Ok, then stop watching it. Porn is a Baskin-Robbins and hardcore gonzo is not your flavor. I personally don't like stuff that attempts to make women look like children, but to each his own. Find what you like and enjoy. Porn is not fake (the sex is very real), but it is fantasy. It's sex that 80-90% of the population will never experience hence the appeal. I think of it like Nascar. What's wrong with filming a car going 45-70mph? Easy, it's more interesting to most to see them chasing each other going 250mph. Then again, lots of people find Nascar to be a completely ridiculous 2-3hr marathon of left turns. As for BTS, there are plenty but not the type you're looking for. Besides Real Sex on HBO, I saw a Spanish/English documentary with Rebeca Linares on the net that can be fairly easily found. It chronicles her life pretty in-depth from from sex to her life's up and downs. I think you're looking for something profound but in reality most performers live very much like you and I. Same family, relationship, personal issues, go to Wal-mart, do-nothing boring days, but happen to make a living having sex on camera. Most don't want a camera following them around when they already show so much of themselves to viewer.
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