In short, like it or not, you're in a support role, here.
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| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 |  Posted - Nov 14 2011 : 6:04AMMe and my girlfiend have been in a 1 and a half year relationship and the sex has always been good and she even tells me she loves it, she even starts rubbing me outside my pants and we head to the bedroom for amazing sex which happens a lot. Ive made her orgasm mostly every time during sex. made her squirt too. Last week was even good and we did roleplay and dominated by tying her up to the head board with ties.she loved it. But yesterday nite she was riding me and sighed and stoped, saying she hasnt had a orgasm much this week and its really hard for her to cum wen, even go fast.when i do slow deep thrust she says im almost there but fail to cum. she says she almost cums wen i go fast but its not working out.. and she say the sex always feels good but still no orgasm. i usually make her orgasm 8/10 times but this week we had had sex about 9 times and shes only orgasmed twice.. i asked her if it was emotional and something going through her head, but she said no she only thinks about sex when we sex.shes loyal to me and says she loves my penis and wat not. had spontanious sex in the laundry room this morn and still she cant cum. she complains i can cum mostly everytime caz im a dude, but to me thats normal. How do i get her orgasm again like we use too??? help im scared.. [Link] |
Hardware  All-Star Member Your other left 14594 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Nov 14 2011 : 12:33PM In short, like it or not, you're in a support role, here. [Link] |
| SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11 | Posted - Nov 14 2011 : 3:10PM I wouldn't worry too much just yet. [Link] |
| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 | Posted - Nov 14 2011 : 7:35PM [Link] |
| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 | Posted - Nov 14 2011 : 7:46PM [Link] |
| Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00 | Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 2:37PM [Link] |
| Breeze Member One Smokin Hot Chic 532 Posts 11/08 | Posted - Nov 15 2011 : 9:17PM [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Nov 16 2011 : 5:45PM Also, you report that she's told you that she has been having trouble cumming "this week". Two thoughts: 1. No matter what, it is way too soon to panic. 2. You should try not to mix up the issues of her pleasure, your pleasure, and your feelings of efficacy. (I'm not saying that that's an easy task, by the way.) [Link] |
| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 | Posted - Nov 17 2011 : 4:16AM "You should try not to mix up the issues of her pleasure, your pleasure, and your feelings of efficacy. (I'm not saying that that's an easy task, by the way.)" <<< can someone explain what this means please [Link] |
| SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11 | Posted - Nov 17 2011 : 9:09AM Like you're taking it personal and because of that you're putting pressure on her because you're not getting the result you want. Women are not mechanical robots. Just because you want us to orgasm doesn't mean we will. Just because we don't orgasm doesn't mean it has anything to do with you. And we usually have to work a little harder for our orgasm then men do. [Link] |
| loveporn Member 186 Posts 5/07 | Posted - Nov 17 2011 : 11:44AM [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Nov 17 2011 : 4:05PM Please try harder not to be an asshole. [Link] |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 4:14PM The real problem is that she faked all those other orgasms and she got tired and bored with faking. Nothing has changed, now he's just upset about it. [Link] |
| Bob All-Star Member 5516 Posts 3/03 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 4:37PM If I replied, "No you may not, Kimi", would you delete your post? [Link] |
| SunShowers Member 333 Posts 4/08 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 5:03PM [Link] |
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| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 7:01PM Like you're taking it personal and because of that you're putting pressure on her because you're not getting the result you want. Women are not mechanical robots. Just because you want us to orgasm doesn't mean we will. Just because we don't orgasm doesn't mean it has anything to do with you. And we usually have to work a little harder for our orgasm then men do. Your right sexshopgirl, maybe i was looking at this as a challenge, now im gona focus on her-as in pleasre n feelings. I want to make her happy :) [Link] |
| Kimi Lixx Senior Member 2012 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 7:06PM [Link] |
| SexShopGrl Member F is for Forty and Fabulous! 940 Posts 5/11 | Posted - Nov 18 2011 : 7:31PM [Link] |
| HeyNow Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03 | Posted - Nov 19 2011 : 9:15AM [Link] |
| Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00 | Posted - Nov 19 2011 : 9:19AM [Link] |
| HeyNow Oblivious Gold Star Hey! 5965 Posts 1/03 | Posted - Nov 19 2011 : 9:40AM [Link] |
| pyroxide Member 244 Posts 10/11 | Posted - Nov 19 2011 : 10:06PM [Link] |
| lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Nov 21 2011 : 2:17PM I wondered, too, if she had faked the other orgasms, so maybe the two of you could discuss it. LIGHTLY. Not to pressure her and make this a big thing hanging over the two of you. Just with concern for her, not you. Also, does she get herself off easily? If so, maybe she should get on top and drive. She knows what she needs. She may need a different pace with more grinding and less pounding (most women do). My suggestion would be to NOT have sex 9 times this week and let her get a little horny and build up to it. This doesn't mean stop cold and let her think you've lost interest. It means suggesting to her that you both relax and let things happen at her pace, and that you two share some other things that you both like, and let her advance things when she is ready to. Regress, go back a little, slow down the sex pace, and get romantic. Not corny fake-romantic with strewn roses, just stuff you like to do together. Watching movies on the couch is fine, camping, going out dancing, or going to NASCAR, if that's what you both like to do together. Making out, massages, without expectation of something else. The worst thing would be panic and pressure. Slow down, Bucky. [Link] |
| francios Senior Member 1802 Posts 2/05 | Posted - Dec 5 2011 : 9:02AM If as you say she has been open to various kinds of sex have her rub her self while you penetrate her to get her over the top. You could even rub her while giving it to her. Mixing it up is very useful. [Link] |
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