this gal tells me that my addiction to porn and masturbation is having a back side with performance. i dont get it coz i satisfy her good and i cum just as usual...well thing is, thinking of my favourite pornstar- KENYA do her thing really turns me on even while having sex.
Here's a tip Dimples...you might not want to tell the chick your banging that you're actually thinking of someone else. That might get her a little peeved - keep that to yourself.
You satisfy her according to her or you? "is having a back side with performance" which I will interpret as having a bad side effect on your performance.
DAYUM! I am obviously meeting the wrong girls! I knew a chick who was way into porno, but since she looked like John Madden in drag, I did not go there!
Try this experiment: fantasize that your gal is actually doing to you the things your favourite pornstar is doing with her partner.
If that doesn't turn you on, you should consider becoming a monk and taking a vow of celibacy. Dedicate your life to seeking truth and enlightenment, and helping others.
It is far more rewarding and less problematic than the scenario you have described here, which, I'm afraid, will only get worse over time, not better.