How does sex in a relationship with a porn performer work? Pretty much like sex in any other relationship. Let's say she just got home from work, it was a long day, she's tired, she's sore, and she's heard every lame line any man could ever say. She probably isn't interested in sex with you, no matter how much she loves you. - Congratulations, she's a cashier at the grocery store.

Or a porn performer, or a pet groomer, or a swim instructor, or any other flippin' job.

This isn't rocket science. Pornstars are really, honestly, truly, just regular people with a different job than you. How they feel about their work, which happens to involve putting their body parts in close proximity with other peoples' body parts, isn't the only thing that goes on in their minds. They want huggin', lovin', and walks in the park, or whatever you think anyone wants, too.

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Good question...

-Sane today, tommorrow..who knows!!

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Normal guys:

- you are attracted by his eyes/smile/walk etc. and not by the way he chokes you or slaps you in the face
- you don't know anything about his dick size or his sexual preferences when you first meet him
- he doesn't know what you do for living right away and he doesn't know what you look like naked
- he asks you for your name and you are going to tell him your legal first name (not any kind of fake porn stage name)
- he might like the way you dress, maybe thinks you have a special style
- he can't wait to find out what your favourite color is or what kind of music you like to listen to (he's not gonna ask if you enjoy anal sex or if he can spit in you face the minute you meet him)
- he finds is totally hot that you kiss his neck when he walks you home after the first date

there is a lot more to discover sexually (sure it means you can maybe also be more disappointed), you are even asking yourself questions like: "What do I do if he is a bad lover"

Katja

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Thank you, very well said.

DenverDon

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(I wish I could say be a porn critic, but I can't even get blown, let alone get a date in this biz.)

BE IN A BAND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Here endeth the lesson...

Rog

Rog Reviews

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Well, for some porn stars the process is pretty straight forward.

Go to your ATM machine. Withdraw $1500. Come to California...

Smile.

BSD

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I am reluctant to use the word normal, cause we are all normal,(well, most of us are ) I would be more comfortable using the term: Non-Biz. This is to differentiate between a guy who has NO ties to the Adult Biz, and one who is tied to it.

I think Non-Biz guys date Pornstars all the time. I also think that those relationships don't last that long. There are so many issues of jealousy, money, trust, ect, that come up.

It has been done. Look at Belladonna and what's his name(no clue what it is). It CAN be done. but the results are as blurry as a Florida election and twice as messy.

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Sounds like your making a move here, Way to go.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

Seriously though, People are very often mistaken when we as "Fans" only get to know the public persona of a Star. These gals are so much more that what we see. That's why I love to watch the behind-the-scenes extra's on DVD's. There is nothing like seeing your favorite stars laugh and joke around, or bitch and complain, to give the fan a more accurate vision of their personality.

Skronker, you are luckier than most. You have got to meet some of these gals on a personal level, and that makes all the difference when getting a more complete picture of a Stars' personality.

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nietzsche: the thing I like most about "normal" guys is that you share a higher level of intimacy and there is way more to find out about the other one. If he liked to take me rough I'd love it but with a normal guy it is more exiting because both partners will usually go step by step and talk about what they like or dislike. And it is so much fun to see how he will finally come up with what he really wants...

But don't take me too serious about the whole topic I'm making it little more dramatic than it is *lol*...

porn guy: come on you little slut, suck my dick!!! hm, what was your name again?

"normal" guy: I don't want to ruin the atmosphere by going to fast but may I kiss you now?

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I consider myself just an "Average Joe", but I believe why there was mutual attraction between us is two things: 1) time and, 2) respect...

all of the ladies I met, that worked in the adult entertainment industry, were working as dancers in clubs catering in entertainment for gentlemen... naturally, I spent money, but not to purchase them, but to share what I have by buying them drinks, and maybe a rose or two, or a stuffed animal, but what was more important was my consistency in my intentions by showing up on a regular basis just like you would with any other lady you're interested in... I was there almost every night for at least a month before we would end going out for a drink somewhere else on a personal basis... even then, we wouldn't necessarily have sex on that first "date"...

and as our relationship would grow, there was time spent with her child(ren), her friends, other members of her family, introducing her to my family and friends, and generally giving her the respect every lady deserves, even when they're a bitch [LOL]...

these women are ladies with needs and desires just like a lot of other women, just with less inhibitions... we enjoyed each other's company... we had common interests like golf, or photography, or attending operas, or whatever...

I started going to "strip clubs" with the intention of meeting women with similar sexual interests as mine, and felt my odds were better than at a pick-up bar, and in most cases, they are... although, for some ladies working there, their presence is strictly for the money, and they do not particularly like sex, while for others, they are nymphomaniacs... and of course, most are somewhere in between...

the best feature I found of finding a lady that appealed to me, in the gentlemen's clubs, is their honesty, no mind games, and no need to play mind games...

I've approached a few porn stars through their web sites with a common response of coming to the trade show and introducing myself, but scheduling issues has always prevented that, but the gist is, if I were to go there, I'm sure if mutual attraction existed, something could possibly develop...

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What could have happened did.

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That's the tagline for The Girl Next Door. Sounds like fun! Has anyone seen it?

Elisha the pornstar next door:

http://img41.photobucket.com/albums/v125/abradarba/Elisha.jpg

Edited by - abradarba on 4/22/2004 11:29:40 PM

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Edited by - x-ray on 8/9/2004 3:16:38 PM

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+1 for X-RAY

Almost great fun to hear and read what kinda weirdos are out there......

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*my dictionary doesn't know a translation for this word, heart-warming perhaps...

edited: typo

Edited by - secluded observer on 4/23/2004 6:49:32 PM

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So,
+1 for Secluded Observer, too.

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(he, just kidding, so don't get all offended at me)

2Big

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Edited by - x-ray on 8/9/2004 3:17:07 PM

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