I have always been confused as to what I should tell the woman before I shoot my load. Let me explain. When a woman is giving me head, I always pull out before I cum because I think its the decent thing to do. If she really wants me to cum in her mouth then she'll put it back in. Right ? Well, there are some ackward situations when you have pulled out and are about to cum, but - Situation 1: She is holding you to close to her mouth thinking that the cum won't reach her face (you are in the throes of orgasm and don't register such fine nuances), But when you do cum, her face ,hair etc. are drenched and she's not very happy. Situation 2: She points it away from her face but you shoot several jets high into the air which somehow manage to fall on the top of her hair or forehead etc.(If she points it too much away from her it will land on your own face , hair etc and is an even bigger turn off for you) Since I am a guy who shootes big loads should I warn my partner beforehand or is it a big turn-off for a woman for a guy to talk about his load and describe how far the jets will go and how many there will be? It sound too clinical to me. Plus I understand that most women are not too turned on by watching men ejaculate. Right or wrong ? Woman - please give me some advice. I'll really appreciate it.
Alas, I am not "woman" to lend advice from the fairer sex, but I'll throw in my two cents. First: set the rules ahead of time. There are basically three options for the lady: Spit, Swallow or Duck. Work out which one she is expecting before things get intense. Second: Just where, pray tell, is she expecting this stuff to go? Forgive me for saying, but it sounds like she's expecting it to vaporize as soon as it comes out. Is she aiming for the carpet? The drapes? That stuff has got to land somewhere. Third: I recommend aiming for her chest. Not too many creases, easy to clean up, looks great from your perspective, and you can keep her hair out of the way. ------------------ "There's a sucker born every minute, but swallowers are hard to find." ------------------ Who is [ invalid url ] | The [url=464724]Darkmage Special</A
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Posted - Jul 6 2000 : 5:39PM
CJ I think that most women don't mind cum in their mouth - they can always spit it in their hand or back on you. But if you're at all worried - then yes, talk to her first. Talking is never a turn off (unless you're talking about an ex-girlfriend )
Thanks to both of you - Dark and Steph. Dark thanks for the handy tips. Steph are you saying that I shoot into her mouth without telling her that I am going to cum ? I wish there were more girls like you but unfortunately, from my experience, if you shot into a girl's mouth who wasn't very excited about having cum in her mouth then she'd make such a horrible expression that you'd be totally turned off. I hope I'm wrong about my assumption - maybe I'm having sex with the wrong kind of girls. Also, if you're a guy who shoots his load (as opposed to someone whose load 'flows' out of his penis) then your jets are going to go right to the back of her mouth maving it difficult for her not to swallow any cum even if she doesn't want to. I'm sorry for the difficult questions Steph but its just that I see this as a problem. Any further advice ?
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Posted - Jul 7 2000 : 8:21AM
CJ My female friends have all been very, uh need a word... liberal, i guess. So I don't know what all girls are like. Definitely talk to her first - that will in the least ease your mind.
Definately ask her first! The first girl to every give me a blow job hated the taste! The first time I came in her mouth she sprinted across her dorm room to spit it out. She'd then chew me out for a while, I guess. I was happy enough after blwoing my load that I wasn't really paying attention.
CJ I think no matter what you do, it's always a good idea to let the woman know right before you cum. That way you're giving her time to decide what she wants to do, whether it's to swallow, have you shoot on her, or whatever. i would think that once you tell her you're about to cum, if she continues to keep you in her mouth, she obviously doesn't mind you cumming in it. i would think also that once you tell her and she pulls you out of her mouth, but continues to use her hands, she's not going to mind you cumming on her face and/or mouth, breasts, etc. women know (or should know) what happens when guys climax, the only factor being how far you might shoot. in my experiences (facials being a relatively new one), my gf hasn't minded at all. we've had fun with it actually. afterwards she's looked at me with big grins, and it's never been awkward or bad. she's said that if she really didn't like doing it, she wouldn't. for me the whole factor of 'velocity' and/or distance has depended on how long it's last been or if i've been on the verge of cumming for a long time. in my opinion, there's nothing wrong with sex being a 'messy' thing. none of it grosses me out and sometimes you have to expect the 'clean up' factor. that's just the way it is. obviously some women aren't going to like guys cumming in their mouth, on their faces, on their bodies, etc. every person is different, and the best thing to do is talk with them but it's not exactly a conversation you can have at say a restaurant or somthing you know?? ok, i'll stop blabbing now, but my final suggestion or answer if you will, would be to let them know before you cum. let them decide, let them be in control over what they do at that moment and from there you can talk about what to do next time. have fun! and I hope i could help.. j.
More quick tips: Give them a clue when things get close. I know it sounds like bad porn dialogue, but "Oh god, I'm gonna cum!" is a not-so-subtle hint to your lady friend that fun things are about to happen. If that seems too corny to you, find something else. Moan faster, louder, say something obvious. "Oh yes!" repeated anywhere from four to about twenty times in rapid succession usually does the job. It has been my experience that most of the women who are worth keeping are trying to please you when they give head. Whatever turns you on, they like. They like it because it turns you on. So, if swallowing will make it better for you, by gum they will do it. In contrast, some women just don't like it. This is fine, it does not mean that they are slacking off in their blowjob duties. They just don't enjoy the taste/texture. Either way, I'm sure that she knows what she wants the ending to be like. Spit, Swallow or Duck. Bottom line: NEVER attempt to hide the fact that you are about to cum from the woman in question. Deception like that has no place in relationships. If she wants to spit, she'll figure out how to keep it from going down the hatch. If she wants to duck, she'll work out how to get out of the way. If she wants to swallow... your worries are over. ------------------ "There's a sucker born every minute, but swallowers are hard to find." ------------------ Who is [ invalid url ] | The [url=464724]Darkmage Special</A
CJ welcome to ADVD. I love giving my lover blow jobs, morning, noon and nite. However! If he ever came in my mouth, especially without warning me. CHOMP! I do not at all like the taste of a man's sperm. The feeling of it in my mouth quite honestly gives me a instant gag reflex. Not very romantic huh? We got around this little dilema by communicating. We discussed it before we had oral sex, that I did not swallow and was not interested in having him cum in my mouth. And he communicates w/ me now when I am sucking his cock, he will tell me he is close and I know as DM puts it..to duck. lol I love letting him cum on my breasts, or anywhere for that matter and will even continue sucking him after he cums. I guess my point is, that regardless, if your lover likes to swallow or not, communication is THE best way to go. She will apppreciate it and you both will have more fun! ------------------ "I'm glad I amuse myself."-Lunacy
Ok, morrigan's puttin' her two cents worth in.... Personally, I swallow. Now that hasn't always been the case, but I happen to actually like the taste of one particular guy. Except, and this might actually be the swallowing problem than men seem to run up against, when you guys eat or drink acidic stuff. Blech. Even I gag from that. So, you might want to curb your marathon, drink an entire carton of orange juice, acid-a-thon if you're planning on having your willy polished in the near future. Oh, and I have to agree with DM. I like it cause they like it, etc. -M
as a woman who has wondered what a guy will do in this exact same situation, this is what I would prefer... if you aren't open enough to talk about it beforehand, just ask her when things are getting started (before you cross the no-return point), "do you want me to tell you when?". also, it helps to have a cum rag or something nearby that she can grab if she isn't into catching it. in my experience, i can tell when a guy is cumming while i am down there and that is enough advance notice for me!
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Posted - May 24 2012 : 4:47PM
TALK TO THEM FIRST!!!! I'm having the best sex of my life right now and it's mostly because we communicate so well. With previous women, when I was younger, I was afraid to ask questions or make suggestions. Now, everything is on the table and there are very few things my lady won't do, but the things she's not open to, I don't make an issue out of it. Communication is key!
Ok, if a girl has a finger or two up my ass and is giving me oral pleasure at the same time she might know when I am about to cum, she might even thrust her fingers harder into my prostrate to make me cum more and harder while she swallows it. A question for you women who suck cock and have no clue when the guy is gonna cum? You don't feel his cock swell? Or start to pulse?
^You feel his balls and belly tighten first. OR.....if it's my first time with a new partner I will ask him to warn me so I can decide what I want to do. Edited by - sexshopgrl on 5/26/2012 12:59:25 AM
Believe it or not, this does not happen to every man. There are men who orgasm without even having a firm erection. Do not assume that your penis, your experience, or your orgasm is typical for every man.
I realize this is a 12 year old thread, but FWIW, avoid surprising her. Announcing your pending eruption is always best. I think many women enjoy the experience more if they know you're about the cum. I sometimes get lost in the moment, but I think it's best to share the moment with your partner by telling her you're close to cumming and as you roll over the top and start to cum and share how much you're enjoying each and every contraction. Most women seem to enjoy it more if you share verbally what's happening with you physically. Don't assume they can feel it somehow. Communicate.
My wife and I have been married for close to 40 years now, so most communication issues were hashed out decades ago. As for the topic in question: when she is getting me off orally, I tell her when I am close, and she decides, according to her mood, if she is going to swallow me or pull off and jerk me the rest of the way. Always a pleasant surprise for me whichever way she goes, though I do have my preference.
I think girls learn to read the signs that I guy shows when he's about to blow his load. The first time my last girlfriend swallowed mine I was thinking to myself 'fuck, fuck I'm going to cum and she's still got me in her mouth' - She new exactly what was going on, the moaning, panting etc etc. She wanted it and knew how to get it. We don't give girls enough credit when it comes to guys bodies, they're pretty damned skillful. If you're that worried a simple, "I'm gonna cum" when you're getting past the point of no return should suffice. She'll either get off you, take you out of her mouth, or pull your cock out, or keep riding, sucking and fucking you. Learning about each other is one of the many joys of sex
^ A WARNING shouldn't be necessary, but sharing the experience by verbalizing what you're experiencing should always be the rule. To me, WARNING suggests pending disaster.....verbalizing is encouraging and lets her know she's about to be successful! Keep doing what you're doing because it's working for me! After she's been successful, my verbalizing is limited to a few short phrases.....often just repeating something like 'oh god!' or 'oh fuck!' over and over and over until the twitching/shaking stops and I collapse! She seems to read those signs very well.....:-)
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