My girlfriend wants me to stop masturbating...

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Haze Deactivated User 769 Posts 7/04	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 10:36AM She says I'm too desensitized to sex because of it. When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. So I'm not going to masturbate for a while then have sex with her and see if there's a difference. [Link]
saratoga120 Senior Member 1404 Posts 5/05	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 11:44AM Hah! You should be glad you've even gotten to the point where she knows you masturbate when she's not in the room. [Link]
lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 11:47AM Your girlfriend may be right. Here are a couple of old topics from the [invalid URL removed]Sex Talk FAQ. [invalid URL removed]One [invalid URL removed]Two [Link]
Haze Deactivated User 769 Posts 7/04	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 11:55AM My girlfriend is super tight too. She's only been with three guys. She tries everything but eventually gives up. I really need to stop masturbating I feel like I'm offending her. [Link]
TheLoneGunman Member 400 Posts 10/03	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 12:10PM Haze wrote: When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. Click to expand There are 1000s of girls who WANT this kind of guy...if she's telling you you're taking to long either a) you're not very good or b) she's not very "into" you. In either case, might be time to reevaluate the relationship. Also, she may have just put too much "pressure" on you...anxiety while having sex can make it difficult to perform! Edited by - TheLoneGunman on 9/25/2006 12:13:32 PM [Link]

lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 12:17PM Haze, did you check out the links on those threads? No need to blame her. No need to blame you. There are just things you can do to have more control. Not just skipping masturbation, but changing masturbation styles so you aren't relying on one type of sensation. [Link]
astroknight Questionable Moderator Tastes so good... 4187 Posts 11/99	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 2:30PM Since the last time you masturbated was in line at the bank, she's probably right... "Vegetarianism for me is about saying ‘yes’ to things - even meat." - Coupling [Link]
Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 6:11PM TheLoneGunman wrote: Haze wrote: When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. Click to expand There are 1000s of girls who WANT this kind of guy...if she's telling you you're taking to long either a) you're not very good or b) she's not very "into" you. Click to expand My thoughts exactly! [Link]
lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 7:24PM It's nice to have the choice, and be able to do a 10 minute quickie, or do two hours. [Link]
BSD Senior Member San Diego, CA 2508 Posts 11/03	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 7:37PM Friends - People can last for ten minutes? BSD [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Sep 25 2006 : 7:54PM TheLoneGunman wrote: There are 1000s of girls who WANT this kind of guy...if she's telling you you're taking to long either a) you're not very good or b) she's not very "into" you. In either case, might be time to reevaluate the relationship. Click to expand IMO, this advice is incredibly unproductive and certainly premature. I think Haze should initially take what his GF said at face value and not try to "interpret" it. She seems to have been very straightforward. How he responds is a different question. As Haze tells it, she feels frustrated because she can't "make" him cum. Women have performance issues, too. [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 1:04AM I'm with Bob, TheLoneGunman is wrong in this case. Haze: First off, being desensitised to sex means that sex doesn't turn you on, and there's no correlation between that and masturbating. If what you mean is that because you masturbate within 24 hours of having sex, and because of this your stamina is reduced along with your sexual receptivity, then this could most likely be true. What I have a problem with is that you say she says it takes you too long to cum. What does her opinion matter? How do you feel about this? Do you know your own body well enough to believe this is true? Masturbation is most definately a factor. Others are: poor health smoking/drug/drinking habits fatigue But I, personally, don't have any of those problems, and I know that if I'm ever lacking it's because I have indulged too many times too soon. And I am at my sexual peak (or thereabouts). [Link]
Haze Deactivated User 769 Posts 7/04	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 1:27AM ma meeshka wrote: What I have a problem with is that you say she says it takes you too long to cum. What does her opinion matter? How do you feel about this? Do you know your own body well enough to believe this is true? Masturbation is most definately a factor. Others are: poor health smoking/drug/drinking habits fatigue Click to expand Her opinion means a lot to me. I think she just wants to make me happy and when she can't make me cum because I've been jacking off too much it really bothers her. [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 1:46AM There's a big difference between her thinking you take a long time to cum and you actually knowing that you do though. She should respect that you take a little longer, if that's just the way you are, and that's not fair. Would you fault her if she took longer? Or couldn't cum at all? Or would you respect that? [Link]
Pagoda Senior Member Thread Killer 1747 Posts 10/05	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 5:38AM Bob wrote: As Haze tells it, she feels frustrated because she can't "make" him cum. Women have performance issues, too. Click to expand +1. [Link]

croy Platinum Member Discovry 4574 Posts 3/04	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 6:06AM So would it be a bad relationship thing to ask that she give a blowjob every time he feels like whacking off? Dear Abby really doesn't tackle these issues. Anyways, all relationships are about meeting halfway. As long as she can eventually express what the issue is and you care about resolving whatever it is, it seems healthy. [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 8:30AM Pagoda wrote: Bob wrote: As Haze tells it, she feels frustrated because she can't "make" him cum. Women have performance issues, too. Click to expand +1. Click to expand at no point does Haze say that. 'she says' is written twice, in two of the three sentences, and so all we have to go on is paraprasing of what has been said, and not necessarily either one of their opinions or feelings on the subject. i think people have given some good advice based on very little (somewhat ambiguous) information. [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 12:19PM ma meeshka wrote: Pagoda wrote: Bob wrote: As Haze tells it, she feels frustrated because she can't "make" him cum. Women have performance issues, too. Click to expand +1. Click to expand at no point does Haze say that. Click to expand I think he does: "When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. . . . She tries everything but eventually gives up. I really need to stop masturbating I feel like I'm offending her." [Link]
Janitor Retired Porno movies, sexy videos, xxx. Adult DVD Talk at your service. 6409 Posts 11/99	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 6:34PM So report back and let us know if not masturbating means you cum quicker with the sex. I think she made a reasonable request. Doesn't hurt to try and see what happens. There are 1000s of girls who WANT this kind of guy...if she's telling you you're taking to long either a) you're not very good or b) she's not very "into" you. In either case, might be time to reevaluate the relationship. Click to expand I also disagree with this. Sometimes we want a quickie and we definitely want to know that we can make our men cum quickly. That she's being honest with you is a good sign about your relationship. [Link]
TonyC Comstock Films 2523 Posts 8/03	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 7:20PM Try having her shove something up your ass while she blows you. [Link]
Pagoda Senior Member Thread Killer 1747 Posts 10/05	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 7:37PM TonyC wrote: Try having her shove something up your ass while she blows you. Click to expand Actually, that'll likely work quite nicely. [Link]
TonyC Comstock Films 2523 Posts 8/03	Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 7:56PM Pagoda wrote: TonyC wrote: Try having her shove something up your ass while she blows you. Click to expand Actually, that'll likely work quite nicely. Click to expand Actually that's why I suggested it, actually. [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 12:45AM Bob wrote: I think he does Click to expand I think you have to make an inference based on very little information. The situation may be one way, but the words say that they're another. I should've made one line quip instead of giving advice. +1 TonyC [Link]
katsirk Member Crush on Greg....mmm 812 Posts 7/06	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 3:57AM Masturbation is what it is, everyone should masturbate, EVERYONE! [Link]
oatmeal Meat Popsicle Seeking Beauty 1738 Posts 8/04	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 8:00AM My wife gets turned on if she can make me cum quickly. To her it confirms her skills and my desire for her. Bright Ideas 1) While trying to figure out how to speed yourself up perhaps vary your technique and do something she really enjoys (such as go down on her) during a break in intercourse? To help her enjoy your longer sessions. 2) Ask her to do things to help speed you up like talking dirty, telling you a story or fantasy, tickle your colon or watching a porn. 3) When you feel like masturbating seek her out and seduce her. If you ask too much for her she'll probably ask you to go masturbate. 4) From the out of left field file. Perhaps she wants you to shoot bigger loads in or on her? How old are you Haze? Is this a fairly new relationship? Are you two still figuring out each others turn ons and triggers? Don't be afraid to communicate with her and don't let her tell you your feelings or opinions don't matter. [Link]

TonyC Comstock Films 2523 Posts 8/03	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 8:16AM KristaK wrote: Masturbation is what it is, everyone should masturbate, EVERYONE! Click to expand [invalid URL removed]Scalia says it's constitutional if the state says you can't: "State laws against ... masturbation....are likewise sustainable only in light of Bowers’ validation of laws based on moral choices. Every single one of these laws is called into question by today’s decision; the Court makes no effort to cabin the scope of its decision to exclude them from its holding." If there's any reason to keep a loaded gun under the mattress... [Link]
ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 8:31AM oatmeal wrote: tickle your colon or watching a porn. Click to expand +1 [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 11:27AM I agree with TC's blowjob/butt advice. Works for my wife every time. [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Sep 27 2006 : 11:31AM KristaK wrote: Masturbation is what it is, everyone should masturbate, EVERYONE! Click to expand I agree. I wouldn't recommend permanent abstention from masturbation, whatever your girlfriend wants, Haze. I just think it's a good temporary experiment. See what happens. Ultimately, seek balance. [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 9:20AM Haze wrote: She says I'm too desensitized to sex because of it. When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. So I'm not going to masturbate for a while then have sex with her and see if there's a difference. Click to expand Ya know...there are times when I thank my lucky stars that I'm single. This is one of them. Nobody should ever feel that they have the right to ask you to stop masturbating. I'll stop masturbating either the day I die or when I'm no longer able to for some reason. Desensitized? Maybe but if you were prone to that, I should think it would happen one way or another...whether you masturbate or not. I started masturbating when I was around 12 or so and have done so pretty much every day since. I'm in my 30s now and it does take me a while to cum but I highly doubt that if I stopped masturbating my dick would suddenly be all that much more sensitive to the touch of a woman. It may be ever so slightly but IMO, the small amount of gain wouldn't be worth the sacrifice of giving up something I enjoy. I really doubt there are many men (married or not) who don't masturbate at least every now and then. There's bound to be a pretty good reason why most men do it. That would be that it's probably just natural male behavior. A psychological need, if you will. [Link]
Haze Deactivated User 769 Posts 7/04	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 6:51AM Here's an update. I didn't masturbate for about a week then I had sex with my girlfriend and it was amazing. I guess she has something there. We went like 3 times last night. Then she got on top of me and said "you feel the difference baby?" So I'm done with masturbation fo a while. I'm going to store up all my sexual thougths for when she comes over on Wednesday. [Link]
lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 12:11PM Yay! That put a smile on my face. She surely has your best interests at heart, and her own! [Link]
Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 1:30PM Haze wrote: Here's an update. I didn't masturbate for about a week then I had sex with my girlfriend and it was amazing. Click to expand [Link]
Edward James Almost Member "You play an evil demon summoned from hell to clean out this meth lab." 73 Posts 7/06	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 5:43PM I jerk off all time and I blow my load in like 5-7 minutes usually. [but I am ready for more sex in like a minute, then I last for 3-4, then back in a minute for like 3-4 again, its f-ing weird] Cant I just go for 11 minutes and cum just once!??! lol... Dont listen to your GF, you just have good stamina! [Link]
TonyC Comstock Films 2523 Posts 8/03	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 5:51PM Now that you've cleared that hurdle, a few things you might try. Jerk off while your GF watches. She can pick up tips! Watch your GF jerk off. You can pick up tips! Square the circle and watch each other jerk off! Let her ride your face while you jerk off. Extra points if you can get yourself off while you get her off! Jerk off on your GF's face, tits, ass, into her mouth, whatever. Fun for everyone! Jerk off on your GF's cunt while she jerks herself off. Always a good time! Point is, now that you know you can blow a load up her twat or down her throat, don't forget to have fun with other things. Jerking off can be a fun part of that! [Link]

ma meeshka Iconoclastic Member 3939 Posts 4/06	Posted - Oct 2 2006 : 11:39PM TonyC wrote: Now that you've cleared that hurdle, a few things you might try. Jerk off while your GF watches. She can pick up tips! Watch your GF jerk off. You can pick up tips! Square the circle and watch each other jerk off! Let her ride your face while you jerk off. Extra points if you can get yourself off while you get her off! Jerk off on your GF's face, tits, ass, into her mouth, whatever. Fun for everyone! Jerk off on your GF's cunt while she jerks herself off. Always a good time! Point is, now that you know you can blow a load up her twat or down her throat, don't forget to have fun with other things. Jerking off can be a fun part of that! Click to expand jerk-off. [Link]
cobalt60 Knuckle Dragger 2046 Posts 2/03	Posted - Oct 3 2006 : 9:47PM That bitch has control issues. Kick to the curb. [Link]
HeyNow Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03	Posted - Oct 24 2010 : 1:46AM katsirk wrote: Masturbation is what it is, everyone should masturbate, EVERYONE! Click to expand Even me? The whole thread is a good read. What ever happened to Haze anyhow. Have fun, taste BumpFEST '10 [Link]
Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00	Posted - Oct 24 2010 : 2:16AM HeyNow wrote: katsirk wrote: Masturbation is what it is, everyone should masturbate, EVERYONE! Click to expand Even me? Click to expand Flip a coin? [Link]
dogzcatcher All-Star Member Fat bottomed girls make the rockin' world go round! 1551 Posts 5/09	Posted - Oct 24 2010 : 2:39AM Was the OP's girlfriend Christine O'Donnell of Vermont? [Link]
WardqueenJanine Member 914 Posts 2/08	Posted - Oct 24 2010 : 8:15PM Takes too long to cum? WTF? Most women complain that guys get off way to fast and they aren't satisfied. Iv'e gone to the extent of jacking a guy off, taking a break then fucking so that we can achieve mutual orgasm. If you can keep going and get her off what's the complaint? [Link]
saratoga120 Senior Member 1404 Posts 5/05	Posted - Oct 25 2010 : 12:18PM WardqueenJanine wrote: Takes too long to cum? WTF? Most women complain that guys get off way to fast and they aren't satisfied. Iv'e gone to the extent of jacking a guy off, taking a break then fucking so that we can achieve mutual orgasm. If you can keep going and get her off what's the complaint? Click to expand My girlfriend always cums before I do, which is problematic for her. I can stay hard as long as it takes to take her to the promised land, but she feels inadequate if I haven't joined her in an orgasm. I can get there, but only through vocal third-party fantasizing that always involves her and Greg. For the longest time this made her uneasy, but in the name of mutually assured eruptions she's actually started initiating the nastyfest. [Link]
His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10	Posted - Oct 25 2010 : 2:06PM Hopefully Haze left that controlling wench. The masturbation thing was prolly only the beginning. By now Haze probably has zero friends and no Internet access. Poor guy probably goes out to see chick flicks every weekend. [Link]
lunacyagain Member Somewhere between Heaven & Hell 33 Posts 3/06	Posted - Nov 5 2010 : 5:33AM What?! That is just not realistic or fair. Short of it interfering with your sex life she should keep her yap shut. It's your body, you can pleasure yourself when you like. If your taking too long to cum, maybe she's just a bi***. Damn [Link]
Clay Member 216 Posts 8/00	Posted - Nov 6 2010 : 6:13PM You should really try to talk her out of her position on masturbation. Try telling her it is not the masturbation but the other women you have sex with on Mondays and Tuesdays. [Link]
editorbb Member 363 Posts 7/10	Posted - Nov 6 2010 : 8:53PM you should not masturbate if you have a girlfriend..like like almost cheating..or taking it away from her..but then she must be ready to give it to you anytime anywhere.. [Link]
joserue New Member 4 Posts 11/10	Posted - Nov 28 2010 : 8:03PM Haze wrote: She says I'm too desensitized to sex because of it. When we have sex she says it takes too long for me to cum. So I'm not going to masturbate for a while then have sex with her and see if there's a difference. Click to expand KEEP DOING IT. [Link]
cobalt60 Knuckle Dragger 2046 Posts 2/03	Posted - Dec 1 2010 : 8:35PM Do it in front of her. I pull my wife's pants down while she's sleeping and finish all over her hot MILF ass. Don't ever stop masturbating for anyone. Ever. Not even God. He made you that way. Fuck Him. Or masturbate in front of Him. Whatever. [Link]
cobalt60 Knuckle Dragger 2046 Posts 2/03	Posted - Dec 1 2010 : 8:36PM Make her masturbate you. Call her names while she does it. Smack her a little. Just a little. Too much and you'll know you've gone too far. Find your boundaries. Or pray. A lot. Pray a lot. And masturbate while you do it. [Link]
cobalt60 Knuckle Dragger 2046 Posts 2/03	Posted - Dec 1 2010 : 8:38PM While you squeeze that hot ass and jizz all over it. And then say "amen." You'll feel better. And closer to God. And her. Or yourself. Or whoever. Who cares? Masturbate. A lot. [Link]
cobalt60 Knuckle Dragger 2046 Posts 2/03	Posted - Dec 1 2010 : 8:39PM And then make skronker do it in front of you. That'll cure your ass of wanting to do it. God damn skronker. [Link]