S U C K - A - D I C K . . . S A V E - A - M A R R I A G E . . . The Gospel, according to Deidre (me)I take sucking dick VERY serious!--for me it's a RELIGION. I'm a firm believer that if more chicks went down there would be less domestic disputes and divorce. I happen to loooooove sucking dick (prefer it over receiving). I work hard to give the best BJ "he" has ever had and take great pride in my work. NOW, that doesn't mean I just go down on anyone: I'm on a STRICT diet! I don't put just anything in my mouth! **You can call me a ho all you want, but ask YOUR man, I bet he agrees**
Being the true-believer that I am, I feel the need to spread the gospel:

1. If You Don't Go Down, Start NOW: I've never met a man who didn't like GOOD head. If your man works all day to put a roof over your head is it too much to ask for 15 minutes every night. I honestly believe men would be less inclined to cheat if their women went down more. Get past whatever bullshit reason it is that you don't go down and show him some (oral) love!

Anything Worth Doing, Is Worth Doing Right: If you don't know how to give DECENT head, figure out quick! Almost every sex-education TV-series has an episode devoted to giving head; some adult oriented businesses host classes and sell instructional DVDs; watch-n-learn from porn; but MY ADVICE: go to the source (your man)! Every guy is different and each have their preferences. If you figure out what his trigger is, its downhill from there!--Some like their balls played with, or their nipples pinched. Some are into deep throat and the real freaky ones like ass-play (not knocking, just saying). A few like teeth BUT don't try unless he asks you to! Likely to get slapped if you scrape.--COMMUNICATE! Ask him how he wants it! Listen to his breathing, moaning and what he says. If it's working he'll let you know! Its not for his benefit, but for yours--the better you are the quicker he (and you) will be done!

2. Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness: Brush floss and rinse first! If I'm worried about the way my breath smells, or my spit tastes like Doritos I'm soooo not going to be into it! It's much easier when your 'tools' are top notch--that includes his shit as well! If it tastes like he had it tucked up under his balls, tell him to wash it! It shouldn't have any taste at all otherwise its unclean!


3. Spitting Is A Dirty Habit: Swallow! The best blow job in the world will be ruined if he doesn't pop in your mouth...might as well not even waste your time if your gonna make him pull out. At the very least, if you can't swallow then spit AFTER he is finished. *NOTE: there are rare exceptions, who prefer you NOT swallow--wanting to see "their work". In my experience, verrrrry few...BUT if in doubt JUST ASK him where he wants to put his load--*I promise* you asking THAT question at the right time is a GOOD thing ;)


4. Be Consistent: Try to keep a solid pace. Don't start out sprinting cause you're gonna wear down fast. This is a marathon not the 50-yard dash! If you stop in the middle you set yourself back 5 minutes. MY TRICK: music. I put on something with a moderate beat that I use to help keep pace. Doesn't matter what it is as long as you can "BOB TO IT". (I'm old-school-hip-hop, not exactly traditional booty music. Having worked it to Luniz' "I've Got 5 On It", I GUARANTEE any style of music will do, right tempo and speed. *NOTE: I keep alternate music for the occasional random who hates rap/only listens to country...an occupational hazard to living in Texas)


5. Keep Your Hands Busy: You have two of them (welllll, most of us do). They BOTH should be busy the whole time! If he is well endowed then grip the shaft--firm but gentle. If he is less-than-endowed, *sorry for this reality buzz-kill* but use your finger(s). Play with his balls, pinch his nipples, run your hand up his leg, down his chest, grip his ass, WHATEVER...But both hands should be occupied.


6. No Pain, No Gain! It should feel like WORK--if it doesn’t, chances are you aren’t doing it right. Your mouth should get tired, your forearms should burn, you should be PUTTING EFFORT into your "job". Some noodles are more difficult than others: so HUGE that deep-throating is physical impossibility (I have tonsils); He REFUSES to give it up to oral *my personal pet-peeve*; and the DYSFUNCTIONAL: E-D, small/short, crooked/bent, etc.. IF these sorts of issues are your regular piece's case you should discuss the issue with him...don't be shy, he is WELL-AWARE he has a small/crooked/weird dick and he might be able to offer tips or even lend a hand! COMMUNICATION will always be preferred over "faking your way through it".

Give Me A Break!: Do you need a LEGITIMATE break, or are you just being lazy? In terms of dik-suk, a break is something you generally want to avoid. *Not being a sadist I promise*. Every second spent not doing what you're supposed to sets you back that much time PLUS double/triple. Example: after 10-minutes you take a 2-minute break--that "quick" break might set you so far back its the same as starting over! If your mouth gets tired: go hands-on before spitting it out; taking a QUICK break while you rub it *with ADDITIONAL stimulus* (such as dirty talk, spitting, fingering, porn, anything besides just jerkin-his-gherkin) then quickly get back to work! *NOTE: You really should NEVER be hand-jobbing, except RARELY to minimize gagging out*

7. Tis Better To Give TO Receive: I preach worshipping THE DICK...but don’t confuse it with worshiping A DICK. If you give up the head regularly and he wont return the "favor" then STOP--he's A DICK! If YOU MEN demand head but wont practice what you preach, GROW UP! You should be EMBARRASSED--I've had 19-year-olds who run circles around that weak-excuse-for-lay you bringin! (Personally receiving is sooooooo not my thing...but Im the rare EXCEPTION not the RULE)


8. If It Doesn't Get All Over The Place, It Doesn't Belong In Your Face: aka the "MESSY" blow! Most would just call it a blowjob (simply another technique to performing one). Slang terminology varies, ANY result from combination of wet/sloppy/messy/spit/slobber -AND- oral/blow/job/head! The key idea being "enthusiastically wet and messy". Cleanliness is **VERRRY** important, as with all oral, but esp. here (refer back to #3). Your spit should be EVERYWHERE: your own face, dripping all over his junk, your hands etc. You're sucking, with the hand-twist technique, which is being immediately lubed by the drool your mouth just laid down in front of your hand. Enthusiasm REQUIRED--If you're not into it, you won't be going all skank-ho nasty, and what makes this enjoyable is the devoted worship of wank! *I'm sure the sensation is great, having never actually owned a dick (not a real one), I'm left to assume*

Skins Or No Skins: Circumcised? Uncut men are discriminated against, for ABSOLUTELY no reason. On one hand I understand where it's coming from (I was once like you). The first time I ever went down on uncut wank, it tasted icky-sticky!. For the longest time I associated THAT taste with being uncircumcised. It was only after being "enlightened" to what I had tasted (UNCLEAN not UNCUT), did I abandon my discrimination of uncut men. I've known men who have had issues in the online dating world, ONLY because of their uncut-ness. *Having orgasmed to my regular's uncut ON SIGHT, I promise a lot of the discrimination is misplaced* So you might expand your mind, just a tad. If you wont suck uncut winky: please reconsider, or at least question why...If you do suck it: Give some EXTRA LOVE to the uncut men, who experience discrimination because of their FULLY-FUNCTIONING AND NORMAL BODY PARTS, for no LEGITIMATE reason!
...and last but MOST important:
9. Communicate! Communicate! Communicate! Communicate!: More important than anything else I've said is "communicate". As with all things sex, the key to giving a mind-blowingly awesome BJ is knowing how your partner wants it! Tell your partner what you want. DON’T WAIT for them to say (guys wont usually complain about any head--outside painful--happy to be getting it at all). Your technique might be good but get his input while you're working it. Ask him how he wants it, if you're doing it right, faster slower, etc. Be specific. LISTEN to what they say (or what their body says) and be open to critique. If he responds positively, so will you! It will be worth the effort at the end when he says "damnnnnn girl! that was the bessst". Now how awesome do you feel?!

There are far many more things to say about sucking dick but the key piece of advice is communication! Oh!...and PRACTICE, PRACTICE PRACTICE!!
Edited by - Deidre on Jul 18 2015

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