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Posted - Feb 28 2022 : 3:02AM
So, For all the people here in a relationship or married. How do you feel about open relationships, swinging, and polyamory? Are you in one or have been in an open or polyamorous relationship? What about swinging, have been to a swingers club or party?
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ODriscoll81 Deactivated User
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Posted - Mar 3 2022 : 5:20PM
My wife started our relationship pretty usual. But when at parties or when we were going out, we both got attention from other people. At one time we started discussing an open relationship and after a while we decided that it was ok for both of us. I didn't want to know the adventures she had with other men, and only when we had safe sex and only for lust.
As my wife is bisexual, she became more and more interested in the woman I had sex with. After some time she asked me if I was ok with a threesome with her and one of these girls. And so it happened. We both really liked that. And from that moment on we had more threesomes than individual sex outside our relationship. After several years she had a bad experience with a guy and we decided to end our open relationship. We learned a lot from other people and that took our own relationship to another level, but we are both good with it now. Several weeks ago we had an unplanned threesome with another woman in over 2 years. It was fun, but we decided not to go into that open relationship status again.
Never been to a swingers party or club.
It might sound weird, but that open relationship period made us grow more to each other. Really had some fun nights, but I was always happy when I came back to my wife. I can also imagine that it gets easily pretty complicated because you really have to stick to the rules you both make. We're almost 8 years together, so it can work :-)
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Posted - Mar 13 2022 : 6:48PM
Cool, The wife and I have somewhat always been open in our relationship. We first started to go to swinger clubs and meet&greets that somewhat failed. We both thought the club scene was too impersonal and just about fucking. You never really get to know the person. Then we tried fucking around with some friends we knew that was looking to have a foursome, which turned into drama. Then we meet a couple at an SM club that was poly and start to play with them but I think we had too many rules for them. And we never fully swapped, my wife was really into the woman but wasn't that interested in sleeping with the guy. So, it was mostly the women fucking around and we watch. I never really had a problem with her being with other guys and I told her she could find another guy but I think she has no interest in fucking another guy. We now have totally opened up the relationship are fully poly now. She has a girlfriend in another city that she sees once a month and we're all friends. Also, before my wife, I used to go to swinger clubs and set up gangbangs for a couple. The wife was a hotwife that was really into the whole BBC thing. I met my best friend from them gangbangs.
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goofy Deactivated User
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Posted - Mar 16 2022 : 3:15AM
In theory, it probably sounds great, but I'm guessing in reality, it doesn't work.
I like porn and the Golden Age of Porn 1947 Posts 9/21
Posted - Mar 16 2022 : 9:07AM
It worked for us
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ODriscoll81 Deactivated User
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Posted - Mar 17 2022 : 5:01PM
It depends on the way you experience sex. Most of the people will see sex and making love as one thing. We learned to experience that we could have sex with someone else, without having emotional feelings for them. And yes, it was a shot in the dark the first time we decided to accept both of us having sex with someone else. But as I said, it also made me more appriciate the things we had together.
When we got into a relationship, we were both 25 years old. My wife looks very good and gets attention from a lot of guys. When you're 25 years old, you are not finished with exploring. So why should I keep her in a cage, only because that would give me the false idea that she wouldn't look at other guys? She would run one day anyway. And the other way around for me of course (besides that I definitely draw a little less attention from other women :-) )
But like everything related to sex, communication is key. And don't do anything you don't like!
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Laura_ Deactivated User
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Posted - Mar 18 2022 : 10:03AM
Swinging has for years been something that has gnawed away at me and something I have fantasised about on many occasion. I have toyed with the idea of living this lifestyle and finding a suitable partner, male or female who could facilitate it and actively participate. Admittedly though I have never taken it beyond a fantasy as not sure if I could deal with the reality of it and the impact it would have on my relationship.
I do admire people who live this lifestyle and even respect those who participate in the UKs seedier cousin, dogging. From what I have read about it and from the few I have spoken to who have indulged in it, it's great fun just as long as you take it for what it is, consensual sex with randoms and nothing too serious.
I have has a semi open relationship in the past where me and my partner went away separately with friends on holidays where there was a mutual agreement that while we we away we could sleep with who we wanted, just as long as it was protected. Suffice to say we both capitalised on the arrangement and both got off listening to each others exploits. It was fun while it lasted but the relationship ended, for non related reasons.
I'm settled in a relationship now so have no desire to make that one even semi open.
We are looking into swinging and inviting other people to join us for sex. It is good for our sex life, gives us some freedom. But we would bever have sex with another person without both of us being present.
Interesting topic! I think it really comes down to communication, trust, and what works for each couple. Personally, I've always preferred monogamy, but I can respect people who make other dynamics work. It's great when folks can be honest about their needs and boundaries.
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with a open relationship you have to enjoy life and have fun as long as your careful and both know what your getting into
On a fun note I dated a lady initially as open relationship. She soon disclosed she was also an escort part time. I loved that. Exciting to meet her knowing she had just met a client or two. It was a huge turn on for me. She later introduced me to a couple of her work colleagues and arranged a few threesomes for me. She never disclosed client details but I did hear the occasional story .. You know generic details .. the noisy cumer , big cocks , small cocks , unusual requests
We went separate ways eventually but I developed great respect for escorts or sex workers .
I would happy date a sex worker of any kind if I met one with mutual attraction.
That is to never do anything without the other persons approval. When we go to a club to find a extra guy or search for one both need to approve of him even though she is the only one who will have sex with him. Also we have a 100% hetero/straight sexual, no gay or bisexual stuff.
Been with my gf since 2012. Always had a pretty much vanilla relationship.
Few years ago, our sex life needed to reboot after kids Etc. asked her if she wanted to try a swingerclub, and we did. Like first 2-3 times was pretty much just talking and drinking few beers.
Now we visit like 1-2 times a month, and both pretty much open minded.
My girlfriend is free to do whatever she wants. She doesn't have to tell me about it - though I wouldn't say no if she did share the details or wanted me to be there. She hasn't wanted that yet, though. She has a particularly strong need to have a cock in her mouth, and sometimes I'm just not around. I simply want her to be able to satisfy that need. And yes, she doesn't always want just me; she wants to fuck other men, too. For me, that's not just perfectly fine; above all, I find it deeply fulfilling to know - and vividly imagine - her freely enjoying her life, even when I'm not there. It gives me more zest for life, strength, and self-confidence, too. And when we reunite and she radiates such a vibrant joy for life, there's nothing better for me. She asks, "Why should your partner be the only one to satisfy you sexually?" So, she lets me do whatever I want, too. And the best part about it isn't actually the fucking other people - it's the fact that I'm allowed to: the feeling that she grants me absolute freedom, that I am truly, completely free with her.
