All Forums > Sex Talk > Sex Talk Forum Page 14 > Initiating kink, rough, non-vanilla sex.
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iowagonzo
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272 Posts
9/07
Posted - Jun 9 2013 : 11:25AM
In the heat of fucking your partner and you want to take it to the "next level" of sex due to an increase in lust what do you do to initiate or indicate an interest in say....fucking your girlfriend/ wife's mouth...do you ask if you can fuck their throat or do you start slow and work up in intensity? Or...how do you indicate that rimming is on the "menu" with a relatively new partner...do you say "i want you lick my asshole" or "i want to taste your asshole" or does your partner/you just go down and try it and see if the reaction to it is positive or not? Same goes for hair pulling, ass slapping, smacking a cock on a partners face, or grinding your pussy into someones face, etc. Just curious if a majority of peoples kinky non vanilla interests have been initiated through verbal communication during sex or if those acts just come as a "fluid" like action during heated fucking and if both partners like whats going on they continue with it and if not then the attempt to try it was short lived.
Edited by - iowagonzo on Jun 9 2013
Edited by - iowagonzo on Jun 9 2013
Edited by - iowagonzo on Jun 9 2013
SexShopGrl
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940 Posts
5/11
Posted - Jun 10 2013 : 9:57PM
My first question would be, "So, are you into kink?" I never really waited for it to be an in the moment question. As soon as we had sex the first time I could usually tell if it was worth getting into with them.
If they were a good lay, more than likely they were adventurous. Because people who are adventurous are the types who usually want to do something they enjoy very well. They are usually willing to learn something new about that activity even if it's a personal lesson about themselves. People like that make good play partners. After we establish whether or not they want to try, then I start asking the real questions about what we both might be into.
WardqueenJanine
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914 Posts
2/08
Posted - Jun 11 2013 : 10:54AM
Yeah! I didn't think this was a huge deal. If I'm fucking someone I figure I can bring up what I choose as long as I also accept my partners right to decline. SSG's question as well as just bringing up the specific act you're interested in makes obvious sense.
His Dudeness
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4/10
Posted - Jun 11 2013 : 8:13PM
I never usually ask during sex. I may hint around some before we get down to da bizzness!
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francios
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1802 Posts
2/05
Posted - Jun 20 2013 : 9:40AM
In the heat of the moment a little experimentation to see if she is into it or not isn't a bad thing. She'll let you know if your crossing the line. You should also ask permision while doing so.
"I'd love to smack your Ass" while your lightly slapping it and slowly increase the pressure to make sure it isn't to much.
Rubbing her asshole with a wet finger while your fucking or eating her to gauge her response.
Nothing like having a girl ask "Are you just going to play with my ass or Fuck It!"
 
davebowman
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294 Posts
6/09
Posted - Jun 20 2013 : 3:03PM
There's never a polite way to ask a girl if she's into cumfarting.
SexShopGrl
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F is for Forty and Fabulous!
940 Posts
5/11
Posted - Jun 20 2013 : 7:45PM
^That's one of those that you see together in a porn movie or something and you tell her how hot you thought it was to see how she reacts.
scorpiusdeus
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225 Posts
9/11
Posted - Jun 24 2013 : 3:16PM
This topic reminds me of some escorts who don't kiss because it's too "intimate"... Em kay I have cock in your ass and my finger on your clit, but kissing is just too much. OK.
The absolute best sex you will ever have in your life is the sex you have with the person you are most open and honest with about everything.
The only no no I have gotten yet with my lady is access to a backstage pass. Everything else I just ease into and she generally begs for more and asks what other tricks I have up my sleeve.. or shorts as the case may be.
Edited by - scorpiusdeus on 6/24/2013 3:18:01 PM
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3/02
Posted - Jun 26 2013 : 6:55PM
Okay, indeed, because what an escort defines as her, or his, personal space is just that - a personal definition. Whether you agree with it or not isn't the least bit relevant.
What you should recognize, though, is that reserving an intimate act or body part is indicative of the material nature of the transaction. It says, "You cannot have me, but you can have a part of my body that I can disassociate from my self."
If you're fine with that then keep on doing what you're doing.
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