It would also help, when you do masturbate, to masturbate in slower and more sensual ways with a variety of techniques. try the information at jackinworld, or masturbation, or even hand job techniques.

My husband mentions, jokingly, reciting baseball statistics in your mind - you may have heard something like that before. I recommend against relying heavily on anything like that. It can make for a bad habit that will be hard to break in your 40's and 50's when you start to need more stimulation. Please be fully present in sex, and just enjoy a slow build-up.
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Edited by - lindi on 12/16/2002 2:13:35 PM

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I would say jack off to porn obsessively (preferably circus freaky sex,) and then when you are having sex you will be so conditioned to getting off only to wierd stuff that you won't be able to come at all. Just reverse it to the exact opposite of your issue (rather than coming too fast, make it so you can't cum at all.)

On the other hand, be happy you can cum quick; embrace it as a gift. Ask yourself this question; how many women do you know hold off orgasm before their partner comes?

Imagine a woman saying this,

'I'm so sorry I came so quick!'

I say let it fly, and then if your partner hasn't been satisfied, please her however you have to (toys, oral, digits, diamond rings,your best friend, etc.) In evolution, a species that cums quicker is less susceptible to attack from predators in the open grass...just watch an animal fuck. They don't have all the emotional baggage behind sex so they do it 50 yard dash style.

Make like a rabbit and keep the bunny 'quick cum' habit.

You can propagate your genes more frequently, hell your like a sperm machine gun! Be proud of your quick trigger. Hit n run, baby!

Edited by - P-Knuckle on 12/16/2002 4:55:10 PM

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P-Knuckle also reminds me that y'all have been watching porn. There's more to sex than what is shown in porn, and the biggest deficiency there is of full-frontal pubic contact (no room for a camera to get in there). Besides thrusting, in real life there is grinding - the sword stays in the scabbard to the hilt, pubic bone to pubic bone, while you move your pelvises in little patterns, circling, side-to-side, pelvic tilts, anything that feels juicy. Much of what feels delicious in sex would look on film as if nothing at all is happening, like being still and gripping with the pc muscles in rhythms.

Play with a lot of things that you never see in porn. Relax. Disengage from intercourse for some oral, trade off between them. Take your time. Play, play, play.

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This person, Excalibur1242, has found 'what feels juicy' for him in sex and I see no reason for him to control his pleasure. Enjoy the quick blammos; its better than pounding for hours like some ridiculous marathon man; always trying to prove how long you can hold out.

I suggest you put less emphasis on intercourse and as Lindi says, ;play play play.; Enjoy each other for more than a hole and a dick. Massaging, meditation, masturbation, and erotic roleplaying can add a lot of extra time and pleasure to the whole situation. Sex should be more than just cumming, unless you are just trying to fuck a lot of people. If this is the case, just pop a load and don't stress it.....but if it is a relationship we are talkn about here, well, then you gotta put the time in. Go tantra, get crazy karma sutra ninjitsu gymnastic style on her, buy lotions, get a hugh heff smoking jacket and read poetry to her. Then bust a 30 sec. nut....

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