One of the best of these scenes I saw was back in the early 90's involved a girl who caught her boyfriend getting deep throated by a hooker. So she insists that he let her try it on him as well. But she's ultra-insecure during the session, softly gags herself on his cock while attempting to throat him, keeps pleading with him to not leave her and that she can perform just as good as the hooker did, etc. Real "insecure roleplay" thing going on. It was submissive, not at all a grudgefuck kind of thing and hot as hell.
I wish I could recall the exact movie but I'm almost positive I saw it on a freebie compilation tape I got with a purchase. Or maybe on one of the early porn satellite channels. I've been looking for it for years and never found it again. I think the woman was Eurasian looking and looked a lot like Jennifer Love Hewitt (who didn't show up for another decade or so later).
Sorry, but I feel your pain. Such scenes are hot and rare.
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