The sex that I have with my girlfriend has been getting worse and worse. She doesn't seem to get arouse as much anymore and even then, her nipples are extremely sensitive. I can't arouse her by playing with her nipples or even suck it. She claims that it's extremely sensitive. It's been like this for the past two months. She is stressed from work and I am trying to reason with myself that it's probably more psychological than anything, but I don't know of any solutions. Have anyone here experienced this before? If so, any advice on what to do get my sex life going again?
You might just have to leave her alone for awhile until she works it out. Listen, I've been there. I mean there have been times in my life when I'd rather my husband not even look at me let alone touch me. It could be from anything such as stress to hormone changes (that women constantly go through). You are certain she's not pregnant? If it's stress you'll only make it worse by pressuring you because then she'll feel like you could care less about her feelings, her stress, ect. One thing that was always nice was when hubby would do something for me with no sexual strings attached. Like a body massage for example. I didn't always mind him touching me but I hated it when I felt like I had to put out when I didn't want to. So if he did something like rub my back for awhile or put me to sleep with a foot massage then I felt like he really cared and wasn't just trying to get laid.
lol, I just realized I misspelled nipple! Anyways, can this actually last for months? I've spent some time Googling up this matter and there doesn't seem to be any solution. She suggested we go and get some lubrications, but that doesn't do anything for her ultra sensitive nipples.
As far as I know, she's not on any kind of medication. I live with her and unless she's doing it in the washroom, then I can say with a reasonable degree of accuracy that she's not on any kind of medication. Are you also suggesting that we just stop having sex until her nipples are fine? If not, then how can I arouse her without touching her nipples? Would you recommend just a vibrator?
Why can't you be my girlfriend? I love playing with her breasts and we never had this problem before. The fact of the matter is that it's sensitive in a bad way. She said it hurts her when I touch her nipples. Even if I put my palm on her breasts, she claims that it's not comfortable. This is driving me crazy because we haven't had any good sex in months.
What I'm saying is, if she wants to be left alone leave her alone. If she's not in the mood, she's not in the mood. As far as the sensitivity goes, if she's willing to have sex with you but her nipples are too sensitive then just leave them alone. Let her keep her shirt on or whatever to make her comfortable. Having a partner that complains or whines about what they're not getting is very irritating when it's caused by something out of your control. Think about if the shoe were on the other foot. She's your partner, you live with her, you obviously care for her. So if she's not feeling realy horny for a spell let it go. If her nipples are sore, leave them alone!
If you don't have kids involved just leave her and find someone you are more sexually compatible with. If there is kids involved give her a little time and if that doesn't fix it just fuck around on the side without her EVER finding out.
Based on my experience, sometimes they're too sensitive at the start of sex, but as she gets turned on, the sensitivity starts to work for you. Don't give up too soon. Start with foreplay but avoid her nipples. Then as she gets turned on and into the sex, start slowly with some light touch, then as they warm up, they can become keys to her BIG-O! Good luck.
You make it seem like as if I'm the villain here. I'm not the one that always ask for sex, she does as well. It's just that I can't think of anything else to turn her on and if her breasts are off limit, then it's just her pussy left.
Another thing is that sensitivity changes during the monthly cycle. Take a look at your timing and see if maybe it coordinates with that. The other possibilility is a hormornal change. If she is experiencing other symptoms besides this she should visit her gynecologist.
OK, I'm confused. If your girlfriend is asking for sex then what's all this about turning her on? She's already on or she wouldn't want sex to begin with. Second, I've never met a woman yet who could only be stimulated by breast play or intercourse. Surely your girl has other erogenous zones you can find.
You know, when I had the same problem my husband kept messing with my nipples. I told him to leave them alone or I would twist his nuts. That was the last time he ignored my wishes in bed.
