By “hand reach” I mean an assertive dominant seduction approach. A hand reach approach can be translated to saying ” I want to do etc etc to you ” (Most common male approach, females can apply it excellently too)) or “I want you to do etc etc to me” (less common for males but still applicable..I think, and most common for females) (Not actually saying that, but seducing in that matter). . No one would feel too weird about it. A hand pull would be “Use me as you like” or “I’am all yours” approach. Basically “just take me now!” lol. Now for females, this approach is also applicable and it won’t feel weird and not that rare. But for guys, I never seen or heard a guy approach a woman with a “use me as u like” / I’m all yours” approach, aka “the hand pull” lol. I guess it’s because most guys are dominant or are taught to be dominant or depicted so. And at the same time,most females are submissive/taught to be,depicted so. Sometimes we just don’t know what to do except copy what society made us familiar with, even if it’s not our thing. So for a submissive, non passive guy, he would want to approach/initiate, but he can’t use the dominant hand reach, and the hand pull “I’m all yours/use me as u like/take me” approach will very likely make him appear less masculine/attractive and thus rejected. Of course, in a relationship, things would be a lot easier since they know each other and communicate together (but the male hand pull approach remains hard still). And in a casual hook-up scenario, the male hand pull seems impossible,lol.
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