know what to say to her. I didn't know if I could talk with her or I had to ask her for a private dance with no chat. So I sitted near the bartender and watched the porn movie on the tv. And then decided to leave after spending 7$ on a water bottle... I don't know... I was just not able to come to her table and try to talk to her... By the way, what do you mean by taking a stripper too seriously? Edited by - SimonMK on 7/11/2007 12:09:58 AM [Link] |
| conquistador Deactivated User Hellhamster. 2947 Posts 10/03 | Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 12:30AM Keep tight reigns on your wallet if you get involved with a stripper. Why I mentioned them is that I feel the opposite as croy. You won't learn anything useful from strippers. You are way better off meeting women casually. The one you were flirting with on the train, you should have talked to her. Edited by - conquistador on 7/11/2007 12:31:22 AM [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Jul 11 2007 : 6:11AM But since money is an issue this is a no-go. [Link] |
| Corben99 Member Deep South Texas 146 Posts 11/06 | Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 4:32AM He thought because I have a big moustache, and resemble Freddie Mercury he thought I was gay. He was terribly lonely though, and we became pretty good friends. He know's alot about collecting Barbie dolls. But back to the main subject matter. Have courage man. The whole men are from Mars, and women are from Venus thing has been blown out of proportion. Just talk to a girl you like about normal things. Keep eye contact at all times. And really know the shit you're talking about. So you can sound like some kind of genius. And just be honest. When she asks you about something you don't know about. Just say, You're not sure. Or just agree, and say Yeah. It's easier if she's a foreigner. That way you won't know what the fuck she's talking about. And she won't know what the fuck you're talking about. Just go up to her and caress her hand. Move in slowly, and kiss her on the upper lip. If you have a moustache, always go for the upper lip. That way she can go for the bottom lip. If you're clean shaven it doesn't matter which lip. And if all else fails drink some liquid courage. Some Patron Tequila shots will do the trick with some limes and salt. And practice makes perfect. If you know a girl, just practice talking to her. There's tons of chicks on XboxLive playing HALO. Talk smack with them. And if you're still not sure of yourself, join the Army. They'll tear you down, and then rebuild you up again. Hence the shaving of the head. You'll learn team work, courage, and learn a take no shit attitude, that only winners possess. Basic will be hard, but it will be worth it. And Army chicks are the horniest next to Navy chicks. [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Jul 12 2007 : 5:57AM [Link] |
| girlstrapon Member 13 Posts 8/07 | Posted - Aug 7 2007 : 2:03PM Work hard to expand your social circle. Smile and chat to anyone you meet - het, gay, male, female, whatver - even if it's a little old lady in line at the grocery store. There are two reasons for that: 1) you never know which ones will invite you to a party or introduce you to their sister/granddaughter/etc., and 2) you'll get used to making small talk. I was incredibly shy for the first half of my life. I had to consciously learn to make small talk and talk to women. I did the things I listed above, and made a rule - I would not turn down a single invitation to any social event/party/outing, no matter how much I DIDN'T want to go to it. I also forced myself to talk to at least five new people every day, even if they were only store clerks. After a year or so of this, I had pretty much fixed the problem. [Link] |
| RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06 | Posted - Aug 7 2007 : 3:06PM Anyway. They're just people and they can't read your mind. Women don't generally approach men. You have to approach them. [Link] |
| croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04 | Posted - Aug 7 2007 : 10:36PM [Link] |
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