Strangely enough I can cum really fast, almost on command, when I´m alone and wanking off to some Gauge scene.
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| r32657 New Member 2 Posts 12/02 |  Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 1:11AMMy problem is that I have a hard time cumming. I'm hard and all, but I am taking a few hours at least, if we last that long. When I first started dating my girlfriend, I let her know up front that I have this "problem." She of course like a lot of women that I have been with saw this as a challenge, so we would start with me making sure that she gets off, usually using oral at first, then intercourse, then, when that got to be too painful for her, even with lub, she would then give me a blow job until her jaw got cramped up. Then she would use her hand until they cramped up. Then I sometimes just have to finish myself off. It's gotten to the point where we have a pitcher of water by the bed for our halftime break. I have looked all over the place, and have found nothing to help a guy cum quicker. It's to the point that she is feeling insecure and not attractive to me even though she is gorgeous as hell. I have never had any injuries or anything, but the doctor that I spoke with pretty much only pointed to viagera, but that's more for staying power. ANY ideas will help us out. A side note, I have been looking every where for pornos with asian guys and white/black/latina etc girls. Anyone know where This asian can get his hands on this stuff? [Link] |
| Planet Sex Deactivated User 1951 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 1:50AM Strangely enough I can cum really fast, almost on command, when I´m alone and wanking off to some Gauge scene. ... [Link] |
| lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 3:17AM Past postings include: [invalid URL removed]sex questions [invalid URL removed]delayed orgasm [invalid URL removed]can't cum A couple of informative websites to start with are: [invalid URL removed]retarded ejaculation [invalid URL removed]difficulty ejaculating If you can rule out medical causes such as diabetes or the use of antidepressants (which you may be able to rule out if you come easily by your own hand), then the problem may be psychological or a matter of physical habit. If you are used to a particular type of stimulation which always triggers your orgasm, then this new or different stimulation with a woman just doesn't trigger it for you. One possible thing to try is to adapt a variety of milder forms of stimulation during masturbation, the use of lubes and simulation of the feeling of a vagina, and a great variety of stimulation being used to trigger orgasm. Lots of different masturbation ideas can be found at [invalid URL removed]jackinworld and [invalid URL removed]masturbation faq. Edited by - lindi on 9/25/2006 11:43:07 AM [Link] |
| Planet Sex Deactivated User 1951 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 5:26AM [Link] |
| Planet Sex Deactivated User 1951 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 5:26AM Edited by - lindi on 12/27/2002 9:35:56 AM [Link] |
| Planet Sex Deactivated User 1951 Posts 6/01 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 5:26AM Edited by - lindi on 12/27/2002 9:37:40 AM [Link] |
| lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 10:07AM A number of guys that I have talked to have this situation, and for some of them it extends to blow jobs, or only to blow jobs (guilt? worry?). For some guys there may be no problem with a significant other, but a problem with prostitutes (guilt?), or vice versa (performance issues?). Truly, your most important sex organ is between your ears. Guys who also take a long time when masturbating, need to check for medical issues like undiagnosed diabetes, but may have guilt issues, etc. that extend to masturbation. I have wondered if the percentage of guys with this problem is higher on this website - a reliance on porn being due to the perceived need for greater stimulation. Anyway, it is not always psychological; for a lot of young men who are having their early experiences with sex, the sensations are just unfamiliar and a few things to try in masturbation may help. Hopefully the websites I have listed can point you in the right direction for further investigation. The stupidest thing about researching this one is that the medical profession has never settled on a name for it, so google searches need to be done for 'inhibited male orgasm,' 'retarded ejaculation,' 'ejaculatory incompetence,' etc. Good luck, and please post back if you find out more or think of anything else. I know I will. [Link] |
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| skronker Notable Legendary Icon Scopophiliac 9780 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 5:25PM No problems achieving quick release when I want to, by myself, though I usually extend the activity endlessly for my own personal enjoyment (w/or w/out Jenna Haze talking dirty through my home theater system). And that may be my problem later, when I'm having sex with someone and no amount of stimulation produces the expected fireworks. Though, I think the solution is ... layoff the pornos and the herky-jerky ... since my own research has proven that in as little as 5 days porn and stroke-free, I'm 1) getting hard ]all the time and even when I don't particularly want to and 2) when I do cum it is quickly and as close to Peter North in estimated cc's as I'll ever get at 44. On the other hand (ha ha), when I last got busy (a couple of weeks ago), my new friend was adept at something most of my sex partners have not been (or else we didn't manage to communicate properly; or the affair was too brief for mapping out all the territory; or we were drunk; or I was drunk). She totally sucks cock like a porn star ... meaning, she simply does these amazing things with her moutn and her eyes and her tongue and the noises she makes and on and on, so even though I was self-stimulating the "joint," at the appointed moment, we had this totally visual oral/aural thing cooking where I got off like a fire hydrant during the Watts riots. It's doubtful I'm gonna be able to forsake porn, but I think I can "import" a few "motifs" from what gets me excited watching porn back into "real" sex and make that work better for me. It seems so complicated, but when you're with the right person and can be open enough to talk about what you want, everything should be fine. [Link] |
| r32657 New Member 2 Posts 12/02 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 7:02PM [Link] |
| lindi Senior Member 12345 3205 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Dec 27 2002 : 9:49PM Your question about asian/etc. videos is in the wrong forum here. But you posted that question also in the correct forum, and hopefully someone will answer it there. Going bareback will not help if it takes you just as long to cum when beating off. You don't say how old you are, but the fact that this has evolved over 7 years would indicate that you need to find a doctor (one who doesn't think that Viagra makes you cum faster), and you need to raise this as a main issue and give complete and detailed info about this, just to rule out a serious medical problem like diabetes or a neurological problem. Please read those websites carefully. Email me if you like and I'll try to get more info to you. [Link] |
| skronker Notable Legendary Icon Scopophiliac 9780 Posts 9/02 | Posted - Jan 30 2004 : 6:12PM [Link] |
| cochise Member You gonna pull them pistols or whistle dixie? 238 Posts 12/03 | Posted - Jan 31 2004 : 3:19AM [Link] |
| daviangel Member Only time I would buy a girl flowers is if she was in the hospital 455 Posts 1/04 | Posted - Feb 1 2004 : 6:23AM p.s. personally i know this is bullshit cuz the tightest pussy i had must've been an older thai girlfriend that had total control of her pussy muscles and she would squeeze my dick as hard as she pleased! Now that i think about it I wonder how many females have total control like she did?
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| nietzsche Deactivated User 5470 Posts 8/03 | Posted - Feb 1 2004 : 9:13AM ------------- Edited by - nietzsche on 2/1/2004 9:14:40 AM [Link] |
| Joey Starr Senior Member Still wanking after all these years. 8082 Posts 10/00 | Posted - Feb 2 2004 : 3:15AM [Link] |
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| cochise Member You gonna pull them pistols or whistle dixie? 238 Posts 12/03 | Posted - Feb 2 2004 : 5:27PM [Link] |
| Muttley New Member UK 5 Posts 10/03 | Posted - Feb 2 2004 : 6:43PM Reminds me of a beer I once had, it was called Percy's Downfall! :D Muttley [Link] |
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| rampart Member Europe 6 Posts 9/06 | Posted - Sep 26 2006 : 3:54PM I remember a girl (and she wasn't bad in bed at all) but it took us a few hours every time to make me cum. I guess it's something in our heads which kinda says "This is not the partner for reproduction so don't ejaculate". Might sound awkward but I went trough lots of forums, books and FAQs and even consulted several doctors back then. Nothing really worked. If you have no health problems, the problem is of psychological nature. It's something wrong in the chemistry between two of you. I dumped my girlfriend back then and had the same issue with several others, but with some the problem wasn't there. (A friend of mine can't cum with prostitutes at all, just can't even if he enjoys the overall experience a lot). Honestly when I met my wife and we had sex for the firs time the problem was gone. She can make me cum under 1 minute (she took the bet once and won). So no offense but if you guys really love each other you should consult a psychologist together (!!!) in any other case... Well it's up to you, [Link] |
| breezer Member Side A:Kinky geek variety show. Side B:Intelligent Respectable Gentleman 25 Posts 10/07 | Posted - Nov 5 2007 : 7:12PM One tip I could suggest if it's psychological and pressure-based (even if there isn't any pressure but you think there is), is not to look on the orgasm as an absolute-essential of the act of sex/love. You can still have an awesome time shagging (to use the UK slang) and playing in all sorts of ways, and that in itself if you both know that an orgasm/ejaculation for you isn't the final required target, could(?) help you relax and perhaps after getting used to it, make it easier to cum. Or maybe you need to build it up slower and more gently, involve relaxation, massage, whatever. It's in the mind too. That's what I remember hearing from a TV sex/relationship show ages ago talking to some couples and having a counsellor help out. I think the condoms nowadays are better than they used to be 10 years ago, they are getting better at making them more sensitive and transmitting the feeling and a better fit shape-wise; some recent ones I've tried have been much better for that (and the tighter and smoother you fit them trying to remove any air bubbles at all also helps - me doing it rather saps the horn so I tend to see if the girl is amenable to help as part of the act). Always into girls with really long (head) hair, pvc and kinky stuff [Link] |
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