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Lloyd Christmas
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Posted - Nov 4 2018 : 7:28PM
I've had 3 sexual partners and usually at the beginning of the relationship, I have some trouble keeping it up when it comes time to get the condom on and take care of business. I have perhaps some anxiety over performing for the first time, but I also fear that watching porn doens't help matters.
Has anybody else experienced performance issues and overcome them? Any tips?
Thanks!

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realphatasslover
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183 Posts
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Posted - Jun 26 2019 : 6:19PM
It's porn bro. Stop watching it and your dick will be harder. Easier said than done I know. Imagine not being able to fuck hot girls in real life cause you watch to much porn! Been there too many times. Damn
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AngryPirate
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Posted - Jun 28 2019 : 3:17PM
^ To suggest porn is the culprit in such a black and white way is poor advice to impart especially as I presume you speak solely from your experience.

If it's only the start of the relationship, then it can definitely be due to performance anxiety, which can manifest in many ways and abstaining from porn doesn't necessarily solve it.

I've been there with a little anxiety at the start of relationships and I didn't watch porn out of a naive feeling of being loyal.

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Hardware All-Star Supporter
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Posted - Jun 28 2019 : 9:22PM
First, porn is only an issue if you think that it is your guide. It isn't. Your partner is your guide.

Second, get over this "performance" mindset. Your partner is not your audience, she's your partner, so lighten up. Goof around, laugh out loud.

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AngryPirate
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Posted - Jun 29 2019 : 3:42AM
^ I can't say I agree with that vague rhetoric "she's your partner" because it apparently suggests all your partners have the same mindset and behaviours. Some are easygoing and happy to goof around, those who like it all romantic, you've got those who have high expectations, sometimes beyond their own example and plenty of others where goofing around won't be appreciated.
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Rivet80
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19 Posts
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Posted - Jul 2 2019 : 9:15AM
I do not think porn is the issue either, unless it starts to be the only way you can get off? But you could try to limit the watching and over all jerking off less. Makes you hornier when time comes :)

I have experienced what you have though, mostly in the begining of a relationship. But notice it solved itself if I talk about it with my partner. It can feel weird, but I always got good respons and it also seem to take the edge of the whole situation so we both can be more comfortable and then everything progressed from there. Just say you are a little nervous, it at least helped me.

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Zingerbrook
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580 Posts
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Posted - Jul 24 2019 : 8:02PM
Porn has nothing to do with it, per the previous responses. My two cents is that it's normal for things to be a little different at the start of a relationship. Personally, I tend to cum sooner than normal at that start, like with a chick I dig and we've been going out a few times. Just say so, to her and make fun of yourself. Shows confidence.
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Posted - Jul 24 2019 : 10:43PM
Only if you ignore me saying that your partner is your guide.
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