I'm really not sure what it says about me, other than I watch too much porn, but I can't help it. Not long after we started dating we had the talk all couples have. You know the one, how many partners, blah blah blah. Well it turns out she lied. At the time she told me 5, which seemed low to me. Well a while back, we had a night out, much alcohol was involved and the truth came out. The number was much higher, especially if you consider Blow jobs sex. Seems that was her thing, and damn is she good at it. Ever since then I've tried to find out more details and have learned a few things, each time turning me on more. These days, we are very domesticated, the 2 kids, nice house in the 'burbs, white picket fence, the whole deal. But back in the day my wife was a little slut and I dig it.
You remind me of a Cypress Hill song... You like how she lied to you about her sexual exploits? What was her reasoning? Shame? Fear of repelling you, probably out of experience? Oh and downplaying blowjobs as if they were no sexual act is only funny in "Clerks". Either you are trying to be funny with this topic, or you are somewhat funny, but not in the good way. PS: If she craves cock so much, you should seriously remind yourself that people don't change. They never ever change. Trust me and Donald Trump on that. Once a cocksucker always a cocksucker.
I strongly disagree with the last poster. Many people have sex before marriage and it does not make them an unfaithful spouse. A lot of women have been burned by the question how many guys have you been with before and double standards about how many is too many. A sure sign of insecurity is when a guy asks that question early in a relationship. Your spouse is not the first or last to provide a low end estimate. The fact that she is now being more open seems to me to indicate and open and trusting relationship. The first posters response seems to indicate a lack of both. As for your being turned on by these stories that is probably not something that turns on most guys but there are a significant number of guys out there that are either turned on or not turned off by their wives history. It has been a turn on for me lately but it really does not mean much. We have been married for 20 years, she's not sleeping with anyone else, and were not going to start an open lifestyle. It's just a short term turn on keeping things fresh over the long haul. In my case the only problem is that her history is pretty damn boring.
It's a psychosis, no doubt about it. And I know from where you speak. The truth does matter, no matter how inconvenient it might be. Until you're satisfied that you've ascertained it, everything else is just a fantasy -- and fantasies need an upgrade after awhile. I've been able to concoct a sort of human alchemy to cope with my girlfriend's other loves -- particularly the ones that occur simultaneous to our own (she's determinedly polyamourous; I was at the beginning of our relationship but much less so now.) So she constructs a wall and little by little I chip away until a brick falls out. Then we fuck. And it's the most erotic situation I've ever found myself in. Everything else about the relationship is hunky dory. Perhaps that's what scares me. I always need tension to thrive . . . an abyss to be standing over. If there was no such threat, I'd probably get very complacent and not be a very good boyfriend. So, yes, I can vouch that there is a personality type that welcomes this sort of pain and is able to transform it into intense erotic pleasure.
Wow, you are quite the glass is half full type arencha Drom. You must have been burned bad or something-that's all I can assume. Back in the day, I poked just about anything warm and wet... yet now I'm a monogamy man... People CAN change, and marriage does that to a lot of us who have principles. On the other hand, if you're talking a history of cheating... well that's different... I still wouldn't say "once a cheater, always a cheater..." But I would say "Once a cheater... why risk it?" Lighten up eh?
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Posted - Apr 6 2010 : 8:27PM
You didn't mention whether any of your 2 kids were girls. If so, what would you and your wife think of a teenage female offspring sharpening her oral skills on the school bus ride home?
That would probably turn me on too. However, I also like knowing that my wife was uptight about sex before she met me because nobody else ever made her orgasm. Now we get to explore her kinky/slutty side together through dirty talk.
Isn't it common knowledge that men want their wife to be a whore in bed and a saint in all other aspects of life?
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Posted - Apr 15 2010 : 8:56PM
I'm pretty much just like you bootyman. My ex-wife was just like that. She also agreed to treat me as a cuck. We had a black bull fuck her Jewish pussy with a big uncircumcised black cock. I felt so inferior which was sexually pleasant to be honest. I love being humiliated.
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Mostly I've found that past romantic partners don't have much of an appetite to learn of my previous affairs. Current girl is interested in seduction techniques I've used, but that's where her curiosity ends.
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Posted - Apr 17 2010 : 8:10PM
I have never been interested in past lovers of any of the women that I have dated. For some reason they have seemed to compelled to talk about them though.
She did what most people would do. You were still early in your dating cycle and she probably liked you a lot at that point and did not want to scare you off with a big number so she lied. Then there was no point in going back and telling the truth and risking having you go ballistic. You enjoy it now but woudl you have enjoyed it if she had told you she sucked a hundred cocks before she met you?
I do like to know what my partners past is and would always ask, and in response would give an honest answer always have. However if any skeletons come flying out the cupboard after the clear the air conversation has taken place than for me big issues would arise, the likely hood would be curtains as a trust issue for me has been broken. But as for turning me on by her past exploits you have got to be kiddin, knowing how other guys have wangled their dongle up in her pussy and maybe her ass is a total turn off. It's like yeah I know she is good in bed but don't want to know the details of how this came to be, or rather she is only like this because she is totally into me and could not have possibly been like this with anyone else. Don't know why I feel this way just the way I'm wired I guess or that male dominant gene kicks in, something like that.
you don't think it's unfair to you that she had sexual encounters with 100 guys and you had only had sexual encounters with about 5 - 7 girls in your whole life? I would feel left out/cheated off on because I got so much less out of life than my wife (if me and you changed bodies/lifes). I don't care if a girl says "most of them were just blow jobs." They wouldn't be "just" blow jobs to me. I can't really explain it, but I guess you'd have to go through it or feel it for yourself to understand what I mean by that.
I feel the same way about my girlfriend. When we first started dating - 4 years ago - she admitted to being aroused by other women. At the time, when we were just getting to know one another inside and outside the bedroom, i didnt feel comfortable enough in the relationship to want to explore that with her. Well here we are years later and the sex has become quite routine and infrequent as a result. She turns me on and I enjoy making love with her, but its not nearly as hot and exciting as it was. I cant help but have thoughts about other women and now wishing she would want to explore her past fantasies. I've asked her a number of times over the years about it, and she says "That was a just a phase." I wonder if this is because i reacted poorly to that idea when she first admitted it in the beginning of our relationship, or if indeed her interest in other girls has passed. Is that possible? Can people stop being turned on by something they used to like? She told me she's made out and felt up a girlfriend of hers on a number of occasions. I so badly would love to have the friend join us in the bedroom. If only just to watch them make out and rub each other's boobs. But alas, i fear that will never happen as my girlfriend now chooses to either hide or dismiss those past feelings. We did watch some porn about 6 months ago. There was a scene with 2 girls eating each other out. I reached over to touch my girlfriend and she was wetter than I've ever felt her be. It was hot. I hope that someday she chooses to explore this deep hidden desire.
