I need some advice on how to get my wife to try oral sex both recieving and giving she doesn't want anything to do with this and all i can think of is her sucking my **** i want to stimulate her also this way please any advice on how to go about it........
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Posted - Apr 16 2001 : 1:01AM
First..please be very generous. Be caring for the most part. If you force, you would not get.
If you force, and you do get, what is the point? Is it going to be good? Chances are, she won't be into it.
My wife does not like giving me oral sex. And no anal sex for me either. Truth is, I can live with it. Why? Most of her qualities drowns my sexual desires I want to do with her. The fact that she can cook, wash my clothes, love me and be faithful, and let's me ram her hard in doggy that alone lets me back off and not discuss it for another year.
I believe, that if you go out of your way, and act really nice to her, and be very caring, and love her, it's possible eventually she might open up. Asking her nicely, and a nice conversation; can lead to the entry much quicker. Expressing anger, and being upset makes your chances slimmer.
First thanks for the advice i would never force her to do anything but your right i guess thats why they call them fantasy's huh o well maybe she will one day thanks again..
Before I type a bunch about performing oral sex on women, one quick question: does she let you touch her clit and finger her or is that an off-limits activity as well?
I've never met a women that didn't like oral sex. The one's that claimed they didn't like it discovered that it was wonderful when performed properly.
The key to the whole thing is for her to realize that you want to help make her feel good. Many women prefer oral sex to intercourse.
If she would let you perform oral on her, without expectation of reciprocation, would she consent to that? Which is the biggest turn-off for her? Unless you have reason to believe that she will change her mind about this, it would be easier for you to work on getting the idea of her sucking your **** out of your mind (at least for now), 'cause it doesn't sound like that's gonna happen realistically. There are various products out there that claim to turn your **** into a tasty lollipop that women can't resist, blah blah, but don't waste your money.....DB
Sonic, does this come up for discussion yearly? Kinda like a parole hearing? Good luck on early release!
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Posted - Apr 16 2001 : 8:43PM
Yup.
What upsets me is that she has a bodacious ass, but what is the point? What a waste of ass! That is what I tell her, that what is the point of her having a bubble butt when she can't let me penetrate it and do my construction work.
But..I tell her this joking around. Then I bring it up the next year later. So far, it's been only one year I waited. The next approach is Novemember.
blackhawks70, you need to find out why she is not interested.
Is she insecure about it? Does she feel it's "dirty or wrong"? I could not relax enough to let anyone go down on me before I met Saki, but with time, patience and a lot of reassurance, now I beg him to. lol
So talk to her, intimate conversations can be embarressing and difficult at first, but they are incredibly healthy and that closeness can lend itself to other areas of your relationship as well.
She will let me rub her clit and finger her, she just doesn't like oral i don't know she has never had oral so how does she know she doesn't like it. Its not so much that i want oral its that i want to perform it on her i mean don't get me wrong i want her to suck my **** really bad but would rather have here going nuts because of me giving her oral!!!! What to do
Hey,Lunacy i think she feels its wrong i am not to sure she was one of those girls when i meet her really didn't know much about sex at all we have been married 7 yrs now and still no luck i will try talking to hetr though that sounds like good advice.. Thanks !!!! :)
If she enjoys your fingers, maybe try waking her up with oral. If she still doesn't go for it, you can at least move on with other fun stuff. Good luck!
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Posted - Apr 18 2001 : 10:17PM
Damn that is a pretty long time of asking for it hunh?
blackhawks70
What is your approach? Something is wrong in that aspect. The fact that you been trying for 7 years and failure.
Do you have it more worse than I???
I mean, check this out:
My wife, okay here goes.
My wife is a Jehova Witness. Yes. Personally I don't catergorzie myself as religious individual as I sometimes have trouble searching for "the one". Sometimes I believe sometimes I don't. But there is so much stuff out in the world that at times it seem miraculous and I believe it was not created on it's own, but that is a different story.
blackhawks70...my wife never knew what the heck doggystyle was! When I told her to bend over, she was like "huh?? What?" and when I did it, she couldn't believe how she knew not of a postion like that one and it's existence.
My wife to date has a hard time looking at me straight face while she is riding me. But when she rides me and her butt is facing me, she takes over like..like..I don't know what you may call it! I know she goes all out!
My wife is shy about things. She is insecure about her weight, about her body. There are times I sink my whole jaw in her butt and just well, breathe in, and she panics thinking she smells.
I had it rough too, but I recall the moments passionately making out with her and telling her deep from my heart to please let me try this or that. She let me try anal sex, but I did it all wrong. I had no idea. I can't believe porn showed me how to do anal the proper way. For good reason perhaps I might not get anal ever from her, I mean, it's painful if done the wrong way, but I fully understand if she says no. That is okay, I can live without anal.
But she doesn't like pleasuring my penis orally either, unless I approach her and place some passionate focus on her, and tell her nicely that I would like this type of technique done on me.
If the time is not passionate, and I feel just like fucking hard, and I ask for head pleasure, I never get it that way.
As far as me giving oral sex to her, it seems I get it almost anytime I want. Once in a blue moon she doesn't want to.
But I gotta admit, I brought out the beast in her!
I am positive, if I place emphasize on anal sex, that I would have my way, but somehow I am too caring at this point and don't want to pressure her. Asking her all the time can be fatiguing, and I hate being ignored. I rather ask her when there is a good day you can feel that she is so into you and is putting a whole lot of attention at you.
I wanted to say thanks for all of the great advice i am going to soak it all in and take it very slow i am not going to get upset about it anymore i love my wife dearly and don't want to hurt her in anyway maybe one day it will happen if not i think i can get through it. And Sonic don't take this the wrong way but i feel better that i am not the only guy in the USA that has this problem thanks for taking the time to give advice to a newbie i love this forum. and i will be here awhile with friends like you guys...
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Posted - Apr 19 2001 : 12:01AM
blackhawks70
We all got our problems. What is great about this Earth is the fact that not only are we different, but we have a different story to tell. That is what's cool about humans. There's millions, but each are unique.
Also..blackhawks70..in this great website, we don't act stupid or fool around or give answers that hurt's people's feelings. You got here a good talented cast of member's, then you got a few porn stars that post, who are some of the most nicest people I ever shared posts and replies with.
I don't see you as a newbie. Heck, I am a newbie at times when I learn stuff day by day.
You know blackhawks70, that is the first time I hear "newbie" at adultdvdtalk!
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Posted - Apr 19 2001 : 12:18PM
hi blackhawks
one of my friend's mom's married a catholic guy who thought oral sex was wrong (scary that my friend even knew this about his mom :) my friend got his mom an educational sex video all about oral sex. it took his mom a while to convince her husband to watch it, but eventually they did, and eventually he got more comfortable with the idea of oral sex.
talking is the first step, but maybe a video could also help? seeing is believing :)
