Psychoanalysis of anal sex

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RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 12:37PM Hi everyone. I am here to bring the act of anal sex (hetero sexual) to psychologist couch an totally analyse it. My only question is: What does it symbolise? The act it self must have some subconscious meaning. I have cum up with some possible explanations. 1/ Domination over the female to make one self more powerful, show his masculinity by physical domination. 2/ Pure humiliation 3/ Obsession with anal is a form of psychological regression to deal with unresolved issues from the "anal stage" (3-6 years of age) 4/ Unconscious (hidden) homosexual fantasy/desire 5/ A form of punishment for female sexuality (which men are envious of because it has no erectile limitations, supposed to a mans) I have observed that guys who preform a lot of anal scenes tent to adore feet/toe sucking. Common guys... we need to solve this one. It is a mystery! Topic Moved by - astroknight on Sep 12 2011 [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 1:00PM Only two posts and you've already made the Granite Poll. Congratulations. Oh, and you're analysis overlooks the obvious. Edited by - hardware on 9/12/2011 1:06:01 PM [Link]
Gore Gore Girl Doctor of the Erotic Arts 7238 Posts 1/09	Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 1:22PM Some rather curious assumptions... [Link]
lilacwine Member "Don't let your lava love turn to stone." 489 Posts 5/06	Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 5:28PM Just do it. [Link]
RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 4:40AM Hi guys! After hours of contemplations i have found the most probable cause of hetero sexual anal sex. It seams to have nothing to do with sex or girls. It is rather a way for a guy to distance himself from the rest of the male population and feel superior to them, knowing that the act is very unusual. It increases his social status and he feels that he is way above the average gay, that makes him feel powerful, like he is special. We guys like to compete and compere us with each other and this act is form of childish competition between us to measure our powers, a form of hierarchical game between us. We don't wont to be left behind other guys, that wold make us less masculine, beta males. So we do everything to catch up with the others. My theses explain way anal sex is so popular, and way we guys are almost obsessed with it. Just ask our girlfriends! Now every one is doing anal, it is hard to find a movie or female performer who/which does not have anal. Does any one out there have some other explanation ore idea? [Link]

bellend Deactivated User 570 Posts 9/09	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 12:41PM Boredom. The Greeks were sitting with so much wine and pussy around they decided to try out little boys. [Link]
jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 4:23PM Because it's tight and it feels nice and it's a little bit dirty and wrong. Honestly does it have to be analysed anymore than that? The relationship of porn to real life sexual acts is not particularly causal. You should watch the Channel 4 program, 'Pornography: a secret history.' I think the life imitating art or art imitating life is a bit of a moot argument. People have been fornicating in all kinds of depraved ways for centuries 'ne millenia. Indeed elements of what we call pornography now were quite common place in Greek and Roman times, you couldn't move for seeing phallic symbols. Also our notion of hetro-sexuality and homo-sexuality are very diametrical and we like to pidgeon hole and label people now; in ancient times they probably placed no distinction or difference between hetro and homo sexual acts, sex was just sex to them. Your argument and questions seem to stem from very out-dated and discredited Freudian notions on sexuality and sexual acts. Sex doesn't need to be analysed, it just needs to be done. Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 5:44PM DylanDog wrote: My theses explain way anal sex is so popular... Click to expand And a guy riding a chariot across the sky with a torch in his hand explains the sun. Of course, just because you've got an explanation doesn't mean there's any truth to it. [Link]
Gore Gore Girl Doctor of the Erotic Arts 7238 Posts 1/09	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 7:31PM DylanDog wrote: It increases his social status and he feels that he is way above the average gay, that makes him feel powerful, like he is special. Click to expand I'd like to psychoanalyze this Freudian slip... [Link]
His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 7:41PM Hardware wrote: DylanDog wrote: My theses explain way anal sex is so popular... Click to expand And a guy riding a chariot across the sky with a torch in his hand explains the sun. Of course, just because you've got an explanation doesn't mean there's any truth to it. Click to expand +1 I like the chariot line! That's slick. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 9:26PM ^ Greek mythology. [Link]
RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 4:49AM smg4ever wrote: 1/Also our notion of hetro-sexuality and homo-sexuality are very diametrical and we like to pidgeon hole and label people now; in ancient times they probably placed no distinction or difference between hetro and homo sexual acts, sex was just sex to them. 2/Your argument and questions seem to stem from very out-dated and discredited Freudian notions on sexuality and sexual acts. 3/Nothing says romance like anal sex Gore Gore Girl wrote 4/: I'd like to psychoanalyze this Freudian slip... Hardware wrote: 5/just because you've got an explanation doesn't mean there's any truth to it. My replys: 1/ How wrong. You paint a picture of ancient times like it was an endless orgy. Little bit naive. In one sense you are write, in ancient times it was ok to do homosexual acts as long you were the perpetrator. If you got penetrated, you were considered an idiot, butty-boy, your position in society were slightly above a slaves. It was the worst thing you cold do. Ancient women were extremely strong and proud and it is unlikely that they did anal... that wold be considered humiliating. 2/ Freud is underestimated, he deals with power and not sex. If you want to understand sex, you need to understand the drive behind it, and in this case it is clearly not sexual desire. Dodging the question is a form of resignation. 3/ I think women would strongly disagree. 4/ Haha, funny. 5/ Excellent point, maybe i am wrong, but if you can explain way it is so popular i wold be happy to hear. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 11:57AM We are not born with an instruction manual for sexual intercourse. We have to figure it out as we go along. The obvious answer to the question of why we humans engage in anal sex is because curiosity and exploiting the environment are inherent in our nature. Absent any inhibiting taboo, sexual exploration is going to include every possible orifice. Even when society attempts to impose limits on sexual conduct there will always be those who ignore them. As to the popularity of anal sex in pornographic movies, I'm sure we all bring our own perspective to that. [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 7:11PM Gee, to think for all these years I thought I was having anal sex becuase I like a nice cock in my ass from time to time...........silly me. [Link]
Dubious_Leftovers Senior Member And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me... 1423 Posts 3/09	Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 7:25PM DylanDog wrote: My only question is: What does it symbolise? Click to expand A penis up the arse, symbolises very little. It's pretty self-explanatory: Basic fun you can have, whilst in the midst of consensual adult relations. My, oh my! That was hard to work out... [Link]

Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 11:07PM SexShopGrl wrote: Gee, to think for all these years I thought I was having anal sex becuase I like a nice cock in my ass from time to time... Click to expand Indeed, but my comment was directed to why we try it in the first place. [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 8:04AM DylanDog wrote: Hi everyone. I am here to bring the act of anal sex (hetero sexual) to psychologist couch an totally analyse it. My only question is: What does it symbolise? The act it self must have some subconscious meaning. I have cum up with some possible explanations. 1/ Domination over the female to make one self more powerful, show his masculinity by physical domination. 2/ Pure humiliation 3/ Obsession with anal is a form of psychological regression to deal with unresolved issues from the "anal stage" (3-6 years of age) 4/ Unconscious (hidden) homosexual fantasy/desire 5/ A form of punishment for female sexuality (which men are envious of because it has no erectile limitations, supposed to a mans) I have observed that guys who preform a lot of anal scenes tent to adore feet/toe sucking. Click to expand OK but what's your theory for men who are openly bi, like to be fucked in the ass as much as they like fucking women in the ass and don't have a foot fetish? [Link]
Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 10:22AM Hardware wrote: We are not born with an instruction manual for sexual intercourse. We have to figure it out as we go along. The obvious answer to the question of why we humans engage in anal sex is because curiosity and exploiting the environment are inherent in our nature. Absent any inhibiting taboo, sexual exploration is going to include every possible orifice. Even when society attempts to impose limits on sexual conduct there will always be those who ignore them. Click to expand And I don't think that is a uniquely human trait. Everyone remember that chimp and the poor froggy? Yep. I have a feeling that critters will do just about anything with their genitals that they discover, one way or another, feels good to them. Edited by - Kimi Lixx on 9/15/2011 2:02:47 PM [Link]
RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 1:31PM Hardware wrote: We are not born with an instruction manual for sexual intercourse... -Your answer is deep,broad and seems to explain the anal behavior. Simply curiosity is brilliant answer. Cold it be that simple. Of course, it is a strong candidate, but not the most plausible one. It is to generalising to be applied. What troubles me in you reply, is that you make no difference between anal and normal sex. Its all the same for you. RandomPrecision wrote: What's your theory for men who are openly bi... -Ha-ha, i'm not touching that one, i am just trying to understand way it is considered normal of us strait guys to stick it in a women's as. Kimi Lixx wtote: Everyone remember that chip and the poor froggy? -Way compere us to animals (which by the way don't do anal)? We seem to be the only species to engage in suck an act and we have the intelligence and should try to understand way? That's all. Perhaps i did not make my self clear. Here is what i meant: Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. He wouldn't simply wait that long, or go through that much trouble, planing and inconvenience if he didn't have something much more stronger which drove him to complete such an act. So the psychological gratification of finally giving her anal is much higher then the sexual gratification. So we can conclude that it is not about sex, it rather psychological satisfaction that he gets from it. What worst is, it seems to be a dark power, almost a morbid one. Ask your self, way would you deny sticking it in to the pussy, and instead go for her anal. Sexually, as a man, you can only loose with suck an attempt, but you would try it if it didn't get you some psychological pleasure. Perhaps seeing the girl in pain makes you fell superior and almighty, and your capability to control her in such a vulnerable position, makes up for the fact that you cant control or deal with your own life. I have observed that as soon a guy sticks it in the girls anal, it is always, always follow up by the same stupid question: "Do you like it". And if the girl shows any pleasure in the act, the guy increase pace to shut her up. She cant possibly be aloud to take control. How can you guys miss that it is all about psychological domination? [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 2:02PM DylanDog wrote: RandomPrecision wrote: What's your theory for men who are openly bi... -Ha-ha, i'm not touching that one, i am just trying to understand way it is considered normal of us strait guys to stick it in a women's as. Click to expand Why shouldn't it be? Why is every part of a woman's body feminine except for her ass? Do you have a thread somewhere analyzing the reasons it's considered normal of straight guys to stick it in a woman's mouth? [Link]
Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 2:09PM DylanDog wrote: Kimi Lixx wtote: Everyone remember that chimp and the poor froggy? -Way compere us to animals (which by the way don't do anal)? We seem to be the only species to engage in suck an act and we have the intelligence and should try to understand way? That's all. Click to expand We are animals. And other animals do engage in anal sex. Oral sex, too. And masturbation. Perhaps i did not make my self clear. Here is what i meant: Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. Click to expand This stuff only has to be done if you're going to film it and are afraid of feces showing. How can you guys miss that it is all about psychological domination? Click to expand Because it isn't. [Link]
smurftrapper Member 124 Posts 9/09	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 3:32PM Never in my life has anal sex been about psychological domination. It has always been about pleasure, sensuality, and the enjoyment of our sexuality. If it felt good, we did it! It's all fun and games until someone gets an ear poked out! [Link]
jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 3:46PM How are foot fetishes related to anal, I kind of missed that one? Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 4:31PM DylanDog wrote: Of course, it is a strong candidate, but not the most plausible one. It is to generalising to be applied. What troubles me in you reply, is that you make no difference between anal and normal sex. Its all the same for you. Click to expand Ever hear of the General Theory of Relativity? Generality is not a disqualification. Prove that the generality fails to account for a specific phenomenon and we can go from there. As regards your second assumption, me telling you that, as human beings, we explore our sexuality just like we explore every other aspect of our world does not mean that we don't develop preferences. If we did not then every woman would behave exactly the same way in bed. I'm here to tell you that nothing could be further from the truth. However, we don't start out knowing how to have sex, so how could we be born with preferences? [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 6:46PM What I want to know is DylanDog......since you think this is so complicated, who have you been having anal sex with? I mean I'm a woman and I'm usually the one asking for it. Hubby obliges eagerly but out of the 17 years we've been a couple, he's only been the one asking maybe a half a dozen times. You make it sound like it's only about the men wanting to dominate. I can assure you that's not so. This right here....... Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. He wouldn't simply wait that long, or go through that much trouble, planing and inconvenience if he didn't have something much more stronger which drove him to complete such an act. So the psychological gratification of finally giving her anal is much higher then the sexual gratification. So we can conclude that it is not about sex, it rather psychological satisfaction that he gets from it. What worst is, it seems to be a dark power, almost a morbid one. Ask your self, way would you deny sticking it in to the pussy, and instead go for her anal. Sexually, as a man, you can only loose with suck an attempt, but you would try it if it didn't get you some psychological pleasure. Perhaps seeing the girl in pain makes you fell superior and almighty, and your capability to control her in such a vulnerable position, makes up for the fact that you cant control or deal with your own life. I have observed that as soon a guy sticks it in the girls anal, it is always, always follow up by the same stupid question: "Do you like it". And if the girl shows any pleasure in the act, the guy increase pace to shut her up. She cant possibly be aloud to take control. How can you guys miss that it is all about psychological domination? Click to expand I just dont even know where to begin. I have never fasted or given myself an enema. If you're wondering how I deal with any messes I might make. 1) I rarely make them. 2) My husband and I are mature enough not to make a big issue out of it if I do make a mess. I mean hell, he watched while I gave birth and there aint nothin messier than that. I happen to like butt plugs and other types of anal toys but not for preparation or because we need them. I like them because they fucking feel fantasitc. The first couple times I had anal sex it did hurt. I won't lie about that. But my boyfriend at the time was totally mortified that he hurt me. And apparently you don't know much about any of it because YES the receiver can in fact be in control in several ways. And who says my partners ever denied themselves "sticking it into the pussy"??? I mean really? I think you're just wanting us to tell you "yes, you're right, it is all about domination" because that's what you have in your mind. That has more to do with your own shame and hang ups about sex than ours. So maybe you should analyze yourself and find out why you feel that way. [Link]

Dubious_Leftovers Senior Member And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me... 1423 Posts 3/09	Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 7:10PM DylanDog wrote: So we can conclude that it is not about sex, it rather psychological satisfaction that he gets from it. What worst is, it seems to be a dark power, almost a morbid one. Click to expand No, YOU conclude this. No one else does. DylanDog wrote: Ask your self, way would you deny sticking it in to the pussy, and instead go for her anal. Sexually, as a man, you can only loose with suck an attempt, but you would try it if it didn't get you some psychological pleasure. Perhaps seeing the girl in pain makes you fell superior and almighty, and your capability to control her in such a vulnerable position, makes up for the fact that you cant control or deal with your own life. Click to expand Where the fuck are you getting this from?! Is anything that your saying based on genuine, real life experience with y'know, A REAL PERSON...? Everything you've written is your own assumptions on behalf of other people. It doesn't seem to be based on anything genuine, just self-concocted notions written in a way that butchers the English language. Your presumptions are incorrect. You've been told why by a number of posters here. Deal with it. [Link]
Breeze Member One Smokin Hot Chic 532 Posts 11/08	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 3:46AM DylanDog wrote: Perhaps i did not make my self clear. Here is what i meant: Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. Click to expand You seriously believe this? This is Sex Talk and you totally ignored Random Precisions post regarding anal sex with men. At least one female poster stated she liked it, I have been with a handful of women who totally enjoy anal sex. How about a Psychoanalysis of sex in general? Why limit it to anal sex? Many women just like to make their partner cum whether is it in their mouth, pussy or ass. I don't ask why, I just go with it. There is a certain amount of satisfaction when you make your partner happy. [Link]
BlackSix All-Star Member pornography wasn't sex but fantasies of an impossibly hospitable world 12377 Posts 9/07	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 4:03AM [Link]
RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 5:11AM Your (women's) obsession with anal is caused by the fact that she regresses to an early stage in her life , (when children are obsessed with feces 3-6 years.) As adults they willingly give up control of the anal (feces-control) by letting a guy (symbolising father figure) penetrate them. That, unconsciously, makes them feel like they are taken care of (whipped) and they feels safe, like they did when they were little girls. Unloved and neglected children unconsciously defecate them self on purpose in order to force they parents to take care of them, hug them, and loved them. Your (women's) anal obsession follows the same pattern. You want to be loved and accepted, but you cant, because you lack a father figure in your life. That makes this world threatening to you, so you unconsciously return to that age where you could feel safe, unconditionally loved and accepted just the way you were. But you cant feel accepted in your adult life, so you become this little girl that pretends to lack feces control, so that a father figure could take care of you. You are terrified of being left (absence of father figure) and would do anything to avoid that. Often feelings of loneliness could provoke such an act. Perhaps that is way you been whit the same guy 17 years, i guess that he is much older than you and can "take care of you". Your second argument: "Because it feels good ..." is not valid. Our subconscious decides what feels good or not, feelings can actually deceive us. Some like to be urinated on for sexuality gratification, most wold find it disgusting, yet we have exactly the same brain. So childhood experience holds the key of explaining our sexual differences. Your third argument: "So maybe you should analyze yourself and find out why you feel that way." 99.99 percent of humanity doesn't engage in anal sex, so your question is not meant for me, but for you. Answer to: "Dubious_Leftovers". Where the fuck are you getting this from?! Is anything that your saying based on genuine, real life experience with y'know, A REAL PERSON...? I apologize for my English, its not my first language. You seem very angry, almost offended. My theories are based on years of studies of human psychology and all my theories are legitimate. They are used world wide and are based of work of some of humanity's sharpest brains. Your problem is that you are unwilling or lack the intelligence to face such a question. Perhaps you watch to many hardcore movies and cant distinguish anymore that is normal, like the child that sits to closely to TV and eventually lose sight. Summon your courage and look deeper! [Link]
jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 6:55AM Years of study? Your half-baked psycho-babble reads like the efforts of 13 year old GCSE student let alone a post-graduate student. Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link]
RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:10AM This regression to childhood can be observed in many anal scenes where the girl actually turns in to a little girl, starts acting and talking like one, altering her voice to resemble that of a little girl, plays innocent and so on. It is deeply disturbing to watch! RandomPrecision wrote:...stick it in a woman's mouth? - Oral is convenient, anal is not. But oral fixations need to be investigated to. smg4ever wrote:...How are foot fetishes related to anal, I kind of missed that one? - This i don't know, i figured someone could help me out with that? There is no need to insult... we are just trying to understand way this happens. Hardware wrote: ...so how could we be born with preferences? - I didn't understand you on that one. Its my fault, my English is not that good. [Link]
Dubious_Leftovers Senior Member And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me... 1423 Posts 3/09	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:33AM DylanDog wrote: Answer to: "Dubious_Leftovers". Where the fuck are you getting this from?! Is anything that your saying based on genuine, real life experience with y'know, A REAL PERSON...? I apologize for my English, its not my first language. Click to expand Okay. DylanDog wrote: You seem very angry, almost offended. Click to expand The mood I was in at the time. Heightened when I read bullcrap masquerading as expertise. DylanDog wrote: My theories are based on years of studies of human psychology and all my theories are legitimate. They are used world wide and are based of work of some of humanity's sharpest brains. Click to expand Undertaken by whom? And for what ultimate purpose? An agenda, per chance? As for the work of "humanity's sharpest brains", they've got nothing better to do, than sit around thinking about butt-fucking? Ah! So THAT's what the Large Hadron Collider is for! It was the work of AlexPanzer all along! DylanDog wrote: Your problem is that you are unwilling or lack the intelligence to face such a question. Click to expand Negative on both counts I'm afraid. I more than have the requisite mental faculties to deal with the question posed to me. Sorry about that, but you're not talking to a 12 year old. DylanDog wrote: Perhaps you watch to many hardcore movies and cant distinguish anymore that is normal, like the child that sits to closely to TV and eventually lose sight. Click to expand Incorrect again. I like porn but I don't watch that much these days. I actually function quite well in society. I have a close network of tight, genuine friends. A social life. A range of other interests (I'm a nerd in some aspects, but I consider that a good thing). A creative talent which is the job I'm paid for. A current, stable relationship which is a year and two months old, and I'm very soon (as in the very next week as it turns out) to go back part-time to Higher Education to increase my skill-set. Sorry to undermine your attempts to patronise me, but the myopic, porn-obsessed outcast stereotype/archetype is not what I fall into. How inconvenient. DylanDog wrote: Summon your courage and look deeper! Click to expand Okay... Sword of Omens, give me sight beyond sight! Wow! Frickin' intense! I've never looked deeper into myself, or considered so many angles or possibilities...! Guess what...?! I don't agree with you. [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:09AM Well I'm getting ready to go to work so I don't have much time. But one thing I want to point out in you'r theory. I HAVE a father figure in my life and always have. My parents were probably one of the few couples of my generation that actually stayed together until death. My mother died almost 7 years ago. My father is 70 and still kicking. My family was ALWAYS very close. You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it because of judgemental assholes who shame them and make them feel like there is something dirty about it. Trust me when I say this......THERE IS NOTHING....ABSOLUTELY NOTHING SHAMEFUL BETWEEN CONSENTING ADULTS. PERIOD. [Link]
Dubious_Leftovers Senior Member And on that fateful day, the hatred consumed me... 1423 Posts 3/09	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:15AM SexShopGrl wrote: You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it... Click to expand "88.2% of statistics are made up on the spot." -Vic Reeves [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:24AM SexShopGrl wrote: You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it because of judgemental assholes who shame them and make them feel like there is something dirty about it. Click to expand Well, there is something dirty about it but there's nothing really wrong with it. The way I see it, as long as everyone is of age and (more or less) consenting, any sex you want to have and you survive is good sex. [Link]

SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:44AM It's not dirty. It's taboo because some people think it's dirty. Not everyone. I don't see anything dirty about it. And I sure as hell don't associate it with my father for fucks sake! [Link]
RandomPrecision Senior Member Enjoy! 8175 Posts 3/06	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:58AM DylanDog wrote: Perhaps you watch to many hardcore movies and cant distinguish anymore that is normal, like the child that sits to closely to TV and eventually lose sight. Summon your courage and look deeper! Click to expand Well, you actually might be onto something there. But if I had to guess, I'd say watching too much the national news (In America)(Or pretty much any of the stuff that is shown on American television these days) is many times more likely to render someone incapable if distinguishing what is normal than watching someone get fucked in the ass for 20 minutes. In fact, watching American TV for 3 hours every night for two weeks is the perfect metaphor for getting fucked in the ass by a gigantic penis shaped like an Atlas rocket with Zsa Zsa Gabor lips and a head that looks like a stormtrooper helmet for the rest of your life. But what do I know? I'm just a perv who likes to see a woman with a dick in her shithole. It's no more complicated than that to me and doesn't need to be. I don't care why it turns me on anymore than I care why taking a shit relieves me. As long as it does, I flush the toilet and move on. Edited by - randomprecision on 9/16/2011 10:02:29 AM [Link]
Gore Gore Girl Doctor of the Erotic Arts 7238 Posts 1/09	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 10:09AM DylanDog wrote: RandomPrecision wrote: What's your theory for men who are openly bi... -Ha-ha, i'm not touching that one, i am just trying to understand way it is considered normal of us strait guys to stick it in a women's as. Click to expand Well that's convenient. Doesn't show your "scholarship" in a terribly favourable light though... DylanDog wrote: Your second argument: "Because it feels good ..." is not valid. Our subconscious decides what feels good or not, feelings can actually deceive us. Click to expand Then I suggest you change the thread to "The psychoanalysis of pleasure." [Link]
Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 10:23AM DylanDog wrote: Hardware wrote: ...so how could we be born with preferences? - I didn't understand you on that one. Click to expand You attempted to dismiss my explanation by saying that anal and vaginal sex are 'all the same' to me. Actually, they are not; I was simply pointing out that it is 'all the same' to everybody when we start out. Look at it this way - since you don't know what it feels like to have your penis inside a woman's vagina or anus until you've actually been inside a woman's vagina or anus on what basis can you lay claim to a preference, other than experience? Even so, a preference doesn't preclude partaking of anything else. Even if I love steak that doesn't mean I want to eat it every night. Hence, the suggestion that women only do anal because of some regression to childhood is only that - a suggestion. If it requires your dismissal of what women tell you to maintain your claim then your interpretation of Freud is reduced to nothing more than egoism. [Link]
Redish Poetic Moderator Long and Cursive road to the Ivory Pagoda in the province of Loraine 4076 Posts 12/03	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 11:38AM Fall must be coming, trolls are out from under the bridge. [Link]
His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 12:34PM Do trolls head south for the winter? [Link]
jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 5:59PM The saddest thing is that many of us fall for entering into debate and conversation with these trolls far too often. Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link]
His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 6:31PM I left a reply in the beginning but I was just being a dumb ass...as usual [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:01PM smg4ever wrote: The saddest thing is that many of us fall for entering into debate and conversation with these trolls far too often. Nothing says romance like anal sex. Click to expand I just like playing with them from time to time.........come on.....don't deny me. [Link]
His Dudeness All Business Shut the fuck up, Donny!! 2793 Posts 4/10	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:05PM No SSG!! You can not play with the trolls any more! This is a NO TROLL FEEDING ZONE! [Link]
SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:07PM ^ Damn it!! You guys NEVER let me have any fun!!! I'm going to my room to masterbate now.......... [Link]
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smurftrapper Member 124 Posts 9/09	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:27PM ^^ Do you need a helping hand? Actually I get the feeling that the OP has not gotten his masterbater certificate, and is currently only an apprenticebater. It's all fun and games until someone gets an ear poked out! [Link]
jackthetreacleeater Senior Member Shame on you! 2003 Posts 10/06	Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:34PM We need a Troll Hunter Nothing says romance like anal sex. [Link]
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RequestToRemove Deactivated User 10 Posts 9/11	Posted - Sep 17 2011 : 6:13AM Q Dubious_Leftovers: And for what ultimate purpose? An agenda, per chance? A- I have no agenda, just trying to undersatnd this particular human behaivur. Q Dubious_Leftovers: So THAT's what the Large Hadron Collider is for! A- Whats the point of Large Hadron Collider if we cant understand our self? Q Sexshopgirl: You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it because of judgemental assholes who shame them and make them feel like there is something dirty about it. A - If 99% dont admit it how can you know? Anal=feces. How is it not dirty? Q Gore Gore Girl: Then I suggest you change the thread to "The psychoanalysis of pleasure". A - Normal sexual feeling (given to us by evolution) don't misguide us. They know that they want, its all natural and simple, but if perverted, the become difficult for us to trace. This is what i meant. Q Hardwere:... on what basis can you lay claim to a preference, other than experience? A - Logic and reason. Q...suggestion that women only do anal because of some regression to childhood is only that - a suggestion. A -But shouldn't some "suggestions" be given advantage before others? Like evolution theory before Intelligent Design. They are both called theory's but there is huge difference between them when it cums to understanding ourselves. Same thing goes for psychoanalysis. It has increased our self knowledge and it shouldn't be considered as a theory alone. Denying it is like denying evolution? You seem to be hiding behind nihilism. Q If it requires your dismissal of what women tell you to maintain your claim then your interpretation of Freud is reduced to nothing more than egoism. A - But what if they are using defence mechanism to justify they behavior and aren't fully conscious of it. Is it my fault? I don't play the blame game or have hidden messages. I wouldn't be here if i was against anal. I am not against anal sex, as long as people understand way he/she does it. I guess vast majority does not. If we fully understand way this happened, and look for an answer, it would increase our self knowledge and eventually liberate us (not necessary from anal sex itself, but reason for way we do it) But i'm afraid that anal sex derives from our human weakness rather than our strength. [Link]

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Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 12:37PM

Hi everyone. I am here to bring the act of anal sex (hetero sexual) to psychologist couch an totally analyse it. My only question is: What does it symbolise?
The act it self must have some subconscious meaning. I have cum up with some possible explanations.
1/ Domination over the female to make one self more powerful, show his masculinity by physical domination.
2/ Pure humiliation
3/ Obsession with anal is a form of psychological regression to deal with unresolved issues from the "anal stage" (3-6 years of age)
4/ Unconscious (hidden) homosexual fantasy/desire
5/ A form of punishment for female sexuality (which men are envious of because it has no erectile limitations, supposed to a mans)
I have observed that guys who preform a lot of anal scenes tent to adore feet/toe sucking.
Common guys... we need to solve this one. It is a mystery!

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Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 1:00PM

Only two posts and you've already made the Granite Poll. Congratulations.
Oh, and you're analysis overlooks the obvious.
Edited by - hardware on 9/12/2011 1:06:01 PM

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Posted - Sep 12 2011 : 1:22PM

Some rather curious assumptions...

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Just do it.

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Hi guys! After hours of contemplations i have found the most probable cause of hetero sexual anal sex. It seams to have nothing to do with sex or girls. It is rather a way for a guy to distance himself from the rest of the male population and feel superior to them, knowing that the act is very unusual. It increases his social status and he feels that he is way above the average gay, that makes him feel powerful, like he is special.
We guys like to compete and compere us with each other and this act is form of childish competition between us to measure our powers, a form of hierarchical game between us. We don't wont to be left behind other guys, that wold make us less masculine, beta males. So we do everything to catch up with the others.
My theses explain way anal sex is so popular, and way we guys are almost obsessed with it. Just ask our girlfriends! Now every one is doing anal, it is hard to find a movie or female performer who/which does not have anal.
Does any one out there have some other explanation ore idea?

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Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 12:41PM

Boredom.
The Greeks were sitting with so much wine and pussy around they decided to try out little boys.

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Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 4:23PM

Because it's tight and it feels nice and it's a little bit dirty and wrong. Honestly does it have to be analysed anymore than that?
The relationship of porn to real life sexual acts is not particularly causal. You should watch the Channel 4 program, 'Pornography: a secret history.' I think the life imitating art or art imitating life is a bit of a moot argument. People have been fornicating in all kinds of depraved ways for centuries 'ne millenia. Indeed elements of what we call pornography now were quite common place in Greek and Roman times, you couldn't move for seeing phallic symbols. Also our notion of hetro-sexuality and homo-sexuality are very diametrical and we like to pidgeon hole and label people now; in ancient times they probably placed no distinction or difference between hetro and homo sexual acts, sex was just sex to them.
Your argument and questions seem to stem from very out-dated and discredited Freudian notions on sexuality and sexual acts.
Sex doesn't need to be analysed, it just needs to be done.
Nothing says romance like anal sex.

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Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 5:44PM

And a guy riding a chariot across the sky with a torch in his hand explains the sun. Of course, just because you've got an explanation doesn't mean there's any truth to it.

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I'd like to psychoanalyze this Freudian slip...

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+1 I like the chariot line! That's slick.

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Posted - Sep 13 2011 : 9:26PM

^ Greek mythology.

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smg4ever wrote:
1/Also our notion of hetro-sexuality and homo-sexuality are very diametrical and we like to pidgeon hole and label people now; in ancient times they probably placed no distinction or difference between hetro and homo sexual acts, sex was just sex to them.
2/Your argument and questions seem to stem from very out-dated and discredited Freudian notions on sexuality and sexual acts.
3/Nothing says romance like anal sex
Gore Gore Girl wrote
4/: I'd like to psychoanalyze this Freudian slip...
Hardware wrote:
5/just because you've got an explanation doesn't mean there's any truth to it.
My replys:
1/ How wrong. You paint a picture of ancient times like it was an endless orgy. Little bit naive. In one sense you are write, in ancient times it was ok to do homosexual acts as long you were the perpetrator. If you got penetrated, you were considered an idiot, butty-boy, your position in society were slightly above a slaves. It was the worst thing you cold do. Ancient women were extremely strong and proud and it is unlikely that they did anal... that wold be considered humiliating.
2/ Freud is underestimated, he deals with power and not sex. If you want to understand sex, you need to understand the drive behind it, and in this case it is clearly not sexual desire. Dodging the question is a form of resignation.
3/ I think women would strongly disagree.
4/ Haha, funny.
5/ Excellent point, maybe i am wrong, but if you can explain way it is so popular i wold be happy to hear.

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Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 11:57AM

We are not born with an instruction manual for sexual intercourse. We have to figure it out as we go along.
The obvious answer to the question of why we humans engage in anal sex is because curiosity and exploiting the environment are inherent in our nature. Absent any inhibiting taboo, sexual exploration is going to include every possible orifice. Even when society attempts to impose limits on sexual conduct there will always be those who ignore them.
As to the popularity of anal sex in pornographic movies, I'm sure we all bring our own perspective to that.

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Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 7:11PM

Gee, to think for all these years I thought I was having anal sex becuase I like a nice cock in my ass from time to time...........silly me.

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Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 7:25PM

A penis up the arse, symbolises very little. It's pretty self-explanatory: Basic fun you can have, whilst in the midst of consensual adult relations.
My, oh my! That was hard to work out...

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Posted - Sep 14 2011 : 11:07PM

Indeed, but my comment was directed to why we try it in the first place.

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 8:04AM

DylanDog wrote:
Hi everyone. I am here to bring the act of anal sex (hetero sexual) to psychologist couch an totally analyse it. My only question is: What does it symbolise?
The act it self must have some subconscious meaning. I have cum up with some possible explanations.
1/ Domination over the female to make one self more powerful, show his masculinity by physical domination.
2/ Pure humiliation
3/ Obsession with anal is a form of psychological regression to deal with unresolved issues from the "anal stage" (3-6 years of age)
4/ Unconscious (hidden) homosexual fantasy/desire
5/ A form of punishment for female sexuality (which men are envious of because it has no erectile limitations, supposed to a mans)
I have observed that guys who preform a lot of anal scenes tent to adore feet/toe sucking.
Click to expand

OK but what's your theory for men who are openly bi, like to be fucked in the ass as much as they like fucking women in the ass and don't have a foot fetish?

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 10:22AM

And I don't think that is a uniquely human trait. Everyone remember that chimp and the poor froggy?
Yep. I have a feeling that critters will do just about anything with their genitals that they discover, one way or another, feels good to them.
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Hardware wrote: We are not born with an instruction manual for sexual intercourse...
-Your answer is deep,broad and seems to explain the anal behavior. Simply curiosity is brilliant answer. Cold it be that simple. Of course, it is a strong candidate, but not the most plausible one. It is to generalising to be applied. What troubles me in you reply, is that you make no difference between anal and normal sex. Its all the same for you.
RandomPrecision wrote: What's your theory for men who are openly bi...
-Ha-ha, i'm not touching that one, i am just trying to understand way it is considered normal of us strait guys to stick it in a women's as.
Kimi Lixx wtote: Everyone remember that chip and the poor froggy?
-Way compere us to animals (which by the way don't do anal)? We seem to be the only species to engage in suck an act and we have the intelligence and should try to understand way? That's all.
Perhaps i did not make my self clear. Here is what i meant:
Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. He wouldn't simply wait that long, or go through that much trouble, planing and inconvenience if he didn't have something much more stronger which drove him to complete such an act. So the psychological gratification of finally giving her anal is much higher then the sexual gratification. So we can conclude that it is not about sex, it rather psychological satisfaction that he gets from it. What worst is, it seems to be a dark power, almost a morbid one.
Ask your self, way would you deny sticking it in to the pussy, and instead go for her anal. Sexually, as a man, you can only loose with suck an attempt, but you would try it if it didn't get you some psychological pleasure. Perhaps seeing the girl in pain makes you fell superior and almighty, and your capability to control her in such a vulnerable position, makes up for the fact that you cant control or deal with your own life.
I have observed that as soon a guy sticks it in the girls anal, it is always, always follow up by the same stupid question: "Do you like it". And if the girl shows any pleasure in the act, the guy increase pace to shut her up. She cant possibly be aloud to take control. How can you guys miss that it is all about psychological domination?

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 2:02PM

Why shouldn't it be? Why is every part of a woman's body feminine except for her ass? Do you have a thread somewhere analyzing the reasons it's considered normal of straight guys to stick it in a woman's mouth?

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 2:09PM

We are animals. And other animals do engage in anal sex. Oral sex, too. And masturbation.

This stuff only has to be done if you're going to film it and are afraid of feces showing.

Because it isn't.

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 3:32PM

Never in my life has anal sex been about psychological domination.
It has always been about pleasure, sensuality, and the enjoyment of our sexuality.
If it felt good, we did it!

It's all fun and games until someone gets an ear poked out!

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jackthetreacleeater
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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 3:46PM

How are foot fetishes related to anal, I kind of missed that one?
Nothing says romance like anal sex.

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 4:31PM

Ever hear of the General Theory of Relativity? Generality is not a disqualification. Prove that the generality fails to account for a specific phenomenon and we can go from there.
As regards your second assumption, me telling you that, as human beings, we explore our sexuality just like we explore every other aspect of our world does not mean that we don't develop preferences. If we did not then every woman would behave exactly the same way in bed. I'm here to tell you that nothing could be further from the truth. However, we don't start out knowing how to have sex, so how could we be born with preferences?

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 6:46PM

What I want to know is DylanDog......since you think this is so complicated, who have you been having anal sex with?
I mean I'm a woman and I'm usually the one asking for it. Hubby obliges eagerly but out of the 17 years we've been a couple, he's only been the one asking maybe a half a dozen times.
You make it sound like it's only about the men wanting to dominate. I can assure you that's not so.
This right here.......

Anal is complicated, inconvenient, you need to fast day before, then do anal stretching, do enemas, clean it, buttplugs, oils, lubes, it smells, it unsanitary and so on. The girl need at least 1 hour to prepare, a man with wood is not likely to wait that long. He wouldn't simply wait that long, or go through that much trouble, planing and inconvenience if he didn't have something much more stronger which drove him to complete such an act. So the psychological gratification of finally giving her anal is much higher then the sexual gratification. So we can conclude that it is not about sex, it rather psychological satisfaction that he gets from it. What worst is, it seems to be a dark power, almost a morbid one.
Ask your self, way would you deny sticking it in to the pussy, and instead go for her anal. Sexually, as a man, you can only loose with suck an attempt, but you would try it if it didn't get you some psychological pleasure. Perhaps seeing the girl in pain makes you fell superior and almighty, and your capability to control her in such a vulnerable position, makes up for the fact that you cant control or deal with your own life.
I have observed that as soon a guy sticks it in the girls anal, it is always, always follow up by the same stupid question: "Do you like it". And if the girl shows any pleasure in the act, the guy increase pace to shut her up. She cant possibly be aloud to take control. How can you guys miss that it is all about psychological domination?
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I just dont even know where to begin.
I have never fasted or given myself an enema. If you're wondering how I deal with any messes I might make. 1) I rarely make them. 2) My husband and I are mature enough not to make a big issue out of it if I do make a mess. I mean hell, he watched while I gave birth and there aint nothin messier than that.
I happen to like butt plugs and other types of anal toys but not for preparation or because we need them. I like them because they fucking feel fantasitc. The first couple times I had anal sex it did hurt. I won't lie about that. But my boyfriend at the time was totally mortified that he hurt me. And apparently you don't know much about any of it because YES the receiver can in fact be in control in several ways. And who says my partners ever denied themselves "sticking it into the pussy"???
I mean really?
I think you're just wanting us to tell you "yes, you're right, it is all about domination" because that's what you have in your mind. That has more to do with your own shame and hang ups about sex than ours. So maybe you should analyze yourself and find out why you feel that way.

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Posted - Sep 15 2011 : 7:10PM

No, YOU conclude this. No one else does.

Where the fuck are you getting this from?! Is anything that your saying based on genuine, real life experience with y'know, A REAL PERSON...?
Everything you've written is your own assumptions on behalf of other people. It doesn't seem to be based on anything genuine, just self-concocted notions written in a way that butchers the English language.
Your presumptions are incorrect. You've been told why by a number of posters here. Deal with it.

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 3:46AM

You seriously believe this?
This is Sex Talk and you totally ignored Random Precisions post regarding anal sex with men. At least one female poster stated she liked it, I have been with a handful of women who totally enjoy anal sex. How about a Psychoanalysis of sex in general? Why limit it to anal sex? Many women just like to make their partner cum whether is it in their mouth, pussy or ass. I don't ask why, I just go with it. There is a certain amount of satisfaction when you make your partner happy.

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Your (women's) obsession with anal is caused by the fact that she regresses to an early stage in her life , (when children are obsessed with feces 3-6 years.) As adults they willingly give up control of the anal (feces-control) by letting a guy (symbolising father figure) penetrate them. That, unconsciously, makes them feel like they are taken care of (whipped) and they feels safe, like they did when they were little girls. Unloved and neglected children unconsciously defecate them self on purpose in order to force they parents to take care of them, hug them, and loved them. Your (women's) anal obsession follows the same pattern. You want to be loved and accepted, but you cant, because you lack a father figure in your life. That makes this world threatening to you, so you unconsciously return to that age where you could feel safe, unconditionally loved and accepted just the way you were. But you cant feel accepted in your adult life, so you become this little girl that pretends to lack feces control, so that a father figure could take care of you. You are terrified of being left (absence of father figure) and would do anything to avoid that. Often feelings of loneliness could provoke such an act. Perhaps that is way you been whit the same guy 17 years, i guess that he is much older than you and can "take care of you".
Your second argument: "Because it feels good ..." is not valid. Our subconscious decides what feels good or not, feelings can actually deceive us. Some like to be urinated on for sexuality gratification, most wold find it disgusting, yet we have exactly the same brain. So childhood experience holds the key of explaining our sexual differences.
Your third argument: "So maybe you should analyze yourself and find out why you feel that way." 99.99 percent of humanity doesn't engage in anal sex, so your question is not meant for me, but for you.
Answer to: "Dubious_Leftovers". Where the fuck are you getting this from?! Is anything that your saying based on genuine, real life experience with y'know, A REAL PERSON...?
I apologize for my English, its not my first language. You seem very angry, almost offended. My theories are based on years of studies of human psychology and all my theories are legitimate. They are used world wide and are based of work of some of humanity's sharpest brains.
Your problem is that you are unwilling or lack the intelligence to face such a question. Perhaps you watch to many hardcore movies and cant distinguish anymore that is normal, like the child that sits to closely to TV and eventually lose sight. Summon your courage and look deeper!

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 6:55AM

Years of study? Your half-baked psycho-babble reads like the efforts of 13 year old GCSE student let alone a post-graduate student.
Nothing says romance like anal sex.

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This regression to childhood can be observed in many anal scenes where the girl actually turns in to a little girl, starts acting and talking like one, altering her voice to resemble that of a little girl, plays innocent and so on. It is deeply disturbing to watch!
RandomPrecision wrote:...stick it in a woman's mouth?
- Oral is convenient, anal is not. But oral fixations need to be investigated to.
smg4ever wrote:...How are foot fetishes related to anal, I kind of missed that one?
- This i don't know, i figured someone could help me out with that? There is no need to insult... we are just trying to understand way this happens.
Hardware wrote: ...so how could we be born with preferences?
- I didn't understand you on that one. Its my fault, my English is not that good.

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:33AM

Okay.

The mood I was in at the time. Heightened when I read bullcrap masquerading as expertise.

Undertaken by whom? And for what ultimate purpose? An agenda, per chance?
As for the work of "humanity's sharpest brains", they've got nothing better to do, than sit around thinking about butt-fucking? Ah! So THAT's what the Large Hadron Collider is for! It was the work of AlexPanzer all along!

Negative on both counts I'm afraid. I more than have the requisite mental faculties to deal with the question posed to me. Sorry about that, but you're not talking to a 12 year old.

Incorrect again. I like porn but I don't watch that much these days.
I actually function quite well in society. I have a close network of tight, genuine friends. A social life. A range of other interests (I'm a nerd in some aspects, but I consider that a good thing). A creative talent which is the job I'm paid for. A current, stable relationship which is a year and two months old, and I'm very soon (as in the very next week as it turns out) to go back part-time to Higher Education to increase my skill-set.
Sorry to undermine your attempts to patronise me, but the myopic, porn-obsessed outcast stereotype/archetype is not what I fall into. How inconvenient.

Okay... Sword of Omens, give me sight beyond sight!

Wow! Frickin' intense! I've never looked deeper into myself, or considered so many angles or possibilities...!
Guess what...?! I don't agree with you.

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:09AM

Well I'm getting ready to go to work so I don't have much time. But one thing I want to point out in you'r theory. I HAVE a father figure in my life and always have. My parents were probably one of the few couples of my generation that actually stayed together until death. My mother died almost 7 years ago. My father is 70 and still kicking. My family was ALWAYS very close.
You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it because of judgemental assholes who shame them and make them feel like there is something dirty about it.
Trust me when I say this......THERE IS NOTHING....ABSOLUTELY NOTHING SHAMEFUL BETWEEN CONSENTING ADULTS. PERIOD.

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"88.2% of statistics are made up on the spot."
-Vic Reeves

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:24AM

Well, there is something dirty about it but there's nothing really wrong with it. The way I see it, as long as everyone is of age and (more or less) consenting, any sex you want to have and you survive is good sex.

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:44AM

It's not dirty. It's taboo because some people think it's dirty. Not everyone. I don't see anything dirty about it. And I sure as hell don't associate it with my father for fucks sake!

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:58AM

Well, you actually might be onto something there. But if I had to guess, I'd say watching too much the national news (In America)(Or pretty much any of the stuff that is shown on American television these days) is many times more likely to render someone incapable if distinguishing what is normal than watching someone get fucked in the ass for 20 minutes. In fact, watching American TV for 3 hours every night for two weeks is the perfect metaphor for getting fucked in the ass by a gigantic penis shaped like an Atlas rocket with Zsa Zsa Gabor lips and a head that looks like a stormtrooper helmet for the rest of your life.
But what do I know? I'm just a perv who likes to see a woman with a dick in her shithole. It's no more complicated than that to me and doesn't need to be. I don't care why it turns me on anymore than I care why taking a shit relieves me. As long as it does, I flush the toilet and move on.
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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 10:09AM

Well that's convenient. Doesn't show your "scholarship" in a terribly favourable light though...

Then I suggest you change the thread to "The psychoanalysis of pleasure."

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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 10:23AM

You attempted to dismiss my explanation by saying that anal and vaginal sex are 'all the same' to me. Actually, they are not; I was simply pointing out that it is 'all the same' to everybody when we start out.
Look at it this way - since you don't know what it feels like to have your penis inside a woman's vagina or anus until you've actually been inside a woman's vagina or anus on what basis can you lay claim to a preference, other than experience?
Even so, a preference doesn't preclude partaking of anything else. Even if I love steak that doesn't mean I want to eat it every night. Hence, the suggestion that women only do anal because of some regression to childhood is only that - a suggestion. If it requires your dismissal of what women tell you to maintain your claim then your interpretation of Freud is reduced to nothing more than egoism.

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Redish

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Long and Cursive road to the Ivory Pagoda in the province of Loraine
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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 11:38AM

Fall must be coming, trolls are out from under the bridge.

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His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
2793 Posts
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Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 12:34PM

Do trolls head south for the winter?

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jackthetreacleeater
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Shame on you!
2003 Posts
10/06

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 5:59PM

The saddest thing is that many of us fall for entering into debate and conversation with these trolls far too often.
Nothing says romance like anal sex.

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His Dudeness
All Business

Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
2793 Posts
4/10

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 6:31PM

I left a reply in the beginning but I was just being a dumb ass...as usual

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SexShopGrl
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F is for Forty and Fabulous!
940 Posts
5/11

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:01PM

I just like playing with them from time to time.........come on.....don't deny me.

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His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
2793 Posts
4/10

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:05PM

No SSG!! You can not play with the trolls any more! This is a NO TROLL FEEDING ZONE!

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SexShopGrl
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F is for Forty and Fabulous!
940 Posts
5/11

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:07PM

^ Damn it!! You guys NEVER let me have any fun!!!

I'm going to my room to masterbate now..........

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His Dudeness
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Shut the fuck up, Donny!!
2793 Posts
4/10

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 7:42PM

Don't forget your webcam!

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smurftrapper
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124 Posts
9/09

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:27PM

^^ Do you need a helping hand?
Actually I get the feeling that the OP has not gotten his masterbater certificate, and is currently only an apprenticebater.

It's all fun and games until someone gets an ear poked out!

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jackthetreacleeater
Senior Member

Shame on you!
2003 Posts
10/06

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 8:34PM

We need a Troll Hunter
Nothing says romance like anal sex.

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tmzfan123
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52 Posts
4/11

Posted - Sep 16 2011 : 9:06PM

im not stickin my dick in a dirty but, lmao, u can do dat all u want, not me

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RequestToRemove
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Posted - Sep 17 2011 : 6:13AM

Q Dubious_Leftovers: And for what ultimate purpose? An agenda, per chance?
A- I have no agenda, just trying to undersatnd this particular human behaivur.
Q Dubious_Leftovers: So THAT's what the Large Hadron Collider is for!
A- Whats the point of Large Hadron Collider if we cant understand our self?
Q Sexshopgirl: You say 99% of people don't participate in anal sex? Well........you're wrong!!! 99% may not admit it because of judgemental assholes who shame them and make them feel like there is something dirty about it.
A - If 99% dont admit it how can you know? Anal=feces. How is it not dirty?
Q Gore Gore Girl: Then I suggest you change the thread to "The psychoanalysis of pleasure".
A - Normal sexual feeling (given to us by evolution) don't misguide us. They know that they want, its all natural and simple, but if perverted, the become difficult for us to trace. This is what i meant.
Q Hardwere:... on what basis can you lay claim to a preference, other than experience?
A - Logic and reason.
Q...suggestion that women only do anal because of some regression to childhood is only that - a suggestion.
A -But shouldn't some "suggestions" be given advantage before others? Like evolution theory before Intelligent Design. They are both called theory's but there is huge difference between them when it cums to understanding ourselves. Same thing goes for psychoanalysis. It has increased our self knowledge and it shouldn't be considered as a theory alone. Denying it is like denying evolution? You seem to be hiding behind nihilism.
Q If it requires your dismissal of what women tell you to maintain your claim then your interpretation of Freud is reduced to nothing more than egoism.
A - But what if they are using defence mechanism to justify they behavior and aren't fully conscious of it. Is it my fault?
I don't play the blame game or have hidden messages. I wouldn't be here if i was against anal. I am not against anal sex, as long as people understand way he/she does it. I guess vast majority does not. If we fully understand way this happened, and look for an answer, it would increase our self knowledge and eventually liberate us (not necessary from anal sex itself, but reason for way we do it) But i'm afraid that anal sex derives from our human weakness rather than our strength.

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