I had a very strong, multiple-orgasm GF a few years ago. At one point I was standing up, holding her ankles spread-eagle on the bed, giving her one after another. But we both realized it was turning into some kind of a power trip. We were no longer making love. In fact, I had a hard time cumming that day.

For me, it is best cumming close together in time. And even nicer when it gets highly emotional. But I am lucky to get that more than a dozen times a year. That's when I do have a lover, currently it seems out of the question. Too much depression.

percy

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"The lover knows much more about absolute good and universal beauty than any logician or theologian, unless the latter, too, be lovers in disguise." - George Santayana

"To do the useful thing, to say the courageous thing, to contemplate the beautiful thing: that is enough for one man's life.: - T.S. Eliot

Edited by - mookiemeister on 3/18/2004 2:18:29 PM

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I thought multiple orgasms are just a polite way to tell the guy, "just fuckin' shoot, I am soooo bored".

If you think of it, it's a great method for a girl who wants her peace. Every man seems to be obsessed with being a great lover.
As men are the practical representatives of the human race, they measure their quality in the quantity of female orgams.

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As for liking it to be a giver, at first yes. But after a while with the same partner it turns over to being plain hard work.
First giving her the orgasm, then relax and concentrate on your own fun.

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Call me selfish, call me a bad lover, but at least you can't call me a liar.

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Many women come to the bedroom with a sweep-me-off-my-feet/you-are-the-man/you-are-supposed-to-make-it-all-happen attitude. This may not be the case for most of the women on this board but there are lots of sleeping beauties out there.

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Basically, there's a lot of pressure on young, inexperienced guys who are supposed to just automatically know what to do (and nowadays, porn on the internet to give them much better, or often, much worse ideas than they got in the 70's).

Frankly, women are not only not expected to take charge, but the guys in porn will hardly even show it. They hardly allow a girl to do her own blowjob, prefering in many cases to have the guy take control and just jam it down her throat.

At least guys are expected to be active. Girls are raised to think they are whores if they want/do anything. With every guy they have to feel out what they can do that the guy will find acceptable.

I fully believe that if women are just lying there or are reluctant to do oral sex, it's not because there is anything inherently un-fun about sex, but because they've gotten some kind of scary or inhibiting ideas about what kind of women they will be if they are being active, and for sure, nobody is derogatory about men being active.

Check out the number of sexually enlightened individuals who post here who refer to a woman who grabs onto a dick to do whatever to it as a 'whore.'

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On topic - it's a thrill to give and receive. Best if you can get in a zen-like point where you can actually feel both at once, a thing seldom seen in porn, but one may view it in the rare second scene from this dvd. Ah, it's a wonderful thing.

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-T.C.

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The real answer: sex is best for me when there's a mutual give and take.

Edited by - cobalt60 on 4/1/2004 8:08:20 PM

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-Sane today, tommorrow..who knows!!

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ad removed -steph

Edited by - steph on 4/2/2004 4:22:45 PM

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