You originally posted in the Swinging and Threesomes topic. Go back and read the posts carefully, then follow the links to sexuality.org and read those two articles carefully. A lot of your questions will be answered. Follow the links in sexuality.org for directories on swing clubs and look at websites for different clubs. You should also look at swingers personal ads, in both online directories and in print.
Swinging is very much a couples culture. Your best bet as a single male is to find a partner who is interested in attending swing events with you. Some clubs do allow single females and select single males. Your attitude and motivation for swinging will determine your ability to attend a swing party as a single. Even if you do attend, there is no guarantee that you are going to get lucky. Swinging requires a good deal of interpersonal skill and respect for others. It is not likely to be the free for all orgy of your fantasies. I am not aware of any swing clubs that sponsor bukkake events.
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