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ezeljulyan
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5/22
Posted - May 25 2022 : 7:32AM
Asking your advice friends, I'm a 35yr old sexually active person, with a single partner. We've been together for more than 5 years and during this period I was unable to give her an orgasm through penetration. I've tried different positions (but my partner likes missionary position the most), different speeds, but ended-up with no luck.

So, most of the time I use 2 finger method to make her squirt when it's close to reach my orgasm. She was OK with that approach during the last few years, but she was not that keen to have sex more regularly.

Around 6 months ago, I used my finger to vibrate (move the index finger across the clit left and right faster) her clitoris during the sex and first time she reached an orgasm, which we both consider as a milestone. from that point she wanted have sex more frequently (daily) and I gave her orgasm using my finger.

So, my question is Why I could not give her an orgasm through the penetration?
My penis is just over a 7" inch long and 5" inch girth, but little bit downward curved. Is that something do with it?

Edited by - ezeljulyan on May 28 2022


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3/02
Posted - May 26 2022 : 12:46AM
"So, my question is Why I could not give her an orgasm through the penetration? "

Well, we can start with the apparent fact that you think pictures of a penis are important - they aren't. So, what is important? If you're old enough to know who Stephen Stills is then you should already know the answer - 'Love the One You're With'.

Or, to put it another way, pay attention to the person you are having sex with, because women are not one-size-fits-all toys. They are individuals with individual needs and preferences. Some may be less willing to express those to you than others, but that has no effect on what is true.

Now, generally speaking, I suggest that if your partner is not happy then encourage your partner to lead the dance. As it appears that you've hit on a method that does make her happy then rejoice! And continue to give her the opportunity to take the lead.

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ezeljulyan
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5/22
Posted - May 26 2022 : 1:39AM
Thanks a lot for your advice,
I was under the impression that the penis shape matters, after reading through few forums. But could not find any helpful solution.
I'm worried about her satisfaction. I would love for her to experience blended/vaginal orgasm (As I believe that they are different) and seek your experience on that.
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Posted - May 26 2022 : 8:29AM
Women are not pre-programmed sex machines, which is to say that she's the only one who can tell you what works best for her. If she doesn't like talking about it then you'll have to learn by doing. It ain't rocket science, it just requires paying attention.
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Oceandog
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5/21
Posted - May 27 2022 : 7:45PM
Every woman is a sexual original. My wife of 25 years can have a dozen orgasms in 20 minutes. A previous lover I had you could go down on her for 30 minutes before she came, my jaw would get very sore from that. And she almost never could have an orgasm from penetration alone. Experiment and find what works and concentrate on that. Try mixing a clitoral stimulator with penetration. The newer suction models like the womanizer (terrible name, great device) are incredible. Try using an Hitachi magic wand in reverse cowgirl.
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ODriscoll81
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Posted - May 29 2022 : 7:51AM
Don't focus on it too much, it won't help. Of course I understand that it frustrates you that she doesn't get an orgasm during penatration, but if you enjoy the sex, why is it so important for both of you? Talk about that.

Ask your partner what she really likes you to do. What gets her really of. And let her guide you. Remember that women are sensitive human beings, so most of them don't get off by the hardcore porn sex, but prefer a more sensual approach. And their mood is leading when it comes to orgasms. Get her relaxed, make her feel special and try new things. And stop thinking that the size of your penis matters when it comes to orgasms.

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marx dd12
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7/22
Posted - Jul 9 2022 : 12:35PM

Edited by - Flash on 7/9/2022 1:46:17 PM

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kataboom
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Posted - Jul 12 2022 : 3:24AM
i wouldnt worry about it. every woman is different. some women orgasm when my hand is on the mons pubis over clothing, some never experience orgasm in their entire lives. a womans' body is unpredictable, so dont paint yourself into a corner by asking yourself why you couldnt give orgasm with penetration. thats like asking myself why does my cat only come to me when i call some of the time. pussy be strange yo.
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allon47
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7/22
Posted - Jul 14 2022 : 8:14PM
oh that is very serious for my think of view you need to go for a Consultation. diagnosis and treatment of disorders of the male sex and reproductive organs - are called urologists. You can visit a urologist if you're experiencing any problems with your sexual or reproductive health.
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