Porn fucked up my libido, help?

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Dirtyhabit Member 145 Posts 8/09	Posted - Jul 11 2011 : 2:12AM I used to be able to get erections just from seeing a girl naked. Hell, even just from imagining a girl naked. Now I need to watch hardcore fetish porn to get hard. I've been single for a while, have confidence issues, which is why I've had so much time for porn. I chronically masturbated pretty bad this past year and I think it's screwed up my libido. I just got into a relationship and I'm afraid when the time comes, I'm not gonna be able to get it up. I'm 20 years old, I feel I'm too young to be having ED... is there any way to get back to normal? I've tried avoiding porn, I only masturbated once this past week which is huge compared to the 3-4 times a day I was doing for a while. Edited by - dirtyhabit on Jul 11 2011 [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 11 2011 : 11:08AM Relax, unless you have some underlying physical malady exercise and abstention will get your sex drive going again. [Link]
Dirtyhabit Member 145 Posts 8/09	Posted - Jul 11 2011 : 11:47PM How long you reckon this will take, she's commin on to me fast and I dunno how long I can hold her off. ah, how can I possibly tell her that it's because of porn? Edited by - dirtyhabit on 7/11/2011 11:48:54 PM [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Jul 11 2011 : 11:56PM You do realize that having sex with a real woman is going to have a different effect on you than porn does anyway right? I'm thinkin you should just relax and let things happen naturally. It maay not be as bad as you think. [Link]
Dubious_Leftovers Senior Member And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me... 1423 Posts 3/09	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 6:30AM It's just imagery de-sensitisation. It's getting used to something. As SexShopGrl says it's nothing like the experience of real sex with a woman. Also if you didn't get used to anything sexually, you'd end up a terrible lover, cumming instantly the second you saw the merest hint of bare flesh. A perpetual case case of every sexual experience being as awkward as your first. Not recommended for the long term. [Link]

SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 9:24AM We ladies refer to guys like that as the Minute Men. And I'm not talking about the mightnight ride of Paul Revere either. [Link]
Dirtyhabit Member 145 Posts 8/09	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 10:28AM I'm worried because when we first made out I didn't even get hard. I get the "tingle in my pants" (haha I don't know how else to describe it) but I'm still soft. Even fantasizing about woman, I get the tingle but nothing. I used to get hard from that stuff. I'd rather be a minute man than one who can't even get hard [Link]
Cody McLarge Senior Member 2668 Posts 8/10	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 4:41PM I've had that problem. Once, I had a girl stay overnight and then fucked with my morning wood. Then I remembered the 'ole "go to the bathroom and fantasize about porn girls" trick. Or you could try drugs. [Link]
stinkfist Senior Member Subterfuge...... 7401 Posts 4/07	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 6:35PM Dirtyhabit wrote: I'm worried because when we first made out I didn't even get hard. I get the "tingle in my pants" (haha I don't know how else to describe it) but I'm still soft. Even fantasizing about woman, I get the tingle but nothing. I used to get hard from that stuff. I'd rather be a minute man than one who can't even get hard Click to expand The more you worry about performance etc the worse it will get,i have been there and used to suffer terribly from nerves/anxiety instead of enjoying the moment.I was more wound up with the "will i be able to do this/that,is the girl enjoying herself etc" and it all adds up to a tense time when really you should be relaxed and things will happen naturally. [Link]
David Cop-a-feel Deactivated User Trust me, honey, it gets better 323 Posts 10/10	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 6:47PM If you want to fuck her but aren't quite hard yet you can rub your dick against her clit and pussy lips and you'll be stiff as a plank in no time. If her juices are already flowing it's wonderfully pleasurable to feel her wet lips against the underside of your dick plus it's a nice bit of teasing foreplay that'll make her hot with anticipation. Everyone wins! [Link]
stinkfist Senior Member Subterfuge...... 7401 Posts 4/07	Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 7:39PM David Cop-a-feel wrote: If you want to fuck her but aren't quite hard yet you can rub your dick against her clit and pussy lips and you'll be stiff as a plank in no time. If her juices are already flowing it's wonderfully pleasurable to feel her wet lips against the underside of your dick plus it's a nice bit of teasing foreplay that'll make her hot with anticipation. Everyone wins! Click to expand Yes if he keels over with a heart attack lol. [Link]
David Cop-a-feel Deactivated User Trust me, honey, it gets better 323 Posts 10/10	Posted - Jul 13 2011 : 8:03PM ^ He's only 20 so he should be safe. For clarity sake lets change it to the old "hard-as-a-rock." Edited by - David Cop-a-feel on 7/13/2011 8:07:16 PM [Link]
BustdownGal Member 539 Posts 7/06	Posted - Jul 13 2011 : 11:42PM You don't have to worry about your dick getting hard if your mouth is on that pussy. Do work homie. [Link]
David Cop-a-feel Deactivated User Trust me, honey, it gets better 323 Posts 10/10	Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 5:51PM BustdownGal wrote: You don't have to worry about your dick getting hard if your mouth is on that pussy. Do work homie. Click to expand One assumes he would have covered that already. [Link]
BustdownGal Member 539 Posts 7/06	Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 7:33PM no fucking way is that a good assumption. young dudes are NOTORIOUS for not pleasuring the pussy. [Link]

SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 7:50PM ^ Yeah really! They usually want their dicks sucked all day long but try and get one of them to lick a stamp. [Link]
Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01	Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 9:44PM I guess I've known a different kind of guy. I can't think of a single man I've ever known, even professionally, that didn't want to lick my pussy. [Link]
celluloidferox Senior Member @EmperorCorndog 1438 Posts 1/10	Posted - Jul 14 2011 : 11:22PM I would like to state for the record that I'm a younger guy (24) and I would dine on poontang all-day if I ever get the chance. I might not be any good at it yet, but I learned a lot from Nina Hartley's published sex tips that I'm dying to try out. Just waiting for the chance Edited by - celluloidferox on 7/14/2011 11:23:58 PM [Link]
Cody McLarge Senior Member 2668 Posts 8/10	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 12:52AM I too would like to point out that I am under 30 and I enjoy munching muff as much if not more than getting head. [Link]
HeyNow Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 2:24AM I suppose I should mention that I like having a pussy in my face. I take a vibrator to it though. 69 position. To Dirtyhabit, I'm sure you'll get as hard as a rock (or hard enough to cut diamonds like they like to say) once she gets close to it. Or tempts you with a hand on your thigh. Climb into bed and sex is imminent? Boing! [Link]
BustdownGal Member 539 Posts 7/06	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 12:33PM sorry old guys: young dudes = 21 and under Teen het girls report over and over and over that dudes ask them for oral and then don't reciprocate. That was definitely my teen experience until I started MAKING dudes zerbert my Xena. [Link]
Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 12:46PM HeyNow wrote: I suppose I should mention that I like having a pussy in my face. Click to expand Even at THAT time of the month? [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 1:15PM BustdownGal wrote: sorry old guys: young dudes = 21 and under Teen het girls report over and over and over that dudes ask them for oral and then don't reciprocate. That was definitely my teen experience until I started MAKING dudes zerbert my Xena. Click to expand ^this!!!! It wasnt until I was 22 dating a 40 year old that I strarted getting oralized on a regular basis. [Link]
Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 3:23PM I repeat, I have not known (intimately) a man (even those under 21) that didn't want to lick my pussy. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Jul 15 2011 : 4:42PM The Power of Kimi Lixx' Pussy Commands You! Has a nice ring to it, wouldn't you say? [Link]

cross Senior Member I Love Beef Curtains! 1072 Posts 6/05	Posted - Jul 16 2011 : 1:55AM You just need to relax man. I was worried about the same things before I got into my last relationship. I like porn and I don't care who knows it, something about a beautiful girl getting fucked really does it for me, and no shit, it taught me a lot about how to get a girl off, especially eating pussy. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is NOTHING compares to being inside a woman and when you don't have a lady to please jerking off totally sucks. Ween yourself off the chronic masturbation, trust me it's not that hard. Keep to what you're doing, once a week. Avoid the porn and relax [Link]
skrilla62 Member 32 Posts 11/10	Posted - Jul 16 2011 : 4:55AM l sorta feel your pain. At times l find myself wishing l was watching porn & masterbating as opposed to engaging in sexual activity with my girl (of whom is very horny & a pleasure to be with). But l still; at times find myself (sexually speaking) wishing l was either: home alone or at the local Romantix as opposed to actually having great sex with a remarkable girl... [Link]
celluloidferox Senior Member @EmperorCorndog 1438 Posts 1/10	Posted - Jul 16 2011 : 5:45AM BustdownGal wrote: sorry old guys: young dudes = 21 and under Click to expand 21 and under = boys/children Edited by - celluloidferox on 7/16/2011 5:45:35 AM [Link]
Dirtyhabit Member 145 Posts 8/09	Posted - Jul 19 2011 : 3:10AM I haven't looked at porn in a couple days, and only twice these past 2 weeks. My morning wood has been getting a lot harder, but at other times of the day I still have problems. Today I was able to get it hard from thinking about her, but I can't maintain it yet Well we went down on each other today... just making out and it got out of control. I was initially hard just from her rubbing my leg while we were cuddling at the TV but I got soft while giving her oral! She went to go down on me and I couldn't get it up gahh. She didn't care, I told her I was nervous... we were on a time constraint and had to end it prematurely anyways. She seems nymphoish though I need more time! I'm thinking maybe I should tell her about the fact that I chronically masturbated and it's fucked me up, but I dunno how she'd react to that haha Edited by - dirtyhabit on 7/19/2011 3:13:32 AM [Link]
Cody McLarge Senior Member 2668 Posts 8/10	Posted - Jul 19 2011 : 3:14AM ^Are you me? Stop thinking about it and get lost in what you're doing. Explore one another. You might be surprised what turns you on. [Link]
cross Senior Member I Love Beef Curtains! 1072 Posts 6/05	Posted - Jul 19 2011 : 3:27AM Dude, you're nervous plain and simple. Stop thinking about it so much. When me and my last girlfriend first started dating just being around her gave me a massive boner and half the time I thought I was going to cum in my pants. Girls in a new relationship would be expecting a guy to be nervous, its a good thing because it re-assures them that you're not a man-whore and full of VD. Keep at it with regard to not looking at porn, but don't starve yourself from a wank, guys need to release. DO NOT tell her you're an ex-chronic wanker it won't go down well, you know that. You think she's a nympho? Good, don't scare her off, just imagine all the freaky shit you two are going to get up to. When it's right it's right [Link]
cross Senior Member I Love Beef Curtains! 1072 Posts 6/05	Posted - Jul 26 2011 : 12:52AM Any chance of a progress report? [Link]
Dirtyhabit Member 145 Posts 8/09	Posted - Jul 26 2011 : 3:02PM Yeah, every day I go without masturbating and porn I feel it's that much easier for me to get an erection. We had sex for the first time the other night and it was amazing. I was only able to get about 3/4 of an erection, enough to fuck her but I did have problems with it popping out or getting bent if she tried to stick it in herself. We went for about 2 hours and were so sweaty by the time we were done, ha. I wasn't able to cum, but she complimented me on how long I last. I'm at the point where I can get it up by thinking about her now. We did this thing where she was on top and I was on bottom, I did reach around and stick my index and middle fingers in her and my thumb in her butt while sucking on her nipple and she got really wet and told me to keep doing it, I just think of that. I've just been telling her I have anxiety issues for why I'm not fully hard and cumming, so far she's going for it. It gets better every time I do this so it's working fine. I think next time I'll be able to be fully hard, which is planned for tonight ha. I'm a bit worried because the next day she said she was really sore and her insides hurt. We were both virgins, I dunno if that has anything to do with it, like me being too rough or if her coochie just isn't used to it. She's the type of person that won't tell me when she's uncomfortable because she's so obsessed with pleasing me, she barley told me that and said she didn't want me to feel bad. She's really self conscious too and always thinks I'm judging her, so I dunno if she really enjoyed it as much as she says she did or if she's just saying it to make me happy. She said ouch once or twice and I eased up, so I don't think she's holding back THAT much, but still. Edited by - dirtyhabit on 7/26/2011 3:13:26 PM [Link]
Cody McLarge Senior Member 2668 Posts 8/10	Posted - Jul 26 2011 : 4:27PM Yeah, the virginity thing probably has something to do with it. Nice going, man. I know for me, the compliments, etc. paid off. When you get more comfortable and less nervous, things should start working as they're supposed to. [Link]
cross Senior Member I Love Beef Curtains! 1072 Posts 6/05	Posted - Jul 27 2011 : 10:23PM Good news man, as above, her being a virgin would explain the soreness. Her body will get used to it. About her thinking you're judging her, that's normal, all girls do it. Just compliment her and make her feel as comfortable with herself as possible. [Link]

David Cop-a-feel Deactivated User Trust me, honey, it gets better 323 Posts 10/10	Posted - Jul 31 2011 : 5:56PM Make sure you're warming her up well with finger and tongue play on her cooch and that'll relax her more and lube her up before you give her the beefstick. [Link]