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TedtheBellhop Member 767 Posts 6/09	Posted - Nov 7 2009 : 4:58PM My SO is going to a "Fun Party" tomorrow. (I think it's very odd that they are doing it on a Sunday afternoon, but at least I can watch football in peace, right?) Lately she's been enjoying extra fingers, so I suggested that she get a toy that's on the larger side. Now I'm wondering if that's a good idea. Do you guys have wives with large toys? Does it make you insecure? Do the women have anything to say on the subject? Is it hard for you to cum by something smaller than what you're used to? [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Nov 7 2009 : 7:57PM [Link]
TedtheBellhop Member 767 Posts 6/09	Posted - Nov 8 2009 : 6:30PM I don't get it. [Link]
Loraine Senior Member 1559 Posts 3/04	Posted - Nov 8 2009 : 7:29PM Ted, I wouldn't be too concerned. I like big toys, I like fisting and all sorts of rambunctious fuckery. My sweetheart, generous, attentive, skilled lover that he is has no cause for worry. You might like a piece I wrote on the concept of "more" a while back. The stretch feeling of more fingers can be a lot of fun, lots of sensation all at once, but it's not like once you have felt that in particular it is the only thing that will get you off necessarily, but even if it was - you could always get your sweetie off with your hands, then you fuck and all the rest. It would be a shame not to explore and discover all the pleasures that can be had for the fear of feeling insecure. [Link]
jayo All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04	Posted - Nov 8 2009 : 8:13PM Loraine wrote: all sorts of rambunctious fuckery. Click to expand I'm stealing that one. [Link]

Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01	Posted - Nov 8 2009 : 9:48PM Insecurities about toy size go both ways. When he plays with a masturbation sleeve that is advertised as "tighter than her first time" ... well, let's just say that I'm 30+ years and 6 babies from my first time and I'm way too realistic to think that "tight" is a word associated with my downstairs. Hot, wet, and cozy - maybe, tight... no. I could get all sorts of insecure about it. I could get seriously twisted up in my head and start loathing my body and hating his toys and snooping in his computer for tight pussy porn or whatever. Or I can just accept that he likes how I feel AND he likes how the masturbation sleeve feels and who the hell cares anyway? As long as he still wants to do me til I can't be done no more, I am not going to worry about how much lovin' the sleeve gets. [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Nov 9 2009 : 5:36AM TedtheBellhop wrote: I don't get it. Click to expand Homer was jealous of an inanimate carbon rod. And rightly so. It was a better contender for employee of the month. Think about that. [Link]
jayo All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04	Posted - Nov 9 2009 : 8:54AM ma meeshka wrote: Homer was jealous of an inanimate carbon rod. And rightly so. It was a better contender for employee of the month. Think about that. Click to expand All hail the rod. [Link]
TedtheBellhop Member 767 Posts 6/09	Posted - Nov 9 2009 : 10:47AM Well, I don't have to worry about it for now. She brought home this instead. I may later post a "review" of the toy and the amazing results. Loraine - I read your blog post and it makes a lot of sense. It actually makes me feel a lot better to know that my SO isn't the only one who occasionally gets tears from the Big O. I still can't help but think that if she likes being stretched and she likes penis, then she would really enjoy a huge penis that stretches her out. I should give her more credit than that. Her sexuality isn't nearly as simple as a man's. [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 9:43PM TedtheBellhop wrote: I still can't help but think that if she likes being stretched and she likes penis, then she would really enjoy a huge penis that stretches her out. Click to expand She might really enjoy a huge penis that really stretches her out. So? I might really enjoy a reverse gangbang with 10 beautiful bi-sexual women. In fact, I'm pretty sure I would. That doesn't mean that it would be better than great sex with my wife. It doesn't mean that I'd spend one nanosecond considering whether to actually do it. It doesn't mean much at all. If your SO fantasizes about a huge cock, buy her one of the silicone variety and the two of you can focus your imaginations on how to use it. I should give her more credit than that. Her sexuality isn't nearly as simple as a man's. Click to expand What's so simple about a man's sexuality? Honestly? I'm wondering what the "simple" male analogue would be to a woman wanting to fuck a guy with a huge cock. A guy wanting to fuck a girl with a tight pussy? How many guys are so "simple" that they actually fantasize about a tight pussy, per se, without reference to an attractive woman to whom said tight pussy belongs? [Link]
matthew Member 79 Posts 6/04	Posted - Nov 25 2009 : 10:34PM I get an insecure feeling just looking at all of the dildos for sale. I'm nowhere close to any of them. I'm about 5.25 inches and not very thick either. All of the dildos on the market are like 7-8" or more and they are incredibly thick. [Link]
Chandra88 Member 11 Posts 11/09	Posted - Nov 26 2009 : 12:23PM Um....well I love getting fisted n I love big toyz but when it cumz to sex in my private life its NEVER about the size....I have a FWB whose pretty small but boy does he know how to use that thang!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xoxo [Link]
jayo All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04	Posted - Nov 26 2009 : 12:52PM This just saddens me. Women often feel intimidated by porn because the actresses are idealized (bigger, tighter, younger, prettier, and a lot more energetic) and are afraid that they won't satisify their men because they can't live up to that. Guys tell them not to worry, it's not like that at all. It's like pushing a car uphill but we persevere anyway. Now this--same thing in the other direction. Guys are afraid they can't live up to an idealized (or fantasized) chunk of rubber. I knew a woman who was size fixated. But most aren't. And most women (I hope, anyway) aren't so shallow that cock size is a deal-breaker. It's fantasy. I like racing cars, but I wouldn't want to drive one to work every day. Edited by - jayo on 11/26/2009 12:53:00 PM [Link]
BYOB_Kenobi Senior Member “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” - Kierkegaard 2684 Posts 8/09	Posted - Nov 26 2009 : 6:03PM jayo wrote: I knew a woman who was size fixated. But most aren't. And most women (I hope, anyway) aren't so shallow that cock size is a deal-breaker. It's fantasy. I like racing cars, but I wouldn't want to drive one to work every day. Click to expand Well, maybe, we would like to drive them, but we wouldn't live that long. From what I've read in interviews, many girls might not enjoy sex in private lives, if sex always involves a huge cock, but then again [Link]
Ivory Sex Object by Proxy "We all want our time in Hell." 647 Posts 8/04	Posted - Nov 27 2009 : 6:20PM Ted, look I'm only going to speak for myself,and I'm only going to talk about toys in relation to my husband. Sometimes I like to use toys larger than my husband, just because sometimes it's fun to explore the edge of my comfort zone. The sensations are different from fucking, and I think that's part of what's great about masturbation. That said, I've never used toys so large that they tear me up or overstretch my muscles. I'm not into pain and bodily injury. Also, I've used vaginal balls for years. First, Smartballs by Fun Factory, now Luna Beads by Lelo. Although, the past year or so, I've rarely played with big toys nor used my Luna Beads much. In fact, this year I've been all about my Rock Chick when I can find the free time to masturbate. The insertable portion is smaller (both in length and most especially in thickness) than my husband, so what does that say? Does it say that my husband is therefore too big for me because lately I like to masturbate with something smaller than him? No. I still like fucking him as much as ever. [Link]

V_H_ Member 160 Posts 4/09	Posted - Nov 29 2009 : 1:26AM I wouldn't be insecure about it. They may feel good, but no toy replicates a human relationship behind the orgasm. [Link]
Chandra88 Member 11 Posts 11/09	Posted - Nov 30 2009 : 5:59PM Ivory wrote: That said, I've never used toys so large that they tear me up or overstretch my muscles. I'm not into pain and bodily injury. Also, I've used vaginal balls for years. First, Smartballs by Fun Factory, now Luna Beads by Lelo. Although, the past year or so, I've rarely played with big toys nor used my Luna Beads much. Click to expand OMG I looooooooooove the luna beads!!!!!!! :) :) :) [Link]
BigBobxxx Senior Member 2681 Posts 5/04	Posted - Nov 30 2009 : 7:29PM Leave some Mandingo DVDs around the house, and see if she watches them [Link]
Ivory Sex Object by Proxy "We all want our time in Hell." 647 Posts 8/04	Posted - Dec 1 2009 : 1:00AM Chandra88 wrote: Ivory wrote: That said, I've never used toys so large that they tear me up or overstretch my muscles. I'm not into pain and bodily injury. Also, I've used vaginal balls for years. First, Smartballs by Fun Factory, now Luna Beads by Lelo. Although, the past year or so, I've rarely played with big toys nor used my Luna Beads much. Click to expand OMG I looooooooooove the luna beads!!!!!!! :) :) :) Click to expand Yeah, aren't they great? I realize now that I just sort of assumed anyone reading would know what Smartballs and Luna Beads are for. They are for strengthening the PC muscle. They're a lot easier and more fun to use than doing boring Kegels. [Link]
Chandra88 Member 11 Posts 11/09	Posted - Dec 1 2009 : 10:36PM LMAO yea a loooooooot more fun!!!!!!!! xoxo [Link]
bi_girl Member 157 Posts 11/09	Posted - Dec 4 2009 : 11:12AM I'm a woman who doesn't feel the need for super giant penises. When I masturbate I usually don't even penetrate, and when I do, I usually just put in about 4 inches or so of my admittedly small glass dildo. The G-spot is only a few inches in :). But if your wife is looking to play like that, let her have fun! Different sizes give different sensations, and a dildo can't kiss her, lick her, massage her breasts, or any of that other delicious stuff. No need to feel insecure at all. We're all conditioned to feel insecure for whatever silly reason, ultimately it comes down to trust and confidence in yourself as well as your partner. Hope that helps :) [Link]
Pagoda Senior Member Thread Killer 1747 Posts 10/05	Posted - Dec 4 2009 : 8:05PM If your girlfriend wants a toy for penetrative masturbation, she has a lot of choices. Many penetrative toys are 7 inches long, even those that are slender. The bottom inch or two will be used as a hand grip, so they don't count. I sell sex toys for a living, and I don't see a great percentage of women buying the big toys. In fact, a lot of women dislike life-like (penis-shaped) toys, and prefer vibrators with neat grooves, curves and other unrealistic features. Most woman that have toy collections have a variety of toys. They don't have 10 of the exact same style. They have different toys to do different things, and yes, they differ from their men's penises. That's what it's all about; variety, not competition. [Link]
WardqueenJanine Member 914 Posts 2/08	Posted - Dec 5 2009 : 9:16AM The irony about this topic is that the reason a lot of us use really big toys is for the the visuals that guys like. As has been already stated, I seldom even make penetration when I get myself off af if I am using a toy it's a vibrator or knotted cord that does the job better that anything of any size would. Back to the visual. A lot of guys like to see how big a rubber cock (or real cock) a woman can take. I've "Masturbated" for guys contless limes using huge toys to get then THEM off and its done very little for me. After all, how many gays ask, "Can you deepthroat?" or "What's the biggest cock you've taken?". The responses to these are usually something that stimulates the male and not the female. [Link]
TedtheBellhop Member 767 Posts 6/09	Posted - Dec 7 2009 : 11:36AM WardqueenJanine wrote: The irony about this topic is that the reason a lot of us use really big toys is for the the visuals that guys like. As has been already stated, I seldom even make penetration when I get myself off af if I am using a toy it's a vibrator or knotted cord that does the job better that anything of any size would. Back to the visual. A lot of guys like to see how big a rubber cock (or real cock) a woman can take. I've "Masturbated" for guys contless limes using huge toys to get then THEM off and its done very little for me. After all, how many gays ask, "Can you deepthroat?" or "What's the biggest cock you've taken?". The responses to these are usually something that stimulates the male and not the female. Click to expand I totally see what you mean. To be honest, big toys, etc. has been the topic of some really great dirty talk lately. I'm just not sure how I would react if it actually happened. Similar to how my SO (like a lot of women) is comfortable discussing bringing another woman into the bedroom during dirty talk, but I'm quite certain that will never be reality. The more I think about it, the more I think it would be a hot visual to see her using a big toy. There's just a little voice of insecurity in the back of my head that might be thinking "but she said I was the perfect fit." Although in the moment, a raging erection and flowing testosterone make it pretty easy to forget about insecurity. [Link]
crazy_toes1001 New Member 5 Posts 1/10	Posted - Jan 12 2010 : 5:08AM I've got plenty of toys in my collection, most of them big, and most of them either picked out for me, (or with me,) by my partner. He enjoys watching me fuck myself with a big cock, he enjoys watching me make myself cum, and i enjoy watching him, watching me. If he's insecure about it, then he's hiding it well. They also make a great prop for punishing a 'bad boy' once you're in the leather. It's hard to resist discipline when that discipline is getting fucked up the ass with a black latex monster. [Link]

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