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| codenameir Member 14 Posts 7/17 |  Posted - Jul 26 2017 : 3:57PMWatching porn gives instant gratification to your frustrations or unfilled desires, perhaps multiple times you'll watch it cause of boredom or maybe just when you feel sad or alone. All and all if you have the option to keep a real life relationship with a girl , i have a few questions in regards to it: 1) Dudes maintain serious erection in porn and don't ejaculate for 20-30 minutes even after constant love making! How? 2) My favorite type of sex positions are doggy style , cowgirl and getting head from a girl ending in an oral cream pie. Is this acceptable in real life relationships? 3) Do penis rings cause any harm for wearing over a period of 1 hour? Don't need it but wear it sometimes just for extra pleasure. 4) In real life people when people ask for sex from their partners and receive it without any issues. does this pattern causes the same effect as getting the satisfaction after seeing your favorite porn scene? the instant gratification part. because i heard ; from porn ; it causes lower drive to pursue goals and women don't like such dudes. 5) If i watch porn twice a week for 2 hours and masturbate twice a week but i love downloading selective new porn. Is this a bad addiction? I don't have a girl friend at the moment. Short replies are also appreciated just tag your answer to the question number #THX. [Link] |
BlackSix  All-Star Member pornography wasn't sex but fantasies of an impossibly hospitable world 12377 Posts 9/07 | Posted - Jul 29 2017 : 4:52AM [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Jul 29 2017 : 10:29AM 2) You'll have to take that up with your partner. 3) Cells depend upon blood flow to deliver the nutrients they need to function. Starve them for too long and bad things happen. However, you should be more concerned about how you are training your brain. Once you make X the norm then it is harder to do Y. It is possible to retrain your brain, of course, but you should probably ask yourself if the game is worth the candle. 4) Not all women want a lot of sex. Some are completely indifferent to it, as are some men. Scary as it may be, you have to learn each individual's preferences. 5) If you think it is then it is. [Link] |
| codenameir Member 14 Posts 7/17 | Posted - Jul 30 2017 : 4:19PM [Link] |
| Pieps Senior Member Honey, come quick, somebody on the internet is wrong! 9233 Posts 11/13 | Posted - Jul 31 2017 : 2:01AM [Link] |
| LaineyLovesYou Member http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Lainey 15 Posts 8/17 | Posted - Aug 5 2017 : 6:43AM 1) Agreeing with what Pieps said ^ porn is a fantasy, it's acting, and I sure hope your personal sex life is not - you vary, you cuddle, you change from sensual slow sex to rough fucking and back. It's not a sport, really, and if it's good no woman will be able to track the exact time. ;) 2) Totally. 3) We tried one only once for about ten minutes and it hurt him... maybe you can develop a certain tolerance to those rings... anyway, I would try to keep things as natural as possible so you can still enjoy masturbating without those "extras". 4) At least in long-term relationships, you simply just won't always receive it without any issues whenever you want to. Your partner has needs too. IMHO the feeling of gratification can't be compared. Real sex with someone I know and trust makes me lose control and push borders; watching porn and getting off to it is a whole other thing. 5) If it makes you feel good, keep doing it. If it doesn't, then don't. Don't forget to eat, sleep and leave the house once in a while to get to know real girls. Keep in touch with reality (i.e. don't expect women to act like porn stars) and everything will turn out to be just fine. XoXo ~ Lainey ~ [Link] |
| Macko69 Senior Member Gone for a walk. 1985 Posts 5/08 | Posted - Aug 11 2017 : 4:37PM And as has been mentioned earlier, it's unrealistic to expect to receive sex from a partner, even a long term partner, every time you ask. You might be lucky and find a woman like that, but it's unrealistic to expect that this is normal.Hard to say if it's a bad addiction or not because I'm not sure how much it's interfering with other areas of your life.Edited by - Macko69 on 8/11/2017 4:39:17 PM [Link] |
| A_Fan Deactivated User 1187 Posts 9/16 | Posted - Aug 16 2017 : 8:36PM I masturbate twice a day and have sex most days with one of my girlfriends. I put in quite a few hours each week in porn,although it is easier because I watch some of it it with a girlfriend so that doest take me away from spending time with her. Unless porn is causing trouble in your life (like taking days off work, oversleeping, avoiding a girlfriend or wife if you had one, causing you to not have money for rent , etc), then it's hard to call it an addiction just from doing it. Its like asking if going for a pair of beers twice a week with your buddies makes you an alcoholic. Unlikely to say the least. [Link] |
| Bezerkingoff Deactivated User 181 Posts 9/17 | Posted - Oct 20 2017 : 2:09PM [Link] |
| jayo All-Star Member 2117 Posts 7/04 | Posted - Oct 21 2017 : 7:01PM [Link] |
| A_Fan Deactivated User 1187 Posts 9/16 | Posted - Oct 23 2017 : 4:21AM One thing I learned from talking to many women over the years, is the guy who brag to their buddies and women that "I can last for hours", generally are the ones that last the shortest amount of time The bragging is to cover up. Men who are very good lovers generally don't openly brag about how long they last, how big their dick is, and so forth. Edited by - A_Fan on 10/23/2017 4:23:27 AM [Link] |
| Bezerkingoff Deactivated User 181 Posts 9/17 | Posted - Oct 25 2017 : 12:41PM Edited by - bezerkingoff on 10/25/2017 12:53:32 PM [Link] |
| Bezerkingoff Deactivated User 181 Posts 9/17 | Posted - Oct 30 2017 : 6:53PM [Link] |
| zenbear New Member 2 Posts 11/17 | Posted - Nov 3 2017 : 9:53PM [Link] |
| Hardware All-Star Member Your other left 14595 Posts 3/02 | Posted - Nov 3 2017 : 9:56PM [Link] |
| kiwigirl New Member 3 Posts 11/17 | Posted - Nov 13 2017 : 4:48PM Just remember, real life is NOT porn. Some days your partner will out do you at every turn and others she may not want sex at all. My best advice is talk to each other, experiment, listen to each others wants and needs and make it fun. And ya, like Lainey said, remember to get out and talk to some actual people once in a while ;) good luck! KG [Link] |
| MaiksLatinaAddiction Member 12 Posts 12/17 | Posted - Dec 7 2017 : 1:17AM 1.) There are many ways to maintain an erection, for hours if need be... although, if not on a drug, which is dangerous, you will lose your erection in the long run even if you use my favorite and most used of these two tips... also... these are practical ways, not just purely mental focus.... The first is to make sure you ejaculate before you have sex... but you obviously have to be extremely horny to do this... and I doubt this is the situation most of the time as some guys shoot three times a day... so you would get rid of a boner, either through sex, or which is common for the average guy, is to jack off before you have sex... if your girl initiates, cum, then go for another hard on, and you'll be good, in some scenes you'll see a guy come and just keep on fucking... but this one is all libido.. Second... something to my surprise that most guys don't know of... which is to hold your piss... I figured this out for myself while masterbating at a young age... but every time I meet another guy, which has only been like five guys on some forums, I'm shocked that I'm not the only one who knows this... I mean I've seen a guy explain it to another guy in detail, just the way I think about it... I'll try.... just hold piss when you first feel the warning signs of having to piss simple as that if you're not a kid or have extreme bladder problems... when you're skilled at this, you'll be able to start before having to piss if YOU initiate the sex and during sex, your bladder will of course naturally, if you've drunk fluids, fill up, allowing you to be hard as a fuckin rock don't start after you've held your piss for a while, in other words, don't hold your piss for hours, or even more than 40mins... there are obvious possibilities to not holding your piss, one is that holding your piss raising your blood pressure, which shouldn't be a problem for most, and if held too long, I'm talking hours, it could be damaging in the long run... IN terms of the time during sex... lets see there are moments if you're fucking for like an hour or so, that your piss will leave the shaft and return to the bladder, kind of giving you the idea that you don't have to piss... so during this point, you may loose your hard on, b/c like blood, piss also enters the shaft... so if you're in the heat of good fucking, you can go on... but after like 45mins to an hour and a half of fucking, I'll just go piss... also, you won't piss during sex, nor will your bladder explode, the worst case in the long run(when you're older) you won't be able to hold your piss for long... but this is the same as blood flow, AND you can get the sensation of cumming without actually coming, so you can cum over and over like a female but not actually ejaculate... its best to to do this while masterbating for a while then try it during sex for like 30 mins then piss... until you understand what I'm saying from experience... but there are no medical complications, many guys do this... its just that many would never THINK of doing it... 2.) If you have sex with more than one girl in your life, not an insult, then you owuld know doggy and cowgirl are common place, but oral ejaculation would depend on the girl... at most a conservative would let you do it every other week or night, but you never know with a sexually open girl who either aims to please or just loves cum in her mouth, these things you never know, thats the dilemma we face, we have to be aggressive and try these things and possibly get a negative response 3.) I don't do any extra shit like that lol, what's the pleasure? Never looked into that, prob. still would never do it. 4.)Question is worded horribly... There are millions of girls, and many that turn 18 every day, with that being said, we live in a world that still has traditions, and the strain of societal ideals that many girls give in to b/c they are raised by the media, with many ignorant parents shielding them from their sexuality, and much more... I've learned the lesson the hard way... you gotta find a girl that's down... many are... many you wouldn't even think are... now, it's easier to find them if you have money and are in shape, its all about finances and genetics... ITS VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT JUST BECAUSE ONE GIRL SAYS ONE THING doesn't mean the others will be as she is, most girl would want you to believe their way is the final way, but it isn't.. (example: a girl could tell you, you are the ugliest guy in the world, and that no girl will ever like you, then you could meet another girl the same very day that would lick your face and protest that your cutest guy she's ever seen... so you can't rely on one girls personal emotional judgment, even regarding sex) don't understand the other part of your question... 5.) Addictions are natural, it just depends on what you are addicted to and how you control your addiction... example, being addicted to cocaine is probably not going to help you.... being addicted to fatty foods isn't good... or if you are addicted to eating in and out burger, how many times do you eat it, can you go a day without eating it, or a month? Sex, very natural, in fact, SEX IS THE ONLY THING WE KNOW WE ARE SUPPOSED TO DO, EVERYTHING ELSE IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, even protecting and feeding your children, we are an animal species on earth, a floating ball in the in a universe so large we can't comprehend completely... INCLUDING US, EVERY OTHER SPECIES ON THIS PLANET DOES ONE THING, PROCREATE, whether it be pleasurable, end in death(black widow) or just something they do naturally, we all fuck, split, divide hatch, whatever, IT JUST SO HAPPENS THAT FOR US AND A FEW OTHER SPECIES(DOLPHIN) THAT SEX IS PLEASURABLE, HIGHLY PLEASURABLE... and we enjoy it... EVERYTHING ELSE WE DO IS TO ALLOW US TO HAVE SEX, EATING, WORKING, SOCIALIZING, LEARNING, ALL OF IT, is so that we can safely have sex, and ALL MEN PAY FOR SEX IN AMERICAN SOCIETY, YOU SHOWER, YOU BUY FOOD, YOU PAY RENT, CARE NOTES, INSURANCE, YOU WORK, YOU BUY CLOTHES, YOU BUY HYGIENE PRODUCTS, YOU PAY FOR SEX, YOU PAY FOR SEX, YOU PAY FOR SEX. So, as I eluded to in 4, earn money, get in shape , then sex(girls) comes to you, I haven't had sex in 8 years, and I'm not worried at all, I've had tons of sex in my late teens and early 20s, im not old, but I have been celibate against my wishes due to depression and sickness... but I'm getting better and I've learned so much from the outside looking in, you'll be foolish spending your youth chasing girls, instead of getting in shape and building a platform for yourself to earn money allowing you free time to fuck. Also, while you are young and building, girls will still flock to you, EXAMPLE, if you are 19 and starting a business, every business man knows that females are a key asset in most business in terms of marketing, administration, etc. So you'll not only meet girls while building, but clients could be girls, any activity you get involved in, if you're being active, you'll meet girls, who may just want to hang out, learn from you, or fuck a guy who is building something. Atm, I masterbate a lot, that's because I'm focused, and don't want any distractions at all, I don't think every guy could do that, so while building, just keep active and girls will come to you. Real life sex is only different b/c most guys aren't well informed on how to have sex, its not the girls, most girls are receptive and are in learning situations when having sex, even older women often just let the guy fuck them. If you want porn sex, you have to learn how to communicate with a girl(what to roleply? tell her, she will most likely like that if she likes you as a person, and its fun, buy her an outfit, lol so many things the guy can do to make it what he wants with a girl thats willing because she's drawn to you), which means being able to clearly explain what you want her to do, or in most cases just doing it, understanding that she may respond differently, but if you are skilled, you will know what kind of girl she is before intercourse as SEX starts before intercourse. Sex starts from the moment you meet a girl. I'm done lol... you know what I'm about to go do... [Link] |
| Zingerbrook Member 580 Posts 3/17 | Posted - Feb 3 2018 : 9:33PM [Link] |
| bumblaster Senior Member 4884 Posts 4/12 | Posted - Oct 21 2020 : 10:53AM 2) Evrything is acceptable in real life relationships if it's consensual and talked about with transparence 3) Never worn a penis ring 4) No idea what that's about 5) Porn addiction is different for everyone but general rule is if you can't by without it you are probably addicted. [Link] |
| Habu Member 145 Posts 8/20 | Posted - Nov 30 2020 : 9:18AM 2) It depends on the woman's willingness... I used to have a GF who would let me cum in her mouth on a 69 but wouldn't swallow... as for doggy most woman I had se with enjoyed it 3) I have no clue 4) So many things to consider on this. I have discovered that sex drive in women can decay with time... I've been with my wife for 11 years now - married for 3 - and the fucking we did back in the beginning seems like a distant dream, lol 5) I watch it almost every day and I am constantly downloading. I think there can be worst additions but in any way I must admit I feel like I'm addicted. All my past GF's as well as my wife always knew about my thing with porn. [Link] |
| AngryPirate Senior Member 3210 Posts 8/17 | Posted - Nov 30 2020 : 5:21PM 2) As hard as this idea might be to grasp, women are individuals. What woman may love in bed may repulse another woman. You have to take this with every woman you have a sexual relationship with. There is no one size fits all. 3) If someone throttles you for a sustained period, what happens? The principle is similar with restricting blood flow to the penis. Do it improperly and you can cause yourself serious if not permanent complications. 4) I refer you to point 2 again. Women are individuals. Some women feel insecure about partners who watch porn, some women find it a turn on, some women have agreements with their partner over watching porn then there are women who fit in none of those scenarios. Porn's psychological impact on people has to be treated on a case by case basis though one should consider whether their lack of drive to pursue goals is their own inclination and porn is a convenient scapegoat. 5) If watching porn hinders your ability to progress career-wise, find a girlfriend or takes place of real-life interactions, maybe it is an addiction and perhaps you should seek help. I drank alcohol quite frequently but I had never been dependent on it nor had my personal or professional life suffered so I can comfortably say I'm not an alcoholic. [Link] |
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